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amunkita:
Any time dey ask her out, she should slap them, any one that apologizes or ask, bae why u slap me nah?, she should go ahead to date such.

LMAO. You gats no chill oh.

RETIREDMUMU:
kill ur family

HAHAHAHA. How far na bros?

What do you think can be done for this lady?

Friends, I need your advice. I got out of an abusive relationship 2 years ago and since then I've been afraid of men. I can talk and smile with them but anytime they ask me out, I freeze. I get scared thinking that they'll treat me the way my boyfriend did.


What should I do? Is something wrong with me?

More questions needing your answers here: http://www.helloaf.com/

Eyin goons mi, I hope this helps oh.

Here you are dating this girl or about to date a girl; she seems perfect, nice, caring and juts wonderful. In fact your relationship seems really good. However, how do you know she’s the right girl for you? Are you sure she’s the person you want to spend your forever with? The person you want to give all your attention and love…are you sure it’s her? This may seem like a difficult question to answer but we’ve made it easier for you. All you need to do is focus on the important details and think through your situation. If your girl is not doing or is any of these things we’re listing here for you, then you may have to think about something even bigger.

Your girl is kind. This is a very important quality to look for in a babe. She may have a sassy attitude but if she doesn’t care about your feelings or the feelings of others, especially people that do menial jobs (like cleaners, etc), then she may not be right for you. You both won’t be able to sustain a healthy relationship for long. She is also fair in your relationship. This means she thinks about your well-being and even offers to split bills and chores with you. She even pays both your bills without being asked.

She works hard. Trust us, you need and want to be with someone who’s willing to work for what she wants in life. When a person works hard, it means she will be stable and can fend for herself financially when no one else is around. Does your girl expect you to buy every single thing for her instead of getting off her butt to work? However, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get her presents on birthdays and anniversaries and stuff like that.She has good values and priorities. A girl with good values and priorities is very important in a relationship. If her values and priorities don’t match with yours, then you need to start thinking if she’s really right for you. Good values may be honesty, trustworthiness, and integrity, not being judgmental or always criticizing everything anyone does. Even if her values and priorities don’t match the traditionally accepted standards, do they match yours?


Does she accept you or trusts you for who you are or is she always trying to change you? If she constantly seeks to change everything about you (and I mean everything including what you look like), you definitely deserve better and she is probably not the one for you.


She creates an environment of trust. Not one of judgment. [/b]Do you feel like you’re in a place where you can be honest when you’re with her? Do you feel like you can be yourself around her? Or do you feel like you can cry, be hyperactive or even really awkward with her and she doesn’t put you down? Can you do all things you can’t do in front of other people easily when you’re with her? Does she comfort or encourage you when you’re feeling down? Does she try to help you even when she doesn’t agree with what you say? If she does, then she’s right for you.

[b]
She makes you feel good about yourself. I know some people like to be with someone who makes them feel bad or angry or even excited wrongly at times but this isn’t cool if you want a long-lasting relationship. How your girl makes you feel is very important in your relationship. If she doesn’t make you happy, or better about yourself or life in general when you’re with her, she may not be right for you. The right girl for you shouldn’t make you feel worried or anxious or bad all the time. She shouldn’t make you feel like you’re doing or saying the wrong things all the time. You should feel confident and happy and good when you’re with her.

If you sign up for a relationship where she makes you feel wrong all the time, then you’re setting yourself up for long-term trouble.

[b]She makes you a better person. [/b]You should be in a relationship with someone who makes you a better person. If she makes you feel or behave worse than before you met her, then she’s probably not right for you. If she makes you better than you were before, then think about it- she may just be the one for you.

By the way, does she encourage you to achieve your dreams or to improve yourself and your life? Does she make you want to build a better future for you or make you want to work harder than before? Man, you’ve hit the jackpot. You definitely don’t want to let her go.


[b]She puts as much effort as you do into the relationship. [/b]So, here’s the deal with good relationships- the guy and the girl should be willing to invest equal time, effort, and everything else in making the relationship as awesome as possible. If your girl wants you to do everything but she isn’t really helping out, then it’s not a good thing. But if she makes the effort to do stuff for you both- like planning dates once in a while or surprising you with something cool once in a while, then she’s a keeper. It shows that things can really work out between you both.

But, it doesn’t mean she’s got to be super-active in your relationship. If you’re both the relaxed-let’s-take-things-gently types, then it’s cool. It just means you both have to come up with everything. It’s just important that you guys have the same needs and attitudes.

[b]
She appreciates you…and stuff you do. [/b]No guy should be with someone who takes them for granted. So, you need to pay attention to how (that’s if) she thanks you or shows gratitude (one way or the other) when you do nice stuff for her. You should also check if she does something nice for you too (on occasion)- it may help you know how much she cares about you. It doesn’t matter if what you guys do for each other is small. It’s the thought that counts. Not everyone has the money or the time to do big stuff.


[b]She’s willing to share responsibility. [/b]We know men are “men of the house” and stuff like that but you need a girl who’s fair, willing to work hard and is honest. You both need to share responsibility in chores, finances, and other stuff but not equally.

She balances you out. [/b]It is important to have common interests, values, and priorities. You both need to think or act similar in certain ways. But, it’s good to be different in certain ways too. This will allow both of you to contribute to the relationship equally just by being yourselves. Make sure she balances you out.


[b]She fights fair. [/b]It’s normal to have fights in relationships. It’s said by relationship gurus to be a sign of a healthy relationship. But if you get into a fight with her and she insults you or goes for the low blow…dude, you need to start rethinking your relationship. It is a serious sign of disrespect to do that to a man or woman. Trust us, you want someone who fights with you in a fair way. You don’t want someone who blackmails you into getting what she wants. Look for someone who’s the exact opposite.

[b]She shares your interests. OK guys, you need someone whom you can have a conversation with or even do activities with so that you can spend quality time together. Make sure your girl has similar interests with you- it will help avoid problems in the future. You can also build up common interests over time by trying new hobbies together or learning a language.

[b]
She shares your values and priorities. [/b]Your girl should share your values and priorities- it makes you assured that she’s right for you. Having the same values and priorities will help prevent tension and conflict as you both continue together. While your values and hers may not be the traditional type, at least let your values define your relationship. But, even if you do have different values and priorities, you both can still find a common ground that will make you respect each other more.

[b]She has similar goals. [/b]You both should have similar goals in life, especially if you’re seeing your “till death do us part” in her. Your goals should match up even if there are differences. This is because your goals will determine the kind of path you both tread on. If something is important to her but it’s not important to you it may cause challenges later on.


[b]She understands your friends…and has good friends herself. [/b]While you both may be the main cast in your relationship, there’s always the supporting cast. The truth is our relationships with other people influence our romantic relationships. You both must respect and be able to co-exist with the other’s friends and have good friends too. Don’t let your friends get in the way of your relationship but you should talk about it when you’re having problems with each other’s friends.

She has similar experiences…and background. [/b]While experts say this isn’t really required for a happy relationship, it is a major bonus. People who grow up in similar environments or have done or gone through similar experiences have more to bond over, think in similar ways and even understand each other better. Certain things will be easier in your relationship if your girl’s life is almost like yours is.

So here they are. The ways you can know if a girl is right for you. Please like, leave a comment or share if this helps to clarify things. Wish you a great relationship!
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Source: https://afmobiblog./2017/11/02/16-best-ways-a-girl-is-right-for-you/

HRHQueenPhil:
I go chop d mixture for road , i wld prefer d ready made one.lol

HAHAHAHAHA. I can relate oh. But there's nothing like the fresh one you make yourself.

Great4God:
It can be a win win situation if you ask me, discuss this with your husband, let him know you plan to leave him, but you will make his life better, collect the 30 million, give your husband 10million,then leave him to your new marriage,chikena

.. Smart person.

hooklover:
Wat are u waiting for. Good deal. Let him pay to ur account transfer 15milluon to husband as parting gift.
He will love u and always call u to confirm u are enjoying d new marriage....

No duck up oh.

HAHAHAHAHA. I like you. No dulling.

Even guys need to have smooth skin. What do you think?

In addition to consuming several servings of fruit a day, you can also use fruit topically in the form of facial masks to pamper your skin. Learn more in this article!

There’s a good reason to include fruit in your diet: it provides the nutrients you need to stay healthy. Today, however, we want to suggest some fruit-based face masks for smooth skin. You’ll love them!

They’re great for giving you the benefits of fruit that you might not otherwise like to eat. Plus, fruit face masks can help remove dead skin cells, as well.

When these cells build up in large quantities, they can cause skin spots, acne, and blackheads.

Pear and lemon juice face mask
The first of these fruit face masks is a great combination for oily skin.

Pear contains astringent properties that help cleanse your skin, which is essential to decreasing the production of your sebaceous glands.



Ingredients

1 pear, peeled
The juice of 1 lemon
Preparation

First, place the pear (sliced) into a blender with the lemon juice and process until you get a homogeneous paste.
Then, apply this mask to clean skin and leave it on for 15 minutes.
Rinse with cold water.
It’s also a great mask to use to keep dry or combination skin under control.

We suggest you use it at night to avoid any sun spots caused by contact with lemon juice. It’s also important that you always remember to wear sunscreen when outside.

Apple and witch hazel
The minerals, vitamins, and antioxidants in apples are the perfect elements to contribute to the health of your skin.

In addition to eating an apple a day, you can use it to make your fruit mask of the day!



Witch hazel stimulates circulation, which makes your skin appear healthier.

Ingredients

The juice from 1 apple
2 tablespoons of powdered witch hazel (20 g)
Preparation

First, mix the apple juice and witch hazel powder in a bowl.
Then, using a cotton ball, apply this mixture to your skin.
Leave it on for 20 minutes before rinsing with warm water.
Papaya and mango
Both papaya and mango are perfect for fighting acne, so they’re very good for young skin that’s experiencing breakouts.



Ingredients

1 tablespoon of papaya pulp (10 g)
A tablespoon of mango pulp (10 g)
1 tablespoon of honey (25 g)
Preparation

Mix all the ingredients in a bowl until you get a homogeneous paste.
Apply it to clean skin and leave it on for 20 minutes.
Rinse with cool water.
For the best results, repeat this once a week.
Orange and honey mask
Oranges have cooling properties, which make them great for facial treatments of any skin type, regardless of your age.

You can use this mask year round without affecting your wallet or your skin type.



Ingredients

3 tablespoons of honey (75 g)
The juice from 1 orange
Preparation

Add the honey and orange to a saucepan and heat it over low heat.
When the honey has blended with the juice, remove it from heat.
Apply this mixture to clean skin, taking care to avoid the eye area.
To improve the effects, while spreading this mask on your face you should tap the surface of the skin with your fingertips.
Leave it on for 20 minutes and remove with warm water and a soft cloth.
This fruit mask is much less aggressive than the one made with lemon juice, but is equally effective if you’re looking for the astringent effects of citrus.

Either way, always remember to use sunscreen.

Banana and honey
In addition, banana is great for helping people with dry complexions retain their natural glow while fighting dry skin. That’s why it’s such a great addition to many face masks.

Ingredients

1 ripe banana
1 tablespoon of:
honey (25 g)
yogurt (12 g)
Preparation

First, blend these three ingredients until you obtain a homogeneous paste.
Then, apply this mixture to your skin. Leave it on for 15 minutes and rinse with warm or cool water.
There you have it. 5 Fruit Face Masks for amazing skin. Don’t forget to like, share and leave a comment. Gracias!

Source: https://afmobiblog./2017/09/15/5-diy-face-masks-you-can-make-at-home/

Don't get tired of going for interviews. One golden opportunity is all you need.

We get that it is easy to get rattled at a job interview. And before you know it, you’ve blurted something out that would most likely cost you that job.

This is why it is very important that you stay calm and centered before you’re called in for the interview; during the interview and even afterwards.

The first thing you need to do is to breathe in deep and tell yourself you’ve got this. You don’t need to be unnecessarily tensed or anxious. These things make for a bad interview.

So, whether you’re standing or sitting in a lobby or something, here are some 7 things you should never say in a job interview, no matter how nervous and anxious you are.

1. What does your company do?
Really. You should never ever ask this question. Your role as an interviewee is to make sure you get all the needed and appropriate information about the company you’ve been invited to for the interview.


If you ask this question, your interviewer will assume you’re not ready for the job or you’re simply uninterested.

2. My previous boss was extremely annoying.
No one and I mean no one needs to know this. You don’t badmouth your previous boss or bosses at an interview. That is way too much unnecessary information that may end up costing you that position.


By the way, well-brought up people don’t talk bad about others in spite of the circumstances. It just serves as a stain on your character when you do.

While it may be hard to not talk negative about your previous boss, especially if you left the company under bad conditions, you don’t want to talk about it.


3. Is it a problem if…?
Another thing you really should never say is to ask questions about your shortcomings or to even point them. Especially when you’ve not been given the job! You need to focus on the conversation with the interviewer and quiet the critical voice in your head. Once you pay close attention to the questions being asked, then you won’t deviate from the path of discussion. Your brain slows down and then you can think about the kinds of answers to give to the interviewer.

You really don’t want to start babbling and asking unnecessary questions.

4. I’m not good at working with people
Maybe working with a team isn’t your best strength. So you prefer working by yourself at times. It’s cool but interviewers and employers see being unable to work with a team as a red flag that diminishes your hire-ability.


A tree doesn’t make a forest. It is impossible to grow anything by one’s self. You will always need people to help you grow at every point in life. So, you need to have an understanding that you alone can’t do everything.

Interviewers see being able to interact and work with a team as an indication that you’re good for the company. So start harnessing those social skills and put them to work.

5. I’m not excited about this role
You may be perfect for the job; you’ve got all the qualifications, charisma and stuff. But if you say stuff like “I’m not excited about this role but I’m bored at home” or “this job is just something to get by while I look for other opportunities” or “I’ve got bills to pay so this job is just a thing I have to do”.


Truth is it doesn’t matter your reasons for taking the job or coming for the interview, you need to show some excitement!

6. I’m not very good at using software. Is it going to be a problem?
At times, our mouth takes off running before our brain gets the chance to catch up. Truth is interviewers don’t want to hear you talk about your perceived defects. They want to know what you can do and how well you can do it. Whether you’re not an expert with Excel or Microsoft Office Suite, it is not your role to pinpoint your weaknesses.


If they have a problem, let them tell you about it. Don’t put words in their mouth. If they don’t ask, don’t say it even if you’re thinking it.

7. How much leave time can I get if I start working here?
Wow. Talk of foot in mouth syndrome. If you haven’t even been hired, you definitely should NOT be asking about how much leave time you can get. Employers and human resources personnel want to see excitement and passion about the work you would be doing in the company.

Unless you’ve been hired and you want to discuss terms, you should not ask how much leave time you can get. There’s no hurry.

Bonus: How important is it exactly for me to get to work on time? Is not a question you should ask. It’s unprofessional and may reduce your hire-ability chances.
Just know you’re not there to beg for a job. You have a lot to offer. Don’t plead for the job by staying things like “I’m a hard worker” or “I do well under stress” but state what you bring to the table as a professional.

If they’re worth working for, they will hire you because they will be impressed with your thinking, your accomplishments and learning as well as your personality.

Just remember that you can’t mess up an interview. You can only learn from it.

Source: https://afmobiblog./2017/09/25/7-outrageous-things-you-should-never-say-in-a-job-interview/

lordmars:
OP 10 point out of 15 is what you girls actually do that pisses men off. if a guy pretends to be listening to you whilst watching football then it means he knows the end of the story already.

a girl came to my house, sat down, took out her phone open messenger and had a chat while we where talking. only lifted her face to say ok and what.

I was pissed and my crush on her died also the last time we ever met.

bringing friends along na girls do am pass na

Eyaah. Sorry bros. I posted an earlier article on what women do that piss men off. You should check that out.

eaglez:
Omachi,money matter no be small matter o,peeps gats take it personal.

SMH. Honestly oh. Abeg, it's just for fun oh. Questions still dey come.

eaglez:
Bro your head dey there,this one Na story wey dem cook with gas cooker,na big LIE.

HAHAHAHAHAHA. . Exactly! But some people are taking it too personal. Chai!

genius43:
Carry on

LMAO. Thank you sir. Biko, you gats leave a comment oh.

DeManNextDoor:
lemme start frm the way u tink
i'm engaged to a decent lady who worths every penny and mst importantly befits me nd wunt leave me even if i dnt have #30
2.if its fiction,xo its nw a common ting to tell lies abi?

Dude, take it easy. It's just a conversation. I'm in a steady relationship with a guy that isn't earning millions but takes care of me every time. I don't even need to ask him for anything neither would I leave him because he doesn't have 30 billion in his account.

You need to take a chill pill bros. No be fight.

P.S: The next question I ask would most likely make you explode.

genius43:
Yea, cos a serious business man who works effortlessly to earn his money won't throw around such money for a hooked old flame

You're right sir. I plan on asking crazier questions. Should be fun!

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Naso [/color]

Not possible shey? LOL

Rokia2:
Take it. After the marriage he will offer you 60 million to have group sex with his friends.

Kinda like the guy in the video below.

This guy thou.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3rLC6QaMlA

HAHAHAHAHAHA. LMAO. You're right jare. Take zobo!

goodnews777:
Didn't know women love money this much till I read this. Pathetic .

Eyaaah. You don't like money abi? See this person oh.

Make una chill abeg...it's just a question.

DeManNextDoor:

Even Davido that has 30 billion in the acct wunt offer 30 million for half eaten food

Attention seeking hoe!

Dude, what if your wife was the ho? Don't just post without thinking. Did you check or even think to ask if it was fiction or not? Or is it because you ain't got 30 million to snatch your crush away from her boyfriend or husband? :

Dey take am easy.

Mehn. The way some people are taking this question personal ehn...you go think say na their wife na im former boyfriend dey toast. Abeg, na fiction oh.

genius43:
That former boyfriend must be a G boy. 30million ko.

LOOOOOOOOL. Highly possible. It's a fictitious question. In this economy oh...

teresafaith:
You wish

LOL. But just for argument's sake, would you collect the 30 mila if it was real?

JamesReacher:
Ritual ingredient is almost complete with this one.

Hahahaha. Take am easy na. It's just a question. As if say...

So the question is...your money or your love?

Even before I married my husband, this former boyfriend has been saying he likes me. But I ignored him. I'm happy with my husband although he has lost 4 jobs in the past 3 years. I used to wonder if he's cursed. We don't have any children yet because he's always not having money. This friend of mine knows all this and has been calling and texting me.

2 days ago, he called and asked to meet me. He then told me that he can give me 30 million naira to divorce my husband and marry him instead. He says he will treat me like a queen and give me whatever I want.

I love my husband oh but he has no money. What should I do?

See more crazy questions here: http://www.helloaf.com/

Help some people out with their issues there.