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fubongfoodies:
I (29F) have been dating my boyfriend(37M) for 4 years. We met online shortly before COVID lockdown. We grew a lot closer during the lockdown. I worked in Healthcare, he was teaching then. He stayed in the north because he was going to school then for a second degree in an engineering course while i was in lagos. We were each other's support until after lockdown. I was able to get a job working in a Chinese company where I stayed for 3 months before getting a government job where I am currently. Despite many ups and downs in our relationship. Trouble came when I brought him over on a casual visit to my parents.

They didn't like him, especially my Father, they claimed that I could do better and felt he didn't have the right family values. Also that fact that he was currently unemployed then didn't help matters. I stubbornly continued to date him because I felt that he had good character and we were in love. Time continued to go (i had a pregnancy scare, lost a relative, he had bandit threats in his school and had to leave for a while for his life, travelled to a west african country to make money, i tried to write exams to travel abroad and failed which was devastating because it was out plan to japa together and my course was a little easy to do so).

I felt that my father's attitude would soften up with time, But everytime I brought my boyfriend up, my dad would become antagonistic. Saying that my boyfriend was slowing my life down, that I stopped going oit and that I wasn't progressing in life especially career wise since I met him(my father believes in late marriage, especially career first before marriage). A lot Things happened in our relationship. We had our issues but it was mostly about me not calling him frequently because I would be at work. I have just never been much of a calling type and he is a very clingy guy. He could go as far as calling my mom or sisters when he can't get across to me.

Things got to a point when my boyfriend wanted to come over for Christmas, but I wanted to time it to when my father left to avoid confrontation, my boyfriend got wind of it and canceled visiting. My father also told me then that if I brought my boyfriend home, he would never bless the union. The relationship took a bad turn and communication became worse. It got so bad that I didn't know that he had traveled to his hometown until a few days after he got there from lagos. Our conversation was awkward. The next day. He sent me a long breakup message via email. I was quite shocked and replied with an OK and thank you. We didn't speak for a long time after that.

He tried to get in touch with me last week but my phone screen was bad so he called my younger sister who ended up giving me her Phone. I talked to him and told him what was up with my phone. He offered to give me one of his phones and said we should go to computer village to make repairs so I brought my spoilt laptop too. I was with his phone in the repair shop while he went out to get some things, while browsing, I saw his Google search history which read ; list of things for traditional wedding, groom's outfit for traditional, wedding, groom shoes for traditional wedding. I started to snoop into his phone.

I confirmed my fears and found evidence. I even got the lady's number too. He did court marriage with a girl from his hometown and I found pictures of two of them holding the marriage certificate. I was angry, and exhausted at the same time. I finally confronted him and he confirm that it was true and he married a few weeks ago. He claims it was a sham marriage to travel abroad since she got admission into a school and when she gets there she could file to bring him over. I also found out that he planned to continue to hide it from me and he didn't expect me to find out . I was so angry about that, that he offered to escort me home. I fell ill that day and have been ill since. I don't know how to feel. I am not crying, just angry without knowing why. The more I thought about it, the angrier I became. I have been avoiding him but he has been diligent with his phone calls. I feel dead inside. He says that he can have it canceled since I am reacting this way, that I stopped fighting for our relationship which influencedhis choices. That he didn't mean to betray me.

I tried to go to his place today to pick up my fixed devices, I tried once and when back, then tried again, when I saw that the traffic was too much I changed my mind and went back home and told him. He asked if I would still hang out with him and reply that I can't fvck a married man. He says that the marriage is not real that he hasn't done traditional. I told him he was legally binded to the lady. While he continued to beg he got a call from the lady that her visa has been approved. I told him that I was done and wished him well since he has gotten what he wanted. He then told me that he didn't want this at the expense of loosing me. That he will fight for me.

What am I to do? I know I have to move on but don't know how? How do I heal? I am almost 30, he was my first real love. Am I just stupid? I get it, he is not getting any younger and needs to settle down. He also wants to settle with some so that they leave the country together and it seemed that I was taking too much time.

I know that I am not an emotionally expressive person, but I feel that the breakup is my fault. Am I wrong? Why is he still clinging to me when he is married?

hold yourself together and move on. Its hard but another man will see u

The issue is not what they av done but what they fail to do. Its insensitive to people feeling

Pray well oo , if u like promotion

Y? After increasing fuel price to 850?

Its bad when people want it to happen to their person .

Please leave jamb make them rest

webincomeplus:
The fact that Nigerians will confidently spew all sorts of nonsense (illuminati, etc) about this stuff without sparing just a few minutes to research speaks volumes about their IQ levels.

You'd hardly find a Nigerian who can argue based on accurate and provable facts for just 10 minutes without mixing them up with beer parlor gist.

what can we do after Google update can you please update your thread

That should be part of it. The armed Fulani then joins from the barracks. Or takes the same animals from those on ground and perpetuate evil.

Good idea

I will not pay. Nepa after all this year of suffering us

Its a fair price. Rice 1500, meat 2000, stew and plantain 1000. Plates 1000. So it's fair

They say it's 7k to 8k. I knew it. Just as they will add money to petrol and later bring it a bit down and say they are trying.

A minster got one trillion as state budget. U guys think. That's 92 billion to work per month. Let's ask him how many 55b project he did every month.

I greet una wise guys. No be those wey no go let us rest everyday abt women. They want to have virgin but they want to waste all available girls today. E no go work. U will get paid back in full.

Just focus on the good side. The bad side that should make you raise alarm is warming up. Its the use of ai in military warfare. This I believe is their real target. Social media is just the distraction

Op chill. A good name I s better than riches. Wen

Camel cannot change it's color. Nepa can not possibly change. U see that money they want to eat, they go find it tire.

You keep everyone in darkness and want more money. Everyone should get alternative sources. Nepa has never changed.

The community said it should kill anybody. Someone here twisted it to be probiafra. Anyway what do I know.

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anonimi:


The same government that determines every aspect of your life? Every aspect, whether you realise it or not.

Can the government not deny you access to internet and nairaland, as a direct example of the far reaching impact of government

no sir . They can't. They can only make laws which they won't follow. Moreover, I don't roll with them.

Shai. I pity anyone depending on the government. Buhari taught me a lesson. Never ever depend on government.

Having enemies everywhere is wikes strategy. I reserve my comment

So they whole money they generate can pay for anything? Its not their fault, they saw that government is all after money. Everyone just catching out.

Can I tell Dem to work pls. Seems they have forgot why they were elected. If people u are leading cannot talk abt what you have done, it means you have not started

ugwuokejoe:
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welcome to Nigeria. At this time, trust no one online. But y u too trust like this. You see all this I need adsense account,. I want to sell my blog or buy my blog, I need article writers, etc. I smell scam from far. Except we are in the same state or city then we meet for the transaction

Saidfx:


Most countries are into this, even some of the Arab worlds that their way of life/religion does not permit them to do usury.. it is just left for the country to use the money wisely and block the lenders from using the medium to infiltrate thier culture and way of life. Life is not balanced!

there is conditions attached to every money imf gives. Go check it. We don't have to borrow where there r bad condition except where they want it fast so to share

Ok. They should keep it up. Meanwhile I will start taking them seriously when they stop listening to imf and world Bank policies.

That was how we arrive here at high exchange rate.

Elegantspiker:
How does Ad Sense work, bro. I use HB agency. HB pays on the 11th of every month. And like this March, 11th was Monday, so they paid 8th which was Friday. Benchmark for withdrawal is 80 Euro, but payable in Dollars.

what is HB

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