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what do you expect in a scenario where a superior is dating subordinate? Respect or disrespect, honour or dishonour, regard or disregard? You should know the answer to that equation.
I am superior to over 30 ladies in my work place but I have never and will never date a lady that is under me in the office.
I do not date a woman who worship in same church with me and I do not date at workplace.
I am a principle man!

brownemmanuel43:
Fucking in the office is not an issue, it only requires heart of a lion to do that not heart of a simp
I was in your shoes back then, me wey no send u, come with madness I come with kolomental

Lol

On the contrary, I once had office romance, at first we wanted to keep it secret but because of the love we have for each other we couldn't keep it as a secret, everyone found out about it including the owner of the organization, infact we were ready for anything.

Guess what, today we are maritally settled and we still work there until earlier this month, he got a better offer and resigned properly.

So I will say office romance depends on the maturity of the two people involved

Militant30:
my friend, today is Sunday so I will try my best to reduce my venom, just quite the relationship now before it leads to your sack, this is one thing I do avoid as much as I can because some girls are not matured enough for such thing,if you don't quit the relationship now it will lead to more shame, quit it and do your work regardless of who is involved if she continue misbehaving after quitting the relationship just go ahead and report her to the higher authority and bold to tell them you once had relationship with her but due to her lukewarmly attitude at work you decided to trash the relationship so as to focus on your work.
thanks.

OP if you don't take this advise... Anything when go happen, na you know oh.


I don tell you my own oh

CuteTolex:
On the contrary, I once had office romance, at first we wanted to keep it secret but because of the love we have for each other we couldn't keep it as a secret, everyone found out about it including the owner of the organization, infact we were ready for anything.

Guess what, today we are maritally settled and we still work there until earlier this month, he got a better offer and resigned properly.

So I will say office romance depends on the maturity of the two people involved

it does when the two have sense... But the lady in this one, no get sense...

Let me ask you this question...

Did you ever threw anything at your man in the office, at any time in the office in your dating days?

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

you are a real nigarr men! Me I hate dating people around my hood. In fact, I don't think I will marry within my community.

Bro I dey ur shoe currently... But I dey wisdom

My own experience strong shaa!

The was working with the company before I was employed as the Head of operations, overseeing four supervisors.

She overhead me on the phone advising someone on how he should treat his lady. I never knew that that the lady could hear/speak yoruba.

Anyways, she approached me and I told her I don't do office romance the conventional way. She said that she don't mind.

I had an accident. She came with other staffs that visited and that was all. She came over and I cleaned her play head, I think 3/4 times. I did that to two other nurses but she began to claim ownership of me. Two other nurses came over and we kicked it. No emotional connection.

She began to misbehave. But you know what? The more she misbehaved, the more task I gave her. Her misdemeanor become overly obvious,; and then I sacked her.

She reported me to the overall boss that I asked her out, she refused and that was why I sacked her.

My boss called a meeting and d issue wa adressed. One question my boss asked was, if I dated her. And I told him that I no longer date girls.
I was acquitted.

So my brother. Use ur head...

Hassanmaye:
What is Shege

Another word for pepper in the context of my post

The day you ought to dump her was the day she threw her book on you and called all the managers name.


In short, from the look of things, no be only you she dey fcvk for that office.


At this point, you have to keep love aside, report her and see the reaction of your Oga at the top.

You go know say, no be only you dey fvck her.

My real advise is, leave that woman and focus on your job.

Ok

If you don't stop your foolishness will get the better of you and you may be sacked and if you cannot fulfil your expected financial obligations she will move ahead with some other person and you will end up the greatest fool of the century. Don't be a fool. Apply the necessary punishments including suspension if need be. She will get the message you ain't joking. If you fall into any trouble she will simply move ahead. Na only the company be the common denominator here.

My brother, with all due respect, you're too weak to handle her.

She's too rude to even keep as a date so why didn't you call her privately and call of the relationship for good.

Yes.. It simply means that she will be a stumbling block for you in your career or your next fling.

Come on guy, she has even built up a cabal of juniors against you.

Watch it.. You're already on the edge of losing your job due to lack of personnel management and condoning juvenile delinquency at work.

Yes, in my place of work.. Flings happen amongst colleagues and everybody minds their business and return to their families at the end of the day.

It is called being professional.
Are you professional or still doing boyfriend conji things... hahahaha

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

So which girls do you date?

Never mix pleasure..... Stop allowing her blackmail you with emotions. If she misbehave at work sanction her like you will do to any other person if not more sef. You are the man.

obalize:
My brother, with all due respect, you're too weak to handle her.

She's too rude to even keep as a date so why didn't you call her privately and call of the relationship for good.

Yes.. It simply means that she will be a stumbling block for you in your career or your next fling.

Come on guy, she has even built up a cabal of juniors against you.

Watch it.. You're already on the edge of losing your job due to lack of personnel management and condoning juvenile delinquency at work.

Yes, in my place of work.. Flings happen amongst colleagues and everybody minds their business and return to their families at the end of the day.

It is called being professional.
Are you professional or still doing boyfriend conji things... hahahaha

Don't mind him... na when them go sack am, him head go reset.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Continue playing with your job

Be smart. Use diplomacy. Pet her. Sometimes you have to be moist with them from time to time especially the stubborn ones. Let her see your point of view. If after these her head no still set, oh well, you tried.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

have her sacked na? What are you waiting for

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Balderdash... How did you get promoted self ? with this your poor management ...

Someone Disrespect you before your staffs and you walk away ... you should be sacked for promoting toxicity in the working environment....


serve her to the HR and Gave her the Queries of her life and withdraw totally from her and be extremely professional with her ....

I get this colleague I usually flirt with ... I became ogas favourite and she change it for me because I wasn't allowing her sabotage work flow ...

I just abandoned her , stop giving her roles , pretend as if she doesn't exist ... carry other along and deliberately leave her ... Discuss work flow with other and explain responsibilities without her ....

Reverse Pyschology.... Guess who hail me now ... She even borrow me money self just to renew my attention ...

If you craze , I go light your craze .. who no craze for Nigeria ... Never be calm to cold behaviours... She will destroy your means of livelihood ... Put her in her place and reset her brain before big damages !!

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candyguyofficia:
Yes! Thanks it was an oversight on my part, OP post made me angry and I didn't even bother to check out for typos although I knew my spelling of effrontery was wrong I just didn't bother to correct it until couple of minute ago but you didn't see that lol. You teach English? Lol. Anyway I checked your profile you not ugly at all

Lol, studied English, taught for awhile as well... Thanks for the backhanded compliment though.

Theben:
Bro, same thing is happening to me at the moment. I am not dating this lady though, but we had moments that almost led to sex.

She reports directly to me. I knew her to be hardworking and smart, but now she's displays unseriousness in the discharge of her duties. Unlike you, I can not even bring myself to querying her. It is really affecting my job.

Too much Dopamine (Happiness Hormone) is slowing her brain down ... Help her re-energize by withdrawing from her gradually ...

you can fix her back to usual ..... Keep it professional but on a Gradual Basis !!

brownemmanuel43:
Fucking in the office is not an issue, it only requires heart of a lion to do that not heart of a simp
I was in your shoes back then, me wey no send u, come with madness I come with kolomental

Weyrey Jam Weyrey dey sweet ... chaiiii ...

But to avoid Office romance na ihm sweet pass !!

Fire her ass!

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

MY BROTHER IF YOU KEEP TO THIS RULES YOU WILL LEAVE LONG AND BE A PERFECT PLAYER....

Harddon, please save a simp

doggedfighter:
Romance generally invoves emotions which can be abused.

Many can't handle it or know how to separate business from pleasure.

It's even more difficult in the face of break ups.

Office romance should be avoided if possible but it has led to marriages too.

Why you have to avoid short women

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

you must be a real man in your world

Militant30:
my friend, today is Sunday so I will try my best to reduce my venom, just quite the relationship now before it leads to your sack, this is one thing I do avoid as much as I can because some girls are not matured enough for such thing,if you don't quit the relationship now it will lead to more shame, quit it and do your work regardless of who is involved if she continue misbehaving after quitting the relationship just go ahead and report her to the higher authority and bold to tell them you once had relationship with her but due to her lukewarmly attitude at work you decided to trash the relationship so as to focus on your work.
thanks.

My thoughts exactly! Quit the relationship first since she's hiding under it, then treat her like every other employee

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

Abeg nah from where you wan date then?

DonroxyII:
Balderdash... How did you get promoted self ? with this your poor management ...

Someone Disrespect you before your staffs and you walk away ... you should be sacked for promoting toxicity in the working environment....


serve her to the HR and Gave her the Queries of her life and withdraw totally from her and be extremely professional with her ....

I get this colleague I usually flirt with ... I became ogas favourite and she change it for me because I wasn't allowing her sabotage work flow ...

I just abandoned her , stop giving her roles , pretend as if she doesn't exist ... carry other along and deliberately leave her ... Discuss work flow with other and explain responsibilities without her ....

Reverse Pyschology.... Guess who hail me now ... She even borrow me money self just to renew my attention ...

If you craze , I go light your craze .. who no craze for Nigeria ... Never be calm to cold behaviours... She will destroy your means of livelihood ... Put her in her place and reset her brain before big damages !!

Excellently said