I stumbled on a thread about a husband complaining of his wife's habit of kissing their 6 month old boy in the mouth. The comments was almost one-sided against the OP and supporting the act, hence i see nothing wrong in a mother kissing her baby, it doesn't come without it's disadvantages.
This is the link for thread https://www.nairaland.com/6776450/told-wife-not-kiss-6-month-old

I was in this ship not too long ago when severally, i'd found my wife kissing our boy in the mouth and making gestures at it. She'd often tell the baby to 'kiss daddy', and the baby would draw his lips to kiss me, but i would decline.

I told my wife to desist from the act but she woudn't listen, so i gave her a timeline to stop immediately the baby turns one year. I don't know if she has stopped the act, but she doesn't do it anymore in my presence but i noticed that my boy (who is 2 years this past month) would open his mouth and tries to kiss me each time we were together, he would request for it more often, i'd simply show him my cheeks to kiss (peck), and guess what? He had already started twisting his tongue while kissing my cheeks.

Are there no other ways to show motherly affection asides kissing directly in the mouth? Who knows if our boy is doing this to any other person? Who knows if he would repeat the act to our maid? It's true the baby is naive, but there is a clear consequences and it can go horribly wrong in a hurry.

This is for those supporting the act and bashing the OP, there is a clear consequences to this act and mothers need to stop immediately or atleast put an end when the baby approaches one year.

HIbreed:
Are there no other ways to show motherly affection asides kissing directly in the mouth? Who knows if our boy is doing this to any other person? Who knows if he would repeat the act to our maid? It's true the baby is naive, but there is a clear consequences and it can go horribly wrong in a hurry.

This is for those supporting the act and bashing the OP, there is a clear consequences to this act and mothers need to stop immediately or atleast put an end when the baby approaches one year.

Your case is not at all like that of the other OP, so don't attempt to equate them.

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Back to your thread...
What do you mean when you say the baby has already started twisting his tongue while kissing your cheeks?
What is it you are afraid of where your 2-year old is concerned?
Do you give your boy to any other person you are afraid might take advantage of him?
Have you asked your maid?
You suggest that it can go horribly wrong, meaning?

the comments on the first page of the thread u are talking about were very irritating. the act wasn't only normalized, the bashing and insults they rained on the OP got me wondering how people reason when a woman is involved

the annoying part was the fact that most of those useless comments supporting the woman were made by so called men.
"Turn the table," that's, it's the man and his daughter.
and watch how fast those godforsaken simps wld hang him.

the most irritating part of the of the situation and reactions was the fact that the op said there's a little girl staying in their house who sees this and might want to try. yet he asked to see a doctor. SMH mother's love indeed

Kobojunkie:
Your case is not at all like that of the other OP, so don't attempt to equate them.

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Back to your thread...
What do you mean when you say the baby has already started twisting his tongue while kissing your cheeks?
What is it you are afraid of where your 2-year old is concerned?
Do you give your boy to any other person you are afraid might take advantage of him?
Have you asked your maid?
You suggest that it can go horribly wrong, meaning?

if you're not concerned that little boy would go around trying to kiss strangers then i am. Maybe you're still single to know that kids copies everything!! Every damn details, and they would act it!! i have reasons to be worried.

Are we supposed to be the only one who handles or stays with my boy?

Should i ask my maid? Like wtf man!!

Kobojunkie:
Your case is not at all like that of the other OP, so don't attempt to equate them.

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Back to your thread...
What do you mean when you say the baby has already started twisting his tongue while kissing your cheeks?
What is it you are afraid of where your 2-year old is concerned?
Do you give your boy to any other person you are afraid might take advantage of him?
Have you asked your maid?
You suggest that it can go horribly wrong, meaning?

Are you saying his boy came out of the womb knowing how to kiss?
how are they not alike?

GIdiata:


Are you saying his boy came out of the womb knowing how to kiss?
how are they not alike?

perhaps he's one of those bashing the OP on the other thread.

HIbreed:

if you're not concerned that little boy would go around trying to kiss strangers then i am. Maybe you're still single to know that kids copies everything!!

Are we supposed to be the only one who handles or stays with my boy?
Should i ask my maid? Like wtf man!!

You are afraid your 2- year old will go around without its fatter and mother kissing strangers?

You have strangers that take care of your 2-year old?

You can't ask your own maid questions?

GIdiata:
Are you saying his boy came out of the womb knowing how to kiss?
how are they not alike?

I don't know the reasoning behind this question of yours.

HIbreed:
perhaps he's one of those bashing the OP on the other thread.

Though I can't say, but from his post and comment, I don't think so

Kobojunkie:
You are afraid your 2- year old will go around without its fatter and mother kissing strangers?

You have strangers that take care of your 2-year old?

You can't ask your own maid questions?

2 year olds doesn't go to school, he don't get to meet extended families, he doesn't play with kids his age, vice versa.
Like ask our maid if my son had been kissing her. Kaii

Kobojunkie:
I don't know the reasoning behind this question of yours.

it's glaring sir/ma

what this op is complaining about today started about 2 years ago. someone was kissing the child, he complained, but she didn't stop "in the name of mother's love". had he brought it here, u guys will ask him to go see a doctor.

both OPs know it might lead the wrong way

HIbreed:
2 year olds doesn't go to school, he don't get to meet extended families, he doesn't play with kids his age, vice versa.

You tell me.

Look, I have a sister whose youngest boy only turned 3 barely 2 months ago. He still kisses his mom on the lips - all 3 of her sons still kiss her on the lips, and the oldest is about 8 years of age. The 3-year old toddler, even when he was 2 didn't go about kissing the lips of strangers, not even his grandmother's lips, let alone the lips of others in the extended family. He strictly does this with his dad and mum, to this day.

If you feel your child is a kid that goes around kissing strangers on the lips, then you should probably keep your child away from strangers. Ask the maid if you don't know what your child in fact does, and help keep your child safe from strangers until it is better able to learn who to kiss and who is a No No

Kobojunkie:
You tell me.

Look, I have no sister whose youngest boy only turned 3 barely 2 months ago. He still kisses his mom on the lips - all 3 of her sons still kiss her on the lips, and the oldest is about 8 years of age. The 3-year old toddler, even when he was 2 didn't go about kissing the lips of strangers, not even his grandmother's lips, let alone the lips of others in the extended family. He strictly does it why his dad and and mum, to this day.

If you feel your child is a kid that goes around kissing strangers on the lips, then you should probably keep your child away from strangers. Ask the maid if you don't know what your child in fact does, and help keep your child safe from strangers until it is better able to learn who to kiss and who is a No No

8 year old still kisses the mum on the lips. Impressive! Let them continue oo.

GIdiata:
It's glaring sir/ma

what this op is complaining about today started about 2 years ago. someone was kissing the child, he complained, but she didn't stop "in the name of mother's love". had he brought it here, u guys will ask him to go see a doctor.

both OPs know it might lead the wrong way

So you, the doctor here, believe that that reason OP's child goes around kissing strangers is because he was kissed by his mother as a baby?

Stop comparing this OP with the other. Focus!

HIbreed:

8 year old still kisses the mum on the lips. Impressive! Let them continue oo.

Again, If you feel your child is a kid that goes around kissing strangers on the lips, then you should probably keep your child away from strangers. Ask the maid if you don't know what your child in fact does, and help keep your child safe from strangers until it is better able to learn who to kiss and who is a No No

What a man can do

A woman can do worse

Kobojunkie:
So you, the doctor here, believe that that reason OP's child goes around kissing strangers is because he was kissed by his mother as a baby?

Stop comparing this OP with the other. Focus!

Sir/ma shey comprehension dey hard you ni?
isn't it obvious they're asking that op to see a doctor because they believe his mental health isn't ok?

GIdiata:

Sir/ma shey comprehension dey hard you ni?
isn't it obvious they're asking that op to see a doctor because they believe his mental health isn't ok?

um.... the other Op admitted that his main reason against his wife kissing his son in the mouth was because he was molested as a child and he didn't want it happening to his child. Why he was afraid of the housemaid. You didn't comprehend that part of his Op at all before commenting, did you?

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Kobojunkie:
Again, If you feel your child is a kid that goes around kissing strangers on the lips, then you should probably keep your child away from strangers Ask the maid if you don't know what your child in fact does, and help keep your child safe from strangers until it is better able to learn who to kiss and who is a No No

Imagine the stress and mental torture some one got to pass anytime their child is not around him or the mum because one woman refused to listen. in the name of mother's love

Anyway the future they say "is female" why would she listen wen she's not your slave? it's a free world with equal rights you can't command her ooo she no be slave

GIdiata:

Imagine the stress and mental torture some one got to pass anytime their child is not around him or the mum because one woman refused to listen. in the name of mother's love

Anyway the future they say "is female" why would she listen wen she's not your slave? it's a free world with equal rights you can't command her ooo she no be slave

This has nothing to to with future, and mothers kissing their babies on the mouth is nothing new.

My own mother kissed most all her babies on the lips as far back as the 80s during which she has most of them. I know because I watched her and helped her care for them too. None of them went off kissing strangers. None of them ended up molested by strangers since she never left them unattended nor did she abandon them with "strangers".

You want to blame whatever unconfirmed fears you have of your son kissing strangers on your wife showing him love and affection, go right ahead. She is your wife wife and he is your son after all.

Kobojunkie:
um.... the other Op admitted that his main reason against his wife kissing his son in the mouth was because he was molested as a child and he didn't want it happening to his child. Why he was afraid of the housemaid. You didn't comprehend that part of his Op at all before commenting, did you?

Meaning his head is really messed up right? what a pity sir/ma.

so the mental health of parents, especially mothers who doesn't allow male home tutor for their daughters Especially when they are not at home to monitor them is messed up right? they also need to see a doctor abi.

or it's only those parents that were abused in their youthful age that should see a doctor?

GIdiata:
Meaning his head is really messed up right? what a pity sir/ma.

so the mental health of parents, especially mothers who doesn't allow male home tutor for their daughters Especially when they are not at home to monitor them is messed up right? they also need to see a doctor abi.

or it's only those parents that were abused in their youthful age that should see a doctor?

This doesn't make any sense to me.

You still do not understand that Op's post at all. Please clean your mind and reread his post without bias.

My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

Dude, realizing that he may just be paranoid asked if he was wrong or overreacting and this because he realized his experience may be in the way of his reasoning on the issue.

Kobojunkie:
This has nothing to to with future, and mothers kissing their babies on the mouth is nothing new.

My own mother kissed most all her babies on the lips as far back as the 80s during which she has most of them I know because I watched her and helped her care for them too. None of them went off kissing strangers. None of them ended up molested by strangers since she never left them unattended nor did she abandon them with "strangers"

You want to blame whatever unconfirmed fears you have of your son kissing strangers on your wife showing him love and affection, go right ahead. She is your wife wife and he is your son after all.

it has something to do with the future and equality and everything because if your dad wasn't okay with it then, trust me the chances that he would be able to stop it is at least 75%

1. that was in the 18s Sir/ma. times have changed/changing. children learn faster now. the society have evolved and everyone is careful and skeptical.

2. its a good thing u acknowledged the fact that your mum never abandoned her kids with strangers. she was always there.
I hope the op's wife would always be there
I hope she do away with nannies especially young House helps (and if she does, she monitors them always)
recall there was no day care in the 80s

mothers kissing their children is nothing new doesn't make it right. or doesn't make the person who doesn't like it wrong. at least there should be a limit

GIdiata:

it has something to do with the future and equality and everything because if your dad wasn't okay with it then, trust me the chances that he would be able to stop it is at least 75%

1. that was in the 18s Sir/ma. times have changed/changing. children learn faster now. the society have evolved and everyone is careful and skeptical.

2. its a good thing u acknowledged the fact that your mum never abandoned her kids with strangers. she was always there.
I hope the op's wife would always be there
I hope she do away with nannies especially young House helps (and if she does, she monitors them always)
recall there was no day care in the 80s

mothers kissing their children is nothing new doesn't make it right. or doesn't make the person who doesn't like it wrong. at least there should be a limit

Future and equality in 1970s through 1980s? .

Abeg carry go!

Lip kissing isn’t very sanitary IMO. I know yes she’s the mom and yes she breastfed but oral flora does change with time and the kid doesn’t need that big of a bacterial load for whatever reason.
There’s no reason to do it.
Just kiss them on the face IF YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO.

Kobojunkie:
This doesn't make any sense to me.

You still do not understand that Op's post at all. Please clean your mind and reread his post without bias.
Dude, realizing that he may just be paranoid asked if he was wrong or overreacting and this because he realized his experience may be in the way of his reasoning on the issue.

it's obvious u didn't read everything I typed. if u had, u would have seen this "or it's only those parents that were abused in their youthful age that should see a doctor?

from your reasoning/comment, it's obvious that if parents that don't allow male tutor for their daughters tell you about their molestation story, ur type will say they are paranoid.

that's y in Nigeria we never open up to people. cos nigerians will always use it against you.

when u do something that contradicts their opinion, no matter what you say or do or feel or think doesn't matter. it's always about the past experience

Kobojunkie:
Future and equality in 1970s through 1980s? .

Abeg carry go!

I say na equality and future make him wife no listen to am wen him dey talk oga. u come say e no get anything to do with equality.

that's y im telling that is it was in the 80s wen the man was the head, if your dad wasn't ok with it, he has at least 75% chance of stopping it.
he didn't stop it because he was okay with it.

but today it's not so

GIdiata:

I say na equality and future make him wife no listen to am wen him dey talk oga. u come say e no get anything to do with equality.

that's y im telling that is it was in the 80s wen the man was the head, if your dad wasn't ok with it, he has at least 75% chance of stopping it.
he didn't stop it because he was okay with it.

but today it's not so

all these ramblings of yours makes no sense to me nor to the issue laid out by this Op. So I don't see why you are eager to dump what seems like personal grudges you harbor aagainst the opposite gender down here.

HIbreed:
I stumbled on a thread about a husband complaining of his wife's habit of kissing their 6 month old boy in the mouth. The comments was almost one-sided against the OP and supporting the act, hence i see nothing wrong in a mother kissing her baby, it doesn't come without it's disadvantages.
This is the link for thread https://www.nairaland.com/6776450/told-wife-not-kiss-6-month-old

I was in this ship not too long ago when severally, i'd found my wife kissing our boy in the mouth and making gestures at it. She'd often tell the baby to 'kiss daddy', and the baby would draw his lips to kiss me, but i would decline.

I told my wife to desist from the act but she woudn't listen, so i gave her a timeline to stop immediately the baby turns one year. I don't know if she has stopped the act, but she doesn't do it anymore in my presence but i noticed that my boy (who is 2 years this past month) would open his mouth and tries to kiss me each time we were together, he would request for it more often, i'd simply show him my cheeks to kiss (peck), and guess what? He had already started twisting his tongue while kissing my cheeks.

Are there no other ways to show motherly affection asides kissing directly in the mouth? Who knows if our boy is doing this to any other person? Who knows if he would repeat the act to our maid? It's true the baby is naive, but there is a clear consequences and it can go horribly wrong in a hurry.

This is for those supporting the act and bashing the OP, there is a clear consequences to this act and mothers need to stop immediately or atleast put an end when the baby approaches one year.

This is irritating. Everything is wrong about this act.

Kobojunkie:
You tell me.

Look, I have a sister whose youngest boy only turned 3 barely 2 months ago. He still kisses his mom on the lips - all 3 of her sons still kiss her on the lips, and the oldest is about 8 years of age. The 3-year old toddler, even when he was 2 didn't go about kissing the lips of strangers, not even his grandmother's lips, let alone the lips of others in the extended family. He strictly does this with his dad and mum, to this day.

If you feel your child is a kid that goes around kissing strangers on the lips, then you should probably keep your child away from strangers. Ask the maid if you don't know what your child in fact does, and help keep your child safe from strangers until it is better able to learn who to kiss and who is a No No

Something is definitely not right with your Sister. Have you by any chance ever heard of incest? Even as parents, there are limits to everything we do.

From the way majority bashed the OP from yesterdays thread one can deduce that we have a lot of idiots in this country.
I don't see why a baby should be kissed on the lips by its mum peck on the checks or forehead is fine.
Kissing your baby on the lips isn't about care or love.