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How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best. She expresses herself before especially with in-laws but now keeps quiet mostly but she is still seen as proud. Also she use to be slim but as added weight and her body language is misinterpreted. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting. Pls give her suggestions. Thank you.

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How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband and mother in law always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best and keep quiet mostly. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting.

respect is very complex especially im
marriage when both husband and mother in law demand it

eg some mother in saw see is as being disrespectfull when a daughter-in-law answered back or change the environment according to
her taste

For husband is the same, some men are good at commanding or doing this their own way, when wife suggest something its seen as being disrespectful

respect is given through your deeds is not demanded

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How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband and mother in law always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best and keep quiet mostly. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting.

So long as she is sure she is already doing her duty as a wife and a daughter-in-law, she doesn't need to do any more than that really. You can't please everybody, even in marriage. The wife should spend her extra energy instead destressing so all that what may be mental abuse does not get her down to the point that she makes them seem right.

Also, respect is not one way in marriage. If you feel you are yourself not being respected in your marriage, then there is a problem in your relationship. It's up to you what you do but no one should be another's slave or footstool in marriage. It is meant to be a step up, not a step down in life..

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How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband and mother in law always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best and keep quiet mostly. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting.

While I can't confirm if you are really proud or not, I am very worried about the framing of the feedback:

Husband & Mother in law.

It always should be: husband & wife on one side.

Ask your husband his definition of pride and respect.

If it is not something that demeans / disrespects you as a person, look at it and adjust/compromise where/if necessary.

there is nothing you can do here as the husband will always find any BS to call her proud... she could just sneeze and they will call her proud.
these people are not compatible and the more wifey tries to please this man, the worst this is gonna get.

there is only ONE WAY OUT.... part ways, as ou cant change people and/or try to be who you are not.

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How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best. She expresses herself before especially with in-laws but now keeps quiet mostly but she is still seen as proud. Also she use to be slim but as added weight and her body language is misinterpreted. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting. Pls give her suggestions. Thank you.

Tell her to focus on her husband and her husband alone. It is her husband she married and if he is a man indeed he will defend her...but if she married an overgrown boy or a sadist then there is no advice that can help her.

As long as they have concluded in their minds that u are a proud, there will be nothing u can do to please such people again.

My own is that, always be mindful of ur speech and actions around them especially your mother-in-law.

They want yes ma yes ma, and yes Sir yes sir kind of person.

These kinds of people sef, at the end of the day u will find out they are snub and ain't humble too.

You haven't noticed most people want their opinions to always be above yours, they don't want you to have a say or speak your mind, if you do any of these, you are 'proud'

If you now decide to ignore them, they would still say you are looking down on them and have put yourself in a class and still turn around to call you 'proud'

You best bet is to always be a better version of yourself, don't be rude, reduce your response around them. You don't have to contribute to every discussion.

some people are not suppose to venture into marriage at all. it gets annoying sometimes reading stupid reasons that some put up just to take whatever useless decisions they want to take

Exactly! The family will never see her as humble even if she kills herself for them. Please take this sound advise and watch yourself with them. Such people will go as far as setting traps to get the wife to raise her voice in anger then they'll say "you see, we said it" and other nonsense.

The man too should man up and save his wife.

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As long as they have concluded in their minds that u are a proud, there will be nothing u can do to please such people again.

My own is that, always be mindful of ur speech and actions around them especially your mother-in-law.

They want yes ma yes ma, and yes Sir yes sir kind of person.

These kinds of people sef, at the end of the day u will find out they are snub and ain't humble too.