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By BENJAMIN NJOKU

The last may not have been heard of Yul Edochie’s decision to marry a second wife, as members of his family have distanced themselves from the new development. The actor, on his part, has maintained that marrying a second wife was one of the best decisions he has ever made in life.
Recall that the actor during the week set tongues wagging on social media after he unveiled the birth of his son by his second wife, Judy Austin Muoghalu to the world.

His post on Instagram instantly went viral and since then, the actor has been receiving backlashes from different quarters, with many declaring him unfit to contest for any elective position in 2023, as he’s presently preparing ahead of the general elections.
Disappointed by Yul’s post, his first wife, Mary said “May God judge you both.”

However, reacting to the development on his Instagram page yesterday, Yul’s elder brother, Uche said his family did not support Yul Edochie’s decision and they were shocked.

According to him, Yul was advised against the marriage but he did not heed to their advice.

He wrote: “So my younger brother, Yul Edochie, just married a second wife out of the blues and Nigerians are freaking out. I get it. We are all shocked. I am a low key type of guy and I have tried to mind my own business but this circus is chasing me around too. So here is my take.

“I see two main problems here. His first wife Mary, a wonderful woman and my sister-in-law did not go into a relationship with my brother agreeing to be part of a polygamous marriage. That’s the first problem. So I feel for Mary. It is not fair on her. My family is not in support. This is not what we do and we are trying our best to console Mary. What else can we do?

“The second issue is that Yul is not a Muslim. If he was a Muslim, no one will be talking about this. Muslims marry as many wives as they want and nobody says anything. Traditional rulers and traditionalists of sorts do the same thing too and the Nigerian constitution recognizes polygamy as a legal marital union. Maybe we should burn that bloody constitution.

“We told Yul not to do it. He did it anyway. Have you ever tried controlling an adult when it comes to relationships? Good luck with that.”

Uche further noted that “Yul is an adult who feels marrying a second woman is the best way to own up to his mistakes and make things right. It took a lot of courage for him to do this too. A Muslim marries two or more wives and his people throw a party. Totally normal. A Christian does the same thing and he is the worst human being alive. It is tough.

“Women throw themselves at famous people so bad that it is suffocating. If the average person walks in Yul’s shoes for one year, they will get five or more women pregnant. So don’t be quick to judge if you have not lived that life. Most people will do worse. So this is Yul’s new baby with his new wife. Beautiful boy. Children are gifts from God. It is the circumstances of their birth that get us all riled up about what’s right and wrong. I wish them all luck,” Uche wrote on IG.

Meanwhile, speaking in an online interview with comedian Kasboi yesterday, Yul Edochie described marrying a new wife as the best decision he has ever made in his lifetime.

He said that he has always known that a day like this would come someday, adding that he didn’t need to seek his first wife’s permission to marry a new wife.

According to him, the woman who doesn’t respect you will not respect you. And the one who loves you and respects you will be with you forever.

On the backlashes trailing the development, the actor said everybody can’t see things the way you do. “A whole lot of people don’t know you but judge you from what they see,” he added.

Yul Edochie and his first wife, May Aligwe have been married for 16 years. Their union is blessed with four children, three boys and a daughter.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/04/marrying-a-second-wife-my-best-decision-in-life-yul-edochie/

If the average person walks in Yul’s shoes for one year, they will get five or more women pregnant. So don’t be quick to judge if you have not lived that life. Most people will do worse

This point needs repeating for hypocrites to properly digest it.

They are blaming the woman he impregnated.

It's not easy to take side in this kind of matter as we are not in their respective shoes.

However, I felt Yul Edochie bleeped up big time from my own perspective.
No matter his forebearing pain, hurt or grievances over the time, he shouldn't have robed it on the mother of his kids.
If he can't give consideration to anyone else in his decision, he should have considered his own kids.

We all have lingering challenges in our marriages from day one, but when children come into the fore then, we have to thread carefully.

Noted

Everybody is talking how his first wife stood by him during the hard times but nobody cared to know what he endured from the first wife during those hard times and may still be enduring. I'm not justifying his act but there's no smoke without fire.

Men are built with principles, if his own permit it good for him.

“Women throw themselves at famous people so bad that it is suffocating. If the average person walks in Yul’s shoes for one year, they will get five or more women pregnant. So don’t be quick to judge if you have not lived that life. Most people will do worse. So this is Yul’s new baby with his new wife. Beautiful boy. Children are gifts from God. It is the circumstances of their birth that get us all riled up about what’s right and wrong. I wish them all luck,” Uche wrote on IG.

My comment is based on the need to interrogate the thought sequences of Uche Edochie. I am not in any way judging Yul. I know many people would do and are doing worse than this, but what about the question of morality? What about responsibility? What about consequences? Finally, what about Chief Pete Edochie? Is Yul more famous than his father who had set a very high standard of moral etiquette to not only his children but the African society at large?

Bottom line is that when things like this happen, they reveal the true strength of men, for most men are weak; they may be famous, rich or poor. One thing is that whenever the moral compass is thrown into the examination of their lives they fall short. So Yul is not the worst of men, he is just an example of a man who is weak. Let's not forget to wish him and his family well at this moment of test. Forget all the noise and glitter of fame, they are all humans and know pain and disappointment, especially May. We move!!!!!

That interview is fake(skit)

My cousin sister, a product of a second wife is also condemning Yul. I haven't heard her speak against her mother for marrying my late uncle but she's here speaking against Yul.
Dis life no balance

Nwodosis:
Everybody is talking how his first wife stood by him during the hard times but nobody cared to know what he endured from the first wife during those hard times and may still be enduring. I'm not justifying his act but there's no smoke without fire.

Then he should have divorced her. Is it by force to endure in marriage?

Aufbauh:
It's not easy to take side in this kind of matter as we are not in their respective shoes.

However, I felt Yul Edochie bleeped up big time from my own perspective.
No matter his forebearing pain, hurt or grievances over the time, he shouldn't have robed it on the mother of his kids.
If he can't give consideration to anyone else in his decision, he should have considered his own kids.

We all have lingering challenges in our marriages from day one, but when children come into the fore then, we have to thread carefully.

I feel good knowing we still have people like you with such reasoning. Yul claims to love his kids and wife but I guess he doesn’t know what love is.

You can’t display an act of selfishness and still be claiming love. There are things you would want to do, but when you think about the pain it will inflict on your loved ones, you will just chill.

Women throw themselves at famous people so bad that it is suffocating. If the average person walks in Yul’s shoes for one year, they will get five or more women pregnant. So don’t be quick to judge if you have not lived that life. Most people will do worse.

Whoever the shoe fits

We4all:
Then he should have divorced her. Is it by force to endure in marriage?

If divorce is the best option, the opportunity is rightly staring at them.

We4all:
Then he should have divorced her. Is it by force to endure in marriage?

Any party is free to divorce in marriage.
If she tired and wanna move on she should divorce him. I mean it a free world. The second wife will smile to it.

Marrying like the biblical Solomon, will be best for you