some people are saying i am proud and arrogant because i am now educated.
i got a job 2017 and i have been helping out since then.
His collagues at work calls us romeo and juliet , he keeps telling me that most of his friends abuse him for keeping to one woman for so long and tag her along with him to all events.It was after that we started having issues.

Even if i should endure his cheating like you are all saying, I have asked him what his plan was as he is approaching 50. He told me God is in control.

The same thing we have been doing for the past 10yrs. God wont come back down from heaven,if anything happens to me , how will he take care of the children when he doesnt want to improve himself financially.I am ready to sponsor his schooling but i cant endure a man that beats me.

I will definitely seperate from him, maybe that will ginger him to achieve more for himself, carrying girlfriend, sitting in a bar and drinking all day is not the best.

i gave him almost half a million this year and he spent it within 2 days.

see me i am tired.

Those saying i want to go back to the rich guy,
It is not like that, After breaking up with him, he cursed me and blocked me everywhere. he is married with kids.

i dont intend to remarry anymore. I just wan to start a business or have an hobby.
I started having sex with him since i was 19. i am fed up with sex pls.

my husband was my bestfriend, i dont have friends.

I feel i should start afresh with my life but i cant leave my kids because i am an introvert.

Knows12:
I sensed she's the one cheating cus once a cheat, always a cheat. She's using the man..

he was my first.
i met him as a virgin.i loved him.

i cheated because he threw me and my first child out because his ex came back begging.
i moved on and started dating the other guy, we were about getting married sef, it was my family that asked me to call off the engagement and give him a try one more time.

advanceDNA:


We all have different tolerance limit...if u are sure u have tried everything including therapy, and genuine conversation with each other... Then madam.......peace of mind above any other thing....

THANK YOU

HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up