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Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

You did the right thing bro and I will advice you not to get use to the front seat because it's just a matter of time before things (attitude) will change.

You did the right thing bro.

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

This is only up for discussion in naija

For me it was wrong. As long as the wife met you in the front seat, you should stay until you alight except the husband or wife pleaded with you to move to the back seat.

For me, when am driving whoever sits in the front first as long as you are an adult is ok

Since this post no concern me, let me use dis opportunity to extend my condolence to Michael Jackson's family. I don't have data when he died..ohh wat a huge loss of such a great footballer..

Reptyle:
For some women, it is so much of a big deal that they will take exception if their mother-in-law or even their own mother decides to take the front seat.

I have a friend whose wife kicked up a very big fight by pointedly telling her mother-in-law to vacate the front seat where she was already seated and get into the back. The mother-in-law came down and angrily decided to take a cab to the venue of the event. Husband got angry, came down, and decided not to go to the event, and "madam front seat" was left alone to drive herself to the event. This incident happened last year. But I can tell you that things are yet to return to normal in that home even today because of that singular incident.

I do not know why people make an issue of small things like where to sit in a car.

The bold is madness!
U mean a girl will ask her mother already seated at the front seat to go to the back? I don't believe any normal human will try that. Your friend is weak, reason his wife had the guts to ask his mother to vacate front seat when she was already seated!

Both of them would later discuss the wisdom and courtesy u displayed.

You did the right thing.

You did well bro. It's courtesy.if you hadn't don't that,you might have created a bad impression.
Honestly,if I were the wife and you refused to vacate the front seat,i wouldn't say anything but I'd find my way home myself.

The woman too do sef. What's her own? She should just say thank you and move on. All these wife material 100 yards talk isn't necessary.

gasparpisciotta:
It was a matter of courtesy, respect for yourself and the lady.

You did right...!!!! Better you do that than be asked to vacate the seat.

Exactly ! and how it should be ...courtesy. A personal story, my brother whom I had not seen in 7 years came by to see the kids. As we went to pick him up, my wife vacated the front seat for him. I asked why, she said because you havent seen him in a long time. You can talk and look at him while we drive. My brother gets to the vehicle and opens the back seat but I waved him to seat upfront. He was shocked and explained that wife vacated the seat for him. He thanked her and we spoke. On the return, he sat at the back. The vehicle is hers as much as mine. Unless vacated or offered all 3rd wheelers should sit at the back.

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

you did the right thing bro, but i think the wife respects you more and feels you deserve to seat with your friend and your brother.

fof1:
You are really EMPTY and sounds Unwell inside... Loud Fellows like You are Reasons for Society's Confusion.

lol Choi see painment, u sef dey chill for bstop fr free ride

I feel its the right thing to do but it just occurred to me that my best friend wife do vacate front seat for me to sear with my guy anytime we are to go out. Although I tried caution her but she said that I and my friend has been best of friends since childhood and she won't want to come between us

Rubbiish:
The bold is madness!
U mean a girl will ask her mother already seated at the front seat to go to the back? I don't believe any normal human will try that. Your friend is weak, reason his wife had the guts to ask his mother to vacate front seat when she was already seated!

Hmmm! There are a lot of things that do not make sense to me about this "woke generation." This front seat drama takes the cake.

If I had not witnessed it happen between my friend and his wife, I would have thought such was only found in Nollywood.

9japride:
Its wrong to do that, it shows pretence. Its just African mentality and mediocrity. It could have been different if you guys weren't in motion first and she joined you guys. But as far as you guys where already in motion, no need to give way. Its when you finally reach your destination that she can then come to the front seat. Its all these yeye pretence that encourages elders in the society to messed up the system for the youths.

Op might not be pretentious with this act. However, I agree to the latter half of your post

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

You did the right thing ... I would have done the same thing .....

E better you respect yourself and they respect you in return ...... If you use strong head, the same woman will convince her husband to stop conveying you ............. She may even start giving you attitude .. D .....

Now, you just earn yourself total respect from the woman and na she will recommend you give her husband sef ..... Go help the day they fight, she will use you as a case study for respect ...... Woman like to be accorded

Human brain and deception .... she happy oo, she go come still pretend small but some dried brain lady no go mind .... she go even wan make una drop comot car

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

Remember the saying "different people, different stroke"

Rubbiish:
The bold is madness!
U mean a girl will ask her mother already seated at the front seat to go to the back? I don't believe any normal human will try that. Your friend is weak, reason his wife had the guts to ask his mother to vacate front seat when she was already seated!

To be honest - Everyone is at fault.
There was obviously some deep seated hatred between the wife and mother-inlaw which peaked during this incident which the husband would have known about.
My mother-in-law always seat in the back, unless I am specifically driving her somewhere without her daughter. But if for some reason, she seats in the front, it is rude to demand that she move. That is something you discuss with her husband in private.
Why I rebuke the hubby is that you leave your parents behind and cleave to your wife and you are both one. Your loyalty is to your wife - your family.
The parents of the husband are liken to the wife's parents - would she ask .....no demand that her own mother change seats. ?

OP must be a Yoruba guy...

If you know, you know...

OP why are you overreacting? You did the right thing. If I was her husband I wouldn’t be comfortable if she sat at the rear

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

Your actions smacks much of eye service caused by filling your head with junks from social media. It was right for your friend to be livid about your decision to move to the back. Since you all were already in transit, there was absolutely no need to change seats. Whatever works for you though.

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

No you are not. It shows you have common sense.

emmyN:
Your actions smacks much of eye service caused by filling your head with junks from social media. It was right for your friend to be livid about your decision to move to the back. Since you all were already in transit, there was absolutely no need to change seats. Whatever works for you though.

He did the proper thing. Its not eye service. The car technically belongs to the wife too.

RPirez:
OP must be a Yoruba guy...

If you know, you know...

So?

They av said it all, so no comemess.

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

Bikk u are a gentleman , u did right

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

You accorded her with respect,both husband and wife are sensible.
incase of other time just stick to what the car owner said

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

I once had serious issues with my wife because I let my friend seat in front instead of her. She called it disrespect to her while personally I saw nothing wrong if she seats at the back with her children instead of a stranger seating with them.

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

Guy u r the most sensible person.. u have really tread with caution, you done the right thing...

Mind u ur guy n the wife r set of humble people.. make una mingle with peace una be coded Padi..

One of my foolish friend will glue to the front... Even if I had carried my wife first he will be relunctant to sit at the back.. African are something else with their stupid ego

Stankovic22:
Good evening nairalanders!

This is what happened. A friend of mine who is like a brother to me and has impacted my life positively in every way bought a new car. We work together and live in the same neighborhood so we go-to work together.

It happens that I do sit in front with him always while the third guy stays at the back. So today, on our way back from work, the wife called for him to come pick her and when we got close and stuck in traffic, I decided to vacate the front seat and move to join the other guy at the back but while trying to go my friend was like guy where u dey go... I say I wan create space for Iyawo and he was like Wetin dey worry u, sit down jor but I insisted and went to the back.

So when we beat the traffic and picked up the wife she was like why is the front seat vacant and my friend said... He left the seat for u... The wife was like, please its wrong, that I shouldn't have left.

I was like its your space and I felt it was the right thing to do, to join my other guy at the back before we get to you.

People was I wrong to have vacated the seat?

How does this affect Nigeria? Or you want to just look for talk?