Hello good day y'all

We all know how people frown against sleeping with a married woman So I've been wondering if there's any repercussion in getting married to a divorced woman since she's no longer married.

Picture the scenario below:

A young couple trying to build their career couldn't end up together because one of them was under serious pressure from home to get married ASAP and she obliged . Two years later the other got married and they both kept the communication line open.

Now they both have children with their different spouses and I'll say they are both financially okay.

Right now the lady is willing to divorce her husband and come back to her former lover while the man also wants to divorce his wife but the bone of contention is that the lady's husband is refusing the bride price and the lady's family are not in support of her decision.

If they eventually go ahead and get married are there going to be repercussions.

They can't go ahead to marry themselves especially when the woman is still legally married and not yet a divorcee.

greenie77:
They can't go ahead to marry themselves especially when the woman is still legally married and not yet a divorcee.

They are not in a rush to get married now till after the divorce process. The thing is since the man didn't accept the bride price is she still married traditionally to the man ?

Brandonx:


They are not in a rush to get married now till after the divorce process. The thing is since the man didn't accept the bride price is she still married traditionally to the man ?

Yes, still traditionally married to him. Only her family can push for the return of the bride price but from your narration, they are also against the divorce.

I don't understand, the foundation is faulty

How some people entangle themselves in this kind of bizarre situationships sha

greenie77:


Yes, still traditionally married to him. Only her family can push for the return of the bride price but from your narration, they are also against the divorce.

Yeah the family don't want the divorce.

can she move to to the lover's house without some evil befalling them since the bride price wasn't returned ?

uncleiykeman:
This guy set.... You want to snatch another man's wife abia? Your own space for oku ala mmou go be for V.I.P section

It's not snatching, it was a unanimous decision.

Amanee:
How some people entangle themselves in this kind of bizarre situationships sha

It's not something anyone would wish for.

Brandonx:


Yeah the family don't want the divorce.

can she move to to the lover's house without some evil befalling them since the bride price wasn't returned ?

Going by Igbo tradition, moving into the lover's house while married to her husband is regarded as abscondment and co+habitation and at least from my own part of igboland, the child/children the woman will have for her lover will never belong to the.man (lover) as those children will belong to the recognized husband as the bride price he paid is still valid or worse still, the children will belong to the woman's birth family as the lover is regarded as a stranger.

From your story, is the woman.planning to leave her children with their father while the man leave his own children with their mother?

Hmmmm....so you are both going to leave your spouses for each other? Chai...how we for do? Did they get married in court? They must each divorce properly before they hook up with each other o. It is well.

Don't do it, don't even think of it.

greenie77:


Going by Igbo tradition, moving into the lover's house while married to her husband is regarded as abscondment and co+habitation and at least from my own part of igboland, the child/children the woman will have for her lover will never belong to the.man (lover) as those children will belong to the recognized husband as the bride price he paid is still valid or worse still, the children will belong to the woman's birth family as the lover is regarded as a stranger.

From your story, is the woman.planning to leave her children with their father while the man leave his own children with their mother?

She's igbo and she's bringing her kids while the man's child is going with the Ex.

So the only repercussion is the children won't be recognise by the woman's family.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....so you are both going to leave your spouses for each other? Chai...how we for do? Did they get married in court? They must each divorce properly before they hook up with each other o. It is well.

That's the plan the only issue is the woman's family kicking against it.

Brandonx:


She's igbo and she's bringing her kids while the man's child is going with the Ex.

So the only repercussion is the children won't be recognise by the woman's family.

She has no right to take away the children away from their father...no grounds for that. The children will likely belong to her father as the present husband will not want to carry the load of raising another man's children.

Going by the title of this thread, both of them are yet to be a divorcée.

Selfish wickedness.

greenie77:


She has no right to take away the children away from their father...no grounds for that. The children will likely belong to her father as the present husband will not want to carry the load of raising another man's children.

Going by the title of this thread, both of them are yet to be a divorcée.

Just a child 2 years old she obviously can't leave her behind.

Yet to divorce but I'm looking at anything that might cause problem later in future.

uncleiykeman:


It is adultery, wether you call it snatching or unanimous. It is a sin before man and God

Is not better to be a divorcée than an adulterer?

It is one thing to marry an already divorced woman, and another thing to indirectly instigate the divorce yourself.
It is a direct violation of the 10th commandment "thou shall not covet thy neighbor's wife ..." It never ends well.
If you really love this woman, just let her be and totally disconnect all romantic actions towards her.
If it is God's will for you two to end up together in the future, nothing will stop it, but you will have nothing to do with it happening.
It will somehow fall into your laps, if God wants it to happen.
Tricky problem, because emotions (particularly sexually laced ones) are not easy to tame.

No repercussion, except one of the actors is from Akwa Ibom. I personally belief a man's happiness and inner peace should come first irrespective of traditions, people's opinions and who ever will get hurt.

If only the lady didn't bow to pressure of getting married, all these wouldn't have happened, selfishness from both parties is on display here but everyone has the right to be happy, sadly, both of their partners will have to suffer for what isn't their fault at all, I hope this decision from the intended divorcees will not end in regret.