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We have been married for 5 years

Hello peeps,

I need Advise. I try to be a nice husband to my wife but recently I started noticing characters that scares me.

She is often secretive and many times I get to know her plans from strangers or after it has been carried out.

For instance, according to her ( cos I don't take note and I didn't give in one lump sum ) I gave her over 2m for her business. Unfortunately when she was to start the business she got pregnant of our second born and when she was to start again coro came and again she got pregnant.

After that she made up her mind not to do the business again. I was not informed I only heard from someone in the church who is a mother to both of us.

All of a sudden she started selling the stuff. Whatever she does with the money I don't know all I know is she is always needing money.

Each time she is on phone with her relatives and I enter the room ( she goes inside to receive her calls ) she immediately ends the call or change topic or speak In a way that you know she is not comfortable.

Many atimes I have had to excuse her from the room.

Ever since we got married it has always been one issue to the other. My friend was telling me moments ago ( I started seeing my old friends again due to the fact that she is never available for me ) that I am in a sexless marriages.

Two years ago I discovered her father is her next of kin and till date.

Her siblings will be rude to me she will look away. When it turns to fight she will apologise and when same thing happens she blackmails me with me not being forgiving and Christ like.

1. Do you guys think I am overreacting expecting that my wife feel confident to discuss any family issue in my presence especially as I do the same?

2. Am I expecting too much by thinking she should carry me along in her business decisions especially as I do the same. She has all my passwords both for bank and emails. Only recently I changed password for phones cos she keeps reading my messages while her own phone is password.

3. Recently her friend's sister was rude to me which I told her the reply is the girl insulted me and I insulted her no issue. This is someone who I had to because of relocate from the state I have lived all my life for simply because she was rude to my mother and my mother chose not to be forgiving ( Mumsy hardly ever forgives ).