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Choreographer Kaffy has opened up on her divorce from her husband, music director and drummer, Joseph Ameh.

Taking to Instagram, she spoke about her marriage and the reasons why they had decided to walk away from the union.

Real name Kafayat Shafau, Kaffy in a video uploaded to Instagram, said, “I have always wanted to see my ex be the best version of himself and even breaking up the marriage was also to see that we both grew into what we really are supposed to be.

Marriage is supposed to be an alignment of destinies driving towards a place that God wants us to be, and mine really did not work out that way.”

“Rather than looking at somebody as a problem, you could be the problem of that person. Being an enabler of someone not being able to do what they are supposed to do can also be that you are not supposed to be in that space.”

“So, there was a lot to learn, and there is still a lot more to learn. I want to express that and motivate you to understand that life is not all about reaction to the world; it is not about reacting to what want you to say or what the world wants to hear; what the world wants you to be or what the world wants you to wear; what the world wants you to look like or get married,” she continued.

In her video caption, she wrote, “Separation isn’t the end of life for both parties involved. In fact, if you both are honest about why you have to go apart, you will realize how much better life can be.”

“Some people make it back; some don’t. What is ultimate is the outcome borne out of love!”

The duo got married on June 2, 2012, and they have two children together. Last year, news of the couple’s rumoured split had hit social media.

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Marriage na your mate.

Nairaland feminists, kaffy will join you ladies soonest while Kaffy's ex-husband will join nairaland redpillers.

Equation balance.

Wizkid leave all this hanty for thier husband

I am patiently waiting for the husband 's side of the divorce story,!

So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

Please, always remember Men married to Nigerian girls in your prayers. They're going through alot, forget the fake smiles.


My special prayers are with them. God will sustain them.

I see. At least they tried to keep it together for some time. But I think the one in control was Kaffy cos that guy seems to me like a figure headed husband.

On a flip side, that Ameh guy has a very fine face. His pointed noise is outta this world. Too bad none of his kids is his replica.

Romanoff:
So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

We4all:
Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

So what happened to "for better or worse"?

Na she sabi

The woke generation and their inability to make sacrifices in marriage is causing a lot of damages to their children, a lot needs to be learned by this generation...

Simple, if you no ready for marriage no marry

Make you no come turn motivational speaker when you divorce

Omo celebrity marriage na scam las las.

Romanoff:
So what happened to "for better or worse"?

That line no dey Bible or Quran

Hmmm

Divorce is the new normal norm

Our foreparents without education\civilization had marriages lasting almost for eternity, even when they married wives they had never met before but were chosen by their parents. 'Too much sense or book" is what is killing marriages today, nobody is willing to eat the humble pie to make the marriage work.

They rushed in, now they are rushing out. Marriage no be their mate.

Omo this question choke the dude

Even kaffy too go choke if u ask am this same question

She still neva tell us why she run commot for her marriage.

Romanoff:
So what happened to "for better or worse"?

after seeing a sweeter dick

deolurexy1:
after sering a sweeter dick

Nawa

We4all:
Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

Reverse the roles and post it again

Okay

I wish the both of them best of life in their respective paths.

The rate at which marriages are ending. Don't ever ask anyone when they are getting married? Allow people take their time and plan towards it

We4all:
Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

“Rather than looking at somebody as a problem, you could be the problem of that person. Being an enabler of someone not being able to do what they are supposed to do can also be that you are not supposed to be in that space.”

Could be...

vb0mb:
Reverse the roles and post it again

Most of the onus and the provider role is placed on men not women.

Saddening

Romanoff:
So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

I tire O