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I almost had one but I was smart enough to withdraw because it looked like they put a bet on me.

I felt bad though because I grew fond of the person but no sex.
I readjusted fast to being professional but the other person is pained because I moved on quickly.

Some people just want to trample on people especially when they see you have a strong personality , no genuine love just trying to score points to prove they can get a person.

samx4real:
it does when the two have sense... But the lady in this one, no get sense...

Let me ask you this question...

Did you ever threw anything at your man in the office, at any time in the office in your dating days?

U no sabi Judge ... the lady get sense ... na op no get sense ... the lady behaved like a typical average Nigerian girl or woman ...

a sane man must be able to expect such character from an average lady and put up mitigating measures even before such behaviour exist !

Pharaoh4rin:
My own experience strong shaa!

The was working with the company before I was employed as the Head of operations, overseeing four supervisors.

She overhead me on the phone advising someone on how he should treat his lady. I never knew that that the lady could hear/speak yoruba.

Anyways, she approached me and I told her I don't do office romance the conventional way. She said that she don't mind.

I had an accident. She came with other staffs that visited and that was all. She came over and I cleaned her play head, I think 3/4 times. I did that to two other nurses but she began to claim ownership of me. Two other nurses came over and we kicked it. No emotional connection.

She began to misbehave. But you know what? The more she misbehaved, the more task I gave her. Her misdemeanor become overly obvious,; and then I sacked her.

She reported me to the overall boss that I asked her out, she refused and that was why I sacked her.

My boss called a meeting and d issue wa adressed. One question my boss asked was, if I dated her. And I told him that I no longer date girls.
I was acquitted.

So my brother. Use ur head...

bro, please which one is play head ? ... Asking for a friend sir!

it can't be wetin I dey think !

obagayeseun:
Abeg nah from where you wan date then?

Lol, we can meet any where apart from the 3 I mentioned above.
We can meet at club, functions or outing or at the pool or online.
Not all online are fake.

kendological:
So which girls do you date?

Those I met outside the designated areas.

We can meet at the club, functions, online, pools

Oppy2k2:
I don blow your 3 records. May God forgive me sha

Amen

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Bros congratulations that you are thriving am happy for you.

In situations like this, try let her report to another manager and not you. She is being childish (no offence intended) or transfer her to another location.

She is being jealous of your success, please treat her like others no favouritism.

Good luck

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

What you have not realized is apart from the fact that your relationship with her has given her room to be lazy, she's also jealous that you are her boss or that she didn't get promoted alongside you. According to your story, you were both employed at the same time. And you were promoted before her. That's another grouse that's fuelling her actions- jealousy

Until you either get demoted or sacked, that's when you'll realize that it was another problem, too. You'd have to confide in another manager or your boss to get her transferred to another department before you break up with her, after which you should avoid her.

Don't sack her or make them do so. You'd be depriving her of livelihood if you do that. She might even commit a crime of passion against you if you do so- murder.

Una no dey hear word. Do not mix business with pleasure! No matter how hot the bobo is, I cant just go there.

Solution, biko have her moved from your department to another or help her find another job. Breaking up with her won't still work as aunty already got your no.

PlayMaker14:
My female boss almost made it happened between us but I just have to use wisdom to avoid any romantic affairs.

It all started when she noticed how calm and playful I am anytime I am talking with my ex during my lunch break. She came to meet me one morning and queried me for no making the flight reservations on time, I apologised and told her that it was due to the poor connection.

Then she asked if that's how I apologise when I did something wrong to my ex, (I knew she was driving at something) I told her not all the time and the her facial expression changed. "That's how you guys are" was her reply.

She has been having issues with her boyfriend, though she's the reserved type, but she decided to let me know about the little issue she's having as I was very close to her.

After resolving the issue with her boyfriend, she told me that they'll be getting married soon, but that was not meant to be as the guy lost his life in an accident.

She was devastated and almost ran mad during that period, I offered the little help I could as I was placed in charge of the office.

When she recovered fully, and back to work, I noticed she started giving me this "greenlight" which I don't find cool. I had to limit the way I chat with her and let her know that I was there to work and not to engage in office romance.

She's 3yrs older, so beautiful and young but I nor dey do office romance to avoid SEE FINISH.

Smart guy thanks for sharing

Beze992:
Lol, studied English, taught for awhile as well... Thanks for the backhanded compliment though.

That nice, I hope I won't have to always check on my grammatical construct before I click on the submit button with you. How about we take our conversation off this dude thread. Have a mail I could use to get through?

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

I guess one of the problems is the emboldened.

Sincerely speaking, I can relate to what you're passing through.

Maybe, girls in such category feel it's always a bit too soon to be committed to just one fellow.

They'd say, "Afterall, I enjoy how am being wooed by randomly more handsome/good-looking guys. I still have more time so, I can't be left out in catching that fun!"

Nevertheless, I don't seem to blame them in a way cos the very unpredictable nature of tomorrow makes life fun to the living.

In some cases, or should I say in most cases, "Peer Pressure" if not "Religious Bigotry" (in my case), plays a vital role too.

At this point, I would say;

1. Pray

2. Work with facts not emotions

3. It has always been "Work before pleasure"

4. Do not compromise your peace of mind and happiness.

5. One who really cares about you should never take your career/job/hustle and simplicity for granted

All the best to all honest and self-disciplined bachelors out there!

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

If you have power to sack her, just do else you may lose your job.

candyguyofficia:
That nice, I hope I won't have to always check on my grammatical construct before I click on the submit button with you. How about we take our conversation off this dude thread. Have a mail I could use to get through?

Check my profile for my email.

Beze992:
Check my profile for my email.

Still don't know how NL work apart from the most basic. Is it the "send email to ...." I'm to click? Because no obvious mail id on it

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Which is why it's against policy in most companies.

You're both simply playing to the gallery.

I feel your pain though.

It's even worse now cos the only solution is either to fire her or you seek transfer to another branch where you both don't work directly. Both of which are not easy decisions to make.

candyguyofficia:
Still don't know how NL work apart from the most basic. Is it the "send email to ...." I'm to click? Because no obvious mail id on it

That's exactly where you're supposed to click, I will receive a notification and respond. I can't share my email on a public forum like this.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Keep loving her. Treat her the way she wants. Spoil her and assign other people to do her work. Let her job be collecting salaries. Your eyes go clear when you loose your job. There is always a clear cut boundary in everything. Once you fail to observe and keep the necessary boundary you are clearly a kid. Stop dating kids.

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Short people and their wahala . My dear, she needs to be moved to a place where you aren't her manager. The over familiarity is too much.

Beze992:
That's exactly where you're supposed to click, I will receive a notification and respond. I can't share my email on a public forum like this.

Ok...done

DonroxyII:
bro, please which one is play head ? ... Asking for a friend sir!

it can't be wetin I dey think !

the women's only pride.

HealerH:
Wrong title.

The problem is not the workplace. No. It is people being irresponsible... People mistaking business for courtship.

Brethren, the problem is the work place.

Guy, carry your cross

I don't even understand how you guys end up with girls who behave like this. She belongs to the streets men... Keep your mental health safe

It's for you to stylishly push theirsection to other managers..
Na office romance I like pass church or street sef.. because there's no pretence.. u'r what you are

Office romance is not for everyone. If you can't handle it, stay away from it..

Op, simply have her transferred to a different boss in your office so that she does not work with you,,,,

If you must date from your work place make sure she's in a different department.

Yes o don’t dare date at your place of work ooo I am currently going through a breakup phase with my colleague at work thank goodness she isn’t disrespectful as we carry on our official duties ok however getting over her was hell... thank God for weed and good pussies I am finally moving on.

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I advice against office sexual relationship as it ends sour most of the time.

1. Quit the relationship but do it maturely and responsibly.
2. Let her know (remind/reiterate) the fact that you are all there to work and for work.
3. Treat her fairly and firmly going forward. No sentiments, same as you would deal professionally with others.
4. If she again fall out of line, deal with her in line with your organization guideline
5. When it comes up, tell management you had an affair with her in the past but had to call it quits when it was beginning to affect the job
6. Beware of her, she may seek revenge one way or the other. This may even be initiated via pretended change of attitude.
7. Stay away from office romance. The focus there is the job

Wish you the best as u man up and discipline yourself.