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Seven steps for Godly relationships

From the beginning God was into relationships

We see in the beginning the relationship between the three persons of the Godhead

God created the angels to have a relationship.

He created Adam and Eve to have a relation ship with Him and also with each other.

We see the relationship between Jesus and the father and also the Holy Spirit.

The relationship to Jesus and the church

The relationship of the church to each other as the body of Christ

The relationship between spouses



1.Realize that relationships are twofold.(It takes two to tango)

A. You cannot have a relationship by yourself, it takes at least one more person.



2. Do to others as you would have them do unto you (Practice the principle of reciprocity)

Love others and they will love you

Care for others and they will care for you

Help others and they will help you when you are in need

-If others don’t do it back its because they have a problem not you.

-Here is something that the Lord gave me a few months ago that may help others with their relationships;

"Build a fence around your heart, not a wall. Allow others to see but not readily touch. Let them approach and behold, to consider its beauty, and then decide if they can answer the invitation, Should they walk away, remember the value of the property has not decreased".





3. Work on your God centered relationships above all others.

*Col.3:18ff, " Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them, Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. 25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for his wrong, and there is no favoritism."

Which are your God-centered relationships?

-Your relationship with God

-Husband and wife

-Parent and son or daughter

-Between siblings

-With the church(brothers and sisters in the Lord)

-With your Pastor

-Your employer

-Then with others



4. Nurture and feed your God centered relationships

-Take time to share your life with your family, in your work place and in this church.
-Take five seconds to look around this congregation and make a mental note of who is not here.
-Go out to lunch with a different family or individual one Sunday out of the month and spend time getting to know them.


-All of us have something that we can bring into the relationship that the other half doesn’t have.

- Affirmation is important in every God centered relationship.

-Letting the other person know what they mean to you.

Most of us know how to affirm people, especially people who are like us or people from whom we want something. But we sometimes do not affirm those who are closest to us, because we take them for granted.
Fathers can affirm their children but are careless with their wives.
Church people who affirm one another at church and are careless with their family members at home.



5. Make God the center of all your relationships

-Realize that people will let you down but God never will

-Use God’s word as a guide for your relationships



6. Love above everything else.

-Love never fails

*1st John 4:19 "We love, because He first loved us.A. As Christians, we love everyone because of the great love that God has for us.
The statement has been made that says, "We can’t love until we’ve been loved, and we can only love to the degree to which we have been loved."



7. Be willing to forgive if need be and to say I’m sorry if you messed up.

-Love and forgiveness is the foundation to every God centered relationship

Dating older women may seem easy enough. After all, you are the young one and thus have a upper hand when it comes to the relationship. But that is where you are wrong. Men who are dating older women constantly need to look at themselves and their worth. With their egos, most will not want to appear like some boy toy unless of course that is your intention. But if you are someone who genuinely wants the relationship to work, adjusting can be really hard.

the followings points will help

1 Check the Ego[/color]
Being the younger man and therefore the less successful can be a huge blow to the ego. There are a lot of relationships that break up because the man just cannot take the success of the woman. And these are couples that are closer in age. If you are someone who wants to be the man in the relationship, it will be hard to take in the fact that you are earning less and the one paying for dinner is the woman. Discuss this with your partner and try to reach a compromise. She will understand. After all this is a scenario that is already expected when there is a role reversal in the relationship.


2 Have your own Thing [color=#000099]

When you are dating an older woman, she will naturally have a routine already fixed in her life. She has her career, her friends and her social life. Although you may want to be together all the time, constantly joined in the hip is not a good way to strengthen the relationship in the long run as it can be really suffocating. While she does her own thing, you should also develop your own activities. Work your butt off and build your career. She will admire you for it and will definitely miss your absence.

3 Understand her Jealousy [/color]

Older women who have partners that are much younger than them are naturally insecure of their age. This means that they will be insanely jealous of the young women that you talk with even if there is really nothing going on. Understand where they are coming from and try to reassure them. It is not a question of trust but insecurity.

4 Take Care of her[color=#006600]

Because they are already much older than you, they will have more life experiences that have taught them lessons. Women like these are more mature and understanding. This does not mean though that you should be a spoiled brat who always throws tantrums when you don't get your way.

They can certainly take care of you but remember that these are also women who need to be taken cared of. It should go both ways. Try to also be nurturing towards them. Serve them sometimes. Be the stronger person when they need something. Remember when you dating older women they might be older women but they are women just the same.

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Men (Young men) are interested in dating older women because they are more experienced and more capable of handling relationships smoothly. Older women are more mature, financially independent, and good lovers.

Younger men have been attracted to older women for a long time. This happens because older women are mature, know what expect from life, and do not care about what ‘neighbors say’. If in the past this was a big shame, today these couples are not keeping in secret anymore their relationship.

Dating older woman can be a nice and exciting experience. If you are a person interested in dating older woman, you must think before because there are good parts and bad parts.

Some of the bad parts are that she has passed over in life and has many worries. She has ex-boyfriends, husbands, children's, pending divorces, financial obligations, debts. Maybe your friends will consider you a hero, but your friends will talk about you, frown upon you. Remember that she is older than you are, has life experience, so she is often in control, and would like to manipulate you.

The good part is that she knows a lot about female- male relationships. She knows very well what she wants and from whom and they usually looking for a man that consider like them that compatibility and open communication are more important than age. They do not need a man to take care of them. Older women are forthright and honest and they will tell you right off, what she thinks about you so you do not have to wonder where you stand with her.

It is necessary that you find an older woman who is interested in a younger man. You will have bigger chances of success to win her heart .If you already have a date with her, do not blow up. Here are some helpful tips for attracting her.

Be yourself. She is dating you because she likes you; you offer her spontaneity and fun. So, do not even think about impersonating someone that you are not.

Take her somewhere she has never been before; show her that you are different from other men your age. Invite her at a jazz club, concert or an exotic restaurant.

You must change the topic of your discussions. Ask about her job, hobbies, what type of music she likes, Lady is smart, confident and mature, so do not discuss about age. You should be confident too.

Be spontaneous. Offer her something that people her age cannot, like excitement in and out of the bed. She is usually not looking for a serious relationship - she just wants to have fun. However, it is true that older women can do a lot for a younger man – besides sex.

Do not compare her to your ex. This would not make her feel better with you. The older woman can feel comfortable being with you even if you are younger and it will be at ease with your presence. Make her feel important and show her that you are interested in her.

You have to have the same intensity about life like her. You must know that an older woman will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask what you are thinking, and this should not bother to you.

Do not move too fast. You know that she is not looking to make fast a family, because she already had one and that one failed. Maybe she already has children’s and this will complicate things. You should always be willing to accept the complications that come with dating an older woman.

No matter what kind of woman would you prefer to date with, younger or older, you may find a beautiful one at

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