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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by QorQe: 11:36pm On Jun 01, 2021
xperiencelove:
I am happy about what you told her father never to interfere in your family affairs. Even if they call family meeting, let the father know you have done so much for his daughter that some fathers can never do for their daughters.
Let him know he is the one that want to destroy your marriage and pull down your family. After all this, tell him you are sorry if you had utter any statement that might hurt him.
Henceforth, he will mind his business.
Her father want to be alpha and omega of your family, never accept that. Otherwise, you are doomed.



Smh. Whose phone did you borrow to typë this dung shiiit?

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by mumzykhaliq: 5:14am On Jun 02, 2021
chatinent:
It's understandable.

Please, try and be understanding more. You can tell her not to allow any free new interns any longer. Don't let it ruin your marriage.

Her remark could also have been an innocent one. Of course, I know it hurts when money is involved.

Speak to her concerning all you think with a mild voice but clear terms on recruiting interns.

Marriage is not a part-time thing.


Secondly, I don't support her leaving home and her parent's defensive taunts. However, let your words be seasoned with salt always when you respond.

I see a grateful wife, bro. Relate with her more like a friend! Teach her business ethics! Don't reject her food because of anger for her inexperience. Be her tutor, husband, friend, client, and future.


Thank you.

God bless you.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Focusmind: 6:29am On Jun 02, 2021
I understand you OP. But from the look of things, you seems like a strict person and a micro manager. Your wife's behaviour is not different from mine when it comes to money and giving it freely to people.

I will struggle to give her money and at the end, some of the money will end up with people who are most in need of her mercy, even though she is not working. I ignore and move on. If I start business for her in future, I am sure she would use half of her income to do 'Christmas' for people.

She just got short-listed for the Npower program and she had alreaady promised her sister that was not short-listed N10k every month from the supposedly 30k that would be paid her. She didn't consider how she would relieve me of family expenses, though she helps with little she has or whenever her rich relatives gives her money. I don't bother myself about all these because I want to have a peaceful home.

OP, please free her, be her teacher and mentor. Guide her, don't intimidate her and she would come to love you more and more. Show concern to her and be her counsellor. Don't see yourself as the owner and ultimate decision maker.

Marriage requires patience, tact and understanding. Focus more on other important things that matter to you and once in a while, carry out checks and audit of her business and advises where necessary. As the leader of the home, patience is key. I always tell young men to be patient with their wives and serve as a guide. She will always cherish you.

My wife was very young when I married her. Just 22 years and she has grown under my tutelage and it is a continuous thing. So, please lead her and points out areas you need her to improve on in total love without being mean, demanding and authoritarian.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Ishilove: 10:12pm On Jun 02, 2021
Romanoff:
Your wife is financially, emotionally and psychologically immature.

The moment you get married, trivial issues should be settled and if there's miscommunication, it's best to seek clarity.

She needs proper counselling from someone she respects, preferably an older woman that's not her parent.

MODIFIED

Leaving the house and calling her father over an issue that could have been resolved is very wrong. You claimed she's not good with finances so it's obvious it's a flaw of hers and I understand you're trying to help her.

Your error is that you should have waited till you got home before talking about the apprentice and why she didn't collect money.

Small thing like that you told her you didn't want to see her, she now misunderstood it to mean she should leave.

Miscommunication.
Some men are like that. They know how to keep malice at the slightest issue. I really don't understand how you can love a person and still be comfortable keeping malice with them at very petty issues. There will definitely be miscommunication as long as you tackle matters by freezing out your partner instead of sitting down and hashing out issues like sensible adults.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Ishilove: 10:19pm On Jun 02, 2021
Focusmind:
I understand you OP. But from the look of things, you seems like a strict person and a micro manager. Your wife's behaviour is not different from mine when it comes to money and giving it freely to people.

I will struggle to give her money and at the end, some of the money will end up with people who are most in need of her mercy, even though she is not working. I ignore and move on. If I start business for her in future, I am sure she would use half of her income to do 'Christmas' for people.

She just got short-listed for the Npower program and she had alreaady promised her sister that was not short-listed N10k every month from the supposedly 30k that would be paid her. She didn't consider how she would relieve me of family expenses, though she helps with little she has or whenever her rich relatives gives her money. I don't bother myself about all these because I want to have a peaceful home.

OP, please free her, be her teacher and mentor. Guide her, don't intimidate her and she would come to love you more and more. Show concern to her and be her counsellor. Don't see yourself as the owner and ultimate decision maker.

Marriage requires patience, tact and understanding. Focus more on other important things that matter to you and once in a while, carry out checks and audit of her business and advises where necessary. As the leader of the home, patience is key. I always tell young men to be patient with their wives and serve as a guide. She will always cherish you.

My wife was very young when I married her. Just 22 years and she has grown under my tutelage and it is a continuous thing. So, please lead her and points out areas you need her to improve on in total love without being mean, demanding and authoritarian.
You are wise
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by ABANGWABOI(m): 11:09pm On Jun 02, 2021
Bola146:
Op is at fault, why monitoring her business like I don't understand?! Or you are expecting something huge like money back I'll do the same thing she did, a lot of artisans are training people for free, it's like empowerment!!! Many people want to learn but they don't have whom to sponsor them. Nobody knows tommorow, one of those she trained could give her a good link tommorow! Everything is not money!!!! You would have supported and encouraged her to do more. God bless the man I took two of neighbours to his wife for training, those ladies are SS 2 drop out, I told the wife I will pay like 4times because I just want to help their parents, also to get something doing instead of following bad boys around, the man called me that his wife told me I came to her shop, he said I shouldn't pay kobo that she was glad seeing someone to assist her in shop, I said I'll pay half, the man said he will compensate his wife, he is here on nairaland, those ladies are my tailors till tommorow, they are just too good! Op should learn how to give out a little from what God has blessed you with. Everything is not money please


Your wife did wrong by moving out of the house, haba! For what

She did it wrong by leaving the house too, it not up to that.


Oya DM me the details of the more palatable one amongst those girls... Let me take it up from there to another level..
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Lonelypacifist6: 1:27am On Jun 03, 2021
Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments
The bolded is the major reason They set up businesses and fail at it! Enroll her to business management classes Maybe she'll learn also limit involvement in her business you can't keep floating a failing business also limit your contacts with in-laws because it seems you have a close relationship with your FIL it's does not command respect.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Lonelypacifist6: 1:39am On Jun 03, 2021
QorQe:



.. What understanding can be without love

Love is the bedrock of everything

I'm seeing a young man here ranting the wife this and that, father in law this and that, but he buried his own which is his lack of love and hatred for the wife and the family


I saw my dad and my mum in good times and not so good times. No no no. The op is deranged and should be sentenced to a year's counselling. Same as the wife hoarding resources
You hate someone and keep floating their business! How? You see Women in support of the wife? It's because they've never been in the shoes, they don't know what it takes to continuously fund a business that's being mismanaged by another.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Lonelypacifist6: 1:46am On Jun 03, 2021
sisisioge:



Haba, it's a business not a charity case fa. According to the story, this was her first apprentist and shes doing probono. No nau. The rent wasnt free, neither was the rest of the setup cost. She should at least get a chunk payment to repay one of her equipment back. That's how most tailors make money.


If her goal was to have a helping hand, she could have just told the guy that the opportunity cost of her apprenticeship is a maid/service girl. Equation balanced! A business is an entity fa, not a human. One of the reasons most startup dont make it beyond the first 5years is pure mismanagement.

As par the content of their fight, that one dey irritating. All the disrespect because they couldn't have a simple intelligent conversation. For the context though, the guy is within rights to demand accountability from the madam since he is the sole investor and she the executive director
If only people were as sensible as this.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by MMotimo: 3:37am On Jun 03, 2021
The wife is not ungrateful, she’s just not competent as an entrepreneur in that field, it’s the husband that has unrealistic expectations.
Not everyone is cut out for business and it doesn’t sound like she exhibited anything to suggest she could be a successful business owner. If someone cannot even produce a viable business plan, one that makes sense for their circumstances, that’s your cue to not open a business for them unless you are willing to gamble with your money.
If you’re going to open a business for someone and it’s not a gamble you are okay losing, keep a close eye on things to make sure things are going well. If that’s not possible, dash them the money and comot eye.
With the high rate of small business failures, I don’t know why we assume people are ready or capable.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Arsenate(m): 4:38am On Jun 03, 2021
Riplogic:
But why is everyone trying to show like the op is the one who made 100% of the mistake?

Is it true that women are always right?
Literally what they will have you believe if you bring your relationship issues to this section, lmao. They'll just twist the narrative and eventually make you out the villain grin. They are well skilled at that around here. Just pointless bringing your relationship issues here as a man, and I wonder why men still bother.
Too bias.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Arsenate(m): 4:44am On Jun 03, 2021
urhoboman:


You are calling someone ungrateful while you are the ungrateful one.
You mean the one who invests his resources into their spouse's business is the ungrateful one. Chai nothing i no go read for this section. grin
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by AeroplaneApple: 7:08am On Jun 03, 2021
Arsenate:

You mean the one who invests his resources into their spouse's business is the ungrateful one. Chai nothing i no go read for this section. grin

Sometimes you just have to read, smile and ignore such posts lol
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by AeroplaneApple: 7:10am On Jun 03, 2021
@op women can not draw the line between business and emotions. You have to lead her right and explain where she's going wrong.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Gloriagee(f): 7:56am On Jun 03, 2021
You are so damn harsh. May i never cross path with your type. One intern that could bring blessings your way be causing all this drama. Kwantinu , u hear

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by NoToPile: 8:33am On Jun 03, 2021
bukatyne:
I have read the OP and it is like drama.

I am still wondering what initially trigged the husband:

Is it the proverb 'money will come & go however people would remain'? Aka people are more important than money?


Isn't it a very common Yoruba belief with its sister phrase 'eyan laso' people are your covering?

Did I miss something?

I was wondering if I missed anything too, had to read the post twice.




@ topic you should have just enlightened her on the financial aspect that's all, I even suspect she needs help in the shop thats why she took this first apprentice like that, the matter no reach this level of being a G.O fagunwa on her in the shop na, kilowade. She even apologized as you said.

You now told her you would appreciate your eyes not meeting her that night, ontop wetin na , she took the threat very serious and maybe she was actually scared of what you might do that's why she called her people and her father told her to go to your fathers house which is not a bad move.


Op this matter is not up to this level at all

Ungrateful wife because of this matter ?

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Icesnow(f): 10:56am On Jun 03, 2021
Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments
You tried as regards d investment but u seem to be proud.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Icesnow(f): 11:09am On Jun 03, 2021
sisisioge:
Sometimes, I get amused by things that cause fights between couples. This matter is very simple, since you feel like you arent getting ROI from your investment, you should ensure to withdraw any subsequent investment. No more paying her rent, no more buying machine...just tell her Nigeria hard anytime she request for money for her business. Issue resolve. She will learn to bill correctly for her service.

Why will you be fighting biko? Matter wey never reach. If the thing pain you too much sef, you can go there one day with a friend who pretends he's inpounding two of her top machines because you borrowed from him to pay...therefore, you need to reach a repayment plan with him. Whew! It is well jare.
Are u a female? May God never let my sister have u as Sister in Law except u r being sarcastic with this post of yours.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Icesnow(f): 11:13am On Jun 03, 2021
Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments
What I can deduce. Pride from u, lack of love( u even hate her family) temper and too strict.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Sarsaproko: 4:03pm On Jun 03, 2021
Let me fry plantain to this..
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by udomonday: 6:25pm On Jun 03, 2021
chatinent:
It's understandable.

Please, try and be understanding more. You can tell her not to allow any free new interns any longer. Don't let it ruin your marriage.

Her remark could also have been an innocent one. Of course, I know it hurts when money is involved.

Speak to her concerning all you think with a mild voice but clear terms on recruiting interns.

Marriage is not a part-time thing.


Secondly, I don't support her leaving home and her parent's defensive taunts. However, let your words be seasoned with salt always when you respond.

I see a grateful wife, bro. Relate with her more like a friend! Teach her business ethics! Don't reject her food because of anger for her inexperience. Be her tutor, husband, friend, client, and future.


Thank you.
sounds like what my wife does.whenever she cooks she makes sure she shares the food to as many neighbours as possible sometimes I wonder if she is mother Christmas or if she gets the food items free in the market.but having grown to understand her and seeing that its her caring nature and self sacrificing spirit.I just let her be as long as it doesn't deprive us of anything.

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by bukatyne(f): 7:49pm On Jun 03, 2021
NoToPile:


I was wondering if I missed anything too, had to read the post twice.




@ topic you should have just enlightened her on the financial aspect that's all, I even suspect she needs help in the shop thats why she took this first apprentice like that, the matter no reach this level of being a G.O fagunwa on her in the shop na, kilowade. She even apologized as you said.

You now told her you would appreciate your eyes not meeting her that night, ontop wetin na , she took the threat very serious and maybe she was actually scared of what you might do that's why she called her people and her father told her to go to your fathers house which is not a bad move.


Op this matter is not up to this level at all

Ungrateful wife because of this matter ?

When you find it, let me know.

If it was Nollywood, I would say Village People were pressing remote.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jun 03, 2021
QorQe:
You have entitlement mentality. The daughter desist being his blood because you married her. You are a child.

The father told her to go your father. That is bad counsel abi. That's why you feel entitled. You're too proud, too strict to have sensible relations, cause if it's not your way, it's no other way

Your heart is sick and not healthy and because of the state of your heart, you can't form healthy stable relations.


1. The title of your thread suggests your psyche about your own wife... " An ungrateful wife " meanwhile, people buy their wife's extremely expensive things you're acting God because you saw her through some tough times. Yes, you deserve her loyalty for that, but here you're placing demands for God-like worship which makes you unhealthy.






2. The father always supports his daughter. Should the father leave his daughter to support you? Even at that, you haven't heard from the father, yet you have judged. The notion the father always supports the daughter without lending ear for objective rationale of the dad makes you an extremely judgmental person who hates people. You hate your wife and her family and it has formed your perspective in anything with them



3. Your energy says it all. Any sound human who patiently absorbs the content of your post would feel the overwhelming energy that is in your heart and surrounds your decisions..


. You need counselling.


She needs counselling




You both don't love yourselves enough to be a family. And it's clear to see.

This is a wrong way to present your points. You are guilty of all you accuse the OP. I will not have the time to analyze your comments but I appeal refrain from passing your perspective on issues in such a cruel and Blunt manner.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by MummyD2020(f): 9:18pm On Jun 03, 2021
Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments

Oga, as a woman, all i can say is communication. You guys should have a deep conversation and straighten the whole thing out. Stand your ground too
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by MummyD2020(f): 9:31pm On Jun 03, 2021
I love how women are just analysing this story. Its reassuring

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by QorQe: 9:47pm On Jun 03, 2021
ejibaba:


This is a wrong way to present your points. You are guilty of all you accuse the OP. I will not have the time to analyze your comments but I appeal refrain from passing your perspective on issues in such a cruel and Blunt manner.



Shut up. Shut up. Just shut up there. If you have anything worth it to say, say it. Otherwise shut up
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by QorQe: 9:52pm On Jun 03, 2021
MMotimo:
The wife is not ungrateful, she’s just not competent as an entrepreneur in that field, it’s the husband that has unrealistic expectations.
Not everyone is cut out for business and it doesn’t sound like she exhibited anything to suggest she could be a successful business owner. If someone cannot even produce a viable business plan, one that makes sense for their circumstances, that’s your cue to not open a business for them unless you are willing to gamble with your money.
If you’re going to open a business for someone and it’s not a gamble you are okay losing, keep a close eye on things to make sure things are going well. If that’s not possible, dash them the money and comot eye.
With the high rate of small business failures, I don’t know why we assume people are ready or capable.





A wife not a business manager.

Women having businesses many times in marriage is to shield them from other work places Experiences, protect the marriage. Keep her busy etc. Not to make money. Never


That's what setting up a business for a wife is about. To keep her busy, engaged, distracted, fun, involved in something outside home management not to make excellent business profits. It won't work that way. Which is why she can allow ten people intern around her. Not for the money they bring. But the company, the comfort, sisterly being there for the younger generation. It's also a calling


Let's get it right and stop putting down our women plz.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Nobody: 10:57pm On Jun 03, 2021
QorQe:




Shut up. Shut up. Just shut up there. If you have anything worth it to say, say it. Otherwise shut up

Displaying irritable irresponsibility.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by lykwhoishe: 2:09am On Jun 04, 2021
Your wife is displaying typical woman nature. She packed out of the house cuz u were obviously angry at something she did. She wants u to make her feel good abt the whole thing and maybe apologize join, ignore her. But don't ever think say Ur wife nor go wise up as per her business dealings, she definitely will. There's a reason it's called weaknesses, so don't expect that those Ur reasons will fly in her eyes immediately. Continue to sound it, she's not asking why she should do some things, she's maybe asking how she should do em. Show her

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Re: An Ungrateful Wife by QorQe: 5:39am On Jun 04, 2021
ejibaba:


Displaying irritable irresponsibility.

Get lost. Noise maker. If you have depth displayed it otherwise get lost.
Re: An Ungrateful Wife by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jun 04, 2021
QorQe:


Get lost. Noise maker. If you have depth displayed it otherwise get lost.

“display” not displayed Oga abi Madam depth.

Olodo

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