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Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

Generalbambam:
Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and have it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

All this premature wife self.
My broda enjoy yr marriage oh this life no balance

Generalbambam:
Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

See conflicts is healthy in a relationship, but I tell you third party will destroy your home.

It's better to embrace conflicts you can easily resolve,than third party who can use things against you.

Solution:
Call your wife and apologize to her, take her out on a date to apologize proper. You are not really friends with your wife,hence you should create a bond, you need to develop ways to solve your conflicts, allow her to trust you more and can talk with you when she is having something to let go.

You will have disagreement it's normal, you will quarrel. But always find a soft landing, you are the man and it doesn't make you a bad person to always sort things out. Communicate more often about your arguments, let her talk More. It's actually good for a lady not to bottled up her feeling,but becareful who you allow her open up to.

Fill the gap man

If she call her family, call your family too, since your marriage is now a poligamous affair, don't mind me op na rice and chicken wey I chop today dey give you this advice.

Kobojunkie:
She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and Hage it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

Aah Jesus! Nairaland I give up.

Op complained of his wife's premature behavior. A behavior she should have overcome before getting married.

See the overpremature advice he's getting.

Op you carry baby matter come meet babies them.

I strongly suggest NIN should be used to log in to the updated NL forum so as to filter some age into thier own section. Shuuu!

Calling her family at each and every disagreement will paint you in a very negative light and someday potentially destroy your home. She needs to keep family members at a distance from her family issues. Issues need to be sorted out between you both or you can enroll with a psychologist who is trained to handle issues like this

Oluromantic:
Aah Jesus! Nairaland I give up.
1. Op complained of his premature wife's behavior. A behavior she should have overcome before getting married.See the overpremature advice he's getting.
2. Op you carry baby matter come meet babies them.
I strongly suggest NIN should be used to log in to the updated NL forum so as to filter some age into thier own section. Shuuu!

Overcome? What do you mean overcome? Where is it written in stone that when you get married, you should no longer have friends or a support system outside of your spouse?

Op himself came here seeking a support system of sorts so what does that make him, over premature?

People handle stress, even of the marital kind, in different ways. Not everyone is like me. There is nothing wrong with having a support system to help you as you grow into you.

Kobojunkie:
Overcome? What do you mean overcome? Where is it written in stone that when you get married, you should no longer have friends or a support system outside of your spouse?

Op himself came here seeking a support system of sorts so what does that make him, over premature?

Please handle stress in different ways. Not everyone is like me. There is nothing wrong with having a support system to help you as you grow into you.

Lol. Chai. Nawar

Op talk to your wife gently when she's in a good mood on why she has to stop what she's doing

Kobojunkie:
She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and Hage it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

.....SMH. I give up.

At op. Pls let your wife know that by so doing she is sowing a seed of discord between you and her family members.
Let her also know that such action might destroy your home.
Pls,don't be harsh while explaining to her.

Oga divorce your wife since you need advice. Abi is it not what you wanna hear?

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socialmediaman:
Calling her family at each and every disagreement will paint you in a very negative light and someday potentially destroy your home. She needs to keep family members at a distance from her family issues. Issues need to be sorted out between you both or you can enroll with a psychologist who is trained to handle issues like this

socialmediaman:
Calling her family at each and every disagreement will paint you in a very negative light and someday potentially destroy your home. She needs to keep family members at a distance from her family issues. Issues need to be sorted out between you both or you can enroll with a psychologist who is trained to handle issues like this

No psychologist worth his salt will ever advise even a married woman to cut herself off from what is her support group.

Generalbambam:
Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

You either stop arguing with your wife or you call your own family too after any argument.
It is up to the both of you how you solve your problems. Nobody else.

Kobojunkie:
She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and Hage it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

They butt in when nobody invites them, how much more when one calls gossips?

What op's wife needs to do realize that she's married and grow up. She's no longer a child.

Mariangeles:
They butt in when nobody invites them, how much more when one calls gossips?

What op's wife needs to do realize that she's married and grow up. She's no longer a child.

I am lost. When did they butt in uninvited and who gossips?;

Again, there is nothing like growing up when it comes to having a support system. We all have then. Some have friends, others use family members.... it only becomes an issue when boundaries are not respected by those you go to for support.

I have my own support system - I consult Him through out my day, and there is no growing up and out of it for me. It's a thing of joy for me that I have a support system that I count on.

All of us no get the same brain abeg! Some brains require more support than others.

Mariangeles:
You either stop arguing with your wife or you call your own family too after any argument.
It is up to the both of you how you solve your problems. Nobody else.

The guy is here on nairaland asking for advise from those he has chosen to seek support from today.

Generalbambam:
Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

you married a child sir
you're in big trouble.

Kobojunkie:
She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and Hage it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

to be honest with you bro..
you are quite daftt...and an idiottt.

Beremx:
Oga divorce your wife since you need advice. Abi is it not what you wanna hear?

Bia Berem, which kain advice you dey give op for this 2022.?

Oga, let her know you don't like it and remind her she is only sitting on a keg of gun powder as it might be used against her in the near future.

We all need to talk to someone, that's why some people pay a lot to a therapist. At least your wife is saving you a lot of money. And you are lucky she does not speak to friends or even neighbors about your marital problems.

You wife's action shows that your marriage is still young. If it is then it's understandable. It is expected that your wife outgrow it.

If your marriage is above 5 years then it means that there is a danger. Your marriage run the risk of damage from external one sided interest.

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#OP, pardon me for using your thread (hopefully you can understand how i feel right now)

Kobojunkie:
Overcome? What do you mean overcome? Where is it written in stone that when you get married, you should no longer have friends or a support system outside of your spouse?

Op himself came here seeking a support system of sorts so what does that make him, over premature?

People handle stress, even of the marital kind, in different ways. Not everyone is like me. There is nothing wrong with having a support system to help you as you grow into you.

we we ask for supports when we have tried our best at solving something's but couldn't, as a married woman you don't run to your extended family at every misunderstanding try to grow up to handle issues between you.

Make una dey marry mature women, ụna no go hear, na children wey never know left from right una dey look for! Enjoy your marriage bros, you cannot change her.

Vision101:
You wife's action shows that your marriage is still young. If it is then it's understandable. It is expected that your wife outgrow it.

If your marriage is above 5 years then it means that there is a danger. Your marriage run the risk of damage from external one sided interest.

you are a wise man, I sight the 101 nyben.

Generalbambam:
Beautiful people, my wife always call her family after any argument in my home. I'm confuse and this doesn't go down well with. Not that i abuse her (physically or emotionally) but any little disagreement she will pick phone and call her family to inform them all that happened.
Please I need your advise.
Happy new year

Before having sex make sure you tell her to inform her people.

Mrsoft3:
See conflicts is healthy in a relationship, but I tell you third party will destroy your home.

It's better to embrace conflicts you can easily resolve,than third party who can use things against you.

Solution:
Call your wife and apologize to her, take her out on a date to apologize proper. You are not really friends with your wife,hence you should create a bond, you need to develop ways to solve your conflicts, allow her to trust you more and can talk with you when she is having something to let go.

You will have disagreement it's normal, you will quarrel. But always find a soft landing, you are the man and it doesn't make you a bad person to always sort things out. Communicate more often about your arguments, let her talk More. It's actually good for a lady not to bottled up her feeling,but becareful who you allow her open up to.

Fill the gap man

What's the apology for?? Do you if the wife is the one at fault? You kids should stay away from giving crazy advice to married people until you acquire the necessary skills through experience.

ChybuzzDD:
What's the apology for?? Do you if the wife is the one at fault? You kids should stay away from giving crazy advice to married people until you acquire the necessary skills through experience.

Hello? Who are you calling a kid? What do you know about keeping a family even if you are a family man? If what I said you find it wrong then I wonder what you do with your wife, there is only one way of family and that's the Godly tenancy for family. Don't come and be talking to people anyhow and call them kids. Even if you are fifty you still don't have the right to call me a kid, you can't give birth to me. You can only be an elder brother. So Mr please have respect when you talk to people.

Kobojunkie:
[s] She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and have it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do? [/s]

Stop giving advice on Nairaland.