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cretin:
how old is this marriage?

s,e.x toys are wrong...n in the long run cant still compare with the original.
spiking his food with aphrodisiacs..is also dicey......he might hv a heart condition/it might make him ill.u can try it as a last resort.
you have a 7yr old kid?..u r 33?..that mean u married at least 7yrs ago?.......or this is ur 2nd marriage?
how have u been coping for the past 7yrs?..or this his condition is a recent thing?

married 2005, had my first children 2007 sept, this whole thing started when i was preg, he pretended those few months, until he show who he is

cretin:
how old is this marriage?

s,e.x toys are wrong...n in the long run cant still compare with the original.
spiking his food with aphrodisiacs..is also dicey......he might hv a heart condition/it might make him ill.u can try it as a last resort.
you have a 7yr old kid?..u r 33?..that mean u married at least 7yrs ago?.......or this is ur 2nd marriage?
how have u been coping for the past 7yrs?..or this his condition is a recent thing?

got married 2005, and had my first child 2007 sept, may be he pretended that time, after my first child he show whom he is

successking401:
pray well well.btw smtin tells me u've already started to knack kpekus outside or dat u want to start.and ur looking for reasons to justify ur already guilty as charged conscience.IMO

i will tell him i saw his twin, God bless though chief judge

oweniwe:
for wia? A man in his 50s?

I assume he is thinking he is already "spent" so no need trying.

But he may be hiding something about his past too sha.

Pepunis pls check ur inbox

i have checked thanks

JEITO:
hmmm! First of all, your hussy is wrongly interpreting the scriptures: lev 18:23 says a man should not have sexual relationship with an animal lest he defile himself. Not his wife but an animal( bestiality)

Most likely, he had a poor sexua.l orientation while growing up and also maybe the kind of church he grew in was one that shy away from se.x. But lemme leave the past and look at the present.

Sorry am saying this o, but I see your husband as one that doesn't give much room to the feeling or opinion of his wife( I may be wrong though). If that is the case, what I'll encourage you to do is to get his attention: there must be something that excites him or catches his attention or there should be a time of the day when he is quiet and ready to listen. Take advantage of that opportunity and pour your hearts out to him but mind you, not rudely or loudly but with wisdom and reason making him know that he's being unfair to you.

If it still doesn't work, get your spiritual head involved( not your family members or friends) I am sure he would give him. They may have to compel him into doing his responsibility. He may not like it, but he'll have to do it because of the respect he has for them.

I won't advise you to involve marriage counsellors that are. Not really "christian" because I doubt if he would listen to them.

It takes two to be married and both are responsible for the other.

Phillipians 2:4: "don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and in what they are doing."

Why I said talk to your pastor of Spiritual/marital guide because I want to believe you have a couple you are both looking up( more like a discipler or role model) and am sure they should have a very sound knowledge on the Bible's stand on this matter and so they can exercise a level of authority over your husband.

It is not bad to compel people to do their responsibilities when they are not willing to.

Also, take up the matter in prayer I know God is able to turn his heart aright. But cheating on him or breaking up, shouldn't be an option because it is possible that God has pit you in that marriage, so that you can help that aspect of his life.

#marriageIsaboutMutualedification

thanks so much for ur lovely post, it will help, i pray he change oooo,

brito:
Don't worry he will change

Amen

skyladon22:


Please just involve yourself in the word of God

Forget wonderful sexual activities from him

Not even your pastor can convince him

He will only tell them he don hear but wont change

I am sorry you are married to him so you have to endure it.

I feel for you sha at your age

One of the reasons it isnt advisable to marry a far older man

at that time i thought as an expirience man he will knw better, he first marry when he was 25, this my complain is what he made me to know his exes complain, some time if i probe more or having discussion, or some time he just say it by mistake, hmmmm

brito:
A month?

he was like there is no need wasting time, i knw u are my wife already

JEITO:
A lesson for those intending to go into relationship or courting at the moment: these are the type of things yo discuss and address during courtship and not how to have the most glamorous wedding and the finest mansion.

Personal issues eg previous relationships(if any), sexuality, purpose, family background, interest, personal life ideologies, strength and weakness etc. These are some of the things that would help you succeed in your marriage as you would have a good knowledge of your partner. If it so happened that you won't be able to cope, you quietly break up with him/her before marriage.

We are tired of the increasing cases of divorce born out of people going into marriage ignorant of their partner.

Well, as for my sister, I'll advise you seek counsel from your spiritual leader(probably your pastor or parent in The Lord).

Your husband should know that once married, he doesn't own his body alone; likewise you, and so he doesn't have the right to deny you intimate attention simply because he's not down with it.

Children is not the primary reason why God instituted marriage, and se.x is not just about bearing children. It is for pleasure between married couples so that lust can be curbed.

The only time a partner can refuse the other partner intimate attention, is when he/she wants to carryout a religious exercise like fasting/prayer for sometime and it should be with the consent of the other partner.

Maybe your husband is viewing se.x wrongly eventhough he's a religious man and it has caused him 2marriages already; that's why I advise you to get your spiritual head involved am sure a bit of re-orientation would help.

And very importantly, pray to God for a change of mentality for him.

if u tell him he do not own his body he will tell u that is the only chapter u knw i the bible, he will quote levitus where it is written when a man have intercourse wit his wife he is defile for 24hrs, he really need re-orientation, but how?, will he give in?

brito:
Mine was a Christian courtship

hmmmm same here, we mate after a month he propose, and every rite was done,

brito:
Why?

i dont knw hw it worked i was young and niave, i never knw sex cud be an issue,

brito:
This is what many women are suffering in marriages today , anyone going into marriage should know that unclothedness is part of marriage. Pay attention to your spouse's feelings don't push them to the walls, sadly I'm going through same here. The best I can do for myself is to forget about it, I mean taking my mind off sexxxxx. pls no one should quote me

i do forget it for sometime, but i need to have more children at one, i have two 7 and 4, thanks dear

Augustbreak:
Commit everything to God.May be you should both try marriage counselling.

the last thing he will do is this, he knw pass everybody, i pray God counsell him for me

oweniwe:
Give me a call on

08104-419-419

i have a perfect array of "solutions" am sure you'l like.

email me, some solutions okeamara@gmail.com, thanks

skyladon22:
You sef get issues

Despite the fact that you knew he was married twice, you never bothered to find out why he sent them away and you still went ahead to marry him as 3rd wife

You are young and still sexually active, you shouldnt have gone for an old man of such age abeg.

You don marry am please stay and manage him like that

thanks i wish i can rewind the hand of clock,

Augustbreak:
Una no do courtship?These are things you should discuss before marriage.Well,nothing God can not do,hand him over to God in prayer.

no courtship at all dear

successking401:
For better,for worse no dey ur marital dictionary?

i dey that is why am induring, praying for a change

What do i do, when my husband has no interest in sex, after several conversation on the issue, he told me point and black that he drive no happines in sex, that sex is not his life style, that if not for children he will remain enuch till death. This sex issue destroyes his first and second marriage, He made me to know that the prevous was caught wit different men to the extend of them getting pregnant, mine is the third marriage, now i know he is the cause of their unfaithfulnes, for me i don't want to sleep with another except my husband, but he is starving the madness out of me, like once in a month, if u ask him either he has prayer or he has major problems not sex, i inquire and was made to understand that, that is his life right from youth, am 33 he is 50, please am dying silently, but i know he is a good man but this sex is the prob i have with him, and i love sex at least 3 times a week,

I dont knw wat to call mine, my husband marry first divorce they had a son, marry second divorce they had three sons, and me living wit him wit ma sons too. He said he never plan his life like that and never dreamt of it, to him he fell in the hand of the wrong ones, hmmm.. he told me all that happened which i cant share here, i try my posible best to be the best i can, when poeple say men cheats mine dont cheat by having sex wit other women, u may not beliv me but it's 100% tru, but in money i dont knw.