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Elxandre:
learn a skill. I don't want to hear any excuses. That is the only way out for you.
As for your bro how does he get money to smoke? how old is he?

immortalcrown:
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Mynd44

Please, this post should go to the front page. Please! I think someone genuinely needs help here.

Samantha125:
Is your brother prepared to go to the rehab though? Because you can never force an addict to go clean, only he can make that decision himself... Otherwise you guys will just waste your money trying to help someone who isn't ready to change.

Draggun:
Your brother is smoking something else because weed doesn't make one mad. I smoke weed daily so I know what I'm saying and other stoners can attest to that. I am 100% certain he takes Crystal Methamphetamine popularly known as ice which has affected his brain.

Samantha125:
He will only one day find himself alone because at the end of the day, those parents will still leave this world regardless of what does and chances are his brother would still be an addict in the next 20 years after spending so much money on trying to get him clean.

His family is obviously expecting him to spend his money on both the parents and brother as if he's not a married man, hence his father is manipulating him by telling him to start saving money for his funeral, knowing very well that his son is going to feel bad and find a way to be sending them more money... There's a difference between being concerned and being obliged to show concern on matters beyond your control.

His family is manipulating him into sending more money as if it will help change the situation with his brother, when it wouldn't... And if he keeps falling for their manipulations, he'll end up broke and no woman wants to be with a broke man, that's just the bitter truth.

Samantha125:
I haven't... But what I know is that if he keeps investing himself in this situation, he'll still end up lonely by himself one day because his wife might also eventually leave him.

What his parents are doing will only subject him to more suffering... Their failures shouldn't be his burden.

He should focus on his wife and children, they're his future.

AcrossTheEarth:
Well, is he willing to get help? Is there a rehab center you can take him to? I wish you good luck as you navigate this and wish your brother healing, IJN.

immortalcrown:
His brother's failure will affect his own success in many ways. No man can stand alone. For you to succeed, you need the people around you to be successful in one way or the other, just as they need you for their own success.

Peakdesign23:
May God help you bro. I think you should just move on with your life, because a brother like that is not willing to change, he chose that part, he's not a kid. I once had someone like that who brought shame and disgrace to himself. Believe me, your brother knows what he's doing.

Tell your wife to look for job or better still she can learn how to make zobo and puff puff, at least that one is easy to startup.

He is my only brother, each time I try to man up and face my own responsibility.. I keep remembering our memories.. how we use to be.. I have cry and ask God for a second chance for him

Do not allow family members to weigh you down, else you'll kpai early.

immortalcrown:
1.
Try rehabilitation agency for your brother because drug addiction is very destructive and hard to cure. But the cure is possible.

2.
Always invite your brother and encourage him. You can do it over the phone is you live far from him. When talking to him, avoid mocking or scolding him. Encouragement is better than scolding and hyping is better than mockery in this type of situation. This is psychology. You can't use provocation to win him back. Just remind him that he is destined for greatness. Remind him of his good academic performance in the past. Remind him that he is a hero because not all from poor backgrounds can do well in school like he does. Then, beg him to stop anything that can ruin his destiny. Tell him that you foresee him being rich and having a beautiful wife and great children. Dis kind preaching go fit reset him brain.

While talking to him, never make the mistake of informing him that the family is hoping on him. If you tell him that, he will conclude that you just want to push him into a position for him to carry all the burdens in the family. Avoid letting him know that his success will benefit the family. E get why. Psychology is deep and may appear crazy.

3.
Your wife should look for a job. Even if it is to hawk sachet water and snacks. Even if it is to work as a house cleaner or nanny. What she contributes will go a long way in helping the family. I wonder the standard of living your family has with 30k. I want to ask why you went into marriage with that level of poverty, but let that be a story for another day.

4.
Your sister? Let me not say much since you have not said much about her. But if care is not taken, that one might be another cross for your family. I pray she doesn't breed children outside wedlock and depend on you people to raise those children.

Depression is real. Didn't you read the condition of the parents? Mother is weak, father has been toiling in farms to sustain the family and the son he laboured so much for is about to be a waste. Don't you understand how this situation can deteriorate the parents' mental and physical health?

Samantha125:
What kind of a parent calls his child to ask him to arrange money for his burial in case he dies?

VicM6:
Family hand dey dis matter ... it's spiritual......seek God's intervention

Ur brother must av cross path with d wrong guys in sch or his environment.....they taught him the life of a street man.

Stevenbright:
You didn't state what level he is in at school?

He probably started smoke to enhance his academic performance just like musicians takes it for inspiration.

Pray to God to heal him.

Approach any state government social intervention agency in your state and plead with them to help rehabilitate him.

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