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Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 1:51am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax: Don’t commit. Women don’t add anything to your life. It’s trap. You will loose. Women don’t work. They don’t bring any money to the family. They won’t even feed you. You will be the provider and “protector” and she will just sit on the couch all day and do nothing. Not even bringing up your children that’s if they even agree to have kids for you. There’s nothing in it for you. Stay away 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 2:02am On Jan 04, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20:Interesting claim. So kids don't happen to men outside marriage at all, abi? Na only marriage dey afflict men with the responsibility called kids, and hence family? 7 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 2:06am On Jan 04, 2022 |
It’s the casual misogyny for me. And all this because men “provide”. Imagine if they had to provide in addition to all the other things that women do. We would need to stop existing in order to show appreciation solja147: 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 2:34am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Mariangeles:I no wan hold brief for that one wey you reply but depopulation holds the major key to development in anywhere Africa. Without it, you all are playing ojoro with your lives and existence. |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 2:36am On Jan 04, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20:That na rubbish talk abeg... not all women want kids. Instead, society, ruled by men, have women convinced there existence is worth nothing without the birthing of children particularly a male child. For this reason, your typical African woman believes she needs to have kids, even a male one, if her life is to count. Ofcourse the mind fuckery does not end with women as their male counterparts operate on the delusion there their DNA is somehow unique and of value to this world and so they must procreate and ensure their line does not end with them. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 2:53am On Jan 04, 2022 |
babyfaceafrica:3 ke? We are talking 5 or even 7 sef and the reasons given for racking up more child points than is necessary always ridiculous. Imagine a Nigerian women here in California who be nurse, already with 6 kids. She went ahead to have a 7th one, why? Because she wanted a son so she could keep her husband from abandoning her. By the time the son arrived, the man don waka go meet another woman. Yet they were already struggling to feed, cloth and care for the 6 kids they had. No be only for Nigeria that foolishness dey.... dem dey carry am with dem anywhere dem enter. 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 2:55am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Karleb:Every firstborn come be man? That pain is spread across genders abeg. And when I hear people complain about such things I tell them straight up to blame their parents for being foolish to begin with. 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 2:56am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: The fact that they don’t see this as the root of that problem he mentioned is what befuddles me. Like where’s his defense for women who are past a certain age without husband and children and are called derogatory names for it? Or how the married ones with no children are unfortunate and barren. Mind you the man can never be barren. “Women want children at all costs”. Gee I wonder why such a mysterious phenomenon occurs. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 3:14am On Jan 04, 2022 |
ReacherSaidNoth:Abeg stop blaming your issues on marriage for no rational reason. Marriage has nothing to do with the foolish choices individuals make in them. Marriage does not rid those who sign up for it of stewpid. It's garbage-in-garbage-out.... GIGO. So stop blaming Marriage make we hear word! 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by mk3jax: 7:22am On Jan 04, 2022 |
cococandy:Been married for 10 years. Have 2 maid in the house that do almost everything yet wife still complains like we all came into this world to perpetually enjoy. By the way 100% of my friends and colleagues have this same problem with their wife. What women say in the public is not what they do. Even when they work, their money belong to them 100% and they will still disrespect the man that is providing for the family. A man is valued strictly on his ability to provide. They are never loved unconditionally. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 7:25am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax:Bullsheet... 2 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Karleb(m): 7:29am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I wasn't blaming any gender there. The blame is on the parents/society. |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 7:30am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Karleb:Ok o! |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by mk3jax: 7:31am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Women are the one's shaming one another over having kids and being married not men. Men are never as desperate for kids like women because we know the financial consequence on us. Women see small beautiful things in babies but men see them as expense for the next 25 years. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 7:39am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax:Abeg stop spewing this bullsheet! Men are never desperate for kids yet women who are not fertile or have a history of abortions are cast aside by men as if trash.... Abeg stop yapping if you are not at least willing to to honest with yourself. 4 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by mk3jax: 7:46am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Emotional and not logical response. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Raalsalghul: 7:46am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I agree with you on this: so many parents, so so many fall under that foolish category. 1 Like |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Kobojunkie: 7:48am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax:There was nothing logical about your comment to begin with. 4 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by babyfaceafrica: 7:54am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax:Very True. A coursemate once told me in school she can't date a short black man.. Fast forward last year.. She married one!! Never take ladies words literally |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by crackhaus: 10:11am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax:Indeed... It's why I find it ridiculous that some of you still try to make argument with them. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by crackhaus: 10:22am On Jan 04, 2022 |
babyfaceafrica: He get small money abi... 2 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Nobody: 10:36am On Jan 04, 2022 |
crackhaus: Likeeeeeeee... |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Acidosis(m): 10:42am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax: Reason some men are evaluating the purpose of marriage. Everything men benefitted, many women have contested and revolted against. There's hardly anything left for the man as men who even provide these days barely get the respect. 1. Men used to love the head-ship title but today, they say we are equal partners. 2. Chastity is no longer a trend among today's generation. This used to be one of the benefits men get from their new brides. 3. A unique family name: today's women now wants to retain their father's name. 4. Today's women want you to clean, wash, cook, and babysit. They say it is romantic for a man to do that, but how dare you expect her to serve you food on her knees. The last time a modern woman did this was during the traditional marriage rites. It was cool for the glam but slavery and too archaic to keep the home. One fact has become clear to all though, more men will now continue to revolt against the idea of marriage. The few men that would be getting married in the next few decades would be doing so because of religious beliefs (This already is a norm in the developed world). Take religion out and see more men runaway from that institution. More women in the developing world will troop to churches, which by then would have been deserted, in a bid to get potential suitors. There is already an established link between anti-religious movements, feminism, and some of these new age revolutions. When they successfully terminate religion, the marriage we love so much will also die a natural death. The average feminist believe that religion is the bedrock of patriarchy so they're (feminist, etc.) codedly rooting out patriarchy (and religion in disguise) so men can buy into their idea of marriage - an idea that reeks of divorce and separation between two rational game players instead of two selfless love birds. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Nobody: 10:51am On Jan 04, 2022 |
cococandy: Biko why exactly are you pained? The entire summary of OP's thread hinges on appreciating men more for the effort they're putting, simple!! So there's no point tryna start a gender war with your write up... This write up is not a man vs woman thread, so don't try to make it so... And what's with the bolded, mehnnnn that reasoning is just disgustingly shallow, yuccckk And by the way, there's nothing misogynistic about this thread, and if you see it as such, then I can conclude that it's either you didn't understand the OP's POV or you're too emotionally irrational to keep an open mind... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:08am On Jan 04, 2022 |
mk3jax: This does not represent reality. 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:11am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Favfables1: I love how y’all start with posts that insult women and then ask a women why she’s pained. Op could have asked women to be more appreciative of their husbands (as if they aren’t already) without being insulting to women. “It’s not a gender war “ the perfect response whenever someone points house how insulting you’re being to the female gender. Oh and the most cliche one. A woman’s response is always emotional. 4 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:15am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Acidosis:You’d think so. But they aren’t though. It seems men can’t truly stand the idea of unmarried women. I’m hoping to see more men especially those who think marriage doesn’t benefit them stay single. Honestly many family problems can be avoided if men who think marriage isn’t for them chose not to go that route. But they will not and I wonder why. Maybe there’s a lie in there somewhere 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:18am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Favfables1: Oh but it’s not a gender war one of the most unpopular truths that provokes ridiculous reactions even in men is to say that women drag you down more than they help you. 4 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:23am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Favfables1: I know casual misogyny is the bane of y’all’s existence. So you won’t see what’s wrong with likening a grown woman to be an eternal adolescent. Oh how unfortunate you are to be burdened with this female burden that’s eternally reliant on you. It’s only a problem when someone points out what’s wrong with the conversation. All you want is free rein to jump online and talk trash about the women who birthed yous . Until you men are ready to respect women, don’t expect fruitful conversation But given that man's burden is indeed the greatest, for he has not only the children, but the eternal adolescent, the woman to care for 5 Likes |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Nobody: 11:45am On Jan 04, 2022 |
cococandy: 1. "Y'all"?? That generalization is off don't you think 2. Yes, he should... But neither of us have the right to decide what he "should" do... 3. Chief... I really like the way you present your argument... However... I don't see you taking the same stance in other post when it's the other way round... 4. Quite frankly, I didn't look at the "f" beside your name when I first came on your mention, honestly, I didn't pay any attention to the your user name sef But now that I have... I can conclude that you're taking this stance maybe because you feel attacked.... Maybe the OP's post struck a chord ... Well... What do I know ... 1 Like |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by Nobody: 11:54am On Jan 04, 2022 |
cococandy: So the only thing you could pick out of the OP's very long write up is that? You see why I say you feel attacked ... As for men respecting women... Well... I can't speak for all men... But I only respect people (male or female) who are worth respecting... 1 Like |
Re: The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated by cococandy(f): 11:55am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Mmm I see. Now that we’ve pointed out what’s problematic with the thread, you want to avoid the fact that it’s problematic and try to shift the focus onto me. Nothing new here. “Maybe the OP post struck a chord?” Of course it did. Why do you think I’m commenting? Seeing women hold their own EVERY SINGLE DAY in marriages only to come online and read thrash about how we are a burden and eternal adolescents and make life harder bla bla bla and then see y’all classify is interesting and logical conversation did indeed strike a chord. Was that supposed to make me defensive? And look who’s worried about generalizations. You have no problem when the OP was generalizing. Hypocritical much? Favfables1: 5 Likes |
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