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It is indeed.

Firstly, in Frankfurt where I stopped over on transit since I was flying Lufthansa, there were a lot of Nigerians.

Young Nigerians.

A couple of them with their mothers.

On their way back to school in Canada.

I got talking to a mother and her two twin daughters and a son.

She was excited that I was living in Canada and wanted me to keep an eye on her children for her.

Then the introductions began.

Meet this... meet that.

Somehow all these kids seemed to know each other.

47 children in all.

Children of the Rich.

The mother had said to me earlier...

"It's worth it spending the extra money it cost for them to school abroad, at least you are sure of quality education and no strikes. At the end of it all, unlike the UK, in Canada, they can ultimately become Canadians. Because with the way Nigeria is going those who have money and sense must invest in alternatives."

The poor have no alternatives but to argue over tribe, religion and political affiliations, while the rich and the powerful are preparing to abandon ship.

I had said to her.

"But the private universities don't go on strikes, and their quality seems pretty good."

She laughed.

"Let the ones with new money send their children there after all they have to protect them from the sickness in that country but we who God has blessed so richly, we have to differentiate ourselves and our children from the masses if we hope to get the masses to continually give us access to power."

"To power?"

"Of course people trust what they hope to become and not what they are. The more different, rich and successful you are the more the common man will trust you with their future. That is why the truly rich must invest in their children in as different a way from the way the ordinary man invests in their own children if they want to perpetuate their wealth and hold on to power. It is called succession planning."

I allowed the words sink into me with an expressionless face.

She continued.

"You an intelligent young man. You surely must agree with me that power and wealth if not consolidated and defended will be lost and the only hope of the poor is that the rich remain rich from one generation to the next so that informed leadership is guaranteed and the chaos that ensues when the poor are led by the poor is prevented. Look at the Niger Delta and the East where charlatans have risen to positions of power; see the raucous and mayhem they have enshrined. Only we who were born into power and wealth know how to control it and use it for the common good because power and money is a spirit and it will destroy the unprepared."

I was flummoxed.

"Did you say that you are a home manager?"

She laughed.

"Of course I am. I take care of the home while my husband brings in the funds. People are always surprised when I speak, they think all home managers are dumb, little do they know that it is the woman in the shadows that is the power. We are the puppeteers. The whisperers. The kingmakers. Especially if we have breeding. The same breeding I am giving to my daughters so that whatever they decide to do in their future they will do it exceedingly well. Since they will understand the secrets of acquiring, keeping and mastering power to perpetuate the family legacy."

"Everything has an end."

"Not when you plan ahead, and you prepare even the unborn for its inheritance. No one is born to lead, we are taught to lead. And that is the difference between the nouveau riche and the elites. The elite has proven that we have through time mastered the art of making money and acquiring power, not as an end in itself but as a tool of the ultimate."

"What is the ultimate?"

She smiled.

It was barely discernable then she whispered.

"Control."

I let it sink in.

"Why aren't you flying in your own private jet."

Again the smile flashed across her face.

"That is what those who chase money and.power for its sakes will do. All loud and ever so obvious. But we who have evolved past that through generations of breeding live outwardly rich enough to be respected and privately anonymously to control without being identified as the ones who are in control."

Her words swirled around me like fireflies as she spoke on and on, after which she said as though in an afterthought.

"There is something about you that makes people who barely know you trust you. I don't know what it is but you are very easy to talk to."

I smiled in appreciation.

"You should learn to make it work in your favour."

I smiled again.

"I can teach you if you want."

There was a stillness as the offer hung in the air. And it was in the midst of that inconclusive silence that they announced the boarding of our flight.

After a proliferation of niceties and promises, we boarded the plane, and the mother and her children sat in business class.

Several other children and their mothers were also in Business class.

Two of the children sat in First class.

Most of them sat with me in premium economy.

During the flight, I had walked down economy class, and not one of the children sat in the filled to capacity economy class.

It was even more instructive this thinking of the Nigerian bourgeoisie.

An inheritance of 'classism' and 'elitism" being passed down from parents to children.

Everything screaming - we are different, and it is your duty as our children to perpetuate the difference by any means possible so that the family legacy lasts on and on.

The second thing that stuck out to me on my flight to Toronto was the man who sat beside me.

He was white haired.

Tall, partially tanned and had a childish playfulness in his eyes.

His wife sat beside him.

They were continually tactile in their affection to one another.

Endearing.

An old couple still in love.

And as we flew west bound, we talked.

He told me that he is a musician.

He plays the saxophone and the harmonica with a band back home in New Zealand.

He also said that he is an Economist and an emeritus Professor.

Currently writing a book on a new economic model which espouses a fairer system of distribution of wealth that was based on good neighbourliness, protection of nature and individual needs. A system that guarantees a universal basic income whether you work or not and one that redefines what it means to be wealthy. Hence money will no longer be what wealth is based on but on how much you can affect the life of the common man. So the man or woman who finds the cure for cancer will have a global credit which makes them have a higher purchasing power in the universal financial exchange than a man or woman who profiteers from the felling of trees or the burning of fossil fuels.

What blew my mind was when he told me that he is a former Governor of the Reserve Bank of New Zealand... Which is the Central Bank of New Zealand.

A former Central Bank Governor flying in Premium Economy - I was flabberwhelmed.

A former Central Bank Governor now living as a musician - I was in awe.

He could see the depth of my amazement and laughed.

"Why are you so surprised?"

I found my voice from the vortex of my surprise and spoke.

"I can't believe you are sitting here with me. I mean in my country Nigeria, you will be in First Class or even riding a private jet."

He looked at his wife, and both laughed like mischievous brats salivating over a juicy secret only they knew about.

Then he turned to me.

"You know that is what we use to say when I went to all those meetings with other Central Bank Governors in the world. The Africans stayed in the Presidential suites of the finest hotels, flew in with private jets, spent money as though they printed it by themselves and for themselves and we use to call them the Emperors..."

I just kept shaking my head in astonishment as I listened to him.

"... that is why my book and theory is so important. We need to build a new world that values the goodness of our hearts over the depth of our pockets. We need a world where wealth is not what is inherited by our children but the capacity to do good and stand up for your fellow man. We need a world anchored by love, with love and for love, where everyone is more equal than they are now or they were in the past. Where you are known for not just your name and deeds but by the goodness associated with it."

I sat there listening to him and remembering what the Nigerian lady had told me barely hours before and my heart was gladdened because right there during my journey, I had encountered darkness and then light.

And the light gave me hope.

By Jude Idada

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Ironically, high-rise denim as its worn today looks best on those whose bodies reveal no evidence of having children.

I believe myself to be able to maintain a healthy distance from the tides of fashion. In recent years I've said no to ubiquitous trends like moto jackets, which scan too costumey on me, and "cold shoulder" tops, which I fail to comprehend on an aesthetic or conceptual level. Did that leave me with approximately seven shouldered tops to contemplate purchasing in the past year? Absolutely. I won't give in.

But don't mistake this obstinance for a need to be different; I'm quite content to look like everyone else when I like what everyone else is wearing. Take, for example, my rising fascination with the popular, and somewhat broad, category of denim labelled as "mom jeans," which imbue their wearers with that insouciant look that is the ne plus ultra of chic in our times. The more I've observed them, the more I've longed to sheath myself in such casual cool, one rigid leg of denim at a time.

And yet, I've hesitated to try them. The fear has it roots in my suspicion that, despite their name suggesting otherwise, contemporary mom jeans are absolutely not for moms. Instead, I presumed, they are best played by those for whom the matronly silhouette highlights, by way of contrast, the absence of any history of pregnancy in the body inhabiting it. But now that I am back into my old—stretchy—jeans following my recent pregnancy, and newly emboldened to reenter the non-maternity fashion world, I decided it was time to determine if I was right. This all brings us to last Monday, when I ordered seven pairs online to try to find out.

Before I proceed with enumerating my findings on the matter of whether moms can wear mom jeans, I should set a few parameters. By moms, I am referring not necessarily to women who have had children, but to those among us whose bodies were altered in a typical fashion by having children. Colloquially this is known as mummy tummy; real phenomenon, awful phrase, describing the little under-belly pouch that is a short-term addition for some, long-term for many.

By mom jeans I am referring to the type of high rise, rigid denim recently, and splendidly, worn by non-mom musician, Danielle Haim. I am not, notably, speaking of their pleated, supple, often elasticized waist namesake in a 2003 SNL skit.

The jeans I ordered were a mix of rises, sizes, and prices, some with a tiny bit of stretch, some without. After tearing through all the plastic bags—am I the only one who tries to do this as gently as possible so they may be reused? Are they ever reused?—and removing the pants, I quickly determined that the suggestion to size-up was wise. Wasp waists. I began with the 1 percent elastic, 99 percent cotton options because I thought they would be the answer to this puzzle. Unfortunately, the modest contribution to comfort provided by the presence of stretch in no way accounted for the fact that they were clearly less cute. The mom jean effect I was after could only be achieved with 100 percent cotton.

Getting those elastic-free pairs on was difficult. I had to take breaks between the buttons. Each button. Unlike the instantly conforming stretch denim we've all become accustom to in the past two decades, breaking in 100 percent cotton jeans takes time, commitment, or so the jeans' reviewers explained. I contemplated what kind of commitment would be required to make the pairs that I could only remove by slowly peeling them off work. I suspect it's not one I want to make.

I found one pair I liked, the dishearteningly named "Wedgie" jean by Levi's, which the brand describes as "the Mom Jean...finally evolved." They were hardly a home run. I liked how the higher than usual placement of the pockets on the back of the pants work as invisible puppet strings, lifting my backside north and creating an agreeably peachy configuration. Less flattering were the assumptions about the female form sewn into the hip and waist region. My surfeit flesh, clearly confused as to where it was being directed, distributed itself to wherever it could find refuge: small undulations of flesh appeared between the buttons, and a small tide pool of belly surfaced above the waist. Going up a size might remedy that issue, yes, but then they would be too baggy in the leg. I know they are supposed to mold to my body over time. But when? And how much?

Emma McClendon, Associate Curator of Costume at The Museum at FIT who recently put together an exhibit about denim, said the return of the mom jean is largely the result of the cyclical nature of fashion. Many are ready to try something different from the stretchy skinny jeans that have held on for nearly 20 years now. A rising interest in normcore and 90s fashion also inspires some of the interest in the high waisted, tapered "mom" silhouette, which, McClendon pointed out, was the standard cut for all women for most of denim's history.

"Wearing denim has always been a balancing act between being incredibly cool and incredibly frumpy. The defining characteristic, that thing the defines whether a jean is hot or not, tends to be more about the body that is in it and how we culturally perceive that body, " McClendon said.

I FOUND ONE PAIR I LIKED, A DISHEARTENINGLY NAMED "WEDGIE" JEAN, WHICH THE BRAND DESCRIBED AS "THE MOM JEAN...FINALLY EVOLVED."

According to Polyvore, a shopping-focused social network, mom jeans are predominantly purchased by 18- to 24-year-olds; in 2016 they were 161 percent more popular with Gen Z than millennials on the company's app. This data doesn't specifically tell us that moms can't wear mom jeans, but it makes it quite clear mom bodies are probably not the ones responsible for making us believe that mom jeans are attractive.

Here's what I know: On the spectrum of mattering, this falls somewhere between losing an almost finished subway card and your local semi-decent Chinese food restaurant closing down. It's a minor disturbance. I also know that fashion—things like stretchy denim, track pants, waistless dresses, boxy tees, billowy blouses—has generally been pretty hospitable to moms in recent years and there is no reason to adopt more difficult looks. Lastly, I'm now certain that I was right. Mom jeans, the cute, new, Haimy ones, were not largely conceived with moms in mind.

MOM JEANS, THE CUTE, NEW, HAIMY ONES, WERE NOT LARGELY CONCEIVED WITH MOMS IN MIND.

I'm going to return them all, but I'm not done here. The heart wants what it wants, and mine still desires mid to high rise, tapered, rigid jeans. Love is irrational. Fashion even more so. I know the difference between reality and expectations. I've been married for seven years and a mother for nearly five. Let's not waste too much time trying to make sense of this.

If and when I notice that my mummy tummy has further diminished, I will try this all over again. Perhaps I'll find a pair with some stretch that works, or a rigid pair built on a fit model whose proportions more closely resemble mine. Or perhaps, once again, they'll all be a little terrible, and I will be happily and readily place them back in their neatly torn plastic bags and bid them adieu maybe forever, but maybe not.

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Women get a lot of mixed messages when it comes to sexuality. On one hand, shows like Broad City, Insecure, Girls, and more depict frank portrayals of the joys, pitfalls, and complications of women's sexuality, and encourage women to be open about their needs and desires. On the other hand, women are literally getting killed for turning down men's advances. It's no wonder we have conflicting feelings about being seen as sexually confident.Women get a lot of mixed messages when it comes to sexuality. On one hand, shows like Broad City, Insecure, Girls, and more depict frank portrayals of the joys, pitfalls, and complications of women's sexuality, and encourage women to be open about their needs and desires. On the other hand, women are literally getting killed for turning down men's advances. It's no wonder we have conflicting feelings about being seen as sexually confident.

The shame and stigma surrounding women's sexuality actually affects the choices they make around having safe sex. According to Trojan's new Trust Yourself survey, 97 percent of women think it's socially acceptable for men to carry condoms, while just 79 percent think it's socially acceptable for women to do so. Women who said they were uncomfortable having the conversation about condoms said it was because they were embarrassed (54 percent), and that body image affects their sexual health decisions (70 percent).

At a panel hosted by Trojan last night in downtown New York City, Dr. Logan Levkoff sat down with Insecure actress Amanda Seales, model and designer Nadia Aboulhosn, and safe sex advocate Alba Alvarado to talk about women's sexual health, confidence, and how we can empower women to listen to themselves when they make sexual choices. Beforehand, ELLE sat down with Seales to talk about the issues, and why men sometimes need to sit down and shut up.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

How did you get involved in Trojan's #TrustYourself campaign?

Trojan came to me because they wanted somebody who was outspoken, and who could bring some humor and levity to a conversation that easily becomes very heavy. Because it should—it's a heavy conversation, don't get it twisted. But sometimes humor is able to help ease strong messages into small minds. So that's something I've made the mandate of my humor and my brand, and anywhere that I can do that in a place that's going to bring information and education to people, I want to be a part of that. So when Trojan said they were doing this, and that it was about women and owning their sexual health, I was like, count me in.

Was there a specific experience in your life that made you realize women's sexual confidence was an issue, or made you passionate about it?

Any woman who's ever had sex has dealt with this. Literally I don't know any example. If you haven't dealt with this, it's like, kudos! Lucky for you! I came up in hip-hop as well, which often times the lyrics can be misogynistic, and can be very objectifying of women, and you can take on those images and those lyrics to yourself and it does create insecurities. It does create questions about your own sexual confidence. Because I think a lot of women put all the weight in the hands of men in terms of being the aggressor, in terms of taking care of contraception. And we are changing as women. A lot of things are going to change along with that, and part of that is our responsibility and having accountability for our choices, and not having to feel like we have to be at the behest of men's choices. Even moves in the sexual space. I know a lot of women who have literally slept with somebody just because they were like, 'I just didn't want to make them feel bad.'

That's such a common experience! You think, 'Well, it'd be awkward to leave now.'

Right! And it's because we live in a patriarchal society that's said we have to lean toward letting men lead in that situation. Your sexual confidence isn't just about having the confidence to say, 'Hey, have you been tested?' or 'Yeah, I'm not sleeping with you without a condom.' It's also about having the confidence to say, 'Hey, this isn't really doing it for me. I'm not a hole. I'm a human.'

So much of that, too, is that it's dangerous to reject men, and women are afraid of the consequences.

We're more concerned with preserving men's egos oftentimes than protecting our own bodies. Which is what patriarchy is. Our bodies are not as important, far too often. So what Trojan is doing is encouraging women to rise up and be strong and solid in the protection of their bodies. Love is a beautiful thing, but love doesn't cure gonorrhea.

Condoms have been around and in discreet packages for a very long time. Why do you think sexually active women still feel shy about carrying a condom with them?

Because carrying around a condom says you're waiting for sex and you're a slut. Which we all know is false. But it's still attached to the brainwashing. This country, before we were revolutionaries we were puritans. There's always a root, things don't just come out of nowhere, and bad habits are really hard to break. The first British settlers, outside of the tobacco folks, say women are not sexual, only used for reproductive purposes. That continues. You see shows like Handmaid's Tale and see how scary that would be. You look at other countries where that's happening. And even if it's not as pervasive in America, it's still invasive in our confidence. There's still this underlying message that says sex is dirty, that only certain women are sexually free, and that if you were married you wouldn't be doing this.

I've even heard from women who grew up learning that, even if they were married, they shouldn't act like they enjoy sex with their husband too much.

Right, because you're a LovePeddler if you like it too much....

Race also plays into this a lot. The way white women are sexualized and allowed to be sexually free is much different than for Black women and other women of color. How does that come into the conversation, or is it more about women in general?

It's never just about women in general. That's just the reality. The intersectionality is so part of the conversation, and often times it gets left out. We're not on the same playing field, and even if we are on the same playing field, we don't have the same padding. Some of us are just getting body shots. Don't leave us out!

Listen, Black women were brought to this country as slaves, and were made to be at the use of making new slaves or bodies to serve their masters' sexual appetites. That's it. So that was the overlying objectification of Black women for a very long time. It's just another tool of oppression. Tools of oppression are not factual. At the end of the day, Black women were considered 'exotic' and fetishized, and there's all these things that are attached to Black womanhood that have nothing to do with Black women. When you've brought people to a place and used them for only one purpose, that turns into all you are. I am somebody who has always been very vocal about sex. Not even because it was a mission, but that living your truth and being honest was the best thing to do. I'm on Insecure and there's a lot of sexual freedom on the show because it's a part of life. And if we don't normalize [women having sex], we will continue to, by omission, support the stigma.

So much of what keeps women from being confident about their sexuality are these patriarchal power structures you've talked about. What do you think men and people in power can do to help women own their sexuality?

Shut up when we're talking! And speak up when you hear folks talking incorrectly. Or just speak up in general in support of this. I'm always appreciative of men who are like, 'Yeah, that's stupid,' and it requires men to get over themselves. That's a hard thing for a lot of guys to do, because empowering women somehow becomes disempowering to men, which is not the case. It's just creating more power. Empowerment is simply based on education for a lot of folks. You don't have to be that educated to understand this education, which is the simple fact that sex is a basic human right that everyone has access to, and should not be judged for if you're doing it responsibly and honestly.

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I used to be a sloppy dresser. I never liked that I had to dress a certain way to get the respect I thought I deserved or get people to listen to me. “What a sham!” I would tell myself. “People should respect me because I know what I’m talking about, not because I’m wearing expensive socks.” But then I experienced something that changed my mind completely.

Years ago, I was on the bus headed to a friend’s house. I knew the neighborhood but wasn’t sure which stop to get off at.

The gentleman sitting next to me noticed me looking out the window every few seconds trying to get my bearings and asked if I needed help. I told him my predicament, and he confidently told me I should exit in two stops. I thanked him for the advice.

A moment later, another man standing in the aisle who’d heard my conversation leaned in and said, “Actually, you should get off at the next stop.”

I thanked him, hopped up, and exited just like he told me to, ignoring the advice of the first guy.

What was the difference between the two men? And why did I choose to listen to one and not the other? I asked myself the same question as I walked the last few blocks to my friend’s place. Read on for the answer.

Look Sharp, Be Sharp: How The Clothes You Wear Change What People Hear You Say

As I walked away from the bus, I realized in an instant why I listened to one guy and not the other.

The man in the aisle was dressed sharply. He looked like he was on his way home from work in a fancy office downtown. My seatmate was wearing sweatpants, had a dark stain on his t-shirt, and looked like he might have skipped showering that day.

In this moment, I realized just how many preconceived notions and stereotypes were built into my own assumptions of other people. Here I was complaining how people judged me by my clothes while I did the same to them - can I trust the instructions of someone who can’t be trusted to even keep food off his clothes?

I didn’t mean to make this judgment. It was simply years of social conditioning taking over. My decision process went into autopilot. If you want people to listen to you, there’s an important lesson here:

Dress the message
The clothes you wear and the way you groom yourself will change the way other people hear what you say. It will subconsciously tell them if you’re like them or if you’re different. It will determine whether they listen or ignore. Trust or distrust.

I learned the same lesson again while climbing a mountain in Russia during an anti-terror operation.

The mountain was closed to all but locals and the mountain rescue team. We got in okay, but on the way out, there was a police checkpoint. Our driver was part of the mountain rescue team, but we weren’t. What do we do? We’re going to get in trouble!

IF YOU LOOK GOOD, YOU FEEL GOOD AND IF YOU FEEL GOOD YOU DO GOOD. ~ GEORGES ST-PIERRE

“Fear not,” our driver informed us. “Just put these in your lap, and don’t say a word.” He handed us each a blue jumpsuit with the mountain rescue emblem on it as he changed into his own. The policeman at the checkpoint stopped us and looked directly into my never-looked-more-American-in-my-life face. Then, he glanced at the blue jumpsuit in the seat next to me and immediately waved us through.

Nothing about me said “mountain rescue” except the jumpsuit. Turns out, it was all I needed.

This is the same reason every pharmaceutical company puts actors - and we consciously know they are actors - in white lab coats to pitch their drugs in their television commercials. We immediately judge them as doctors. It’s why mothers choose color-coded clothing for their babies. It’s hard to tell what gender a newborn is. But if you see one rolling around in a blue onesie, you know it’s a boy. Pink for girls.

How you dress yourself changes who you are. It changes the value of what you have to say. At least to the people who are looking and listening.

Dressing Well: Three Tips For Budget Shoppers
Whether you want to get a better job, get out of a traffic ticket, or start a worldwide movement, the way you dress and present yourself will play a major role. You may not like this reality, but remember: those who succeed are not those who complain about “the way it is” or “the way it should be.” They’re the ones who accept reality for what it is, and use that reality to their advantage and change the rules.

But what if you’re working with limited resources or, like me, want to play the game well but maintain your status as world’s most frugal shopper (it’s a title I’m fond of). Here are a few tricks to dressing well on a budget, no matter what your aim.

Consider the audience and the message: Think carefully about who it is you’re trying to influence and why. What do they care about and why is it important? When you know this, you can present yourself in a way that focuses on those ideals. The way you’d dress at a business conference full of middle-aged folks is different from how you would dress at high school sports game. Think about who you’re talking to and what would make them trust you. The most expensive route is not always the most effective one

Find a decent tailor: Clothes that fit you incredibly well are expensive. But clothes that fit you pretty well and can by fixed with some simple tailoring can be quite cheap. Look for bargains and closeouts on high quality clothes that don’t fit perfectly, but can be altered a bit. And tailoring need not be expensive, either. A dry cleaner can often take in sleeves and hems - simple alterations - for just a few dollars.

Dress in darker colours: You can get away with buying cheaper clothes in darker colors because quality of fabric and construction don’t show through as easily the darker the fabric is. This also comes with an extra benefit for people like me who always spill food on themselves. Darker clothes hide stains better. You don’t have to abandon them after the first soy sauce incident. Perhaps if Mr. Sweatpants from earlier had heeded this advice, I’d have listened to him!

Whatever message you’re trying to send to the world, never forget the clothes you put that message in will determine the way it’s received. So, dress it carefully.

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Why hunching over your smartphones small screen can affect more than just your posture.

We've all heard the laundry list of reasons as to why we need to curb our smartphone addiction: it limits face-to-face conversations, prevents us from getting a good night's sleep, and is the number one cause of tech neck. That constant craning of your head to look down at your computer or phone screen not only impacts the structure of your spine, but also may trigger the development of fine lines and wrinkles around the neck.

"The horizontal creases on the neck have a lot to do with positioning," says New York City dermatologist Dr. Jeanette Graf. "The more movement, the more you're going to reinforce the way those lines are falling. If you're going to always be on your phone, it's best to bring it eye level, rather than looking downward."

Though neck wrinkles are inevitable with age, according to Dr. Graf, her patients are coming to her younger and younger, either correcting the creases that have already developed with treatments like micro-needling, or preventing their appearance for as long as possible by injecting neurotoxins, such as Botox. "People are looking at their necks more," says Dr. Amy Wechsler, a Manhattan-based dermatologist and an advisor for Chanel skincare. "They see pictures of themselves, and are like, 'Oh my God. What are those wrinkles? I've never seen those before.' I think the uptick is due to a side effect of too many selfies."

Apart from lasers and injectables, the only other way to prevent neck wrinkles is through a proper skincare routine. Dr. Graf recommends gently exfoliating your neck and décolletage once a week, followed by a moisturizing algae mask and a retinol serum finished off with a targeted cream made specifically for the neck. And the way we apply the products can make a difference. "You should start at the upper chest, working your way up to the jawline with two hands in a firm upward motion, all the way to the back of the neck," says Dr. Graf. "The neck spans 360 degrees, and you don't want the back to age and hang forward."

For those who want to ease into reversing or prolonging the effects of tech neck, we rounded up the top dermatologist-approved products that will tighten and smooth so you can carry on Instagram-grazing, emailing, texting, taking selfies, and watching Netflix on your phone worry-free:

Sisley Neck Cream with Botanical Extracts, Revision Skincare Nectifirm, SiO SkinPad, La Solution 10 De Chanel, and Tarte Maracuja Neck Treatment

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