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Greetings to you all, please I need advice from you all, am just a person who need help please don't insult as I see no reason for insult, all I need is just an advice from the experienced married persons, my marriage is 3 years now with no children am 35 years old, and my wife feels am cheating on her because of 1. In her words I always talk to her in a rude manner which I don't do that before, that the only reason for that is am seeing another woman and 2. Her instinct told her am cheating on her because her instinct don't lie. This is her reasons, my wife always told me she can't share me with another woman that she's too obsessed with me, and truly she's always obsessed, like she love me and hate to see me cheat and she always say this words if I catch you cheating on me you will end up in the hospital. She always say that and today I ask why do you always say you hurt me if I cheat and she said, I should clap hand for you right. So since am not cheating on her and she's accusing me already without evidence is that not a red sign? that in future she might hurt me even when I did not cheat on her but just being with my friends with their girl friends. Some of my friends are not married so I told her today so you can even kill me even if you don't have enough evidence but because you saw me with women or you heard a rumor, because she accused me yesterday night because my private part was inching me as a result of heat and after work not having my bath due to the weather, so after my bath I used a cream on my private part, I told her why threatened me and making me scared of You, after God my life is in your hands because you are my wife, because I eat your food everyday and she said she didn't meant it that way and was trying to cover it up. And she's like since I don't trust her we should break up, she's not serious about the break up but that's how she usually say this break up. My wife suffers alot from depression as a lot if not having children, and I have never one day pressured her about having children but rather I alway tell her be calm and God time is the best and we are about to do IVF. Please what should I do. My concern is my safety, when you accused me of cheating and am not. And you repeatedly said if I cheat I will find my self in the hospital. Thanks and God bless you all, am grateful

Woman fit make you run mad o. I think you are too soft on her.

True am so soft towards her I won't deny this.

Rule 1: Never take what women say seriously.
Rule 2: Take everything women say seriously.

Don't show women that they can hurt you.
Grow a thick skin.... And live your life like you can lose it the next minute,let her see it and Know she ain't the only thing that can kill u.

NB: Stay safe and always keep an eye out.
I'm out.

Out of the Abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. The truth is her type will not hesitate to inflict bodily harm on you if she catches or suspects you cheating on her and this is because she feels insecure and also has trust issues.

Things are really happening in marriages of nowadays Sha, in Igbo parlance it is said "afia onye n'azu ka oma anya ya" meaning you are knowledgeable in the kind of trade u are doing.

These creative writers don't get tired.

Seun must be paying you all heavily for crafting fictions to generate reactions from Nairaland users.

First of all, please use paragraphs. Reading your post was a big punishment.

What exactly are you doing that makes her conclude that you are cheating? Because I think you may not be telling us the parts that make you culpable.

And if it's just that she's obsessed over the cheating issue for no reason, you could trying being more transparent and communicate more with her.

If I were you, I will take the threat seriously...

All i see is a scared woman.

Spot on

Mumben:
Out of the Abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. The truth is her type will not hesitate to inflict bodily harm on you if she catches or suspects you cheating on her and this is because she feels insecure and also has trust issues.

Things are really happening in marriages of nowadays Sha, in Igbo parlance it is said "afia onye n'azu ka oma anya ya" meaning you are knowledgeable in the kind of trade u are doing.

She is gradually expressing the hidden beast in her...make God no let them kill u.


That is a serious threat u are joking with.

She is just scared, because she knows most men cheat when they can't get what they want from their wives, and in your case it's children, so she's indirectly telling you to prepare for the unexpected if you try that with her,

But you shouldn't be scared now, abi do you plan on cheating on her in the nearest future?

Don't entertain threats, tell her to stop threatening you or you will not be with her. People should stop romancing violence or threats of violence. She needs to sort her head out because it's never okay to threaten someone you claim to love. This is a huge red flag.

Do not take her threats lightly. There's no excuse for threatening someone.

Tell her you no longer feel safe with her because of her utterances(threats), and that if she continues to threaten you, you will be forced to report her to your family and hers too, just in case.
Speak up before it's too late sha.

I recently broke up with my girlfriend for issuing threats on me...your story just made me to remember her....this is a serious red flag oga!! Don't ever listen to what ladies are telling u here.....since ur already married to her i won't advice u to divorce her but call family meeting immediately (her own people and yours) report to them and let her sign undertaking in case anything happens to u.....just like some one above have already said" out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks".....alot of things are going on now...many people needs psychiatric attention.men are now the endengered species!! Speak up now b4 it's too late.

God will help you


This is what happens when you have an obsessed wife who isn't doing something worth the while

Just to be thinking of rubbish and coming up with different accusations.

Watching Nollywood dey also contribute to depression

eglobalcafe:
Greetings to you all, please I need advice from you all, am just a person who need help please don't insult as I see no reason for insult, all I need is just an advice from the experienced married persons, my marriage is 3 years now with no children am 35 years old, and my wife feels am cheating on her because of 1. In her words I always talk to her in a rude manner which I don't do that before, that the only reason for that is am seeing another woman and 2. Her instinct told her am cheating on her because her instinct don't lie. This is her reasons, my wife always told me she can't share me with another woman that she's too obsessed with me, and truly she's always obsessed, like she love me and hate to see me cheat and she always say this words if I catch you cheating on me you will end up in the hospital. She always say that and today I ask why do you always say you hurt me if I cheat and she said, I should clap hand for you right. So since am not cheating on her and she's accusing me already without evidence is that not a red sign? that in future she might hurt me even when I did not cheat on her but just being with my friends with their girl friends. Some of my friends are not married so I told her today so you can even kill me even if you don't have enough evidence but because you saw me with women or you heard a rumor, because she accused me yesterday night because my private part was inching me as a result of heat and after work not having my bath due to the weather, so after my bath I used a cream on my private part, I told her why threatened me and making me scared of You, after God my life is in your hands because you are my wife, because I eat your food everyday and she said she didn't meant it that way and was trying to cover it up. And she's like since I don't trust her we should break up, she's not serious about the break up but that's how she usually say this break up. My wife suffers alot from depression as a lot if not having children, and I have never one day pressured her about having children but rather I alway tell her be calm and God time is the best and we are about to do IVF. Please what should I do. My concern is my safety, when you accused me of cheating and am not. And you repeatedly said if I cheat I will find my self in the hospital. Thanks and God bless you all, am grateful

guy dem no dey over think woman matter if you no want run mental....and she go replace you sharpally...