₦airaland Forum

teemac01:
phone keh...if them kidnap person first thing na phone disposal....thats why I said AirTag or other gps devices ...phone no fit help in these kind of situations

teemac01:
people need to start moving around with AirTag or gps devices or something....this is getting out off hand.

BlackViper:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1EmDdqrpEc/

Host78:
Like why must we be eating when we are discussing about whether or not we should mate?

And then that responsibility falls on one person only to pay for the meals.

If hunger dey do you, beg for food. No dey use style go chop free food.

We can discuss about relationship while sitting in a park or walking or working or sitting in my room.

Some of una no get sense. This kain setting you no fit find me at all.

Cum4me:
That's why I like broke girls. Immediately they enter your car AC thigh with many lies of what you will do for there family oga believe me they're already wet to follow home on that first date. Some go give knack for that your car that day. Just guide as a man you will understand that words that say(money over bitches)

Philosopher1979:
Yes, as a man i support you. The girl did not even force him to pay for things on the date.
He could have spent within his means.
Must every girl you take on a date have sex with you.
We guys are funny. First it was every girl that visits us must give us sex.
Now it has graduated to every girl we take on a date must give us sex.
Its funny.
I think maybe a lot of guys have to learn how to relate with ladies.
Know when a lady is really interested in them, how to make ladies like them etc.
instead of seeing any acquaintance with a lady as an opportunity for sex.
It sounds seriously desperate

Sonnobax15:

Going on a date with a banny who doesn't even know what she wants . Some will even be busy with their phones all through the date, date that's supposed to be a time for both of use to get to know each other . Why can't we just go to a cool environment,and talk things out, instead of going out on a date that'll still lead to nothing las las

DomPerignon:
I just don't understand why the President will approve this rubbish waste of scarce resources.

The British govt makes it abundantly clear to their citizens that if they get in trouble with the law foreign lands they are on their own.

Now these reprobates will now be singing Bianca's praise for getting them out of jail free while insulting Abike as if that is the function of the minister of foreign affairs.

These guys are all convicted drug peddlers and should have been left to complete their due sentence where they were apprehended.

What message is the FG sending now ?

That all convicted drug peddlers will get the full Nigerian diplomatic response to get them out of the mess they put themselves into?

Henceforth, if Ethiopian customs fund anyone with drugs, they should just allow them be on their way especially if they are heading to SE Asia and just notify customs at their destination that so and so individual travelling with so and so passport is ferrying drugs and let the Malaysians and Indonesians finish the job once and for all.

Dpsychologist:
One thing I have noticed over the last few years is that conversations about relationships have become increasingly hostile, almost to the point where it sometimes feels as though men and women are speaking about each other as opposing political parties rather than as people who are supposed to love, support, marry, raise families, and build lives together.

Every discussion quickly descends into accusations, scorekeeping, and arguments about who suffers more, who sacrifices more, who is more selfish, who is more entitled, and who has caused more damage to modern relationships.

What fascinates me is that when you step away from social media and actually speak to ordinary people in real life, the picture often looks very different from the one presented online. Most men do not wake up in the morning looking for ways to exploit women, and most women do not wake up thinking about how to manipulate men.

What you often find instead are people who are carrying enormous amounts of pressure, disappointment, fear, frustration, and emotional baggage, and who are trying to navigate relationships while simultaneously struggling to survive in an increasingly difficult environment.

Take the average Nigerian man as an example. He is expected to be ambitious, financially stable, emotionally strong, dependable, responsible, protective, and capable of solving problems for everyone around him, all while living in an economy that seems determined to make those expectations harder to meet with every passing year.

The cost of rent continues to rise, food prices are becoming unbearable, transportation costs have increased dramatically, jobs are becoming less secure, and businesses are facing challenges that would have seemed unimaginable a decade ago.

Despite all of this, society continues to measure a man's value largely by his ability to provide, which means that many men spend years carrying burdens they rarely speak about because admitting vulnerability is often interpreted as weakness rather than honesty.

What many people do not realize is that there are men who have spent years moving from one responsibility to another without ever feeling genuinely secure themselves.

Some are supporting parents, paying school fees for younger siblings, contributing to family emergencies, struggling to establish careers, trying to maintain relationships, and attempting to project confidence even when they are privately overwhelmed. Then after carrying all of these responsibilities, they open social media and encounter endless discussions suggesting that their primary value lies in what they can provide financially.

Whether fair or unfair, repeated exposure to that message eventually leaves many men feeling less like human beings and more like economic assets whose worth is determined by their earning capacity.

At the same time, it would be deeply dishonest to pretend that women are not experiencing their own version of exhaustion. Many women are balancing careers, family expectations, emotional labour, social pressures, and relationship responsibilities in ways that often go unnoticed.

Some are contributing financially to households while still being expected to handle the majority of domestic responsibilities. Some are trying to build meaningful relationships while carrying legitimate fears about abandonment, infidelity, emotional neglect, and the possibility of investing years of their lives in someone who ultimately fails to reciprocate their commitment.

For many women, those fears are not abstract theories. They are rooted in lived experiences, personal observations, and family histories. Some watched their mothers endure difficult marriages.
Some have friends who became single mothers despite entering relationships with good intentions. Some have experienced betrayal firsthand and discovered that recovering from emotional wounds is far more complicated than motivational speakers often suggest.

When viewed from that perspective, it becomes easier to understand why many women approach relationships with caution, skepticism, and a heightened desire for security.

The unfortunate reality is that a great deal of modern dating behaviour appears to be the result of wounded people attempting to protect themselves from being wounded again.

Men who feel financially exploited become increasingly guarded about investing in women. Women who feel emotionally exploited become increasingly guarded about trusting men. Both sides develop defensive strategies that make perfect sense from their individual perspectives but often create difficulties when they interact with one another.

This is why so many modern relationships seem to begin with negotiations rather than connection. People are constantly assessing risks, looking for red flags, testing intentions, and searching for evidence that the other person may eventually become a source of pain. Instead of asking whether a relationship has the potential to bring peace, happiness, and mutual growth, many people are primarily focused on avoiding future disappointment. While that instinct is understandable, it often creates a situation where fear becomes the foundation of relationships that are supposed to be built on trust.

Social media has made this problem significantly worse because outrage is profitable while balance is boring. One story about a dishonest woman receives thousands of comments confirming that all women are the same. One story about an irresponsible man generates thousands more comments insisting that men are incapable of commitment.

The worst examples of human behaviour are repeatedly placed in front of millions of people until those examples begin to feel representative, even when they are not. Over time, many individuals develop opinions about entire genders based on a relatively small number of negative experiences, amplified by thousands of stories shared online every day.

What concerns me most is that many people now enter relationships carrying resentment that has very little to do with the person standing in front of them. They are reacting to previous heartbreaks, painful experiences, cautionary tales from friends, and countless hours of consuming content that encourages them to view the opposite gender with suspicion.

The result is that two people who might otherwise have built something meaningful spend most of their time protecting themselves from one another.

Perhaps the greatest tragedy is that relationships were never meant to operate this way. They were never supposed to feel like power struggles between two individuals attempting to maximize their benefits while minimizing their risks.

At their best, relationships are partnerships between imperfect people who recognize that life is difficult enough already and who decide to face those difficulties together rather than alone.

When all the online arguments are stripped away, most men are not searching for servants and most women are not searching for ATMs.

Most people are simply looking for someone whose presence makes life feel lighter rather than heavier, someone they can trust during difficult seasons, someone who can offer companionship in a world that often feels increasingly lonely and uncertain.

For something so simple, it is remarkable how difficult it has become for us to remember.

Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

Goo0dHardDick:
The day you'll stop giving a fck about what people think of you, that day you'll live a happy live.

Cmeo:
Our youth desist learning and trying to avoid competition. Not until you can prove yourself of being skillful, no Nigerian graduate is worth staking high salary on. The worst case is that the moment an employer endure them, train them and upskill them, they are already thinking of paying that your investment with a shock to your business beyond your imagination.

ultraviolet27:
Tosin sounds like private school proprietors who wants to employ degree holders and pay them sec school leaver wages yet when the degree holders refuses he calls them lazy I taught in a private school where the start up pay was 18k during buhari era I could afford to do that because feeding,house rents,etc were on my parents and it was a walking distance to my house because I was still under their roof,and also was under Npower pay roll could a married man with kids who had to still transport himself do that? only transportation will gulp that 18k even those of us who remained in that school the workload was much on us the principal handed 8 subjects because oju e ko ni gba and didn't want the name of that school to spoil yet was paid a measly sum of 23k with insults and no appreciation if you sell 4 bags of water and 5 crates of soft drinks everyday you know how much you make in a week if you have that option as a graduate why will you opt for a slaving job?

only in naija you will see a nigerian owned company CEO expecting a graduate to have 7 years experience without training you don't want to spend money to train and mentor your employees yet you call them lazy and unskillable not even fortune 500 companies (oracle google,Microsoft,apple)does that!

Foreign companies in Nigeria before and the early years of independence even goes to recruit graduates from the universities especially UI and Unilag trains,and mentors them on the job I read mko abiola memo he said the first job he got in Nigeria when he left Scotland as a graduate was in Nigerian brewery and he was mentored,trained,sent for courses overseas also nestle,oil companies such as chevron,shell bp,emzor and unilever when they were still in Nigeria does that too.

Nigerian CEO makes billions off the sweats of their employees yearly but can't splash a little fraction of it on those employees yet will pay millions on foreign expatriates who aren't even that qualified I know how chevron and nestle pampers their employees (paid vacations,paid airfare(flights)paid health care for their staffs and family members quality and substantial gifts like refrigerator,deep freezer big party food warmer,rice cooker, electric jug etc after every 10 and 15 years (my aunt's husby worked and retired in Chevron I have a relative working in Nestle too!!funny enough when the Tosin eniolorunda saw those(tech guys)who had acquired the work experience and skills themlves with their money he couldn't pay their worths you expect a person who earns 500k for a remote tech job in a week where he is free to do other jobs to settle down for a 100k monthly salary job? where he will be in the office 9-5?

And you and the Tosin sounds like people who has made some change,become more privileged and starts seeing othersas lazy and unambitious.You said you were paid some dough in your remote Indonesia job weren't you trained on the job before you could perfect your skills?

Naija CEO go blame tinubu and his cohorts yet dem dey more evil even the white foreigners have more conscience if mtn was owned by a Nigerian he won't pay that amount of salary to his employees

Chinny024:
😂😂😂

Hardeybohwarley:
Alright I get you now.

hosemujica:
I agree with him too. If you have not employed at least 5 Nigerians at any level, even as a cook or cleaner then you cannot fully understand this topic.

An average Nigerian employee is just interested in how much he’s getting paid . Most of them cares less about the job description or how to move the business forward.

IamANigerianMan:
Liars everywhere... Tell me one thing that is hard with moniepoint job ? Absolutely nothing, I am good at POS repair, three times I had applied and I only received mail not meet with the criteria..... This is the work I have been for 7 years, they would have invited me for interview first..... He should go and sleep

Vision101:
You want me to train an intern, upgrade his skills and boom he leaves or starts to threaten. Then I will start all over. Will he allow me to bond him for specific number of years?

airsaylongcome:
He's talking n0nsesne. Those so-called open roles are virtue signaling. They don't have any openings

Personperson01:
Y'all want to cheat and give motivational speeches! Nothing works that way. Look at trump for example.

MT:
This thread is an example of what the Moniepoint CEO says.

If this thread is about Portable vs Carter Efe, it must have stretched to a minimum of 10 pages😁

Cmeo:
As a business owner in Nigeria, I concur with what that young man said

Rutherinspace:
As someone who has hired talents local and foreign. I can tell you that Nigerians have poor work ethics. It's not always about pay. Our workers sometimes exhibit "I don't care attitude " We have poor work ethics compared to foreigners. I can give you several examples from my working experience. It's not easy to get foreign workers into Nigeria and it saves me a lot to use local workers. But when these workers don't understand contracts, timelines, dedication and diligence, it's better getting foreign workers whose sole business is to get the work done and get out.

Vision101:
Your emphasis is on reward and pay alone. You didn't challenge what he said concerning readiness, skill, attitude and desire for knowledge. The hard truth is that there are so much poor attitude and high expectations issues with our people. If you have ever interviewed our graduates you know that there are gaps. No employer will treat a valuable employee poorly.