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hamouston91:
I noticed that most Nigerians feel so much achievement upon having a family member outside the country. I have seen Nigerians proudly declare the following (just an example tough) :

1. My uncle in Canada

2. My Aunty in UK

3. My Brother in the US

4. My son in Germany

5. My cousin in South Africa

6. My husband is in the United Arab Emirates

7. My daughter in Italy

8. My brother in Malaysia

9. My nephew in India

10. My brother sister uncle daughter son in Kuwait
Etc.
I observe a pride in each of these people, and I realized that it doesn't even matter which country the family resides in, for the homers, they always feel like they won a noble prize by having a family abroad.
Some of these people have families in Indonesia, Malaysia, Israel, Libya, Kuwait, Honduras, Greece etc. And they puff with pride as if it's a life worth achievement.
Others have families in the US, UK, Germany, Canada, France, South Africa, Australia etc, which is still note worthy.

But the Question is; why do most Nigerians count having a family abroad as a big achievement, and even make mockery of their fellow Nigerians who do not have a family member abroad. Or those who refuse to mention that they have families abroad?

Is it a Nigerian thing to behave like that, or is it a global thing, do other countries nationals behave like that?

Your opinion is the back bone of this thread. Thank you.

hamouston91:
Lol! Jealous, if you noticed the Houston in my moniker then you did. But I won't boast of that person in Houston, Texas. Let it remain so.

Is this not hypocritical

emmaodet:
It is a pity such is happening here.
My mum also pressured me to travel out with my family but I no gree.
Whenever am home, she will always be updating me about how Dammy (my childhood friend who traveled to US) sent car home to his mother, he has just bought land and developing it blah blah blah.
Anytime she ask me for money and I say I don’t have or complain before giving her a part of it, the next thing is she doesn’t understand why I don’t want to travel. That am I enjoying the kind of life am living here?
She believes if have traveled like Dammy, she won’t be struggling to get good money from me.
She pressured my wife too, likewise her mum to pursued me.
Whenever I get a financial hit from my business, the next thing I hear from my wife and mother is - what are you still doing here in nigeria? Are we not wasting our time? Is it not better we travel? Blah blah blah
If my wife reads a news that fulani herdsmen attacks a village or kidnap someone, the next thing is she is tired of this country and wants to move to a sane country abroad.
Just any small thing, let’s move as if they don’t shoot sporadically too in abroad.
Also, my mum wants that pride of answering her friends …. Oh Emma is is US doing fine when they ask her about Emma.
I just don’t know the thing with Nigerians and abroad especially women.
No be by force to push person for abroad abeg

GistFullGround:


I am in MARYLAND, & my cousin in BOSTON tells his friends that "MY BROTHER IN BOSTON" even my friend in LONDON ALWAYS refers to me as MY GOOD FRIEND IN US. So, what's your point?

By the way, I've lived here in the US for 18 good years, what's the shakara about? Nobody cares!

Like I said, FOCUS!

hamouston91:
I noticed that most Nigerians feel so much achievement upon having a family member outside the country. I have seen Nigerians proudly declare the following (just an example tough) :

1. My uncle in Canada

2. My Aunty in UK

3. My Brother in the US

4. My son in Germany

5. My cousin in South Africa

6. My husband is in the United Arab Emirates

7. My daughter in Italy

8. My brother in Malaysia

9. My nephew in India

10. My brother sister uncle daughter son in Kuwait
Etc.
I observe a pride in each of these people, and I realized that it doesn't even matter which country the family resides in, for the homers, they always feel like they won a noble prize by having a family abroad.
Some of these people have families in Indonesia, Malaysia, Israel, Libya, Kuwait, Honduras, Greece etc. And they puff with pride as if it's a life worth achievement.
Others have families in the US, UK, Germany, Canada, France, South Africa, Australia etc, which is still note worthy.

But the Question is; why do most Nigerians count having a family abroad as a big achievement, and even make mockery of their fellow Nigerians who do not have a family member abroad. Or those who refuse to mention that they have families abroad?

Is it a Nigerian thing to behave like that, or is it a global thing, do other countries nationals behave like that?

Your opinion is the back bone of this thread. Thank you.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Very GOOD QUESTION.
Such Threads should be allowed to soar.
The Truth is, such is basically an African thing and most specially a Negro-African thing.

To a Caucasian, Traveling means leisure.
He travels to explore and learn newer ways of doing things and not to create tornadoes.
But most Nigerians leave the country for GREENER PASTURES and not for exploration.
So, leaving Nigeria is now a huge source of employment & forex which will definitely extend to family members.

Caucasians are also excited & boastful of their trips to other parts of the world. In Fact, such serves as an integral part of their RESUME' when applying for Jobs. But not for Greener Pastures and such can never be said of their relatives who rather assume an oblivious perception of their siblings trips.

Skullano:
Hmm, I have few of my families abroad but I barely talk to them e come be to use them dey hype.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Very GOOD QUESTION.
Such Threads should be allowed to soar.
The Truth is, such is basically an African thing and most specially a Negro-African thing.

To a Caucasian, Traveling means leisure.
He travels to explore and learn newer ways of doing things and not to create tornadoes.
But most Nigerians leave the country for GREENER PASTURES and not for exploration.
So, leaving Nigeria is now a huge source of employment & forex which will definitely extend to family members.

Caucasians are also excited & boastful of their trips to other parts of the world. In Fact, such serves as an integral part of their RESUME' when applying for Jobs. But not for Greener Pastures and such can never be said of their relatives who rather assume an oblivious perception of their siblings trips.

emmaodet:
It is a pity such is happening here.
My mum also pressured me to travel out with my family but I no gree.
Whenever am home, she will always be updating me about how Dammy (my childhood friend who traveled to US) sent car home to his mother, he has just bought land and developing it blah blah blah.
Anytime she ask me for money and I say I don’t have or complain before giving her a part of it, the next thing is she doesn’t understand why I don’t want to travel. That am I enjoying the kind of life am living here?
She believes if have traveled like Dammy, she won’t be struggling to get good money from me.
She pressured my wife too, likewise her mum to pursued me.
Whenever I get a financial hit from my business, the next thing I hear from my wife and mother is - what are you still doing here in nigeria? Are we not wasting our time? Is it not better we travel? Blah blah blah
If my wife reads a news that fulani herdsmen attacks a village or kidnap someone, the next thing is she is tired of this country and wants to move to a sane country abroad.
Just any small thing, let’s move as if they don’t shoot sporadically too in abroad.
Also, my mum wants that pride of answering her friends …. Oh Emma is is US doing fine when they ask her about Emma.
I just don’t know the thing with Nigerians and abroad especially women.
No be by force to push person for abroad abeg

emmaodet:
It is a pity such is happening here.
My mum also pressured me to travel out with my family but I no gree.
Whenever am home, she will always be updating me about how Dammy (my childhood friend who traveled to US) sent car home to his mother, he has just bought land and developing it blah blah blah.
Anytime she ask me for money and I say I don’t have or complain before giving her a part of it, the next thing is she doesn’t understand why I don’t want to travel. That am I enjoying the kind of life am living here?
She believes if have traveled like Dammy, she won’t be struggling to get good money from me.
She pressured my wife too, likewise her mum to pursued me.
Whenever I get a financial hit from my business, the next thing I hear from my wife and mother is - what are you still doing here in nigeria? Are we not wasting our time? Is it not better we travel? Blah blah blah
If my wife reads a news that fulani herdsmen attacks a village or kidnap someone, the next thing is she is tired of this country and wants to move to a sane country abroad.
Just any small thing, let’s move as if they don’t shoot sporadically too in abroad.
Also, my mum wants that pride of answering her friends …. Oh Emma is is US doing fine when they ask her about Emma.
I just don’t know the thing with Nigerians and abroad especially women.
No be by force to push person for abroad abeg

hamouston91:
The last time I checked, I found out that people envy the things which they don't have. So I have no reason to envy them for their proud attitudes. And it's not the case of sending money, firstly you should know that nobody sends 1000 dollars home, and if true, then maybe in families with very poor financial situations.
But the point remains that most of these proud people have never received even a bottom dollar from their families abroad. Some have never even spoken to the families abroad, they just know that an uncle is in Canada, a cousin is in Ireland etc. Yet they pride themselves as if they won a gold medal or something.

Most of those who communicate regularly with their families abroad never exhibit such pride. I hope you understand me now? Thank you.

Ikpongiton:
werey .it is in the north that they see Igbo man as a semi white man.

hamouston91:
I noticed that most Nigerians feel so much achievement upon having a family member outside the country. I have seen Nigerians proudly declare the following (just an example tough) :

1. My uncle in Canada

2. My Aunty in UK

3. My Brother in the US

4. My son in Germany

5. My cousin in South Africa

6. My husband is in the United Arab Emirates

7. My daughter in Italy

8. My brother in Malaysia

9. My nephew in India

10. My brother sister uncle daughter son in Kuwait
Etc.
I observe a pride in each of these people, and I realized that it doesn't even matter which country the family resides in, for the homers, they always feel like they won a noble prize by having a family abroad.
Some of these people have families in Indonesia, Malaysia, Israel, Libya, Kuwait, Honduras, Greece etc. And they puff with pride as if it's a life worth achievement.
Others have families in the US, UK, Germany, Canada, France, South Africa, Australia etc, which is still note worthy.

But the Question is; why do most Nigerians count having a family abroad as a big achievement, and even make mockery of their fellow Nigerians who do not have a family member abroad. Or those who refuse to mention that they have families abroad?

Is it a Nigerian thing to behave like that, or is it a global thing, do other countries nationals behave like that?

Your opinion is the back bone of this thread. Thank you.

Ishilove:
Mscheeeew x 2

ben2rhymes:
U must have had conversations with many many people who made reference to relatives in local places…. ‘Like one of my uncle in the village ehn’….. but u won’t reason it
Once u hear someone mentions a relative overseas, U unsecured mind, ur inferior conscience would remind u that u don’t have person in abroad and would tag it pride

Oga, you need to work on yourself… you’re the problem

One reason rich people avoid poor old friends, there are certain utterances you make in discussions with them base on your wide experience, they’d see it as pride and might directly or indirectly kill you for it, but the rich ones would see it as a mere discussion and see it as topic for deliberations.

Again, Oga build yourself…don’t be Myopic

Hanndye:
Come to think of it, I think there is something that awes the human psyche about the word TRAVEL. Just make a mention of it where ever to, people gaze at out. People even get named after where they have been to. Neil Armstrong was not admired because the moon is better than earth, just the further he went. I think it's because we all all sojurners anyway. It's an innate thing like many others.

hamouston91:
I have never read a comment as confusing as this. You mentioned shakara, yet earlier, you said I was jealous. You don't even know what to reply. I'm awed at your confusions

GistFullGround:
No, you are the one in a confused state of mind...

I meant what I implied. You are someone who wants to be what you are not.

I laughed out loud, did you not refer to yourself a person in Houston, Texas?

You just to America within 2 years and now you want to cast?

No wonder dunces rule Texas!

hamouston91:
Really? Why did you say it's a southern Nigerian thing, don't you think the Northern Nigerians might be the same? Do you have any idea of how they react upon having families abroad? Please your opinion is welcome. Thank you.

Desusi:
Most people used to think that when you have people abroad your problems are over.particularly parents or siblings. Little did they know that the person in abroad is facing a new breeds of problem,while struggling for money.Most of these peoples that travel would be struggling to get the ticket money used, some would want to settle cooperative. Alas,l once cried when l que for bread in Belgium. I remembered using my whole day job money to buy food in Brussels.

hamouston91:
I noticed that most Nigerians feel so much achievement upon having a family member outside the country. I have seen Nigerians proudly declare the following (just an example tough) :

1. My uncle in Canada

2. My Aunty in UK

3. My Brother in the US

4. My son in Germany

5. My cousin in South Africa

6. My husband is in the United Arab Emirates

7. My daughter in Italy

8. My brother in Malaysia

9. My nephew in India

10. My brother sister uncle daughter son in Kuwait
Etc.
I observe a pride in each of these people, and I realized that it doesn't even matter which country the family resides in, for the homers, they always feel like they won a noble prize by having a family abroad.
Some of these people have families in Indonesia, Malaysia, Israel, Libya, Kuwait, Honduras, Greece etc. And they puff with pride as if it's a life worth achievement.
Others have families in the US, UK, Germany, Canada, France, South Africa, Australia etc, which is still note worthy.

But the Question is; why do most Nigerians count having a family abroad as a big achievement, and even make mockery of their fellow Nigerians who do not have a family member abroad. Or those who refuse to mention that they have families abroad?

Is it a Nigerian thing to behave like that, or is it a global thing, do other countries nationals behave like that?

Your opinion is the back bone of this thread. Thank you.

emmaodet:
It is a pity such is happening here.
My mum also pressured me to travel out with my family but I no gree.
Whenever am home, she will always be updating me about how Dammy (my childhood friend who traveled to US) sent car home to his mother, he has just bought land and developing it blah blah blah.
Anytime she ask me for money and I say I don’t have or complain before giving her a part of it, the next thing is she doesn’t understand why I don’t want to travel. That am I enjoying the kind of life am living here?
She believes if have traveled like Dammy, she won’t be struggling to get good money from me.
She pressured my wife too, likewise her mum to pursued me.
Whenever I get a financial hit from my business, the next thing I hear from my wife and mother is - what are you still doing here in nigeria? Are we not wasting our time? Is it not better we travel? Blah blah blah
If my wife reads a news that fulani herdsmen attacks a village or kidnap someone, the next thing is she is tired of this country and wants to move to a sane country abroad.
Just any small thing, let’s move as if they don’t shoot sporadically too in abroad.
Also, my mum wants that pride of answering her friends …. Oh Emma is is US doing fine when they ask her about Emma.
I just don’t know the thing with Nigerians and abroad especially women.
No be by force to push person for abroad abeg