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I have gone through this, 3 years ago last week, I am still recovering from it as it takes time to rebuild yourself. Tell your friend to take a step back, regroup and rebuild himself by first step back from the situation, leave your kids for now, I know its difficult because I have also been through it and I did not talk or see my children for 8 months strait.

Tell him to get a job, get himself busy to take his mind off a little bit, stay clear off that woman and her premises, because once there is a case against you, its difficult to fight to get your kids, then get a good accommodation after saving money, then he's now in a better place to start seeing your children.

Tell him to arrange for a lawyer to write on arrangements with the children, I know his ex will not respond to this, it's only for evidence purposes. He should then go to the children school at the closing time to insist on picking up his children if is name is on their birth Certificate, as the school can not stop him if he's registered on the birth certificate.

He should be ready to create a scene, I know no one want this for their Children, but he should not fight or talk to his ex, but only insist on taking the children or she should get the Social services in to settle the situation.

He should ensure not to shout or give any attitude that will be termed as harassment, so as to avoid police case as issues with children is a civil case and police doesn't get involved. The social service will help fill for emergency hearing at the court within days.

Again it's very important to stay away from his Ex so as to rebuild his reputation and perspective about him. Also before he goes to school, he should also report to the nearest police station that he intends to go to his children school, but want the police to be aware because of the history with his ex, as she might call the police to lie about harassment.