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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Roon9(m): 4:36pm On Mar 25, 2021
Fahdiga:
Even if this is a made up story but in my little experience in this life I've learnt not to reveal a lot to women and I intentionally overlook them at times. women tend to take advantage of good men a lot. folks it is real. I've seen and experienced it. the phrase give a woman an inch and she will take a mile is 100 percent correct

A man must be a man bro.
You are 100% correct

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Lomprico2: 4:48pm On Mar 25, 2021
Realestbae:

I don't understand why is everybody sounding like is a big deal, maybe because a man is the victim here. Somebody like me that my husband refused to tell his monthly earnings, he does thing for his family without my knowledge, this is a man that refused to give me 300k for business but sent his mother 200k to fix her car, pay part of her house rent even when she is richer than my husband and clearly can afford her needs, a man that doesn't care about our fertility state though through my mom's help am seeking medical attention, a man that I don't know anything about his finance and expenditure. I thank God that am not doing anything for now cause it enabled me to know the kind of man he is.By the time I start earning he will know that karma is a bitch as in I will show him pepper

that's why God still never allow you dey do anything. grin
am sure your husband knows what u are capable of.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by cococandy(f): 4:50pm On Mar 25, 2021
What were you people’s agreement on responsibility?
Some family are strictly traditional where the man provides and the woman is the home keeper. In that case, what she makes from her job is really not for you to know or what she does with it either. As long as she’s faithfully keeping her side of the bargain and you’re keeping yours as well, peace should reign. Or so it seems.

But what we normally have these days are people (husbands) who want a traditional wife but can’t keep their eyes of her money. If you ask them to do some of the wifely duties, they will say you’re insulting them, emasculating them and the devil is using you to break up the home.

A true realistic marriage should not be rigid in roles and responsibilities. It never works in really life to be so rigid and unshakeable about who does what. Resentment always sets in at some point. Everyone should help each other. Imagine if she brought her income home without hiding. Maybe that house would be completed by now and both of you would be landlords.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by barbwire2(m): 5:10pm On Mar 25, 2021
You are on track for the most serious heart break of your life. If you forgive believe me she'll do something else worse and you'll a life regretting why you didn't leave her sooner when you had the opportunity to leave and remain sane...

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by CHoccolaTE: 5:11pm On Mar 25, 2021
Fahdiga:
Even if this is a made up story but in my little experience in this life I've learnt not to reveal a lot to women and I intentionally overlook them at times. women tend to take advantage of good men a lot. folks it is real. I've seen and experienced it. the phrase give a woman an inch and she will take a mile is 100 percent correct
Men also take advantage of good women let's not deceive ourselves abeg.

All genders get bad people, many human beings are bad and wicked but men keep crying and complaining about women day in, day out.

Abeh make una let us hear word

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by armyofone(m): 5:31pm On Mar 25, 2021
Realestbae:

I don't understand why is everybody sounding like is a big deal, maybe because a man is the victim here. Somebody like me that my husband refused to tell his monthly earnings, he does thing for his family without my knowledge, this is a man that refused to give me 300k for business but sent his mother 200k to fix her car, pay part of her house rent even when she is richer than my husband and clearly can afford her needs, a man that doesn't care about our fertility state though through my mom's help am seeking medical attention, a man that I don't know anything about his finance and expenditure. I thank God that am not doing anything for now cause it enabled me to know the kind of man he is.By the time I start earning he will know that karma is a bitch as in I will show him pepper
grin grin
You see! Yeah men do it a great deal but i think it feels more painful here because it was a woman that played the game.
They forgot women learn from the best teacher - a man.
Realestbae, don't give up working and earning.

For me, I will go for all money into one account.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by armyofone(m): 5:35pm On Mar 25, 2021
cococandy:
What were you people’s agreement on responsibility?
Some family are strictly traditional where the man provides and the woman is the home keeper. In that case, what she makes from her job is really not for you to know or what she does with it either. As long as she’s faithfully keeping her side of the bargain and you’re keeping yours as well, peace should reign. Or so it seems.

But what we normally have these days are people (husbands) who want a traditional wife but can’t keep their eyes of her money. If you ask them to do some of the wifely duties, they will say you’re insulting them, emasculating them and the devil is using you to break up the home.

A true realistic marriage should not be rigid in roles and responsibilities. It never works in really life to be so rigid and unshakeable about who does what. Resentment all set in at some point. Everyone should help each other. Imagine if she brought her income home without hiding. Maybe that house would be completed by now and both of you would be landlords.

In addition, that you are nagging them for asking for their help in the kitchen after putting in 100 hours of work outside the home grin

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by SamgoldBaba: 5:55pm On Mar 25, 2021
Bornsinner7:
they may be apologizing but in their hearts they are not happy he found out

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by sisisioge: 6:02pm On Mar 25, 2021
Klass99:
Izito, this is not your personal story nah, why copy and paste it as if it is? This same tale has been posted by other users, at least they wrote at the beginning that "shared as seen"! You want to bamboozle us by carrying on as if it's your saga.

@ Sisisioge, this is not a Nigerian tale o! It is Ghanian, when I first saw this tale the currency was in cedis. I don't understand the OP's intentions in changing it from cedi to naira and making it look like this whole story is about him (a Nigerian couple and Nigerian woman in particular)

Awon plagiarizer grin

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by cococandy(f): 6:09pm On Mar 25, 2021
armyofone:


In addition, that you are nagging them for asking for their help in the kitchen after putting in 100 hours of work outside the home grin
don’t mind them. They can’t decide what they want
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by NomzyJust(m): 6:14pm On Mar 25, 2021
Jodha:
Yhu have to decide if yhu still want the relationship.... nobody can advise yhu on that.. it's a decision only yhu can make....
Pray about it... there's nothing God cannot fix... he'll surely heal yhur broken heart...

Is it your keypad or you don't know how to spell?

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 6:16pm On Mar 25, 2021
Klass99:


God bless you! I don't know what they gain by pretending like it is their story and changing the details to give Nigerian women a bad name.

Are Naija women not paying bills in their homes and still hiding the fact that they do so, to avoid bruising oga's ego and avoid being called proud, boss lady, disrespectful and all sorts? I am so upset at the OP's misleading narrative
Boss lady is a disrespectful name?
A name you feel you have no worth if you've not attained?
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by pocohantas(f): 6:29pm On Mar 25, 2021
When a Nigerian/African marriage crashes, the woman leaves with just her box. You guys would be happy. You even encourage yourselves to marry back home so that the standard can remain. You don’t fail to threaten her with second wife or getting thrown back to her father’s house.

Women are watching...

Yet you expect these same women to bring out their money, time and heart to build an “empire” with you? Lol. Y’all are quite delusional or just being fish-brained as usual.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 6:38pm On Mar 25, 2021
I don't understand why everyone is angry here.

So she lied about her salary. And then what happened?

Without her salary, would he still not provide for his family? Would he still not take up majority of the financial responsibilities of the house? Would he still not act in the title of man of the house?

So why is her salary the bone of contention here?

The only thing I see here being an issue is her demanding her loan for the car back. She offered that money willingly and shouldn't have requested for it. Otherwise, everything else is nonsense.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by EmmySparky(m): 6:42pm On Mar 25, 2021
this is really sad...but thank God it's not something partaining your kids parternity...then it would be really crazy
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by davidadenrele: 6:53pm On Mar 25, 2021
Brotherly,

Your story is deep and and a truly an inside life as once sang by naira marley my brother let her go!! you know why if your wife could do this at this difficult time in Nigeria trust me it will not end there ooo.....she might be advised to go diabolical or spiritual on your matter, her father and brother will never be happy cos you discovered their secret meaning they wont have access to cash flow any more we in Nigeria we have heard and seen some stories similar to yours.

You married her and her family as it if your wife don't go spiritual over your matter her family will, you just blocked their chances of cash flow as its please be prayerful if possible invite your immediate family to know about this incident else if your enemy die by food poisoning tomorrow they would say E choke" cover up your story and thats the end my brother watch your back.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by armyofone(m): 7:56pm On Mar 25, 2021
davidadenrele:
Brotherly,

Your story is deep and and a truly an inside life as once sang by naira marley my brother let her go!! you know why if your wife could do this at this difficult time in Nigeria trust me it will not end there ooo.....she might be advised to go diabolical or spiritual on your matter, her father and brother will never be happy cos you discovered their secret meaning they wont have access to cash flow any more we in Nigeria we have heard and seen some stories similar to yours.

You married her and her family as it if your wife don't go spiritual over your matter her family will, you just blocked their chances of cash flow as its please be prayerful if possible invite your immediate family to know about this incident else if your enemy die by food poisoning tomorrow they would say E choke" cover up your story and thats the end my brother watch your back.

Bringing in his own family into the wahala is not a solution. Or you want bigger drama ?
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 7:58pm On Mar 25, 2021
Realestbae:

I don't understand why is everybody sounding like is a big deal, maybe because a man is the victim here. Somebody like me that my husband refused to tell his monthly earnings, he does thing for his family without my knowledge, this is a man that refused to give me 300k for business but sent his mother 200k to fix her car, pay part of her house rent even when she is richer than my husband and clearly can afford her needs, a man that doesn't care about our fertility state though through my mom's help am seeking medical attention, a man that I don't know anything about his finance and expenditure. I thank God that am not doing anything for now cause it enabled me to know the kind of man he is.By the time I start earning he will know that karma is a bitch as in I will show him pepper
Will you shut dafuq up and find somewhere to hide ya face?

Is this thread about you and your perceived slights? So he should allow his mother to die for your 300k business to come to life? What a fuqed up mindset.

Why not kuku start poisoning him slowly now,so you can inherit his properties, that's if you are not already killing him slowly. kiss grin wink

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 8:01pm On Mar 25, 2021
Sixfeetbelle:
I don't understand why everyone is angry here.

So she lied about her salary. And then what happened?

Without her salary, would he still not provide for his family? Would he still not take up majority of the financial responsibilities of the house? Would he still not act in the title of man of the house?

So why is her salary the bone of contention here?

The only thing I see here being an issue is her demanding her loan for the car back. She offered that money willingly and shouldn't have requested for it. Otherwise, everything else is nonsense.

Lmaoooo...

What exactly is up with you today Seh? You ain't the normal you sis. You have been goofing back to back to fuqin back.

The lie is a major part of the problem. A lying woman is a killing woman. And to pretend to that level in very fuqin insane.

Weird that you can't see what others are seeing on the issue

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by dominique(f): 8:39pm On Mar 25, 2021
This stupid fake story that is being circulated all over social media, they've converted the money from cedis to naira.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Raalsalghul: 8:49pm On Mar 25, 2021
CHoccolaTE:

Men also take advantage of good women let's not deceive ourselves abeg.

All genders get bad people, many human beings are bad and wicked but men keep crying and complaining about women day in, day out.

Abeh make una let us hear word


This is the most sensible thing you've said on Nairaland.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 9:05pm On Mar 25, 2021
luminouz:


Lmaoooo...

What exactly is up with you today Seh? You ain't the normal you sis. You have been goofing back to back to fuqin back.

The lie is a major part of the problem. A lying woman is a killing woman. And to pretend to that level in very fuqin insane.

Weird that you can't see what others are seeing on the issue


He's angry about the lie because he hasn't lied before? Please. He isn't angry she lied about her salary, he's angry he's not getting a say on how that money is spent.

That's why his plan is to stop building the house they were building together.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 9:18pm On Mar 25, 2021
luminouz:

Will you shut dafuq up and find somewhere to hide ya face?

Is this thread about you and your perceived slights? So he should allow his mother to die for your 300k business to come to life? What a fuqed up mindset.

Why not kuku start poisoning him slowly now,so you can inherit his properties, that's if you are not already killing him slowly. kiss grin wink

Your partiality is showing. Calm down.

A stingy, lying man is now on the line and you're already finding excuses for him. Typical.

Oya, let me find excuses for you too. Should she let her brother die of depression just to satisfy her well-to-do husband? Should she let rain and pneumonia kill her father in his thatch house when she can build a mansion for him? It's not as though the man is starving so wetin concern him concern her money?

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 9:18pm On Mar 25, 2021
Sixfeetbelle:


He's angry about the lie because he hasn't lied before? Please. He isn't angry she lied about her salary, he's angry he's not getting a say on how that money is spent.

That's why his plan is to stop building the house they were building together.
Lmaooooooo

cheesy grin cheesy grin grin

Now I have seen it all!!!

Will you Goan sleep!!!
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 9:20pm On Mar 25, 2021
luminouz:

Lmaooooooo

cheesy grin cheesy grin grin

Now I have seen it all!!!

Will you Goan sleep!!!

I noticed that when you run out of points to use, you start acting like a clown. It seems you're the one who's out of sorts today.

We're not in a circus, dear. Address me like one would an intellectual being.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 9:23pm On Mar 25, 2021
Sixfeetbelle:


Your partiality is showing. Calm down.

A stingy, lying man is now on the line and you're already finding excuses for him. Typical.

Oya, let me find excuses for you too. Should she let her brother die of depression just to satisfy her well-to-do husband? Should she let rain and pneumonia kill her father in his thatch house when she can build a mansion for him? It's not as though the man is starving so wetin concern him concern her money?

Lol... What are you on about?

I ALREADY mentioned why the husband was angry biko. She lied and pretended and harangued him on the loan he took from her to buy her a car,she said she needed.

If you still don't get the concept of lying in marriage, just marry me and I will teach you. cheesy

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 9:25pm On Mar 25, 2021
luminouz:


Lol... What are you on about?

I ALREADY mentioned why the husband was angry biko. She lied and pretended and harangued him on the loan he took from her to buy her a car,she said she needed.

If you still don't get the concept of lying in marriage, just marry me and I will teach you. cheesy

And the lady you quoted, the husband isn't lying?
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 9:26pm On Mar 25, 2021
Sixfeetbelle:


I noticed that when you run out of points to use, you start acting like a clown. It seems you're the one who's out of sorts today.

We're not in a circus, dear. Address me like one would an intellectual being.

cheesy cheesy cheesy

Me clowning you shows you have nothing intellectual on the subject to offer me. Just half-assed conjectures. smiley

I'm done with this...Have a nice night
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by luminouz(m): 9:27pm On Mar 25, 2021
Sixfeetbelle:


And the lady you quoted, the husband isn't lying?
Bye sis
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Sixfeetbelle: 9:28pm On Mar 25, 2021
luminouz:


cheesy cheesy cheesy

Me clowning you shows you have nothing intellectual on the subject to offer me. Just half-assed conjectures. smiley

I'm done with this...Have a nice night

You just proved me right.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 9:29pm On Mar 25, 2021
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