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Kobojunkie:
You have it twisted. Relationships have been transactional for the longest. Your ancestors did not provide for their women without expecting something in return. They did it expecting the women to provide them with children, sex, cooking, a home, emotional care, etc., at the same time, the benefits that come with the married status in society. Women are only now catching on and taking the transactionality of the contract more seriously.

2. Wrong! For every transaction, you are meant to pay the market value or at least the agreed price for the goods and services received. Stating that a man should take back whatever he wishes in the case of a divorce or breakup is going against common sense. The woman's time and labor during the relationship need to be adequately compensated.

Merry100:
Legally and lawfully, a gift is a gift. Once it is given, ownership transfers to the recipient. You cannot take back what you willingly gave simply because the relationship ended; that is not how civil law works. If a woman chooses to return something, that is her decision, not your entitlement. In fact, if she gives anything back to you, it is purely an act of generosity; she is being philanthropic, a good Samaritan; while you just a beneficiary of her goodwill.

Giving is a way of expressing love; even Biblically. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son." Love gives without issuing invoices. It is not transactional.

Logically, both people gave in the relationship. Your money, gifts, and gestures were your way of expressing love. Her time, loyalty, emotions, presence, and thoughtful gestures were hers. You were both giving freely. There was no refund policy attached.

A gift is not a loan. Refunds do not apply to love.

Why you even acting with bitterness? How exactly is it her fault that the relationship didn't work out? Just as you hoped it would succeed, she hoped so too. If someone demands reimbursement for moments that were shared willingly, perhaps it was never love to begin with.

Secure men don't keep receipts. They give because they choose to. When it ends, they walk away with dignity; not invoices; and love again without resentment.

Many financially secure men provide luxurious outings, thoughtful surprises, expensive gifts, even cars because they can comfortably afford them. In most cases, they would still enjoy fine dining, travel, and the lifestyle they are accustomed to regardless. They simply choose to share it with someone they care about.

Fine dinners, trips, beautiful gifts, cars, and special gestures are not investments waiting for returns. They are expressions of affection. For a secure man, generosity is not a burden; it is part of the joy. Seeing the woman he is with happy is part of the experience. Creating beautiful memories together is the reward.

That is not a transaction. That is love expressed in his own language.

Merry100:
Can you show me one real man who cries over gifts after a breakup? Only little boys think this way. When a relationship doesn't work out, secure men simply move on, because relationships are about connection, not transactions. That is why they walk away peacefully when the connection doesn't click or grow.

My brother, women are not dogs that you can cage with gifts. You better just get yourself a female bingo; with just treats, she would be following you up and down.

Even those real men offering to take women on several trips overseas, don't cage women. But you; just for a mere phone; you are already acting like means of survival. Personally, I just don't even allow guys to fund my trips when we travel together. I do this just to avoid any sense of sexual entitlement coming up.

There are 365 days in a year, some guys would go on two days dating in a year to an eatery with her lady and you would start feeling like means of survival.

Merry100:
Guy, speaking from my own personal experience I totally disagree with you. Age has never been a barrier for me. The "age factor" is just one of those internet myths and lies. I get approached a lot by younger guys.

In fact, recently, a 25 year old boyfriend of someone I know (she is 24) has been persistently persisting me. He even broke up his relationship with her. And even after I explained to him that "ladies' code" doesn't permit such, he came to my shop and dropped £200 because I refused to give him my account number.

A lot of guys don't care about age. Once they like a lady, they will use every means to pursue her.

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

Age doesn't determine respect; maturity does. A twenty-four year old man can date a thirty year old woman without any issues.

Being successful gives women even more options. Some women prefer younger men, some others prefer men at the peak of their success. There are also women who actively support their partners in achieving success.

What you need to understand is that when a man and a woman start dating, even if the woman is older, the age factor tends to fade. Over time, they rarely even notice the age gap.

Men, whether younger or older, have some level of ego, a healthy ego is normal. Many men who marry older women; especially those who are not more than seven years older; are very mature. They rarely tolerate or permit disrespect.

donself9:
From what the Man said, it is obvious he was the one madly in love

We keep telling dont marry that way, marry a woman that loves you More .. women by nature swing, they are mental unstable

A man can be with a lover he does not love,marry her, enjoy sex with her nd people wont notice But Women if she no love your neighbours, community will see it

HYDEEE:
These ones are a special breed, the way they bend backwards for their "spiritual daddy" will leave you in wonder. I doesn't matter if she is well educated, once they are under that daddy go charm they will do things that they can never do for their partner for their daddy.

cr7lomo:
There are more female pedophiles than male pedophiles in Society

RevenuesBoost:
Thanks for this comment.

Hope to visit South Africa someday, just to meet you.

IPDGP:
Pos is registered with someone bvn and nin , so what is the problem again

buttlover:
2m not bad. Try give girl belle na

LIVINGICONREBOR:
kobojunkie, kindly check your acct. I don press something for inside make you use am buy new boxers. You no suppose dey talk some kind things for outside. Wearing the same set of Underwears for 10 years?

Cajal:
Not at all
It has just started
He will remain a minister
Holds the party structure of PDP in the entire SS AND SE and some of the northern states

Seyi makinde and Bala will go in less than 2 years while wike remains a powerful minister

slivertongue:
That is the duty assigned to the VP by tinubu. Decamping is an achievement

helinues:
But the price of foods most especially have been coming down