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Uzomarrr12345:
Stop using two accounts to mention me
There’s no way two different pple can think so low this way
This Acct and gboyega Acct na same handler
Goodbye !

This dude na complete imbe-ci-le!
ROFLMAO

finishmatter:
Obviously, marriage is a horrible affliction upon men.

The huge financial demand, the promiscuous wife and shameless character of the wife are just a few of the sad tale.

However, many single dudes are unaware of all these.

So, bro, share your painful experience for enlightenment.
Thanks

Promiscuous wife? Are you suspecting or you have evidence? These are 2 different things

Most times when a man thinks his wife is cheating, he is wrong.

ahnie:
The Nigerian men I know are authoritarians,rude,with pride like python spread.

I think most of them are raised to look down on women and they believe they can shove anything down our throats.

I have seen a man that flung his wife from his car,threw her things out,shut the car door,then sped off....now tell me,which sensible husband does that?

See most things you Nigerian men failed to get is....no woman likes to be lord over rudely.
Treat a woman well,and she would go miles for you just to please you.

You treat me bad,and you expect me to be docile n submissive,mba I go bite you.
Input in,output out.

yeah, more like coitus in, pregnancy out : naa where mi thought go as i read d last line of ur post, sorri! As I never see full moon yet, dz marriage thread matter don dey turn mi to werewulf small small.

Just my knowledge about women.

alphaNomega:
Promiscuous wife? Are you suspecting or you have evidence? These are 2 different things

Most times when a man thinks his wife is cheating, he is wrong.

I noticed it too

prettysassygirl:
They said people should come and share their bitter marriage experiences,but what do we see? Marriage counselors and marriage experts wey never marry. Shior

You are one in a million.

ahnie:
My dear not all women,I don't remember the last time my husband fed me,I recently told him to handover the welfare of our 2 kids to me so I could cater for them to the standard I want.in as much I m doing something,by his grace I m not one to depend on him to been fed or clothe.

I run my shifts ALONE.

Uzomarrr12345:
Stop using two accounts to mention me

There’s no way two different pple can think so low this way

This Acct and gboyega Acct na same handler

Goodbye !

I knew you were stupid but the part I never knew was that your stupidity is beyond redemption. Anyways, if you feel that way, so be it.

GboyegaD:
I knew you were stupid but the part I never knew was that your stupidity is beyond redemption. Anyways, if you feel that way, so be it.

What took you so long , your second Acct replied me days earlier , anyways move on !

I have never regretted marrying my own wife, I don't know about others. The best blessings one should ask God for is not even money but the right partner. So, God just blessed me with the right partner maybe because I have always prayed about it since my uni days. Unfortunately all the girls I dated didn't meet up to my choice profile, it's either one issue or the other. And to think that the way I met her was even funny. But I just knew that instant that she was the one. I didn't have a dime or work but I kept at it and she believed in me. I have been married for 7 years but have been with my wife for 10years. I made my first mil*** because she created the right atmosphere for me to be creative and seek my inner virtues. First, she is my paddy, my friend, we just get understanding about everything, even when we shake tables. I am very flexible just as she is too, we always jist about virtually everything and dialogue when we encountered problems. Now ironically, I never went to any marriage class or read books on marriage to enjoy a successful one, rather I worked at it, stayed committed and devoted. Rather than looking for big breasts and big hips, search out good qualities in ladies you want to date first, it makes the journey a lot easier and pray about it. No go meet any pastor or man of God for nada, to help you select ooo...they have their own problems too. I was just lucky to be blessed with the right partner, the physical endowments was just icing to the cake.

Unfortunately many men and even women marry for the wrong reasons, and the whole razzmatazz clears after the first 3 years, you begin to see a lot of inadequacies. If you struggling in your marriage, endeavor to dialogue with your partner, address the issues firstly before escalating it to 3rd party. Shalom!

Delektable:
I have never regretted marrying my own wife, I don't know about others. The best blessings one should ask God for is not even money but the right partner. So, God just blessed me with the right partner maybe because I have always prayed about it since my uni days. Unfortunately all the girls I dated didn't meet up to my choice profile, it's either one issue or the other. And to think that the way I met her was even funny. But I just knew that instant that she was the one. I didn't have a dime or work but I kept at it and she believed in me. I have been married for 7 years but have been with my wife for 10years. I made my first mil*** because she created the right atmosphere for me to be creative and seek my inner virtues. First, she is my paddy, my friend, we just get understanding about everything, even when we shake tables. I am very flexible just as she is too, we always jist about virtually everything and dialogue when we encountered problems. Now ironically, I never went to any marriage class or read books on marriage to enjoy a successful one, rather I worked at it, stayed committed and devoted. Rather than looking for big breasts and big hips, search out good qualities in ladies you want to date first, it makes the journey a lot easier and pray about it. No go meet any pastor or man of God for nada, to help you select ooo...they have their own problems too. I was just lucky to be blessed with the right partner, the physical endowments was just icing to the cake.

Unfortunately many men and even women marry for the wrong reasons, and the whole razzmatazz clears after the first 3 years, you begin to see a lot of inadequacies. If you struggling in your marriage, endeavor to dialogue with your partner, address the issues firstly before escalating it to 3rd party. Shalom!

I like your post. Weldone. But can we not always mention big breast and big hips women as wrong choices in marriage? Are people implying that women with these features don't make good wives or what?

Someone come to complain about his wife and everyone goes "Ha when you were going after pretty women, you did not know. Now see where it has gotten you"

Not so attractive women without curves make better wives then?

This is splendid.

Thanks for sharing.

Delektable:
I have never regretted marrying my own wife, I don't know about others. The best blessings one should ask God for is not even money but the right partner. So, God just blessed me with the right partner maybe because I have always prayed about it since my uni days. Unfortunately all the girls I dated didn't meet up to my choice profile, it's either one issue or the other. And to think that the way I met her was even funny. But I just knew that instant that she was the one. I didn't have a dime or work but I kept at it and she believed in me. I have been married for 7 years but have been with my wife for 10years. I made my first mil*** because she created the right atmosphere for me to be creative and seek my inner virtues. First, she is my paddy, my friend, we just get understanding about everything, even when we shake tables. I am very flexible just as she is too, we always jist about virtually everything and dialogue when we encountered problems. Now ironically, I never went to any marriage class or read books on marriage to enjoy a successful one, rather I worked at it, stayed committed and devoted. Rather than looking for big breasts and big hips, search out good qualities in ladies you want to date first, it makes the journey a lot easier and pray about it. No go meet any pastor or man of God for nada, to help you select ooo...they have their own problems too. I was just lucky to be blessed with the right partner, the physical endowments was just icing to the cake.

Unfortunately many men and even women marry for the wrong reasons, and the whole razzmatazz clears after the first 3 years, you begin to see a lot of inadequacies. If you struggling in your marriage, endeavor to dialogue with your partner, address the issues firstly before escalating it to 3rd party. Shalom!

My experience really.

You are so right.

HarunaWest:
Some women turn out to be jerks and stupid even when they are treated well.

Uzomarrr12345:
What took you so long , your second Acct replied me days earlier , anyways move on !

My second account? Guy, you sound so defeated. You see the foolishness I was trying to help you point out? You keep thinking you are wise but in reality, the reverse is the case. If you think the other mention is my account, so be it.

GboyegaD:
My second account? Guy, you sound so defeated. You see the foolishness I was trying to help you point out? You keep thinking you are wise but in reality, the reverse is the case. If you think the other mention is my account, so be it.

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Delektable:
I have never regretted marrying my own wife, I don't know about others. The best blessings one should ask God for is not even money but the right partner. So, God just blessed me with the right partner maybe because I have always prayed about it since my uni days. Unfortunately all the girls I dated didn't meet up to my choice profile, it's either one issue or the other. And to think that the way I met her was even funny. But I just knew that instant that she was the one. I didn't have a dime or work but I kept at it and she believed in me. I have been married for 7 years but have been with my wife for 10years. I made my first mil*** because she created the right atmosphere for me to be creative and seek my inner virtues. First, she is my paddy, my friend, we just get understanding about everything, even when we shake tables. I am very flexible just as she is too, we always jist about virtually everything and dialogue when we encountered problems. Now ironically, I never went to any marriage class or read books on marriage to enjoy a successful one, rather I worked at it, stayed committed and devoted. Rather than looking for big breasts and big hips, search out good qualities in ladies you want to date first, it makes the journey a lot easier and pray about it. No go meet any pastor or man of God for nada, to help you select ooo...they have their own problems too. I was just lucky to be blessed with the right partner, the physical endowments was just icing to the cake.

Unfortunately many men and even women marry for the wrong reasons, and the whole razzmatazz clears after the first 3 years, you begin to see a lot of inadequacies. If you struggling in your marriage, endeavor to dialogue with your partner, address the issues firstly before escalating it to 3rd party. Shalom!

Dead this narrative about big ass n boobs girls

No matter how a lady want to be God-fearing , if she is not appealing to the eyes ,I am not doing !

I am being real “I want a God-fearing woman with ashawo vibes”

Meaning;
I want to do all the crazy tins with my woman and go wild , so yes , I need me a big ass lady !!!

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Delektable:
I guess you got this out of context, I didn't say fine/curvy women don't make good wives ooo... mine is a definition of beauty and endowments yet she made the best companion for me. I dated quite a number of hot girls in the past that still failed me.
I was physical attracted to my wife, however I didn't let it lead me on, rather I relegated that to the background and searched deeper just so that I know what I was looking for which was rather primary (personality) and not secondary. That's why I laid emphasis on the primary. However same goes both ways for us men. Loaded men don't always make the right kind of husbands like most women always think and emphasize on, it comes with its own baggage. This also doesn't mean a guy that is well-to-do won't make a good husband. She stuck to me even when I was empty, all I had was just an ambition and a degree certificate, she was just ready to toil it out with me, I no use jazz hold am, na mouth, effort, steadfastness, prayer and faith. Now the story is completely different, each time I tell people how we started this , most people don't believe it. So in essence, define your reasons for marriage before jumping into it, if you let secondary measures direct your judgement, then you may be in for more surprises after marriage.
Shalom!

Well understood! Weldone!

This is a good thread, the amazing thing is people still responding to certain posters (no names mentioned) who have no idea about the changing dynamics between people in a marriage.

To those whose spouses have made them happy in their marriage, I congratulate you and pray that continues for ever.

To the rest, take heart, speak to people in your shoes to rationalise and cope better with your unfortunate situation.

Know this, regardless of what a man or woman is facing outside their marraige, at work etc, if the spouse is making the house comfortable for them, they would be OK.

Men, don't waste your time reporting your wife to her mother or an older female that is not related to you. They will never see things from your point of view. Ditto women.

teegurl2:
I like your post. Weldone. But can we not always mention big breast and big hips women as wrong choices in marriage? Are people implying that women with these features don't make good wives or what?

Someone come to complain about his wife and everyone goes "Ha when you were going after pretty women, you did not know. Now see where it has gotten you"

Not so attractive women without curves make better wives then?

Aswear, I liked and share the post but deep down me, I felt talking down on endowed girls is getting too much as if marrying them will lead to wreckage. It's just that endowment comes with some pressures from other males/females but with commitments and God, Humanities even Sent Rovers to Mars and Probed the Deep Space to Interstellar..

Marriage shouldn't be a rocket Science once both of you are committed and Godly.

Nonetheless, Most guys only go for the Curves and once Brain see finish in a matter of few months Yawa go Gas.

To Your Profile, God sef can't do without us, we are the beloved even Angels tend to us. God doesn't just like us being Stubborn, that's Satanic and Satan gets Punished

Alright.

DonroxyII:
Aswear, I liked and share the post but deep down me, I felt talking down on endowed girls is getting too much as if marrying them will lead to wreckage. It's just that endowment comes with some pressures from other males/females but with commitments and God, Humanities even Sent Rovers to Mars and Probed the Deep Space to Interstellar..

Marriage shouldn't be a rocket Science once both of you are committed and Godly.

Nonetheless, Most guys only go for the Curves and once Brain see finish in a matter of few months Yawa go Gas.

To Your Profile, God sef can't do without us, we are the beloved even Angels tend to us. God doesn't just like us being Stubborn, that's Satanic and Satan gets Punished

You are so right?

capnies:
I THINK THE GREATEST PROBLEM MEN HAVE IS PRIDE, WHICH MAKES THEM DIE. IN SILENCE IN THE MIST OF HUMILIATION AND SHAME BY THEIR SPOUSES. MEN FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO VOICE OUT WHAT THEY ARE PASSING THROUGH EVEN TO THEIR BEST FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS TO MAKE IT APPEAR AS IF THEY HAVE THEIR HOMES UNDER CONTROL; MEANWHILE THEY ARE DYING INSIDE.

A MARRIED WOMAN OF OVER SIXTY YEARS OF AGE, WHOSE HUSBAND IS STILL ALIVE TOLD ME THAT 45% OF NIGERIAN MARRIED MEN THAT DIE ARE KILLED BY THEIR WIVES DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY

prettysassygirl:
They said people should come and share their bitter marriage experiences,but what do we see? Marriage counselors and marriage experts wey never marry. Shior

Lol

WOMEN are INCAPABLE of Love.
They are intrinsically selfish.
Marry them at your peril.

Definitely true.

Uzomarrr12345:
I know Nigeria women , the only time dey are forced to take matters into dia hands financially is only when dia husband is at the buttom pit

If the man’s financial power is stable , 2 seconds , the Billings don start again

Kobojunkie:
This dude na complete imbe-ci-le!
ROFLMAO

Lol

HarunaWest:
Most Nigerian Women don't Know what it means to be submissive. Also most don't know that Sex is very important in a marriage.

You lack Vitamin sex

ibechris:
My only experience is;if u don't have forgiven spirit don't marry.

Because marriage would disappoint u greatly.

True

Movingon5:
Exactly.... dat what am going through now.... will find time to put my story here... am married/cohabiting (he refuses to come pay my dowry since 2015 QC been living with him)to a man 36 years older Dan me. Av been through alot from domestic abuses and assaults from him and his children brothers etc

Looking forward to reading your story so I can learn.

No

Uzomarrr12345:
What are the other important aspects ?

Everyone seems to forget about billing and financial aspect

Omo , my advice for younger ones coming up, observe your partner closely during courtship, if she is the type that like to spend her money solely on herself and her own family and let you take care of the house Billings alone , just leave that lady and RUN !

Alot of Nigeria ladies are like this
About 70%

Adam has already done all the work before eve came, you get the drift

Uzomarrr12345:
What you said above that I highlighted is nonsense

There are some petty Billings that are even embarrassing to talk about

Ladies should use dia common sense and shouldn’t be told that

Why should I sit my woman down and be telling her she can also sub the GOTV too if I’m not around or telling her to get something vital like some kitchen utensils we need … it doesn’t make sense

There are some things that are not worth discussing self , common sense should tell you but some of our Nigeria ladies lie lie

Some Nigeria ladies are just simply stingy by default !

Mind you , I take care of the house rent 100%

You the man of the house

Uzomarrr12345:
I really find this topic interesting coz just last week , I was having this sort of discussion with a friend

my friend is so fed up of accommodating his wife younger brother in his house , the guy is behaving badly, to the point he had the guts to bring a female to sleep over

just imagine , but as usual, he doesn’t have the guts to send the boy packing coz he doesn’t want to look like a bad in-law

See plenty annoying tins dey inside this marriage thing , some guys nor just wan Dey talk too much

Your friend is not the man of his house.

Uzomarrr12345:
Mr relationship expert , I have a question for you

when you meet a pretty woman for the first time , how can you tell she’s stingy ?

Is it written somewhere on her body or face ?

You don date before at all self

You won’t have all these experience until you live with the woman under same roof for a period of time

A woman doesn't need to stay with a man to know if his stingy