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Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Is this episode of Things That Never Happened before COVID-19 or during this #Lockdown as I'm not understanding the bolded part.

Keep the schools closed till further notice abeg!

Make we gather share IMF funds before I dey exam hall hear say Senators don carry OUR Money Japa!

AccessME:
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idonhammer:
From my experience, that Is backwardness.Something is holding you back from moving forward.You.need 3 days fasting and praying with psalm 23 , 31 and 35.

"From my experience" are your life circumstances and the man's own the same? Do you know the situations he's been dealing with and his family background? NO!!!

You're dishing out prayer and fasting like party rice, Ogbeni just chill.

Judybash93:
My brother

Everybody wan be like Joseph the dreamer.

Judybash93:
It's perfectly normal. It's no big deal

You know!!! Hahahahaha

I've been on NL long enough to know that on topics like this the OP won't get a perfect solution and would leave more confused than ever. Imagine telling him to lie like a corpse just to remember his dream, if he happens to roll that means the dream remembrance connectivity would be interrupted.

OP, all you'll get out of this is religious based answers that'll increase your fear based on a problem that's clearly psychological but what do I know?

Channel this same energy and data with Google/YouTube in your hands to research about "Dream, Dreaming, Remembering and Forgetting Dreams" you'll be amazed on the information you'll get from more credible sources who have dedicated their life, time and resources to reading, studying and researching on this challenge you're experiencing not these "do you eat catfish and crawling animals" okoto meow that's been spewed on this thread.

"The average man can't prove of most of the things that he chooses to speak of and still won't research and find out the root of the truth you seek of..." - Damian "Jnr Gong" Marley x Patience (Sabali).