I am 36 years old and she is 26 years old, is 10 years gap too much ?
She is such a godly lady and the type I'd love to settle down with.

oldienavie:
I am 36 years old and she is 26 years old, is 10 years gap too much ?
She is such a godly lady and the type I'd love to settle down with.

If you don't love and respect her and see her as your equal in all-wise, don't marry her. Find yourself someone else you can see as your equal instead.

God no send anyone that "godly" bullsheet una dey like to spew.

Not too much.


I saw a 65 year old husband and 28 year old wife last week in Ikorodu.


E shock me.

It's okay..age doesn't matter

oldienavie:
I am 36 years old and she is 26 years old, is 10 years gap too much ?
She is such a godly lady and the type I'd love to settle down with.

Na She you wan marry abi na her age?

Kobojunkie:
If you don't love and respect her and see her as your equal in all-wise, don't marry her. Find yourself someone else you can see as your equal instead.

God no send anyone that "godly" bullsheet una dey like to spew.

You are such a confusionist,one can't really tell If you are an atheist or a Christian

Iyaebe:
You are such a confusionist,one can't really tell If you are an atheist or a Christian

Your confusion has more to do with the fact that you have no real idea what Christianity which you are called to by Jesus Christ is apart from the lies you have even fed from worshipping at the feet of your Pastors and mogs..

If you read through scripture, you would find that God never stipulated that your marriage only works when you supposedly marry what you folks like to call a "godly" person. A follower of Jesus Christ can marry anyone , even an atheist and still enjoy a successful union. What is needed is wisdom, not all those lies your pastors and mogs deceive you with.

Kobojunkie:
Your confusion has more to do with the fact that you have no real idea what Christianity which you are called to by Jesus Christ is apart from the lies you have even fed from worshipping at the feet of your Pastors and mogs..

If you read through scripture, you would find that God never stipulated that your marriage only works when you supposedly marry what you folks like to call a "godly" person. A follower of Jesus Christ can marry anyone , even an atheist and still enjoy a successful union. What is needed is wisdom, not all those lies your pastors and mogs deceive you with.

You are antichristian and disguising

Iyaebe:
You are antichristian and disguising

Not even an intelligent retort?

it all depends on what you want and what you both share...if the both of you can love and respect each other..then no probs ....AND LOOK BEYOND THAT "godly" character you think you're seeing... marriage and co-habiting goes beyond that bro

garriAndsugar:
It's okay..age doesn't matter

Why u dey talk like Lie Muhammed now.

Age no matter, says who?

You people in thirties always thinking you are no longer boyd but men..

Just go to any of the university's campuses
and see big bold classy babes who are barely in their twenties..

Thirties guys would look too young for some girls they are older than by a decade...

As for me 15yrs difference is the idea interval.

Ask Rita Daniels n Ned

No!

No,the gap isn't too much.She's matured enough at 26.
Just be ready to see her as your partner.

oldienavie:
I am 36 years old and she is 26 years old, is 10 years gap too much ?
She is such a godly lady and the type I'd love to settle down with.

... Ask Ned nwoke and Daniels whatever

ibechris:




Why u dey talk like Lie Muhammed now.

Age no matter, says who?

..Says Ned

To each your own, you don't need our advice if you are both comfortable with it.

I am not a fan of high age gaps the most I can do is four years older or younger. Anything up to five has always been a no for me so I would not even bother dating a person with five years age difference from me because I believe I can relate better with my peers and that we usually belong in the same generation, malleable and learning in our own pace and not with a man who may be over a decade older who's opinions/world view is hard to change or not easy to dialogue with. Age is a factor for me and it matters I relate with everyone regardless of age but I am more relaxed among my peers and I need someone within my generation and age to relate with very easily because I am very playful and unserious sometimes I don't want a situation where I will call you boy and you will take offence that I should be calling you your excellency abeg I cannot deal with hard people who are not flexible I believe that flexibility comes with how you relate with people and they are mostly your peers and not your parent's age mates why to do you think that peer pressure is a thing in the first place it is because children relate with who they can easily access and discuss with mostly their peers given the fact that some parents are not flexible with their kids.

And I will prefer that we grow old together not me nursing you in your 70s and I am in my 50s or early 60s with so much life to enjoy.

Thank you very much.

OP, the choice is for the both of you to make.

oldienavie:
I am 36 years old and she is 26 years old, is 10 years gap too much ?
She is such a godly lady and the type I'd love to settle down with.

Very much okay, I wish you all the best.

AmazonTopaz:
To each your own, you don't need our advice if you are both comfortable with it.

I am not a fan of high age gaps the most I can do is four years older or younger. Anything up to five has always been a no for me so I would not even bother dating a person with five years age difference from me because I believe I can relate better with my peers and that we usually belong in the same generation, malleable and learning in our own pace and not with a man who may be over a decade older who's opinions/world view is hard to change or easy to dialogue with. Age is a factor for me and it matters I relate with everyone regardless of age but I am more relaxed among my peers and I need someone within my generation and age to relate with very easily because I am very playful and unserious sometimes I don't want a situation where I will call you boy and you will take offence that I should be calling you your excellency abeg I cannot deal with hard people who are not flexible I believe that flexibility comes with how you relate with people and mostly your peers and not your parent's age mates why to do you think that peer pressure is a thing in the first place it is because children relate with who they can easily access and discuss with.

And I will prefer that we grow old together not me nursing you in your 70s and I am in my 50s or early 60s with so much life to enjoy.

Thank you very much.

OP, the choice is for the both of you to make.

I will guess you are probably not up to 25 years old, so I will forgive you for these childish assumptions and imagination.
Things are not always black and white and if you go through this NL, you'd see lots of people who married their course mates and still had problems in the marriage.

I am old enough to know that the fact you are same age with someone does not mean you are of the same mindset and you both have the same value system and outlook to life, which are the key things that makes a marriage work.

oldienavie:

I will guess you are probably not up to 25 years old, so I will forgive you for these childish assumptions and imagination.
Things are not always black and white and if you go through this NL, you'd see lots of people who married their course mates and still had problems in the marriage.

I am old enough to know that the fact you are same age with someone does not mean you are of the same mindset and you both have the same value system and outlook to life, which are the key things that makes a marriage work.

English is truly very hard,where in my post did I talk about you or rather made a personal observation I applied only to myself my opinion was subjective and not for you or anybody it is my personal preference so I don't get your anger.


You are 36 years old good to know but then you are the childish one for coming to throw tantrums on my mentions who needs your forgiveness did I in anyway offend you
They are not assumptions they are my personal preference that has so far worked for me you came on this forum seeking advice and I did not condemn you so I don't get this hullabaloo you are trying to exhibit since I am less than 25 years old and you are the older one maybe with a better brain why are you here seeking for advice if your reference to age(Iess than 25) is aimed at a personal attack on me you have failed woefully.

Anyway unto your last paragraph I know this but I prefer to be with someone within my age range not more than four years for me those things(value system, mindset, outlook) work better oya cry.

oldienavie:


1. I will guess you are probably not up to 25 years old, so I will forgive you for these childish assumptions and imagination. Things are not always black and white and if you go through this NL, you'd see lots of people who married their course mates and still had problems in the marriage.

2. I am old enough to know that the fact you are same age with someone does not mean you are of the same mindset and you both have the same value system and outlook to life, which are the key things that makes a marriage work.

1. There is nothing childish about what she stated. It is usually best you engage someone who you are on the same mental wavelength with than with someone who you can't even be in agreement with on anything.

The primary reason why many, including those who marry their age mates, along with so many who marry those much younger end up sad and miserable is they place such things as age, and ego, above the important things like respect, equality in relationship and love.

2. If your mental wavelength at age 36, is still at 26, then you are not doing it wrong going for someone of that age. The key is you ensure you are doing so for the right reasons . Not because you are want a partner you can teach/dominate and control but instead a partner you respect and see as your equal in all-wise, this even with the age gap.

AmazonTopaz:

English is truly very hard,where in my post did I talk about you or rather made a personal observation I applied only to myself my opinion was subjective and not for you or anybody it is my personal preference so I don't get your anger.


You are 36 years old good to know but then you are the childish one for coming to throw tantrums on my mentions who needs your forgiveness did I in anyway offend you
They are not assumptions they are my personal preference that has so far worked for me you came on this forum seeking advice and I did not condemn you so I don't get this hullabaloo you are trying to exhibit since I am less than 25 years old and you are the older one maybe with a better brain why are you here seeking for advice if your reference to age(Iess than 25) is aimed at a personal attack on me you have failed woefully.

Anyway unto your last paragraph I know this but I prefer to be with someone within my age range not more than four years for me those things(value system, mindset, outlook) work better oya cry.

Calm down, no need to fight....
Since you agree with what I stated in your last paragraph, I think you get my point.

Kobojunkie:
1. There is nothing childish about what she stated. It is usually best you engage someone who you are on the same mental wavelength with than with someone who you can't even be in agreement with on anything.

The primary reason why many, including those who marry their age mates, along with so many who marry those much younger end up sad and miserable is they place such things as age, and ego, above the important things like respect, equality in relationship and love.

2. If your mental wavelength at age 36, is still at 26, then you are not doing it wrong going for someone of that age. The key is you ensure you are doing it not because you are seeking someone to dominate and control as opposed to someone you respect and see as your equal even with the age gap.

How does age guarantee the bolded ?
The fact that you are same age with someone does not guarantee the bolded so what exactly is your point ?

Kobojunkie:
1. There is nothing childish about what she stated. It is usually best you engage someone who you are on the same mental wavelength with than with someone who you can't even be in agreement with on anything.

The primary reason why many, including those who marry their age mates, along with so many who marry those much younger end up sad and miserable is they place such things as age, and ego, above the important things like respect, equality in relationship and love.

2. If your mental wavelength at age 36, is still at 26, then you are not doing it wrong going for someone of that age. The key is you ensure you are doing so for the right reasons . Not because you are want a partner you can teach/dominate and control but instead a partner you respect and see as your equal in all-wise, this even with the age gap.

Thank you.

oldienavie:
1. How does age guarantee the bolded ?
2. The fact that you are same age with someone does not guarantee the bolded so what exactly is your point ?

1. Age does not guarantee it. She explained it her write that her mental is at the same level as that of her peers and so she prefers to date someone who is her mate.

There are adults whose mental wavelength does not correspond with that of those in their age group meaning they have to look outside to find real companionship.

2. Again, Age doesn't give you a guarantee but it serves as a sort of marker as far as where to look for what you seek.

Kobojunkie:
1. Age does not guarantee it. She explained it her write that her mental is at the same level as that of her peers and so she prefers to date someone who is her mate.

There are adults whose mental wavelength does not correspond with that of those in their age group meaning they have to look outside to find real companionship.

2. Again, Age doesn't give you a guarantee but it serves as a sort of marker as far as where to look for what you seek.

I think the bolded is the summary of the whole talk, we can drink to that.

Kobojunkie:
1. There is nothing childish about what she stated. It is usually best you engage someone who you are on the same mental wavelength with than with someone who you can't even be in agreement with on anything.

The primary reason why many, including those who marry their age mates, along with so many who marry those much younger end up sad and miserable is they place such things as age, and ego, above the important things like respect, equality in relationship and love.

2. If your mental wavelength at age 36, is still at 26, then you are not doing it wrong going for someone of that age. The key is you ensure you are doing so for the right reasons. Not because you are want a partner you can teach/dominate and control but instead a partner you respect and see as your equal in all-wise, this even with the age gap.

@bold and that is the reason some of them go for much younger girls because they are innocent, they are not yet exposed so they can easily manipulate and control them or another angle is that they can easily bear children very submissive and dependent on them their opinions have not completely formed so I can build her to my taste etc.

Kobojunkie:
1. Age does not guarantee it. She explained it her write that her mental is at the same level as that of her peers and so she prefers to date someone who is her mate.

There are adults whose mental wavelength does not correspond with that of those in their age group meaning they have to look outside to find real companionship.

2. Again, Age doesn't give you a guarantee but it serves as a sort of marker as far as where to look for what you seek.

My point

AmazonTopaz:
.... so I can build her to my taste etc.

Oh, that is so disgusting to even read.

AmazonTopaz:

@bold and that is the reason some of them go for much younger girls because they are innocent, they are not yet exposed so they can easily manipulate and control them or another angle is that they can easily bear children very submissive and dependent on them their opinions have not completely formed so I can build her to my taste etc.

So it is a crime for me to marry an innocent woman now, rather than marry exposed, wild women ?
Na wah o

oldienavie:

I think the bolded is the summary of the whole talk, we can drink to that.

Somehow I think you still don't understand the message here.

Let me put it as different way for you. Submission in marriage is born of a curse - Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22. And so when you say this 26-year-old is a "godly" woman, I hope by this you don't mean that she submits to you. If yes, then I can tell you your is nothing of God in that, or what you desire in her.

Jesus Christ came to redeem men from God's curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22 , including God's curse on marriage indicated in Genesis 3 vs 16. So if you choose submission(the curse) in marriage, you do so against Jesus Christ who came instead to save you from the curse.

Those who belong to Jesus Christ are instead meant to live as equals, loving each other as equals and serving each other as Jesus Christ commands - do to others as you would like for them to do to you- mutual respect.