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Congratulations to you and all your wives for the decisions you have taken to accept Jesus as Lord and saviour. That is the best decision ever. I will encourage you to read and study your bible as the word of God is the final authority in a believers life. Holy Spirit will guide you through Scriptures. However below is my counsel:

In Christianity, polygamy is generally discouraged based on New Testament teachings. However, if someone is already in a polygamous marriage before converting, there is some biblical support for allowing them to maintain their family responsibilities while not serving in church leadership roles.

Here are some relevant scriptures:

• Deuteronomy 17:17: "He must not take many wives, or his heart will be led astray."

Although from the Old Testament, this verse was directed specifically at Israel’s kings to prevent them from having many wives, it reflects a broader caution in Scripture against the practice, mainly for leaders or those in positions of authority.

• 1 Timothy 3:2, 12: "A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach..." and later, "Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well."

• This passage specifies that church leaders, like bishops and deacons, should be "the husband of one wife." It sets a standard for leaders but doesn’t address non-leaders explicitly, so it has often been interpreted as applying to church leadership roles rather than all Christians.

• 1 Corinthians 7:20: "Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him."

• Paul here advises believers to remain in their current marital or social situation when they convert. If a man already has multiple wives, some interpret this as suggesting he can fulfill his duties to his family without necessarily aspiring to church leadership roles.



• 1 Timothy 5:8: "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."

• This emphasizes the duty of providing for one’s family, which could be applied to maintaining responsibility for one’s wives and children even after converting.

The common Christian view is that while polygamy is not encouraged, a new believer in an existing polygamous marriage is typically advised to fulfill his responsibilities to his family rather than to dissolve those relationships. However, he would be encouraged to avoid roles like elder or deacon, as these are generally reserved for men with a single spouse to align with the church’s standards.
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