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Grandmeister:
Very easy and yet I have very devoted friends whose marriages crashed in the first three years, very easy and a lot of preachers have seen their marriages crash.

When a man and woman love each other with agape love in marriage, no matter the storms, it will only become stronger.

The problem is that many don't have a good relationship with God, hence they find it difficult to truly love in marriage.

U insult chinwetalu agu finish come think say ur head go normal

Omoh, I like the way marriages are getting handled nowadays. If the thing tire any of you, move.

seanwilliam:
I agree sir, but a lot of ‘working’ marriages these days are not really working as it seem. Most of them are just hanging on because of the benefit’ attached.. I’m not a misogynist, but bro, MOST of issues in marriage are caused by women.. a woman has what it takes to make marriage work compared to man. same thing applies to boyfriend girlfriend’ relationship. The girl has what it takes to make it work. As a man that you are, I can bet my balls that If your wife/girlfriend yields to your complains, YOU CAN NEVER HURT her at least willingly except the situation is beyond your control. Note that there’ are exceptional circumstances though

seanwilliam:
a man can have all that but if his woman chooses to be the devil , I swear the marriage will crash . Baba e get some woman u should not dare marry, you will live to regret it.

You can’t change people you know . Except they’re willing to.

What happened in a case where the man chooses to be devil? You guys have a way of pushing all the blame to the woman, ignoring all your own flaws. No woman wakes up to be the devil except a man or someone else pushes her.
Both the man and woman can choose to make their marriage not just one person.

I be dey craze for this guy eeh, long b4 he got married o. During his Tinsel days. Still attractivebto me though. Thank God for time.

There is no love anywhere now. Know this and have peace young people

taylor88:
If you’re a boy who’s still in his 20’s Abeg just impregnate like 4 women and hand over your kids to your parents

If the mother no gree release the child leave him/her with the mom and still pay him/her bills when e grow e go ask for him father


Just hustle hard to take care of their bills



Marriage is trash


Only focus on Olosho and friends with benefit


I gave up on relationship after fvcking so many guys serious girlfriends and fiancé

That’s when I knew relationships and marriages in Nigeria are useless

Yet, you v made no sense. Cos the basis of good people is from a solid marriage.
Talking from the Christian angle, a child that's raised well by both parents ll value companionship, responsibility, and not to raise kids anyhow. These things are the basis of good and bad behaviours in the world.

taylor88:
If you’re a boy who’s still in his 20’s Abeg just impregnate like 4 women and hand over your kids to your parents

If the mother no gree release the child leave him/her with the mom and still pay him/her bills when e grow e go ask for him father


Just hustle hard to take care of their bills



Marriage is trash


Only focus on Olosho and friends with benefit


I gave up on relationship after fvcking so many guys serious girlfriends and fiancé

That’s when I knew relationships and marriages in Nigeria are useless

Oga adviser.

AdamuKD:
I don't know but my feelings is telling me that the problem must have been from that boy.
He looks like a chronic and unrepentant womanizer.
These days, when I attend either traditional or weddings and see how happy the couple's are especially the ladies,they will be laughing and dancing and be telling you that today is their day, I go just laugh within me because they don't really know what they are getting themselves into. After the whole noise, when they get home, their eyes go clear by force. And if the couple's don't work together in harmony and understanding, the marriage will die a natural death. Individual differences, financial strain and stress just to keep up with the new responsibilities will eventually take a toll in the marriage and eventually, marriage go pack up. Marriage in Nigeria now no be moimoi oh. Thanks to our government.
My advice to the single ladies and single men out there is, if you are not ready to be constantly working on your marriage,dont bother marrying because you are going to come out of that marriage sooner or later

I know what I am saying because I'm married too. If you think that I am lying , ask any couple around u

The only sweetness in marriage na money and pikin period. If you lack any of these two things or both, your marriage will be hell on earth

100% truth

Rozross:
Men are responsible for the marriage problems you see everywhere

U like vawulence normally sha

Marriage starts before and after the wedding ceremony..

Challenges must come.

taylor88:
If you’re a boy who’s still in his 20’s Abeg just impregnate like 4 women and hand over your kids to your parents

If the mother no gree release the child leave him/her with the mom and still pay him/her bills when e grow e go ask for him father


Just hustle hard to take care of their bills



Marriage is trash


Only focus on Olosho and friends with benefit


I gave up on relationship after fvcking so many guys serious girlfriends and fiancé

That’s when I knew relationships and marriages in Nigeria are useless

bro i agree with you on this but not only in Nigeria this happen but also here in Europe I'm a victim of it but we moveeeeee

Karma is a bitch. It shall soon f**k you on a dusty floor. Be ready!

taylor88:
If you’re a boy who’s still in his 20’s Abeg just impregnate like 4 women and hand over your kids to your parents

If the mother no gree release the child leave him/her with the mom and still pay him/her bills when e grow e go ask for him father


Just hustle hard to take care of their bills



Marriage is trash


Only focus on Olosho and friends with benefit


I gave up on relationship after fvcking so many guys serious girlfriends and fiancé

That’s when I knew relationships and marriages in Nigeria are useless

Gideon Okeke is gay, rather, bisexual. I'm sure that the lady could not keep coping with his shenanigans.

When you’re broke, you’re broke

And the men would be ?

CSTRR:
In the next 10-20 yrs, majority of Nigerian women would be single mothers.

WibusJaga:
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Abeg I no de put mouth for husband & wife matter.

wise one may you never know 360 degree headache all over the face or waist pain

Pickmycall:
Make una dey go una village go marry.Village girls no dey divorce after you don pay bride price.

Not just village girls but a woman from a traditional setting not all these modern women


Women with traditional setting and background can keep marriage. Especially those ones they call mgbeke. They will maintain your home, respect you and give you peace of mind

But you see modern women with woke sense. Men should run

They don't know how to respect or submit to a Man.

Men must be very careful

Blueelf:
The only sensible comment so far

Thank you

judedwriter:


It's very easy to show agape live, except you aren't a Christian.

Once you are filled with God's presence, it's very easy to show his love to everyone.

Only those who don't spend time with God, can't express His love.

And how many people even understand agape love?

Many so called Christians don't even know what it is

Marriage works when the two people involved are good humans, filled with empathy for each other

But when there is no empathy by the two or it's one sided
The marriage will crash

Very many people today don't have human feelings, so there is no empathy and meaness

And yes I am married and am talking from experience

AdamuKD:
I don't know but my feelings is telling me that the problem must have been from that boy.
He looks like a chronic and unrepentant womanizer.
These days, when I attend either traditional or weddings and see how happy the couple's are especially the ladies,they will be laughing and dancing and be telling you that today is their day, I go just laugh within me because they don't really know what they are getting themselves into. After the whole noise, when they get home, their eyes go clear by force. And if the couple's don't work together in harmony and understanding, the marriage will die a natural death. Individual differences, financial strain and stress just to keep up with the new responsibilities will eventually take a toll in the marriage and eventually, marriage go pack up. Marriage in Nigeria now no be moimoi oh. Thanks to our government.
My advice to the single ladies and single men out there is, if you are not ready to be constantly working on your marriage,dont bother marrying because you are going to come out of that marriage sooner or later

I know what I am saying because I'm married too. If you think that I am lying , ask any couple around u

The only sweetness in marriage na money and pikin period. If you lack any of these two things or both, your marriage will be hell on earth

As simple as that!

Rozross:
My son how are you doing

who's your son e , zzor , better rest

Nawa o
Shey me I go find love laidis? Abi make I just go carry belle jejely be single mother.

Mindlog:
Sad.....they should work out co-parenting their children well.



Under which Nigerian law, will you take a child away from the biological mother as a baby daddy?

I don't even understand the OP point

Abeg make una carry una marriage wahala park one side we have more pressing issues . Am obident and i have my pvc

UyaiIncomparabl:
Gideon Okeke is gay, rather, bisexual. I'm sure that the lady could not keep coping with his shenanigans.

Na wao! Coming from you, I am compelled to believe this.

hisexcellency34:
Motigbesional Speaker

.that's how my buddy who just married last 4month talks.Baba said that "his wife is the best Eve in the world". He come dey even give me relationship advice.I told him to wait till after 5yrs before he can start making such claims.

AdamuKD:
I don't know but my feelings is telling me that the problem must have been from that boy.
He looks like a chronic and unrepentant womanizer.
These days, when I attend either traditional or weddings and see how happy the couple's are especially the ladies,they will be laughing and dancing and be telling you that today is their day, I go just laugh within me because they don't really know what they are getting themselves into. After the whole noise, when they get home, their eyes go clear by force. And if the couple's don't work together in harmony and understanding, the marriage will die a natural death. Individual differences, financial strain and stress just to keep up with the new responsibilities will eventually take a toll in the marriage and eventually, marriage go pack up. Marriage in Nigeria now no be moimoi oh. Thanks to our government.
My advice to the single ladies and single men out there is, if you are not ready to be constantly working on your marriage,dont bother marrying because you are going to come out of that marriage sooner or later

I know what I am saying because I'm married too. If you think that I am lying , ask any couple around u

The only sweetness in marriage na money and pikin period. If you lack any of these two things or both, your marriage will be hell on earth

I agree with you till the last paragraph.... I may probably be older than you in marriage, so the only sweetness in marriage is NOT money and kids please. Marry your friend if not your best friend. There would be quarrels, arguments and disagreements.... But when one throws joke, the other will let go. No one should hold issues too tightly and kindly keep out infidelity... It kills love and Trust.

Juanmike:
I am scared

Fear is natural for any big move a man makes in the course of his life, just like starting a new business with little or no prior knowledge, you must calculate well so even if you lost, it doesn't kill you

OdefaGirl:
I agree with you till the last paragraph.... I may probably be older than you in marriage, so the only sweetness in marriage is NOT money and kids please. Marry your friend if not your best friend. There would be quarrels, arguments and disagreements.... But when one throws joke, the other will let go. No one should hold issues too tightly and kindly keep out infidelity... It kills love and Trust.

How do you know that you're older than him in marriage?

Rozross:
I knew his marriage won't last, all these guys that are fitness freaks are mostly unrepentant womanisers. The reason for this ones seperation wont pass unfaithfulness from the man.

You sound pained about people and issues you are not a privy to.

Mindlog:
That's certainly an arrangement, which is transactional as monetary terms have been discussed and agreed upon but even with those signed documents, the birth mothers of those children can legally have claims on those children if they go to court because no Nigerian law supports buying off a child.

Your friend is emotionally cold and those four children would certainly not be well adjusted based on my clinical experience.

The man would breed psychological monsters bereft of emotional intelligence.