https://www.nairaland.com/6590605/what-skill-learn-short-time

In response to this thread where the OP called his dad almost deadbeat, lots of people condemned him for using such a derogatory words to his father while a few defended him.
Many people find it very provocative and some even say he would understand when he become a father.
In as much as I respect elderly people like our parents there are certain things that they do that provoke their children and I'm currently a victim of such provocation.
Even the Bible says " parents provoke not your children"
I will attribute it to illiteracy and poor judgement on the part of the father.
Most father's would not come to terms with the current realities that young graduate are passing in this dispensation where job is like a scarce commodity. Do they think that 2021 is still 1970 where as you are graduating a government job is waiting for us?
They assumed that the money spent on usis a waste because we couldn't get a job to and they tend to frustrate the already frustrated youth.
My father had done worse to me that what he might have done to the OP.
When I finish service I was looking for an accommodation, I told him about it for him to assist me getting an accommodation in Lagos since the place I was leaving with him is very far from from Lagos. My sister that was about to vacate her house in Lagos to relocate to another state, I told my father that I would go and renew it but he refused me going there and began threatening me not to near the house. He rented it for her and my sister brought another lady to be staying with her, so instead of me going there he want the girl to keep on living in the house.
Imagine your son who need a accommodation to start working, but he wouldn't allow me renew it but prefer a stranger. These are few of the provocation he has metted me.
So I wouldn't blame the guy for calling his father name because many fathers are provocking their children.
If not that I'm a patient guy I would have called him names.
Father's should stop provoking their children

So, you wanted your dad to evict the "stranger" that was already occupying the apartment for your sake just because you're his son?
Do you think that would've been fair?
How would you feel if that was done to you (by another father)?
I think your dad is a fair and just man.

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Legendguy:
https://www.nairaland.com/6590605/what-skill-learn-short-time

In response to this thread where the OP called his dad almost deadbeat, lots of people condemned him for using such a derogatory words to his father while a few defended him.
Many people find it very provocative and some even say he would understand when he become a father.
In as much as I respect elderly people like our parents there are certain things that they do that provoke their children and I'm currently a victim of such provocation.
Even the Bible says " parents provoke not your children"
I will attribute it to illiteracy and poor judgement on the part of the father.
Most father's would not come to terms with the current realities that young graduate are passing in this dispensation where job is like a scarce commodity. Do they think that 2021 is still 1970 where as you are graduating a government job is waiting for us?
They assumed that the money spent on usis a waste because we couldn't get a job to and they tend to frustrate the already frustrated youth.
My father had done worse to me that what he might have done to the OP.
When I finish service I was looking for an accommodation, I told him about it for him to assist me getting an accommodation in Lagos since the place I was leaving with him is very far from from Lagos. My sister that was about to vacate her house in Lagos to relocate to another state, I told my father that I would go and renew it but he refused me going there and began threatening me not to near the house. He rented it for her and my sister brought another lady to be staying with her, so instead of me going there he want the girl to keep on living in the house.
Imagine your son who need a accommodation to start working, but he wouldn't allow me renew it but prefer a stranger. These are few of the provocation he has metted me.
So I wouldn't blame the guy for calling his father name because many fathers are provocking their children.
If not that I'm a patient guy I would have called him names.
Father's should stop provoking their children

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Grow up and be a man and stop talking like a child

Grow up

Bola146:

hum mm I understand

debbydams:
hum mm I understand

heey

Jacksparrow7:
heey

who's heey ..pls next time u can say hello

could someone imagine.

debbydams:
who's heey ..pls next time u can say hello

@Op please dont be surprised with the kind of responses you will get.
You have made very good points.
A lot of parents in Nigeria are bad parents, these parents have emotionally damaged their children and continue to abuse them psycologically. They use the scripture and other cultural practises to evade accountability and responsibility.
A parent is accountable and responsible for the child he has.
A parent is not doing a child a favour by feeding him of paying his school fees.
Unfortunately, many people have allowed poor sentiments to prevent them from being objective when parents are involved.
Parents are not saints and going by what we see in Nigeria, many parents are bad parents who deserve to be reprimanded.

Since most Nigerians lack the capacity for critical and objective reasoning as is obvious from many posts on Nairaland, it will be difficult for many people to fully understand and objectively discuss issues regarding parents.

You will see some parents, making it almost impossible for their daughters to marry with unrealistic bride price, some parents are even responsible for dissolving their own child marriage because of greed and jealousy of the child spouse...

My advise to people with toxic parents is to pretend that you do not have parents, then buckle up your shoes and work hard. Do not reveal your secrets to them, try and deal with your issues by yourself, lastly, pray for God to bless you with a good wife and a loving family so that you can shower your love on them.

I am not saying you should not help your parents, but if your parents are toxic, learn to draw a line with them and dont allow them abuse you emotionally and lead you to depression.