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CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

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plsdisvirginme:
There is this student girl I met through Michat.
We started dating.
I believe in establishing people in life.

I discovered this girl is from a poor and idle background.
They are 7.
The first three daughters all married and they didn't goto school or learn work.
Their parents nothing to write home about.
She is the only that struggle to enter university through her POS business.

Her POS folded and she was left with nothing.
Last year I went for a program, I decided to setup a charging and POS. I entrusted the business in her hand to be balancing me weekly and also to support herself through it.

It was one excuse to another. This busines collapsed under 7 months.
Business I used close to 1.5m to open.
I swallowed the loss and moved on.

I discovered she can sew then I encourage her to open shop. I supported her with everything and she started her fashion shop.
I even rented a good apartment for her.
I discovered this girl is really extravagant with money. She can't save.

Last year Dec I gave her 500k with agreement she will be giving me weekly return.
Uptill now 1 naira I never see.
I discovered she and her sisters open whats app family daily contribution.
I was shocked. .
I asked what for.
She said they want to open business for their parents .

Meanwhile this girl has 2 years plus to finish school.
You are contributing to open business for your parents that have not supported you in school from day 1.

I warned her but this fell on her deaf ears.
Now this morning she chatted me that she got her sewing contracts that i should loan her 30k..
This is the girl I invested just 500k in her business this dec on agreement to be giving me weekly return and she never give me 1kobo from it.
Now you are chatting me for 30k loan. ..

And this is the girl I intend to marry.
I have just zero my mind off her to look for better person.

Guys it is a very big error to invest in a student from poor family.

I just learnt my lesson.

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Emma513:
We live in cool and quite place, so recently a group of boys that are into cultism relocated to our place, I was brought up in a godly family, and don't follow or join cult, they have been disturbing my life with, boy find us 1k, even when I no get, boy you dey Bleep up, U be juu man, etc.

I am really tired of their bully. I am a calm and quiet person and I don't like rough life, these guys will smoke and shout till night, I am afraid of reporting this to security agency, because I thought they might come after me if they discover I reported them.

So what can I do in this situation?

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justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

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TWO PLOTS of LAND at WASIMI ABEOKUTA

3 bedroom flat and room/parlor selfcon at foundation level

Granite/gravel and blocks over 500 pieces on site

Ongoing road construction in the area
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Israel5:
Please (even though I know my appeal with fall on deaf ears too numerous to count in this forum), approach this issue with logic and without prejudice to the people involved.

My wife and I are duly blessed with a son who is in his basic 5 now. Also, we decided to get the daughter of one of my cousin to stay with us. She is one of 7 children. So I wanted to help raise a CHIMAMANDA.

As my rule, every child of same age under my room attends the same school and calls us Dad & Mum. The school part didn't quite seat well with my wife, who had a different opinion, but I prevailed anyway. Because na me dey pay school fees.

The girl is a year older than my son, but due to the level of education at the village before she came over, we made her be in the same class as my son. She met my son in primary 2. Now they are both in basic 5.

A shocker happened: This girl keeps coming up in the class, while my son keeps running away from the top. We've tried extra lessons, even tried changing schools. Now it looks as if the girl is better suited for school than my boy. She reads, spells and memorizes things too marvellous. I bought a dictionary cos of that.

I even buy gifts for her (for coming top) more than I do for my boy, to make him sit up, but my pikin nor send me o. Guy use cry & Woman power make me buy am bicycle. 😁

I would think he's being a spoilt boy, who believes daddy & mommy is there, I don't really know. But I am hopeful.

Now, my major issue is my heavily pregnant wife. She wants the girl to be changed/enrolled at a different school. In her defence, she wants her to be available to help her take care of things. The kid's school close by 3pm. She suggest government school that close earlier. I see sense in what she said but I feel like I'll be unfair to this young girl.

When I tried to have a healthy debate on the idea. Na so madam start to dey talk plenty tins wey I nor fit type.
I have accepted to do her wish from September for peace.

Please, do you see another way I could avoid problems?

Is she right to have asked that I changed the girl's school just because she needs help around the house & her business?

I know how this will play out your wife may grace the news paper for child abuse very soon.. for the love of God send that girl back to her parents and ask your wife to bring her own person and see how happy she would be

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Hi guys.
I received a mail from speedaf saying my aliexpress package delivery failed because i was contacted (which i wasn't) and my number wasn't responsive. I contacted a courier, gave him my tracking number and was told the package was sent to the wrong address.

Please how do I get it to my actual address? Other packages i ordered same time arrived my address so this is totally not my fault.

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