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Here’s an article written by Charles Oputa popularly known as Charly Boy.Read below and enjoy!
When I look back at my life, and all the stuff I did as a carefree, young and restless youth, I can’t help but shudder at some of my very bad habits. Yes, I was once short-fused; blowing off at the slightest provocation. It was pitiful. Over time I have managed to rid myself of such sad habits but that can’t be said for a lot of men some of who, even late in their lives can’t still get over it, thereby losing their cool in their homes. No be small thing sha.
Domestic violence is an under reported crime in Nigeria, almost accepted as norm. Some men feel it’s their right, some feel it’s always the women who bring out the beast in them, while others will readily admit its a way of stamping their authority in the home. Sadly, many don’t see anything wrong with beating their wives. How sad! Yes, am aware there are women who beat up their husbands, but those are in the minority and this piece ain’t about them. The most guilty perpetrators are usually men and the victims are mostly their wives and sometimes their children too.
Men abusing women is like a defence and coping mechanism for being or feeling WEAK in other aspects of life, sometimes including deep analog beliefs about masculinity. Men who abuse loved ones tend to blame other things or people for their violent outbursts. In some cases, it is a cycle: “my father abused me and my mom, so, it’s normal”.
Society doesn’t help either, it ingrains in a man’s psyche that macho bullshit; how he should be strong and if he can’t exhibit that in his daily public life, it’s ok for him to go home and prove his strength.
Abusive men are not limited to a particular status, it ranges from a bricklayer to a CEO or even a President, causing their women to perpetually live in anxiety and fear. Most of them tip-toe around their husbands, not because they respect these men, but because of fear.
A violent man might have grown up in a dysfunctional household but this is still not a reason to be abusive. It is an excuse, and a flimsy one at that.
Some men don’t come from humble homes where women are appreciated. Some of us come from homes that expose us to sex, gossip, male macho bullshit. Values for treating women start with where you’re coming from, your background. However, beyond these, what bleeps most men up is our BIG FAT EGO. It has everything to do with selfishness or overrated feeling of self-importance. QED.
Ego is the source of many negatives in the world. It is the false ‘self’ that Jesus said we should let die before we can gain everlasting life. Ego craves to be first, but we must be willing to be last. Unconditional love comes with humility, selflessness, abundant generosity, perfect responsibility, fearless confidence.
I no go brag, am not all that, but I dey try. God knows!
Now, for the man who feels trapped in this mad dance with his loved ones and is trying very hard to rid himself of this very terrible habit, do like me. If you start to feel that your fuse is about to burst, try and say nothing, hold it in for a few minutes and relocate yourself to another space, either in your house, or outside. Allow some time to elapse before you express yourself, never talk or let your fist run amok when you’re upset; it doesn’t make for a good picture.
Even though I have cured myself of my short fuse, i still get tempted from time to time. What works best for me now is silence. I go and lock myself in my room and will never utter a word to my lady until am sure am in control of my faculties. Since many moons ago, I have discovered that this is a very effective option in dealing with a very bad temper.
So next time you are with your woman and you feel like turning her into a punching........see full gist on link below ;
http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/charly-boy-how-to-beat-your-wife.html

Muhammadu Buhari, the Presidential Candidate of the All Progressive Congress, has been nicknamed Okechukwu (God’s portion) in Imo State by the State Governor, Rochas Okorocha.
Okorocha gave Buhari the nickname yesterday during his presidential campaign at the Dan Anyiam stadium in Owerri.
The Governor described him as the general’s general, who has zero tolerance for corruption and assured him of victory in the State. Okorocha also prayed for the demise of the Peoples Democratic Party, saying “May the soul of PDP rest in peace. May they never rise again”, as he welcomed ex-members of.............continue reading on link below ;
http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/buhari-nicknamed-okechukwu-in-imo-state.html

This is what we know Rihanna for. She has always embraced her BADGAL side and now it’s her breasts she is showing off.
The Monster singer was certain to keep up with appearances as she was at Giorgio Baldi in Los Angeles wearing only Daisy Duke style cut-off jeans and a knee-length light jacket.There was nothing else left to cover her modesty as only one button prevented Rihanna from having a massive wardrobe malfunction on Saturday night. She had no undershirt worn either as she left much of her chest visible. This of course attracted all of the attention.
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http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/photos-rihanna-walks-around-la-without.html

Elder brother to Governor Ayo Fayose of Ekiti state, Segun Fayose says his younger brother is embarrassment their family. Speaking with The Nationin Ibadan yesterday March 22nd, Segun Fayose, a UK-based accountant said that he has cautioned his brother many times over his recent remarks insulting Obasanjo and Buhari but he has refused to listen. "It is a pity Nigerians are celebrating criminals. I am angry with Nigerians for electing somebody like Ayodele as governor. My children cannot come to Nigeria because of the terrible situation of our country. I don’t have a relationship with any of our leaders because of their criminality and anybody who says I collected money from the opposition should step forward to challenge me. Ekiti and Nigeria are bigger than Fayose’s name and both names should be protected. I don’t want anything from anybody, but Ayo should stop insulting and abusing my father’s name. Culled from http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/fayose-is-embarrassing-family-im-angry.html

Model and TV presenter known as the Mexican Kim Kardashian is hoping to dethrone the real Kim after gathering a huge supportbaseon social media.
Jimena Sanchez, is a 30 year-old Mexican model and TV presenter and works as a sports presenter for the Latin American division of Fox Sports, Fox Deportes.She has over 1 million followers on twitter and 1 million likes onfacebook..
On the internet, there are thousands of images showing Jimena and Kim alongside
Jimena has admitted that she likes posing for photographs and does not care about the comparative pictures of them posted online.
‘I really like the attention and the supportof my fans is important to me.’Does she really look like Kim!
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http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/meet-mexican-kim-kardashian-hoping-to.html

After delivering mind-blowing sets of sold out concerts in Germany, Switzerland and France, Yemi Alade proceeded to Italy where she experienced yet another sold out show and thrilled her fans with her top-notch performance.
The African diva who recently unwrapped the music video for “Temperature” off her hit album “King Of Queens” was received in grand style as the show was sold out with fans outside the Black Qube Roma trying to get a peek of the songstress.
Yemi Alade performed her numerous hits and signature numbers like “Tangerine”, “Taking Over Me”, “Kissing” among others. The Effyzzie Entertainment singer posed for a selfie with the audience, then called up fans on stage to dance up a storm to “Pose”, then went to close the show with fireworks, glitter and “Johnny”.
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http://talkwithbeejay..in/2015/03/photos-from-yemi-alades-sold-out.html