@Greatpeter:Greatest Peter , i knew yu were avoiding thus thread on purpose ,that's why i sent you the personal Message requesting your contribution.

I think you should always give your opinion on any post whether your view's popular or not. like they said on the Oputa panel "Mr. Chairman, that is his opinion, he has a right to it".

If I needed all thumbs up opinions, I wouldn't be on Nairaland. Thanks a lot for your contribution. She's been reading the thread, but rather not contribute.

@ scorpio
"would it be okay if you spoke to someone elderly in your family"

funny how humans reason alike sometimes.
I've already done this. she brought up idea, so i decided to ask my dad[he's over 60 so i think he qualifies]. used the old 'a-friend-of-mine....' story to ask him and he said, that type of relationship is ok by tradition and that it is encouraged, and it keeps their families together and all that. Before then she's been hammering on "tradition does not allow this", after I told her what my dad had said, she said she'll find out the biblical point if view.
If I ever get to spend the rest of my life with this girl, i'm going to write a bestsekller on our story......

@ damygurl, hot-angel,layi,oluwizard
Thanks for the encouragement , i wish it was that simple but it's not.

@Scorpio
I've already asked her out, but she's very bothered about how her folks and mine will react to the whole thing.

@ layi
"Since she's a NL member...we could help convince her. Lets know who she is (if u don't mind). "
My brother it will take more than NairaLand to convince her,trust me...,

She says for now, we should not date, cos she's not ready for our 'perculiar' kinda relationship,because of how our folks may react . But if i was any other guy, yes definately.
i've decided to give her time to thinkn things through.

I love her, so i'm willing to wait. It all may seem simple , but i think if yu were in my shoes 4 a day you'd see it's not as easy as it seems.

@allonym
Can i get free "grammar" lessons. I'm open minded :-)

@dablessed
"each time you look into her eyes, all  that comes to mind is "you're in trouble", then make sure you deal with that before you eventually make your move."

When i said "trouble" i meant i'm in a fix, not trouble an in 'trouble'

I'm in love with this girl (who also happens to be a Nairaland member).

Now, the thing she's not just any girl she's more like family. I've know her since i was little, my cousin's married to her sister and our families have maintained a very close relationship eversince. We are family,though not by blood but of many years of good family history.

Now the thing is, will having a relationship with this Girl be ok/proper? Being that we are more like family?

She's the only person that makes my heart beat faster and slower all at the same time, but still I feel our relationship will not go down well with everyone. Every time I look into her eyes, I say to myself "i'm in trouble". Because I know i'm in trouble.

What do I do?