₦airaland Forum

CoolKizzy:
It depends on the tribe in question.
In Igbo culture, nothing like introduction.
Iku aka or idonye mmanya or Iju ese.
All these things are not marriage. It’s just a declaration of interest.
If you bring wine (idonye mmanya) depending on the town and a maiden’s father accepts the drink from you, you have three months (7 modern weeks) to come and pay bride price (ime ego). More like booking. Within that three months the girl’s father will not accept drinks (mmanya) from any other man. Once the three months is over and you’re not forth coming, it will be assumed you’re no longer interested. Another man can bring drinks and the girl’s father will accept.

Summary.
1. Ime ego (bride price / dowry payment) is the legitimate marriage in Igbo land. And must be completed in full.
2 igba nkwu is the wedding ceremony. More like party for the family. This can be done later or in little installments or some portion waived by the bride’s family. All depending on the town and family strength in the umunna.

Well said, kindly educate the poster above you too.

Lanretoye:
But if them deport you there ,you will know that home sweet home.
People like this one and his family will be begging Abike dabiri and foreign affairs ministry to come to their aid or evacuate them when problem start abroad….see the slowpoke that is talking about $10m,he may not even have money for return ticket as he is.useless people without brain

Learn to respect other people's opinion without projecting. Why will he be deported if he remains legal where he is...we're all adults here.....peace

Standing on the mandate in UK.....what happened to going to Nigeria to stand on the mandate.....so unfortunate

GloriousGbola:
You have a right to make a video and people have a right to reject appearing in your video, especially as one of your goals is likely monetization.

You're right. She can record and blur the faces or record from the back...she's also violating their right to privacy

Host78:
The problem I have with preachers like you is your assumption that these girls are innocent and they want to protect themselves or keep themselves holy.

No bro. These girls are not holy. They are not innocent. They do not want to keep themselves. They don't have anything "precious" that men want to steal.

Go out there and pick 20 girls. Pick another 20 guys.

Chances are none of the 20 girls you pick will be a virgin. They've most likely be ran through.

Your chances of finding a virgin guy I can guarantee you is nothing less than 10 or 15.

Look at your church youths. Most of the guys there are young, inexperienced and probably never kissed a girl before.

Then sample your so called Holy and precious sisters. Most are not the holy pure virgins you imagine them to be.

Yet every Sunday, you warn them against the "bad" brothers who are always lurking around to take advantage of their innocence.

And this is the problem with the average Christian brother.

They do not wake up to reality.

They believe in these lies they tell themselves about how men are evil, want to trick these girls and steal their "precious" whatever.

And so, you have very good brothers, chasing after these girls who are feeling "too good" for the brothers even when they are not.

But because you've beaten them so much with these sorts of doctrine they just accept these sisters as holy whatever.

And then in this illusion, they pick a sister who they think is "innocent" and get married to her without understanding properly how women work.

Y'all really need to wake the fvck up.

You'll be keeping yourself as a brother while marrying a girl you know is not a virgin.

And worst still, she probably got off with a dude just the Saturday before coming to church.

Off topic, focus jn the topic. Possible perpetrator spotted..... So the minors who get raped nko.

Fiscus105:
When they are the one that are showing it to the world without coercing them?

They have to showcase every part of their private part to whoever care to see it, foolishly proofing that they are beautiful.

Panties that woman are supposed to be wearing inside room, not even compound, they are wearing them to markets, schools and public places, even church is not spared.

Kindly shut up

ZUBY77:
So says the Glamour girl who slept with dogs for money.
The way these empty heads with wigs hide under holy spirit to say rubbish is dangerous.
If Nigerians don't sue holy spirit soon, they won't learn anything.

Nigerian girls are the most lying people I have ever known. A woman can live with you under the pretense of no sxx before marriage when she is not a virgin, only for the man to find out after spending millions for marriage.

No madam glamour girls. What we see is what we buy.

Lool,the falso confidence and familiarity social media gives people is amazing.....can you repeat these words in her presence?

Razzness:
Na wa oo. No be say the girl even fine like that oo.

Wow....Just wow.....I'm tempted to say may God punish you. But you're not worth it. I just hope this is for clout and not how you really think. If not, there is a big problem

SixSeven:
Death is the only constant thing in life that equals all human beings.

I beg to differ on your answer to paragraph 4, and that is the reason for the state of our society. Focus on the girl and train her properly while neglecting the boy child. And these 2 are expected to live as one in adulthood.....common nau

EmperorIsaac:
Wait till she clocks 60! And, we shall return to whatever it is I didn't watch.

Lool....how can u threaten her with a good time. So happy women of these days are giving men their trash back.....Its also been statistically proven that men suffer from old age loneliness and abandonment much more than women do. And no, it's not about money.

Ps I'm a firm believer that men need women and vice versa and every party deserves love, mutual understanding and respect.

Believeintruth:
Check the second picture she didn't hide her knuckles bro.

Are you minding him. Even if she hides her knuckles, it's no ones business. Imagine someone who may never even be able to match her achievements speaking trash.

sonnie10:
One knock from those knuckles fit change your generational story.

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ebubeson:
Many ladies are single probably because if the husband they truly desire comes, they may go to sleep with their EX etc few days to their wedding day.

Marriage is not a ground for unseriousness. Does is make sense to cry to God for a husband, and if God gives you a husband, you go to sleep with your EX few days or weeks to wedding day?

As a married man having side chic is bad, also, for a lady, having sex with your EX few days or weeks to your wedding is bad.

FINALLY, it is bad to have sex with another person when in courtship or preparing for marriage. It is also wrong to cheat in marriage.

Avoid pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

Such a shallow and chauvinistic thread. Says alot about the personality of the poster and the mod that moved this to front page. There are so many educating and helpful things to move to FP. Kindly desist from this in the new year. You wont get the attention you crave for.

Sonnobax15:

When we tell people that the brain of an average banny is very low and is only 5 seconds different from that of a Billy goat,they begin to call us misogynists

There's no way a banny can play 10 guys without being caught by the dudes.

This is so wrong and so derogatory. Learn to refer to people with respect. Everyone deserves it

MarkNsukkaBread:
It's when it gets to signing basic contracts which he first needs to read and understand that he will realise the value of education

True but unfortunately, money brings sycophants and they will keep feeding his ignorance as long as he is useful to them.

jmoore:
He should enroll in National Open University of Nigeria.

It will be very hard for him to go to school. He got the reward before putting in the effort so there's no motivation......Even if he gets a program that allows you to finish at your own pace, he will not see the need for that degree.

Still looking for where OP said the person is a 'he'.
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It all depends on the person's interests.

Love800:
No point.

The man was okay to me.

She can still build her life while staying with him.

What held her was the full-time house wife. No job.

That's why u're not her

EmekaBlue:
Oboy ye... Hook up gone bad maybe

No need of putting Igbo woman like there is genocide on Igbos abeg

This is so insensitive

manuelkel:
How do I check my body count as a man??

Same way you check a woman's own

BodyCount:
Good.
Stop gathering BODYCOUNT like cloth you buy
Many girls here never reach 25, but their BODYCOUNT don pass 25!!
Later, una go dey find god-fearing man yo settle down with, SOMETHING YOU DON'T DESERVE.

Same with men. Most men have higher body counts than women

uche87:
Osahon Osayimwen writes from England.

Too early for such a trashy write up. Get a life

Princepri:
so he should keep quiet but if its taxes you all will run to social media to tell us how much youre paying but when you recieve charity and social benefits, you zip mouth right...

Biko read to understand. I didn't say its wrong to say what he got. He can do it without castigating the Nigerian/African churches which I'm very sure he has benefitted from.

fastseo:
This is the very firdt time am going to church in my life and i received such gifts.

Our Nigerian Christian community don't practicalise love
By January they will call for first fruit... That's all ur salaries.
Remember this December they called for thanksgiving where members will bring or empty their purse.
Then we talk about tithe and offering
And unending seed sowing.

So i was excited to share to show love still exists in Christian communities.

Loool....liar.....please u don't have to paint Nigerian/African churches black. We know some have their excesses and same applies everywhere. I put it to you that if indeed you have been attending a Nigerian/African church in the UK and claim u've never seen this kind of hospitality, ure lying.....

SpencerForbes:
Honestly, it feels like most people dragging Nigerian churches haven't actually experienced the good ones. I have to give credit where it's due—back when I was a regular at RCCG, they were consistent with sharing hamper with food items, and Christ Embassy does the same. Many churches even distributed bags of rice and other food items this Christmas. Just because your local branch didn’t show up for you doesn't mean others aren't doing the work.

Most Nigerian/African churches in this same UK do this too. Alot even operate foodbanks and I'm sure OP has been a recipient. So I just dont know why the OP is doing this

I thought u people said single fathers raise better children than single mothers.....o...u want to skip the tough part ba....if she had taken the baby, u people will still complain.......shior

BigYash:
Shut up. Someone won't just come out to make such statements,if it wasn't true. But what I don't know is why was it his business. Since the man who wants to marry her, couldn't investigate her well,then let him suffer for his stupidity. I will never pay bride price for public sperm bank or sperm gubleer.

The guy needed to apologize, because of witch hunt. Cux after all,what's his gain trying to save the moomoo groom

You sincerely do not know what people do for clout. I really wish they had srrested him like the couple who came to naija recently and had of their online trolls arrested.

Chilipepper:
₦186k Contribution: Do These Food Items Really Measure Up

Not worth it at all. Only market women have the best contributions in my opinion

Arabs flee from persecutions by Muslims in their own country. Only to start persecution in another country.

I've always wondered why

Vennysing:
Hi all.
Please I need help with advice, my study visa was denied as a result of the interview I had with ukvi, I am trying to reapply but the school is asking for administrative review which I understand takes a long time. What is the best advice, request for a refund of my tuition deposit and reapply or go ahead with the administrative review the school is insisting it’s mandatory to be able to consider an application from me in the future.
Please help if ever been in this situation.
Thank you. Please I need help, it’s urgent!!!

Except you're fixed on going to that that school in particular, request for your refund. Admin review is optional and not guaranteed to be successful plus the time factor. It drains you emotionally and mentally. Follow up with the school to get your refund ASAP and apply to other schools pls. Also try and fix the issue that caused the refusal.

Quest7777:
Let's even test the popularity of this cash transfer program

LIKE if you believe it is not effective
SHARE if you believe it is effective

Quote if you believe it does not exist

Stephenmouka:
Na email or nothing
I made my first 2000$ that change my life may 25 2025,

So happy for u