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He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by officialmario(op): 6:12am On Nov 09, 2021
Good Morning Fellow Nairalanders
This story I want to share here is a true life story about my family
It happened that my father retired at the Nigerian Brewery PLC in Ibadan in the year 2005.
After his retirement we expected him to set up a small scale business, but knowing that he has another plan in mind.
I had just finished my secondary school when he retired,we are just four and I am the third born,. On the 10th of October my father travelled to United kingdom (UK), without telling anyone about it, it was when he got to the UK that one of his friend came to pass the news to us, it came as a shock to the whole family, the most painful part of it is that he went with his concubine who had giving birth to four children and divorce her husband, and they did court wedding in Lagos,
To cut the whole story short, life is not that easy for us as we had to look for means to survive, my mother is just a petty trader who earns little, I had to pick up a phone call business and I was earning 3k per month.
Life really went too rough for us but thank God we are able to survive..
My father came back last year from London, and it was with surprise because nobody was informed about his coming.
When he got to Nigeria, he had to stay in her younger sisters house in ondo state, so he fixed a day for get together, it was at the get together that he apologized and gave my mum 10k just to forget about what has happened in the past, he has not been sending any support to her right since he travelled


I have an advice and a question to ask on nairaland
Firstly, the advice goes to the ladies, Please and please, don't ever rely on any man to survive, always try as much as possible to work hard and never be a burden to any man, even if your husband ask you not to work, try and find a better business to do because you never can tell what tomorrow will bring..
The second is just a question, if you happens to be in my mother's shoe,Do you expect her to forgive such a man and then accept the 10k gift he offered without any other benefits?
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Stephen0mozzy:
What matters is whether he is sincere in His apology to YOUR MUM and his apology for abandoning you guys at a point y'all needed him the most. Also, whether he's coming back into your lives to make up for lost time or if the apology is as a result of an instruction from a prophet or ish....

The amount is irrelevant..because if he had given 1million.. You'd have also called it a bribe.

I dey come..
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by thorpido(m): 6:18am On Nov 09, 2021
If your mom and the rest of the family have been surviving all these years without him,you guys should pray that God should keep sustaining you.
You can do without him.The N10k is for what na?To buy cooking gas or half bag of rice?
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by NobleSeed(m): 6:24am On Nov 09, 2021
undecided
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by officialmario(op): 6:27am On Nov 09, 2021
thorpido:
If your mom and the rest of the family have been surviving all these years without him,you guys should pray that God should keep sustaining you.
You can do without him.The N10k is for what na?To buy cooking gas or half bag of rice?
That is what I don't know, or maybe for her transport fare.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Bola146(f): 6:27am On Nov 09, 2021
I know some ladies or women will never learn lesson from this, full house wife with no regular salary my foot sad Just thank God your mother is still alive. She should forgive him but she can never forget, abeg we are all human, he can never be trusted again, sleeping or too much intimacy can't be there.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by thesicilian: 6:28am On Nov 09, 2021
You guys should forgive him but let him return to where he came from.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by thorpido(m): 6:29am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
That is what I don't know, or maybe for her transport fare.
The man has only come back because he realized the grass is not greener on the other side.SMH for men like him.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by MEGA4BILLION(m): 6:36am On Nov 09, 2021
He can keep his 10k. I hate what I don't like. It is a slap to your mother, why add salt to the injury. Your should forgive him but tell him to keep his money.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by yomi007k(m): 6:40am On Nov 09, 2021
All I have to say is that I thank God for the type of parents I was given.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Nobody:
Hahahahaaaa 10k? mehn!!!!.... Theres no character you guys will not exibit.

First and foremost, "to err is human and to forgive is divine*. So on this note, I'll say your Mom should "FORGIVE" him but as for accepting him back, no way!

Who knows the baggage of problems he came home with and is looking for someone to implicate with it?
I mean.... Imagine, for someone who came back from abroad and all he could offer was 10k, does that not speak volume already of the state of things in his life?

Your Mom should not just go near here him. You guys have been surviving without him and it's only a matter of time, God will open a book of rememberance concerning you and ways will open.

As for the money, Don't touch it. please. Thats an insult. For someone who betrayed his family all these years and all he deemed fit for them is 10k, it's a big insult and I also smell foul play. Let it not even be he was sent to use it trap you guys glory.

You all should forgive him but let him remain with his sister because hes only going to be a square peg in a round hole if he moves in with you guys as you guys know little to nothing about him and don't know what he's capable of or going to do next. So the relationship just won't gel.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Prayfortheworld: 6:49am On Nov 09, 2021
If she wants to forgive him, she should forgive him and move on with her life.
Don't ever allow your mom to go back to him.

You can forgive him too and move on with your life, but make sure he gets nothing from you guys.
Life is too short. Forgive and move on
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Rickmann: 7:04am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
Good Morning Fellow Nairalanders
This story I want to share here is a true life story about my family
It happened that my father retired at the Nigerian Brewery PLC in Ibadan in the year 2005.
After his retirement we expected him to set up a small scale business, but knowing that he has another plan in mind.
I had just finished my secondary school when he retired,we are just four and I am the third born,. On the 10th of October my father travelled to United kingdom (UK), without telling anyone about it, it was when he got to the UK that one of his friend came to pass the news to us, it came as a shock to the whole family, the most painful part of it is that he went with his concubine who had giving birth to four children and divorce her husband, and they did court wedding in Lagos,
To cut the whole story short, life is not that easy for us as we had to look for means to survive, my mother is just a petty trader who earns little, I had to pick up a phone call business and I was earning 3k per month.
Life really went too rough for us but thank God we are able to survive..
My father came back last year from London, and it was with surprise because nobody was informed about his coming.
When he got to Nigeria, he had to stay in her younger sisters house in ondo state, so he fixed a day for get together, it was at the get together that he apologized and gave my mum 10k just to forget about what has happened in the past, he has not been sending any support to her right since he travelled


I have an advice and a question to ask on nairaland
Firstly, the advice goes to the ladies, Please and please, don't ever rely on any man to survive, always try as much as possible to work hard and never be a burden to any man, even if your husband ask you not to work, try and find a better business to do because you never can tell what tomorrow will bring..
The second is just a question, if you happens to be in my mother's shoe,Do you expect her to forgive such a man and then accept the 10k gift he offered without any other benefits?
The money shouldn't suffice at this point..
The most important thing is if he is truly sincere.
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Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by bukatyne(f): 7:20am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
Good Morning Fellow Nairalanders
This story I want to share here is a true life story about my family
It happened that my father retired at the Nigerian Brewery PLC in Ibadan in the year 2005.
After his retirement we expected him to set up a small scale business, but knowing that he has another plan in mind.
I had just finished my secondary school when he retired,we are just four and I am the third born,. On the 10th of October my father travelled to United kingdom (UK), without telling anyone about it, it was when he got to the UK that one of his friend came to pass the news to us, it came as a shock to the whole family, the most painful part of it is that he went with his concubine who had giving birth to four children and divorce her husband, and they did court wedding in Lagos,
To cut the whole story short, life is not that easy for us as we had to look for means to survive, my mother is just a petty trader who earns little, I had to pick up a phone call business and I was earning 3k per month.
Life really went too rough for us but thank God we are able to survive..
My father came back last year from London, and it was with surprise because nobody was informed about his coming.
When he got to Nigeria, he had to stay in her younger sisters house in ondo state, so he fixed a day for get together, it was at the get together that he apologized and gave my mum 10k just to forget about what has happened in the past, he has not been sending any support to her right since he travelled


I have an advice and a question to ask on nairaland
Firstly, the advice goes to the ladies, Please and please, don't ever rely on any man to survive, always try as much as possible to work hard and never be a burden to any man, even if your husband ask you not to work, try and find a better business to do because you never can tell what tomorrow will bring..
The second is just a question, if you happens to be in my mother's shoe,Do you expect her to forgive such a man and then accept the 10k gift he offered without any other benefits?
Let me address the question(s):

1. Should your mother forgive such a man?
Yes, she should. It is for her benefit physically and spiritually. Please forgive here is not the Nigerian definition of sweeping things under the carpet; it is letting go of the bitterness towards your father as a result of his actions.

2. The N10k is for what exactly? To represent your upkeep over the years? As a gift? An apology gift? etc? I wouldn't advise her to collect it anyways. And your dad doesn't even seem sorry; might be that things have taken a bad turn & he wants to enjoy where he deserted or he was told somewhere to 'reconcile' with your mum to 'clear his conscience'.

Like I said in point one, the forgiveness is for your mum & not your dad.

She can just ask why he left (if closure is her thing) and move on as she had for the past 15 years.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Adamdau: 7:29am On Nov 09, 2021
I don't understand why he had to make it a must to come back. Is it that London no longer sweet?
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by DriverX: 7:29am On Nov 09, 2021
Too much talk. Person wey una for gather beat, flog shege comot for him body, then also ask for his forgiveness for the flogging.
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Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Sonnobax15(m): 8:16am On Nov 09, 2021
lipsrsealed
Mennnnnnnn, tbvh with you op,your popsman no try at all.......I can imagine the kind of hardship his absence must have subjected your mom,you and siblings to..... But the truth is that if he's truly remorseful,make your mom forgive am but conditions Should follow suit undecided. He must and should pay dearly for the pains he made you people pass through undecided


But what of the concubine he travelled to the UK with? Their two no dey together again?
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by officialmario(op): 8:25am On Nov 09, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Mennnnnnnn, tbvh with you op,your popsman no try at all.......I can imagine the kind of hardship his absence must have subjected your mom,you and siblings to..... But the truth is that if he's truly remorseful,make your mom forgive her but conditions Should follow suit undecided. He must and should pay dearly for the pains he made you people pass through undecided


But what of the concubine he travelled to the UK with? Their two no dey together again?
Yes, they are not together again, they had two girls together... according to what I heard from source, the woman is HIV positive and back to Nigeria.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Sonnobax15(m): 8:27am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
Yes, they are not together again, they had two girls together... according to what I heard from source, the woman is HIV positive and back to Nigeria.
Hiv+ shocked. Ewooo,make your momsy use brain oh shocked.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Hayee(f): 8:38am On Nov 09, 2021
When I say that most men love gold diggers they will not believe me cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy
Toor tongue
Dear op please forgive for your own peace of mind abeg but never ever forget angry angry angry
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Biglittlelois(f):
DriverX:
Too much talk. Person wey una for gather beat, flog shege comot for him body, then also ask for his forgiveness for the flogging.
Na only you talk true for here, I don't know why everyone is beating about the bush, that 10k is a very big insult to the mother after all he put them through.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Biglittlelois(f):
officialmario:
Yes, they are not together again, they had two girls together... according to what I heard from source, the woman is HIV positive and back to Nigeria.
Hahaha lol, truly God works in mysterious ways, he knows how to punish evil people sha, he might even be positive too who knows.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Tallesty1(m): 9:09am On Nov 09, 2021
Stephen0mozzy:
What matters is whether he is sincere in His apology to YOUR MUM and his apology for abandoning you guys at a point y'all needed him the most.
No, he's not sincere and he's not sorry else he won't be apologizing and insulting them with N10k at the same time.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by pocohantas(f): 9:17am On Nov 09, 2021
Back as usual, to the virtuous woman for TLC in his retirement.

He gave her 10k?
He is broke na. The other woman has dealt with him. That is when they always find their way home.

Once your mum forgives. The next day she would find herself cooking oilless vegetable soup and unripe plantain swallow for him.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Nobody: 9:31am On Nov 09, 2021
Every time forgiveness forgiveness forgiveness, please its not everything someone can forgive. Your mom shouldn't have even gone for the meeting, he even get guts to be calling for meeting. If them poison this one now nairaland redpillers will not let us hear word .Mtcheww
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by debbydams(f): 9:38am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
Good Morning Fellow Nairalanders
This story I want to share here is a true life story about my family
It happened that my father retired at the Nigerian Brewery PLC in Ibadan in the year 2005.
After his retirement we expected him to set up a small scale business, but knowing that he has another plan in mind.
I had just finished my secondary school when he retired,we are just four and I am the third born,. On the 10th of October my father travelled to United kingdom (UK), without telling anyone about it, it was when he got to the UK that one of his friend came to pass the news to us, it came as a shock to the whole family, the most painful part of it is that he went with his concubine who had giving birth to four children and divorce her husband, and they did court wedding in Lagos,
To cut the whole story short, life is not that easy for us as we had to look for means to survive, my mother is just a petty trader who earns little, I had to pick up a phone call business and I was earning 3k per month.
Life really went too rough for us but thank God we are able to survive..
My father came back last year from London, and it was with surprise because nobody was informed about his coming.
When he got to Nigeria, he had to stay in her younger sisters house in ondo state, so he fixed a day for get together, it was at the get together that he apologized and gave my mum 10k just to forget about what has happened in the past, he has not been sending any support to her right since he travelled


I have an advice and a question to ask on nairaland
Firstly, the advice goes to the ladies, Please and please, don't ever rely on any man to survive, always try as much as possible to work hard and never be a burden to any man, even if your husband ask you not to work, try and find a better business to do because you never can tell what tomorrow will bring..
The second is just a question, if you happens to be in my mother's shoe,Do you expect her to forgive such a man and then accept the 10k gift he offered without any other benefits?
hmmm i cant forgive him.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by thorpido(m): 10:00am On Nov 09, 2021
officialmario:
Yes, they are not together again, they had two girls together... according to what I heard from source, the woman is HIV positive and back to Nigeria.
Hmmmm,odikwa egwu o.Make your mama just leave am with him wheelbarrow.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Foodqueen(f): 10:07am On Nov 09, 2021
Honouring that invitation in the first place is my problem.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by faithfull18(f): 10:08am On Nov 09, 2021
Same story line. Na wa. Maybe the Baba he visited asked him to ask for forgiveness and dash the person he has offended some money.
Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by Richy4(m):
sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad
Bringing out money to give to your mother was just an added insult after what he has done...If he did not tell you guys that he was leaving/abandoning your family for another family, why would u honor the invitation to welcome him back?...Some families liked being taken for granted sha!!!!

Even if u guys have to honor the invitation, because u loved the fact that he abandoned you people and that he was the best father of the year, why didn't u dress your mum so well that he will be ashamed to have the boldness to bring out ordinary 10K?... besides, how much is that worth in pound sterling ... I just feel like slapping all of you......I hope God touched your mum that day and she did not take the money or did she? sad
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