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Smellymouth:
It's a Foolish Decision!!!

its difficult for me to risk it, too many things hiding under skirts and panties

onyekachee:
sex before marriage is bleeped up,never a wise decision,it breeds self pity and regret at the end of the day..IMO

Xiadnat:
Op, LISTEN to wisdom, and let it lead and guide you. Open proverbs....do not listen to foolishness.
Sorry, but what I find foolish is you seeking for validation for an issue that it seems you are very aware of where the bible stands on.
It is YOU who have to live with your decisions, consequences of it thereof, and it is YOU who have to answer to G-d in the judgement day.
Yes, G-d forgives and will forgive you even if you exercise your freedom to fornicate. I mean, I don't blame you, it is entirely a great temptations. Even I have been guilty of it actively and passively.
But, let me just say; While G-d will forgive your trespasses, if you do engage in what you believe is outrightly classified as "SIN" to G-d, then you are choosing to open yourself up to the consequences that may result.
To sum it up; when it comes to going against the biblical will of God, forgiveness is not an issue since G-d has promised he will forgive our sins and He cannot go back on his word. However, what you may be doing is removing yourself from G-d protection.
Think of it this way; go ahead and sex it up momentarily, but you will be giving up your 'spiritual' insurance and hence opening yourself up for consequences of your actions.
A great sex life can be achieved in your marriage and you have your whole married life to 'perfect' it. I think a lot of the heartaches can be avoided if people are honest with one another. If you have sexual issues you know of, let it out and deal with it. If they can't handle, let them bounce.
You have a perfectly working male genitali.a, she has a perfectly working female genitali.a. The rest is just sweating small stuff. Really! No such thing as bad sex, as long as you have two people willing to work on good sex.
Period. End of story. End of discussion. No need to sample the cake batter before you eat your cheese cake. I know the cheese cake will turn out right if 'baking instructions' are followed.

Thanks for the advice, I am 100% sure of myself but like I said I have been deviced before now and it didn't turn out well, besides there are some questions I can't ask my gf, it will look embarrassing, and what if I see the worst on my wedding night? Girls are very secretive. I dey fear abeg

First, I will like to say am not promoting fornication and I know the bible is against it, but fornication is an everyday sin today, 99.8% humans indulge in this act secretly or openly, believe it or not.
We claim to be Christian's but I find it hard to believe any human will live without sin, we will just keep asking for forgiveness and God's grace to be holy. Christianity is a religion based on the person and teachings of Jesus Christ, or its beliefs and practices, but truth be told, how many of us can live our lifes based on the person and teachings of Jesus Christ our lord? The truth is that we are only trying to be Christians.

Back to my subject, with the current state of our society today, the level of immorality, deciet, stds, infertility, premature ejaculation, etc, is it wise or foolish for a man/woman to marry his or her gf/bf without sexual intercourse?

I am actually having a challenge now, I have dated few girls in the past, had experiences of "I am a virgin bla bla bla" and later find out that 3 of my John Thomas can enter inside her lol, been wondering how I would feel if I kept myself clean all along and discovered such on my wedding night, trust me it would be a huge disappointment, right now, just met this very pretty innocent girl I love and she is still saying the same thing "No sex before marriage and am a virgin" I really love her , but I don't wanna be a victim anymore.

I have seen many marriages of such people destroyed today because of the surprise packages they get on their wedding night, some may want to manage and try to fit in but later get fed up. Please oh it makes me remember the saying "THE DEVIL YOU KNOW IS BETTER THAN THE ANGEL YOU DON'T KNOW"

Please Niaralanders Share Your Ideas With Facts
NO SEX WITH BF OR GF BEFORE MARRIAGE, WISE OR FOOLISH DECISION