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You are full of wisdom. This is the best thread I've come across on Nairaland and I'm so following it! P.S Please follow back. |
How Sex Isn't The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom. Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done? You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake. Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.” This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority. It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality. Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work. Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there? Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are? Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them? We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media. Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day. When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person. Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think about the concept for a minute. Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.” Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day? We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common? This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair. You’ve given your heart to someone and love him or her with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his or her attention. You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment. You need to take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.” Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round. The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending her flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car should never be gone. We have to be children when it comes to love. We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives. Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have. Appreciate her, and show her how much she means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you. |
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oloriooko:OP asked several questions from his post and I tried to clarify the first question asked. As for Jesus' response to the canaanite woman, I'll like to draw my reference from the Gospel according to Mark ( OP used the Gospel of Matthew in his post) for more clarity, pardon me. Mark 7:24-30 Jesus left that place and went to the vicinity of Tyre. He entered a house and did not want anyone to know it; yet he could not keep his presence secret. In fact, as soon as she heard about him, a woman whose little daughter was possessed by an evil spirit came and fell at his feet. The woman was a Greek, born in Syrian Phoenicia. She begged Jesus to drive the demon out of her daughter. "First let the children eat all they want," he told her, "for it is not right to take the children's bread and toss it to their dogs." "Yes, Lord," she replied, "but even the dogs under the table eat the children's crumbs." Then he told her, "For such a reply, you may go; the demon has left your daughter." She went home and found her child lying on the bed, and the demon gone. NIV Now: Weren't Jesus' remarks mean? Why didn't he heal her daughter immediately? Jesus tested the woman with a test he knew she would pass. Jesus treated the people he healed as individuals, and dealt with each person differently based on their level of faith. Some people's requests were granted when they asked ( Mt 8:2-3); some were healed without asking for it (Mk 5:1-13, 25-29); some were asked if they believed Jesus could heal them before they were healed ( Mt 9:27-30). Jesus may have done this to teach the woman and the disciples: the woman learned that she could always trust in God's love and mercy, even when her requests were not immediately answered (something Jesus taught the disciples in Lk 18:1-8 ), and the disciples learned that God's salvation and mercy were extended to the Gentiles as well as the Jews. |
The Bible never really condemned slavery due to the nature of slavery in those days. Slavery in Biblical times was quite different from the slavery of the 17th/18th century, infact let's look at what the Bible says concerning the 17th century-type of slavery: Exodus 21:16- "He who kidnaps a man, whether he sells him or he is found in his possession, shall surely be put to death." In ancient Israel, it was common practise that people who could not provide for themselves or their families sold them into slavery so they would not die of starvation or exposure. In this way, a person would receive food and housing in exchange for labor. Despite the fact that slavery back then was mostly self-willed the Bible still went ahead to create rules exist to protect the slave. Injuring or killing slaves was punishable - up to death of the offending party- like a modern day Labour act that regulates employer-employee relationships. For instance: 1) Hebrews were commanded not to make their slave work on the Sabbath, 2) slander a slave, 3) have sex with another man's slave, 4) or return an escaped slave. 5) A Hebrew was not to enslave his fellow countryman, even if he owed him money, but was to have him work as a hired worker, and he was to be released in 7 years or in the year of jubilee (which occurred every 50 years), whichever came first. 6 In fact, the slave owner was encouraged to "pamper his slave". These guidelines set the terms on which a Master must treat his slave and erring from these guidelines triggered dere consequences. The idea that God or Christianity encourages or approves of slavery is shown to be false. In fact, anybody who was caught selling another. person into slavery was to be executed. However, since voluntary slavery was widely practiced during biblical times, the Bible prescribes laws to protect the lives and health of slaves. Paul, the author of many of the New Testament writings, virtually ordered the Christian Philemon to release his Christian slave from his service to "do what is proper". In addition, numerous verses from the New Testament show that God values slaves as much as any free person and is not partial to anyone's standing before other people. |
MrGerald:God bless you my brother for speaking the truth. |
yommen:That's the problem, it won't be well executed. Previous massive projects that have been undertaken by the Rochas administration can attest to this fact. They've all been swept and neatly tucked under the carpet and their appropriated funds gone with the wind. |
Abagworo:Oga you are typing arrant rubb1sh. Even if according to you Rochas met roads that suffered neglect from his predecessors (which btw is a blatant lie) what has he done since assumption of office concerning the roads. I won't waste my time with you anymore. Leopantro has called a bet with you, since you are so confident of what you are saying. |
Zizaboni:I'm male. You are welcome. |
Abagworo:Its obvious you don't reside or have never been to Imo state before. What good roads are in Imo state? You are the ignorant one here. Is this the first "mega-project" okorocha is signing since his tenure? What has happened to the other projects and their appropriated funds? |
Zizaboni:Yeah John.11:35 is the shortest verse in the Bible but its packed with enormous complexities. Jesus wept at Lazarus's tomb for a few possible reasons: 1) His Compassion for the suffering of man: Jesus showed how compassionate He's towards the suffering of man here on planet earth. Remember accordung to the scriptures He grieved with Lazarus's sisters Mary and Martha, Jesus weeping at Lazarus's tomb denotes the grief the Father feels at the sufferings of His children. 2) The Calamity of Sin: Sin grieves God greatly as well as death (which is the wages of sin). Death has consumed every living being God has created except a few and death was about to take Jesus too in a short while. Tears of anger and longing was mixed with Jesus' tears of grief. 3)The cost of Redemption. A third reason for weeping was the cost that he was about to pay to purchase not only Lazarus’s short-term resurrection, but his everlasting life. The cross was just days away and no one really knew the inner distress Jesus was experiencing ( Luke 12:50). Lazarus’s resurrection would look and be experienced by Lazarus and everyone else as a gift of grace. But, oh, it was not free. Jesus was going to die a horrific death to purchase it. |
Rochas should go and work the roads in his state first, will people fly to the industrial park? Is it not the terrible roads they will ply? He and other Nigerian governors should get their priorities right. They should borrow a leaf from Willie Obiano. |
My craziest experience was when i played playstation 2 on a monochrome (white and black) t.v menn it was crazy but fun. my friend said that it was like taking pap without sugar! ! |
NTA awka and anambra broadcasting service(a.b.s) terrible collabo. So so primary school debate and obituary. God bless s.t.v for coming to our rescue |
Whether we like it or not,this politicians that commit all these crimes are our parents and after they commit them go cut our own share of the loot give us all in the name of 'pocket money' for pakos while the more civilized crooks call it 'allowance. What i'm saying is that Nigeria is a corrupt country and there is nothing we can do about it. Look around you and all you see are different categories of corrupt practices both politically and otherwise, for example in my area a girl got pregnant for her very own dad INCEST! which mouth wey i wan carry grind this kind beans omo i just weak ,that's why whenever i read all this kind of stuffs like 10mill toilets they dont faze me because in as much as i have a living God my turn go surely reach. |