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Michelle55:
Once you have sex with a girl it automatically means that you guys are dating
You better correct her where necessary and don't let her action cost you your job, this is the pure side effects of having anything to do with your colleague.
Shey you no sabi say once you lash any babe una two don become age mates, she go insult pepper comot for ya body only the few sensible ladies out there knows how to respect and adore their men irrespective of the sexual connection between them.

Un don become mate not age mate abeg. En fit be sex mate. Just like team mate

Tranquility2345:
This sick guy why are you impersonating Labadi69 and harassing women on Nairaland? You are a real psycho.

Mods please take note of this impersonator!

You are a fool for accusing that innocent man without basis. I’ve known him for years now and he is not an impersonator. Anumanu

Labadi69:
Why on earth would you set up this moniker to impersonate me and harass pocohantas and other females on Nairaland? You are jobless and have mental issues.

You are a fool for accusing that honest and hardworking guy. Look I’ve known him for years and he is not impersonating anyone

He is even a ladies man so why would he harass anybody?

Check your mental health you this teenager

samx4real:
it does when the two have sense... But the lady in this one, no get sense...

Let me ask you this question...

Did you ever threw anything at your man in the office, at any time in the office in your dating days?

That will be me disrespecting him which is what I won't do

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

The only advice you need is:


Cut every personal ties with her.
Both of you cannot cope with whatever situation you both have found yourselves in.
It's just beyond your controls.

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Theben:
Bro, same thing is happening to me at the moment. I am not dating this lady though, but we had moments that almost led to sex.

She reports directly to me. I knew her to be hardworking and smart, but now she's displays unseriousness in the discharge of her duties. Unlike you, I can not even bring myself to querying her. It is really affecting my job.

As women we are the cause of our own problem...Men should be our source of strength not weakness

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.

We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.

The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.

Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.

We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)

She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.

My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.

This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.

The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.

Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.

I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Yôu said óne thing you like about her is she is opposing which I find quite strange as I don't understand how anyone will want to have a partner that opposes them. Now that you have an opposing partner, you are complaining. The problem is not workplace relationship (which is bad by the way), the problem is the attitude of the girl which you admired at first. A partner compliments and supports, I don't know why you should go for one that antagonises you.