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shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

my advice is:
take to the advice of sambarry on his advice on separating privacy from isolation
keep private matters away from your friends and only isolate yourself from friends that you're certain are enemies of your progress and friendships
learn to be accommodating because we all make mistakes
you'll know a good friend some day when you overlook the errors some may make today and such ones come to fill your need for a true friend's help or support tomorrow
HML

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Rapmoney:
To sum up ur post, we should get married to poor women that we can order around abi?

Don't you get tallesty1's point
One of his points is most women aren't able to draw a line between the use of qualities needed to succeed in business and qualities needed for a successful marriage

Rapmoney:
To sum up ur post, we should get married to poor women that we can order around abi?

Don't you get tallesty1's point
One of his points is most women aren't able to draw a line between the use of qualities needed to succeed in business and qualities needed for a successful marriage

theplanmaker:
You are free to draw your own conclusion. But the truth is you fo not know the guys intention. I have dated a girl who is very rich. Her father was a politician, she was a successful doctor. I never felt inferior, even if i was a fresh graduate with no job. I even drive her car sometimes. She was more than ready to sponsor our wedding too. But i had to end the relationship at a point. Why? She forgot that she is a woman, and that her man is supose to be in control of the family. She is never open to suggestion, and she tries to give me instructions! Even my parents warned me. Did i break up with her because i felt inferior? Far from it. She was just not wife material, and her money made her so. So my dear, the truth is that for most wome, as ttheir social status grows, so does their ego. If a man percieves that your ego has grown to the point were you cannot becontained, he will walk away. A man would not marry a woman who he cannot control period!

I would prefer you do not use the word control for it may seem manipulating.
Rather say "a man may not want to marry a woman that is never ready to reason with her spouse and come to a mutual agreement

theplanmaker:
You are free to draw your own conclusion. But the truth is you fo not know the guys intention. I have dated a girl who is very rich. Her father was a politician, she was a successful doctor. I never felt inferior, even if i was a fresh graduate with no job. I even drive her car sometimes. She was more than ready to sponsor our wedding too. But i had to end the relationship at a point. Why? She forgot that she is a woman, and that her man is supose to be in control of the family. She is never open to suggestion, and she tries to give me instructions! Even my parents warned me. Did i break up with her because i felt inferior? Far from it. She was just not wife material, and her money made her so. So my dear, the truth is that for most wome, as ttheir social status grows, so does their ego. If a man percieves that your ego has grown to the point were you cannot becontained, he will walk away. A man would not marry a woman who he cannot control period!

I would prefer you do not use the word control for it may seem manipulating.
Rather say "a man may not want to marry a woman that is never ready to reason with her spouse and come to a mutual agreement

mascot87:
Proudly GT bank
Sai GTB
Sai Baba
Sai Nigeria
Sai Android
Sai Yoruba
Sai Igbo
Sai Hausa
Sai Nigeria

Then what happens to other tribes or are this the only tribes in Nigeria
The earlier we stop promoting some tribes in Nigeria - indirectly the better for all Nigerian. And lesser social media conflicts.
Weather you are from tiv, isoko, ijaw, ogoni, Hausa or which ever let's speak as Nigerians not as yorubas or igbos

mascot87:
Proudly GT bank
Sai GTB
Sai Baba
Sai Nigeria
Sai Android
Sai Yoruba
Sai Igbo
Sai Hausa
Sai Nigeria

Then what happens to other tribes or are this the only tribes in Nigeria
The earlier we stop promoting some tribes in Nigeria - indirectly the better for all Nigerian. And lesser social media conflicts.
Weather you are from tiv, isoko, ijaw, ogoni, Hausa or which ever let's speak as Nigerians not as yorubas or igbos

mascot87:
Proudly GT bank
Sai GTB
Sai Baba
Sai Nigeria
Sai Android
Sai Yoruba
Sai Igbo
Sai Hausa
Sai Nigeria

Then what happens to other tribes or are this the only tribes in Nigeria
The earlier we stop promoting some tribes in Nigeria - indirectly the better for all Nigerian. And lesser social media conflicts.
Weather you are from tiv, isoko, ijaw, ogoni, Hausa or which ever let's speak as Nigerians not as yorubas or igbos

mascot87:
Proudly GT bank
Sai GTB
Sai Baba
Sai Nigeria
Sai Android
Sai Yoruba
Sai Igbo
Sai Hausa
Sai Nigeria

Then what happens to other tribes or are this the only tribes in Nigeria
The earlier we stop promoting some tribes in Nigeria - indirectly the better for all Nigerian. And lesser social media conflicts.
Weather you are from tiv, isoko, ijaw, ogoni, Hausa or which ever let's speak as Nigerians not as yorubas or igbos

haftob:
But Etisalat Nigeria (EMTS) is owned by Bello Hakim Osagie mayb he bought the etisalat franchise

you are right and he was the former CEO of UBA before their merging with standard trust bank

Gbawe:
Indeed. Are we now supposed to forget the monumental and universally acclaimed misrule of GEJ because of one act he was bullied into by the likes of David Cameron, Obama et al? GEJ did not want to leave and was not prepared to leave hence the massive rigging - and we have even seen the video proof - conducted for him in Rivers, Delta, Akwa Ibom et al.

Whether people know it or not, the result, which showed Buhari had won despite the massive rigging of team GEJ, had been known since Sunday. Many moved behind the scene to convince GEJ not to try anything funny and subtle threats were deployed. GEJ, as expected of his self-serving nature, preferred not to piss-off this powerful lobby group. They never wanted to hand over and were willing to do anything to sit tight. Many simply showed GEJ he will be made to account for his action if chaos ensued because he did not want to accept the outcome of an election he clearly lost. GEJ was 'strong-armed' to accept defeat.

But you did not see any video from Kano, Kastina, Kaduna or put it this way the northern states?

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