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Irennediva:
Never ever date on Nairaland. E get why

Madam you love cucumber so much best of luck

Michelle55:
Once you have sex with a girl it automatically means that you guys are dating
You better correct her where necessary and don't let her action cost you your job, this is the pure side effects of having anything to do with your colleague.
Shey you no sabi say once you lash any babe una two don become age mates, she go insult pepper comot for ya body only the few sensible ladies out there knows how to respect and adore their men irrespective of the sexual connection between them.

Lol true

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

recommed her for sack. And also breakup with her.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

..use your brain.... if you are sacked today, she will be the first to tell you how she needs some time to be alone, you won't be attractive to her anymore... worst still, you won't be attractive to other women out there because you will be broke by then....

protect your job at all cost, remember what you were and how the job is helping your life... job before pussy

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

You're a real niggar!

Theben:
Bro, same thing is happening to me at the moment. I am not dating this lady though, but we had moments that almost led to sex.

She reports directly to me. I knew her to be hardworking and smart, but now she's displays unseriousness in the discharge of her duties. Unlike you, I can not even bring myself to querying her. It is really affecting my job.

...

daniel7328:
Well it happened to me recently when me and my ex gf were working in the same place, though she was a junior stuff to me because i was among those that trained her but along the line we started dating...

But trust me during working hours i treated her the same way i treated other staff, infact i feel i treated her worst to the extend that no one ever suspect us dating.. She do get angry most times but i do tell her that once we are at work then we must do work activities and am a different person at work and after work then am her bf, so she has to accept it that way not until she left... After she left, i was telling one of my close colleague that i dated her(my ex gf) but he didn't believe due to the fact on how i do treat her during work..

So don't allow any gf control you during working hours.....

Only few men can do this

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Are you male? Your sex on Nairaland says you are female

Beze992:
Nice advice, OP, you will do well to follow this. However, the correct word is 'quit'

Yes! Thanks it was an oversight on my part, OP post made me angry and I didn't even bother to check out for typos although I knew my spelling of effrontery was wrong I just didn't bother to correct it until couple of minute ago but you didn't see that lol. You teach English? Lol. Anyway I checked your profile you not ugly at all

affable4:
Office romance with a sensible human helps to reduce stress and you always have something to ginger you to work once the going is good.

Involve yourself with senseless and entitled humans, work suffers just like every other thing, even if he/she is not a co-worker

Is very difficult to understand a woman that have sense sir

Militant30:
my friend, today is Sunday so I will try my best to reduce my venom, just quite the relationship now before it leads to your sack, this is one thing I do avoid as much as I can because some girls are not matured enough for such thing,if you don't quit the relationship now it will lead to more shame, quit it and do your work regardless of who is involved if she continue misbehaving after quitting the relationship just go ahead and report her to the higher authority and bold to tell them you once had relationship with her but due to her lukewarmly attitude at work you decided to trash the relationship so as to focus on your work.
thanks.

This is all you need to do right here. A shrink wouldn't have put it any better....and this fine sir did it for Free.

PlayMaker14:
My female boss almost made it happened between us but I just have to use wisdom to avoid any romantic affairs.

It all started when she noticed how calm and playful I am anytime I am talking with my ex during my lunch break. She came to meet me one morning and queried me for no making the flight reservations on time, I apologised and told her that it was due to the poor connection.

Then she asked if that's how I apologise when I did something wrong to my ex, (I knew she was driving at something) I told her not all the time and the her facial expression changed. "That's how you guys are" was her reply.

She has been having issues with her boyfriend, though she's the reserved type, but she decided to let me know about the little issue she's having as I was very close to her.

After resolving the issue with her boyfriend, she told me that they'll be getting married soon, but that was not meant to be as the guy lost his life in an accident.

She was devastated and almost ran mad during that period, I offered the little help I could as I was placed in charge of the office.

When she recovered fully, and back to work, I noticed she started giving me this "greenlight" which I don't find cool. I had to limit the way I chat with her and let her know that I was there to work and not to engage in office romance.

She's 3yrs older, so beautiful and young but I nor dey do office romance to avoid SEE FINISH.

ode... Go and wash your boxer first... Joseph the dreamer

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Grab my weed while I read interesting comments

Bad boy

Hassanmaye:
Only few men can do this

Well that's why we all have our different names....

Halogenabdul:
HLO brother.
I understand your condition.
This is one of my of dating.
1. I don't date were am studying (school, training etc), to avoid distraction resulting from emotional disturbance after misunderstandings.
2. I don't date around my area, to conceal my secret.
3. I don't date were I work because of this and some other reasons (e.g if a senior staff is having an interest in same girl).

But unfortunately, am working in place where I have interest in this particular junior staff also and she does exactly what this one is doing, I almost lost my job on 2 occasions, na so I change am for am oo.
Obviously she's a dorminaring girl and u have allowed her to get away with the first one.
The only way to redeem your respect is to end the relationship and because very wicked towards her.
Else if you simply end the relationship, she'll still continue with her attitude because she has seen ur ynash finish.

Hahahhahhahaha your last statement makes me throw away my phone o

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

She has crossed the lines that would have gotten her fired. But well, you are .fucking her, so what gives?

BarrElChapo:
One of our former secretary showed me shege. It took grace even with my vow of celibacy to withstand her advances.

What is Shege

Whatever works for you.

bluefilm:
S.I.M.P

Nonsense.

Haha why now?

pocohantas:
Office romance? One of my senior colleagues was on my matter way back. He bought me lunch tire. All the delivery men that came into the office, na me them come find. I chop well well sha. Wetin concern me. I no dey do that kind thing.

Have you compensated him

[quote author=Sammy07 post=101105453]Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.[/quote

Same here . To avoid see finish

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

she is immature, quit the useless relationship. This one no be wife, imagine the disrespect na. Also report yourself to HR before she claims you raped her

uc4uandc:
We started dating when we were both junior staff and everything was going fine. I don't give a direct order to her then. I know love is a weakness which has eaten me deep.
I just wanted to hear from a third party about the matter. I am very delighted as I read the replies from you guy.... I am in a good mood now and I know what to do. Thanks.

Are you going to breakup with her? Yes or no?

I believe you can date someone in the same company, provided its a large establishment whereby both of you never get to see each other at all, and you have completely different departments.

For example, if you're head of fleets, and she is head of marketing. You guys have nothing to do together, especially if the company have about 500 - 1000 staff member. However, all this mushroom company with 10-80 workers.... Don't date in such environment.

Ganzoh:
Date matured ladies not stupid girls.... How can you misbehave at work because your BF is a manager, that's pure stupidity

Some of this girls don't have brain

You wanted an opinionated woman because you like the challenge. Now you got one and you don't like the oil that comes with fish in a sardine can.
If you guys are dating, why not sit down at home like normal people and have a conversation.
You keep malice for days and you guys are dating while also working in the same environment.

Nah, you both are each others f**k-buddies.

Sonnobax15:


I pity guys who try it...

Just like I've always kept refraining from it myself...

They keep calling it *pride* but they don't know what I've been trying to avoid is called "see-finish"...

My peace of mind is over everything...

Try date a Nigerian girl at your place of work and your life will be like you've unknowingly signed your death warrant

Senseless entities

I swear

U are just dating an ill mannered gal, I only give u props for knowing she’s opposing and u still went for her forreasons best known to u. Even if u didn’t quarrel at work u will definitely quarrel smehere else and she will show her usual traits. I can’t deal with such gals, never.

She threw a book at u is the start of physical abuse which she is capable of if u don’t know. Her true character is gradual coming out just faster under this pressure environment.

Run.

In some organisations, you would just kiss your job goodbye cos if you break up and she’s unhappy about it, she could make life difficult for you at work. That relationship will suddenly be called sexual harassment.

Before you clear your name, many things would have happened.

You need to talk to your HR or your direct boss to help you break up with her amicably and keep your job.

Hassanmaye:
Have you compensated him

Na she send the father Christmas message?

Experience it.. Trust me you won't regret it. She didn't say she want to marry you.. Just flow with her.. Moreover you need a distraction from your Ex.

PlayMaker14:
My female boss almost made it happened between us but I just have to use wisdom to avoid any romantic affairs.

It all started when she noticed how calm and playful I am anytime I am talking with my ex during my lunch break. She came to meet me one morning and queried me for no making the flight reservations on time, I apologised and told her that it was due to the poor connection.

Then she asked if that's how I apologise when I did something wrong to my ex, (I knew she was driving at something) I told her not all the time and the her facial expression changed. "That's how you guys are" was her reply.

She has been having issues with her boyfriend, though she's the reserved type, but she decided to let me know about the little issue she's having as I was very close to her.

After resolving the issue with her boyfriend, she told me that they'll be getting married soon, but that was not meant to be as the guy lost his life in an accident.

She was devastated and almost ran mad during that period, I offered the little help I could as I was placed in charge of the office.

When she recovered fully, and back to work, I noticed she started giving me this "greenlight" which I don't find cool. I had to limit the way I chat with her and let her know that I was there to work and not to engage in office romance.

She's 3yrs older, so beautiful and young but I nor dey do office romance to avoid SEE FINISH.

Militant30:
my friend, today is Sunday so I will try my best to reduce my venom, just quite the relationship now before it leads to your sack, this is one thing I do avoid as much as I can because some girls are not matured enough for such thing,if you don't quit the relationship now it will lead to more shame, quit it and do your work regardless of who is involved if she continue misbehaving after quitting the relationship just go ahead and report her to the higher authority and bold to tell them you once had relationship with her but due to her lukewarmly attitude at work you decided to trash the relationship so as to focus on your work.
thanks.

fact!