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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by bikefab(m): 2:50pm On Apr 25, 2021*

You have to make a choice, your work or your relationship. As simple as that

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Sijo01(f): 2:50pm On Apr 25, 2021

Never poopoo where you eat.

Very soon, she will inflict other of your subordinates with her virus and they all will start disrespecting you.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by simhosting: 2:51pm On Apr 25, 2021

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Halogenabdul(m): 2:52pm On Apr 25, 2021*

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

HLO brother.
I understand your condition.
This is one of my rules of dating.
1. I don't date were am studying (school, training etc), to avoid distraction resulting from emotional disturbance after misunderstandings.
2. I don't date around my area, to conceal my secret.
3. I don't date were I work because of issues like this and some other reasons (e.g if a senior staff is having an interest in same girl).

But unfortunately, am working in place where I have interest in this particular junior staff also and she does exactly what this one is doing, I almost lost my job on 2 occasions, na so I change am for am oo.
Obviously she's a dorminaring girl and u have allowed her to get away with the first one.
The only way to redeem your respect is to end the relationship and become very wicked towards her.
Else if you simply end the relationship, she'll still continue with her attitude because she has seen ur ynash finish.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by BarrElChapo(m): 2:52pm On Apr 25, 2021

lowkeybahdguy:
I've had opportunities to Bleep my office secretaries, colleagues and even my boss's daughter. But my rule has been my saving grace so far. No office romance. if not, things go spoil.

I've had several bosses tell me their lewd adventures with secretaries in the office -even during office hours- and sometimes I'm tempted to have a taste of the cookie.

So far so good, I've been able to stand firm and ignore my current secretary with her invitingly soft bosom and coy smile. smh. Problem nor dey finish!

One of our former secretary showed me shege. It took grace even with my vow of celibacy to withstand her advances.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by bluefilm: 2:52pm On Apr 25, 2021

uc4uandc:
[s]NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE(A personal experience)It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.#FASTFOWARD#The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.My adviceNever date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her![/s]

S.I.M.P

Nonsense. angry

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by BarrElChapo(m): 2:54pm On Apr 25, 2021

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
~~I don't date girls in my church~~
I don't date girls living around my hood.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Jeezuzpick(m): 2:55pm On Apr 25, 2021

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Oh. She's your subordinate.

You're lucky she's not your boss.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Nobody: 2:55pm On Apr 25, 2021

You are too soft. You aren't man enough

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by ProlificEric(m): 2:56pm On Apr 25, 2021

OK.

Meanwhile get a quick and affordable loan with no collateral requirements. Check my signature.

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Mogadishuu: 2:57pm On Apr 25, 2021

Work place romance is a no no

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by MrNipplesLover(m): 2:57pm On Apr 25, 2021*

Mohamaxx:
What about just sex and flings?

Do it outside your work place.

I understand the OP.

My brother, even if a female Pornstarr is ur colleague for workplace and she's ready to get naughty with you, don't do it.

Work place intimacy should be a no no for everybody.

Don't shitt where you eat.

Stay blessed, bro.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by odaniel1(m): 2:57pm On Apr 25, 2021

'see finish'... That's the consequence that can lead to other consequences.

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Mogadishuu: 2:57pm On Apr 25, 2021

soulpeppersoup:
You are too soft. You aren't man enough

Nice peppersoup

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by pocohantas(f): 2:57pm On Apr 25, 2021*

Office romance? One of my senior colleagues was on my matter way back. He bought me lunch tire. All the delivery men that came into the office, na me them come find. I chop well well sha. Wetin concern me. I no dey do that kind thing.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by candyguyofficia(m): 2:58pm On Apr 25, 2021*

Quit that relationship before lose your job. You haven't even stamp your personality in the relationship not to talk of creating a boss aural at her at work. For the records she is not using you as an excuse not to do the job the truth is she don't have regards for you as boyfriend neither as boss, in plain English she don see you finish.

Quit that relationship or you will lose your job, no need to save words. If you doubt me I will be looking at for your next thread.

Those junior staff that witnessed the last outburst you think they don't know that something is going on between you and the girl for her to have such effrontery? Save the relationship and watch as how other junior staff will humiliate and rubbish you because of that girl. You don't have frame, you may be rich and old but not matured yet for relationships. Work on your frame.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Kylekent59: 2:58pm On Apr 25, 2021

You gave her the chance to disrespect you. That's also be of the weakness of friendship/love. My advice to you is to tell her to behave while at work. Let her know the difference between you both at work and outside work.

You have seen the signs that she is not meant for you yet you are tolerating her attitude. Tell her that you are fed up with her antics.

Finally, as a man, never let a woman disrespect you.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by West1side: 2:59pm On Apr 25, 2021

You need to have your brain checked if your do not know you should quit that relationship since. She not only disregarded a relationship with you but your person. Once relationship is at the stage, the only thing left is regret. Do not say I didn't tell you.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Ganzoh: 2:59pm On Apr 25, 2021

Date matured ladies not stupid girls.... How can you misbehave at work because your BF is a manager, that's pure stupidity

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Mjay111: 2:59pm On Apr 25, 2021

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.
I don't date at my workplace I don't date girls in my church I don't date girls living around my hood.

you are the real nigga bro

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Zuriela: 3:01pm On Apr 25, 2021

You better cut off from her. See you see sack.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Irennediva(f): 3:01pm On Apr 25, 2021

Never ever date on Nairaland. E get why shocked

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Sonnobax15(m): 3:02pm On Apr 25, 2021

I pity guys who try it...

Just like I've always kept refraining from it myself...

They keep calling it *pride* but they don't know what I've been trying to avoid is called "see-finish"...

My peace of mind is over everything...

Try date a Nigerian girl at your place of work and your life will be like you've unknowingly signed your death warrant huh

Senseless entities huh

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by budusky05(m): 3:03pm On Apr 25, 2021

Guys don't even try it

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Sonnobax15(m): 3:03pm On Apr 25, 2021

Irennediva:
Never ever date on Nairaland. E get why

Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by Sailorsoldier1: 3:04pm On Apr 25, 2021

Some Women are brainless....

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by adanny01(m): 3:04pm On Apr 25, 2021

Militant30:
my friend, today is Sunday so I will try my best to reduce my venom, just quite the relationship now before it leads to your sack, this is one thing I do avoid as much as I can because some girls are not matured enough for such thing,if you don't quit the relationship now it will lead to more shame, quit it and do your work regardless of who is involved if she continue misbehaving after quitting the relationship just go ahead and report her to the higher authority and bold to tell them you once had relationship with her but due to her lukewarmly attitude at work you decided to trash the relationship so as to focus on your work.
thanks.

Bad advice bro

Trust me, he doesn't want to experience a woman's fury. Quitting will make her attitude to work worst. She will conclude she is a victim and op will have little defence.

My best advice is to take it above, to someone senior, a person who will understand the challenge and put her in the right place. He should be honest to the senior that their relationship is affecting work and he is willing to quit her if she doesn't fall in line. The aim is having someone do the dirty work while letting her understand you are not taking any insubordination.

If there is a possibility of transfer, she should be moved

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by luminouz(m): 3:04pm On Apr 25, 2021

Lol....

OP is funny

So you went through hell and YOU DID NOTHING TO CURB HER yet you would have all of us follow your advice when it's clearly due to your own negligence?

Naaaaah

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by edawg(m): 3:06pm On Apr 25, 2021

You don’t eat where you shit,this rule should always be adhered to at all times.
Really,What did you expect.
Advice is,you rather end things with her,find another job or make a way to get her out of the picture.

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Re: Never Date At Your Place Of Work by LaJoe2: 3:06pm On Apr 25, 2021

1. Warn her
If it repeats
2. Sanction her
If it repeats
3. Type and issue her 2 sack letters: one from work and the other from your life.

A lady that doesn't respect you as a manager under professional work circumstances, won't respect you at home as a husband.

Cheers!

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