I really do not know who to talk to rn and this has been disturbing me. I am so confused rn.

Our marriage is less than a year, we are not pregnant yet and my wife sat me down to discuss the issue last week. She said i should allow her try with another man outside our marriage to see if she will be pregnant. I asked if she's asking for a divorce and she said no, she wants to try with another man while still married to me.

Why she'll come up with something like that and even had the guts to tell me still baffles me. We've gone for series of tests in a space of 7months and nothing seems to be wrong with me.

I just can't keep the discussion out of my head. I'm so scared for her rn and i dont know what to do.

I swear, I am landing her a hot slap for saying that.

You can take me to jail afterwards.

This story might sound fake but it happens. Tell your wife to present the case to God. Both of you must be involved in this. Not every case requires medical solutions

Eriokanmi:
This story might sound fake but it happens. Tell your wife to present the case to God. Not every case requires medicine

Make una dey pity God na

When there's IVF and sperm donor

Warn her never to have such desperate thought in your house again or you may marry another wife and move on

Wake up, wake up...don’t sleep....oya so pe otilo...e don go... oya so pe otilo.....it’s goone!!!

Story..story..

Fear Just de catch me! I never marry!!

She see say Bet9ja don take over your life that's why she wan try carry you handicap and NG + Un 1.5 according to your moniker.

Make una softly dey create phantom threads here joor

Are you sure she doesnt want a party?..
Thats the only explanation for this mad request...
Brotherly, when your wife finally gets pregnant, after putting to bed, pls run a DNA test on that child..
Couples stay for fibe years before having a child, she is busy asking for another man before the marriage clocks one year.

Yes , allow her try and see who the fault is from.

Moh247:
When there's IVF and sperm donor

Warn her never to have such desperate thought in your house again or you may marry another wife and move on

I've seen a couple, both successful and confirmed virile in hospitals,home.and abroad, yet no issues. They ran all the tests of this world, no way! They did lots of ivf procedures yet, no solution. They now agreed to adopt, whilst still trusting in God. Long story cut short, the wife took ill. She went to the hospital for malaria test but she returned home with a different result
She was confirmed weeks pregnant. The twins they had clocked one year last weekend. My street was filled up, nowhere to pass. A boy and a girl, carbon copies of their dad.

gaby:
She see say Bet9ja don take over your life that's why she wan try carry you handicap and NG + Un 1.5 according to your moniker.

Make una softly dey create phantom threads here joor

I understand this may not look real as i was also surprised... I probably wouldn't believe if i were to read this somewhere too

Eriokanmi:
I've seen a couple, both successful and confirmed virile in hospitals,home.and abroad, yet no issues. They ran all the tests of this world, no way! They did lots of ivf procedures yet, no solution. They now agreed to adopt, whilst still trusting in God. Long story cut short, the wife took ill. She went to the hospital for malaria test but she returned home with a different result
She was confirmed weeks pregnant. The twins they had clocked one year last weekend. My street was filled up, nowhere to pass. A boy and a girl, carbon copies of their dad.

I wonder why we don't sometimes consider adoption

Even we yorubas believe if you take care of adopted kids, God might bless you soonest with your own kid

.

Onepointfiveodds:


I understand this may not look real as i was also surprised... I probably wouldn't believe if i were to read this somewhere too

Now, I am lost for words..but not entirely surprised.

Onepointfiveodds:
I really do not know who to talk to rn and this has been disturbing me. I am so confused rn.

Our marriage is less than a year, we are not pregnant yet and my wife sat me down to discuss the issue last week. She said i should allow her try with another man outside our marriage to see if she will be pregnant. I asked if she's asking for a divorce and she said no, she wants to try with another man while still married to me.

Why she'll come up with something like that and even had the guts to tell me still baffles me. We've gone for series of tests in a space of 7months and nothing seems to be wrong with me.

I just can't keep the discussion out of my head. I'm so scared for her rn and i dont know what to do.

If I were you, I'll prepare for a divorce right away.

A faithful woman would never say such regardless of any delay.

Prepare for DNA test for your first child.

No respect or not done well

Moh247:



I wonder why we don't sometimes consider adoption

Even we yorubas believe if you take care of adopted kids, God might bless you soonest with your own kid

.

@bold which Yoruba told you that? Get your fact right.

Karleb:
I swear, I am landing her a hot slap for saying that.

You can take me to jail afterwards.

parkervero:


@bold which Yoruba told you that? Get your fact right.

Ori Omo ni on pe Omo wasi Aye

Moh247:



Ori Omo no pe Omo was Aye

Yoruba didn't say adoption, that's what I want to correct you of. Yoruba believe if the man marry another woman and that woman conceive, as a result of that, the first wife might equally conceive. That's where the proverb comes to play Ori omo lo n pe omo wa aye

Your wife is going to leave you soon. Please see the writings on the wall....

Onepointfiveodds:
I really do not know who to talk to rn and this has been disturbing me. I am so confused rn.

Our marriage is less than a year, we are not pregnant yet and my wife sat me down to discuss the issue last week. She said i should allow her try with another man outside our marriage to see if she will be pregnant. I asked if she's asking for a divorce and she said no, she wants to try with another man while still married to me.

Why she'll come up with something like that and even had the guts to tell me still baffles me. We've gone for series of tests in a space of 7months and nothing seems to be wrong with me.

I just can't keep the discussion out of my head. I'm so scared for her rn and i dont know what to do.

its sounds as if your wife is under pressure to have a child

The question is are you aware she is under pressure ? or your self you are ok you dont feel the pressure hence you are confused by her suggestion

ZIMDRILL:

its sounds as if your wife is under pressure to have a child

The question is are you aware she is under pressure ? or your self you are ok you dont feel the pressure hence you are confused by her suggestion

No pressure, just desperation i believe

Onepointfiveodds:


No pressure, just desperation i believe

its a form of pressure

Both of you need to relax, being under pressure also causes delays on concieving

The most important thing is both of you understand the pressure you are under and defend each from those who pur pressure on each of you

Tell her you want to try with another woman first

can't stop laughing

Zonefree:

Make una dey pity God na

I see this marriage hitting rock bottom.this is a marriage of convenience not of love.you better divorce that woman you call a wife else you will be miserable in that marriage.

a good resounding slap will reset her brain to default so she will retrace her words.

kilo kon mi

Mheeen.. This is really demeaning for a man honestly, You must really be a dunce or an idiot for ur wife to have such boldness to sit u down and tell you that....

Funny enough i had this experience myself but it was my uncle and is wife who begged me to help them since i'm family and no child for 18 years. They already spoken with my mom she said she couldn't decide for me they should speak with me.

this marriage is almost finished.
na added time una dey like this.
just waiting for the final whistle.

now the question is WHO IS HOLDING THE WHISTLE?
is it the guy outside that is about to pregnant her?
is it the wife who has lost faith in her husband?
is it the husband who is already in a state of shock?

Moh247:



I wonder why we don't sometimes consider adoption

Even we yorubas believe if you take care of adopted kids, God might bless you soonest with your own kid

.

You're right. We've got such a rich tradition. They were actually in the process of adopting when their prayer was heard .