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kktbm:
Good dey guys..... I was discussing with a friend of mine. He wants to move out of the country(uk) but his parents are trying to cajole him to stay ( he’s from a well to do family and they are financially capable)

His plan is after nysc he would go for masters and find his way.

He is 21 and currently serving (he’s field is IT)
But the issue is that his parent are trying to fine tune his head to stay (he’s the last born)

Their excuse is that
1) you would do menial jobs there
2) there is nothing there
3) even if you get a good job there, it’s difficult to rise as a black man
4) you will be lonely

Their main bone of contention is that there is nothing there.
Note: his dad and 4 other siblings out of 5 studied in the uk tho.

My friend doesn’t even want to stay atall, most of his friend are in the uk, he doesn’t have friends in Nigeria except a few. He doesn’t like going out because he said his mind is not in Nigeria. If you see him ehn you will know that he’s depressed. All he wants is to move to the uk.

He’s not even a badboy he doesn’t smoke, drink
He’s not a womanizer

(2 of his siblings have been in the UK SINCE early 2000’s and are already citizens)

The dad also isn’t saying he should not go, but after service, he should get a job first probably with Goverment (due to job security because his dad retired with the government) then work 2-3 years before going for his master.

His point his that he wants to go now that the funds and everything is intact. What if something should happen in future nko?

My advice for him his to leave immediately after service after all he has siblings who are in their early 40’s there to put him through and also a lot of family friends there

What would you advice

SmartyPants:
Social life zero keh?

What is in Nigeria that is not in England in terms of social life?

flyca:
He can go to UK since he already has family and friends there but bear in mind that it is tough being black outside Africa. Wishing you the best.

Please don't quote me if you have not smelt MMA before. Thank you.

kktbm:
Good dey guys..... I was discussing with a friend of mine. He wants to move out of the country(uk) but his parents are trying to cajole him to stay ( he’s from a well to do family and they are financially capable)

His plan is after nysc he would go for masters and find his way.

He is 21 and currently serving (he’s field is IT)
But the issue is that his parent are trying to fine tune his head to stay (he’s the last born)

Their excuse is that
1) you would do menial jobs there
2) there is nothing there
3) even if you get a good job there, it’s difficult to rise as a black man
4) you will be lonely

Their main bone of contention is that there is nothing there.
Note: his dad and 4 other siblings out of 5 studied in the uk tho.

My friend doesn’t even want to stay atall, most of his friend are in the uk, he doesn’t have friends in Nigeria except a few. He doesn’t like going out because he said his mind is not in Nigeria. If you see him ehn you will know that he’s depressed. All he wants is to move to the uk.

He’s not even a badboy he doesn’t smoke, drink
He’s not a womanizer

(2 of his siblings have been in the UK SINCE early 2000’s and are already citizens)

The dad also isn’t saying he should not go, but after service, he should get a job first probably with Goverment (due to job security because his dad retired with the government) then work 2-3 years before going for his master.

His point his that he wants to go now that the funds and everything is intact. What if something should happen in future nko?

My advice for him his to leave immediately after service after all he has siblings who are in their early 40’s there to put him through and also a lot of family friends there

What would you advice

Mrnairalandd:
If he is depressed in Nigeria then he would definitely commit suicide in UK cos UK is as boring as hell compare to Nigeria.

If you are financially ok in Nigeria, trust me, you don’t have any reason to trade that for UK.

Why do you think African rich men even middle class don’t stay in Europe(UK) cos the weather and social life are completely Zeros with racism on top of it?

The only reason why people from poor homes stay in Europe is cos of employments(menial jobs-89%) and exchange rate. If £ & $ are at the same rate with Naira today, i swear down, 90% Nigerians in USA/UK ll be packing their luggage’s by this evening heading to different airports.

Like his parents said, nothing in Europe/America if you r financially ok in Nigeria but if you r from poor homes, why not?

ceejay80s:
Nigeria is better, there's nothing in uk, no job for black men there, uk is rubbish, Dubai sef better, many of u Dont know this because to disappear for naija just dey hungry una, when uk dey reign don't pass, there's nothing there, how many of ur celebs go to uk again

MrCuteking:
A once upon a time access bank branch manager is currently a kitchen chef abroad because he feels like there is a better life outside Nigeria.

Don't overlook those examples from your parent. Abroad abroad, forget the hypes, you will work menial jobs your eyes go clear.

Ninokingz1:
A cleaner doing a full time job in UK is paid better than a Director in Federal Civil Service.

But if his reasons for leaving Nigeria is because all his friends are in UK then it’s not a good one. On the aspect of being lonely might be true depending on the part of UK he’s planning to stay. (But don’t forget white babes the rush Nigerians o, lol).

For there’s nothing special in UK might also be true but don’t forget that nothing too special is in Nigeria too. At least, you will see usefulness of being a human in UK.

For career wise, as an IT personal that guy will get a better Job that will pay him nothing less than £60k p|a all he has to do is doing a little upgrade courses here.

Finally even if he ends up as an Care Assistant, at the end of every month, he goes home with nothing less than a million naira after Tax and 500k savings after monthly expenses.

So, how many Jobs in Nigeria can guarantee you that?

Splitmind:
They are right, there is nothing there for him in the UK. Nigerians are stars and are doing well at home so why run away?

Why abandon your homeland for silly dreams and the harsh environment of the UK?

flyca:
He can go to UK since he already has family and friends there but bear in mind that it is tough being black outside Africa. Wishing you the best.

Please don't quote me if you have not smelt MMA before. Thank you.

Amuochicha:
I hate Men

planetx:
Laughing at all this kids hyping UK, I wish they will all go there and see the harsh reality. A place that is over flooded with immigrants from all over the world.

blinking001:
Stay back and lets move this country forward towards the right direction. This country needs great minds like yours to take it to greater heights.

ceejay80s:
I swear dem no know

planetx:
Laughing at all this kids hyping UK, I wish they will all go there and see the harsh reality. A place that is over flooded with immigrants from all over the world.

flyca:
He can go to UK since he already has family and friends there but bear in mind that it is tough being black outside Africa. Wishing you the best.

Please don't quote me if you have not smelt MMA before. Thank you.

kktbm:
Good dey guys..... I was discussing with a friend of mine. He wants to move out of the country(uk) but his parents are trying to cajole him to stay ( he’s from a well to do family and they are financially capable)

His plan is after nysc he would go for masters and find his way.

He is 21 and currently serving (he’s field is IT)
But the issue is that his parent are trying to fine tune his head to stay (he’s the last born)

Their excuse is that
1) you would do menial jobs there
2) there is nothing there
3) even if you get a good job there, it’s difficult to rise as a black man
4) you will be lonely

Their main bone of contention is that there is nothing there.
Note: his dad and 4 other siblings out of 5 studied in the uk tho.

My friend doesn’t even want to stay atall, most of his friend are in the uk, he doesn’t have friends in Nigeria except a few. He doesn’t like going out because he said his mind is not in Nigeria. If you see him ehn you will know that he’s depressed. All he wants is to move to the uk.

He’s not even a badboy he doesn’t smoke, drink
He’s not a womanizer

(2 of his siblings have been in the UK SINCE early 2000’s and are already citizens)

The dad also isn’t saying he should not go, but after service, he should get a job first probably with Goverment (due to job security because his dad retired with the government) then work 2-3 years before going for his master.

His point his that he wants to go now that the funds and everything is intact. What if something should happen in future nko?

My advice for him his to leave immediately after service after all he has siblings who are in their early 40’s there to put him through and also a lot of family friends there

What would you advice


In IT?.

He is not happy here?


Let him go and live his life for himself and not his parents.

kktbm:
Good dey guys..... I was discussing with a friend of mine. He wants to move out of the country(uk) but his parents are trying to cajole him to stay ( he’s from a well to do family and they are financially capable)

His plan is after nysc he would go for masters and find his way.

He is 21 and currently serving (he’s field is IT)
But the issue is that his parent are trying to fine tune his head to stay (he’s the last born)

Their excuse is that
1) you would do menial jobs there
2) there is nothing there
3) even if you get a good job there, it’s difficult to rise as a black man
4) you will be lonely

Their main bone of contention is that there is nothing there.
Note: his dad and 4 other siblings out of 5 studied in the uk tho.

My friend doesn’t even want to stay atall, most of his friend are in the uk, he doesn’t have friends in Nigeria except a few. He doesn’t like going out because he said his mind is not in Nigeria. If you see him ehn you will know that he’s depressed. All he wants is to move to the uk.

He’s not even a badboy he doesn’t smoke, drink
He’s not a womanizer

(2 of his siblings have been in the UK SINCE early 2000’s and are already citizens)

The dad also isn’t saying he should not go, but after service, he should get a job first probably with Goverment (due to job security because his dad retired with the government) then work 2-3 years before going for his master.

His point his that he wants to go now that the funds and everything is intact. What if something should happen in future nko?

My advice for him his to leave immediately after service after all he has siblings who are in their early 40’s there to put him through and also a lot of family friends there

What would you advice