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My wife was chatting with her ex boyfriend continuously. she was disturbing him to send money to her which the guy sent 2k without telling me on may 13 2022. Fuuny enough, on that day I collected loan thru app becos of her and my kids.
The guy using my love thru their conversation on WhatsApp. I'm so confused what to do.

latosolorunwa:
My wife was chatting with her ex boyfriend continuously. she was disturbing him to send money to her which the guy sent 2k without telling me on may 13 2022. Fuuny enough, on that day I collected loan thru app becos of her and my kids.
The guy using my love thru their conversation on WhatsApp. I'm so confused what to do.

confront her about it; see how she responds.

wis3:
confront her about it; see how she responds.

How many kids do you have?

Why are you collecting money from loan apps/

Why is she requesting for money from her ex?

Seems you have financial challenges; did this happen before or after the kids came?

And if "before", why bring children into such mess?

Jesus christ, what's wrong with you people?

Using your love?
Apologize to her for not being a good husband..you should have provided enough money for her and the kids tho..

Maybe she never knew you was gonna collect a loan on that day..

Raalsalghul:
How many kids do you have?

Why are you collecting money from loan apps/

Why is she requesting for money from her ex?

Seems you have financial challenges; did this happen before or after the kids came?

And if "before", why bring children into such mess?

Jesus christ, what's wrong with you people?

life happens.

latosolorunwa:
My wife was chatting with her ex boyfriend continuously. she was disturbing him to send money to her which the guy sent 2k without telling me on may 13 2022. Fuuny enough, on that day I collected loan thru app becos of her and my kids.
The guy using my love thru their conversation on WhatsApp. I'm so confused what to do.

Seat her down to tell you more

She Amy not want to tell you thr truth but let her speak then ask her intelligent questions that will make her fall

If at the end of the discussion nothing came out of it

Ask her to call the guy and out it on speaker to tell him that her husband caught her chatting with him and have asked her to inform him that she doesn't want any kind of communication between both of them

But before you do the above make sure you are carrying out your duty as a man and she is not an ideal woman at home

She may be doing that rubbish because she needs money to support the home

wis3:
life happens.

You can't be financially handicapped, bring kids into such mess and then tell me "life happens".

You know what I mean?

Raalsalghul:
You can't be financially handicapped, bring kids into such mess and then tell me "life happens".

You know what I mean?

life happens. People lose jobs, go from filthy rich to really poor. It's not as easy as you think.

Confront you wife and let her know this kind of rubbish must stop.Even if there are financial challenges in the home now,trying to seek help from an ex is unacceptable.

Op SORRY TO SAY THIS, SHEIS NOT ONLY COLLECTING MONEY FROM D EX ALONE, OTHERS ARE ALSO SENDING HER MONEY AND SHE IS ALSO GIVING DEM BACK IN KIND. THAT IS JUST D DAUGHTERS OF EVE WE HV THIS DAY.
WHEN I LOOK AT MARRIED MEN, I DONT KNOW WHETHER TO PITY THEM OR NOT BCS WAITiNG MY EYES DUN SEE FOR MARRIED WOMEN SIDE, MY MOUTH NO FIT TALK AM.

Simpson
You better confront her now before is too late

I really pity you and your wife.

OP confront the issue immediately if it's not too late. Don't lose guard! A woman should stay faithful and loyal to her marriage or seek a dissolution. If you don’t already know, Nigerian women are the most unfaithful wives in the world (about 70% are unfaithful), and I think it has more to do with moral decadence than poverty

Why are modern women so promiscuous and see nothing wrong with it?

wis3:
life happens.

What a laid back comment!


And Op, what's with this "she didn't tell me"?
Tell you about what? The money or that she begged her ex for money?
Did you expect her to tell you?
Wouldn't you have minded if she had told you?

What is the issue gangan? 'tori with you men of nowadays, a o le so o!
O le je pe the issue is that she didn't tell you about the money.

Mariangeles:
What a laid back comment!

And what's with this "she didn't tell me"?
Tell you about what? The money or that she begged her ex for money?
Did you expect her to tell you?
Wouldn't you have minded if she had told you?

What is the issue gangan? 'tori with you men of nowadays, a o le so o!
O le je pe the issue is that she didn't tell you about the money.

it's not about the money. If they keep in touch they'll just grow fonder of each other with this ex, thereby causing problems for her marriage.

wis3:
it's not about the money. If they keep in touch they'll just grow fonder of each other with this ex, thereby causing problems for her marriage.

It's increasingly shocking how most couples nowadays have no respect/regards for their marriages.

Confront her now before it will be too late. She might be knacking her codedly

You aren't providing enough...

For your wife and kids. Your wife is now on survival mode.

It's a damn shame because you obviously feel helpless about it. If you provided enough it's unlikely she would ask her ex for money.


The only thing you can do is double your hustle bro. Provide for your family. Find something for wifey to do to earn.

How can you possibly ask your wife who probably needs the least but urgent 2k you couldn't provide to take care of her kids not to chat he ex?

Na why poor man no dey get respect o.

It's not easy... but double your hustle bros.

Poverty na bast....!