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Jman06:
Don't mind her jare


"Mama's boy" is one of the phrases they use when they want to emotionally blackmail a guy.

zainabicy:
Make I add, there is nothing good mother can do for you that good wife cannot do.

But there is something good wife can do for you, but good mother cannot do for you.

ezugegere:
Good wives went into extinction in the early 80s

James289:
Anyone who puts mom first needs to see a therapist.

shantti:
My mother first, any time any day

tayo60:
My husband first before my father

shantti:
Ur r mad with due respect ma

shantti:
If u have an option to save ur husband or ur mum, who would u save.

tayo60:
My husband first before my father

MufasaLion:
None of my business.

ezugegere:
Good wives went into extinction in the early 80s

libertyfather:
What rubbish how will you compare mother love to wife love, your wife too will hv her children direct the question to the children and understand what you are talking or your mom fit give birth to your kids? Stop senseless comparison wife and mom are two diff people..if one lost wife he can get another but mother man no fit get again....so wht u talking

Jman06:
It's actually anyone who puts wife first that needs to see a therapist.

Moms (and by extension, dads and siblings) are the only ones that genuinely loves a man.

Many guys of marriageable age are finding it hard getting married because no lady would accept them in that state. But their moms still love and care for them regardless of their present financial state. Then when the guy eventually makes it, one lady from somewhere would just come in and start expecting the man to put them above his mom.

A wife can leave a man when things get rough for him, but his mom sticks to him through thick and thin. I've seen countless examples!

So, only a very foolish man would place his wife above his mom. Are we not talking about the same wives that many men are only pretending to be happy with because of societal expectations

As a lady, you just have to make peace with the fact that a reasonable man would not put you above his mom. I know you ladies don't like to hear the truth, but I must always tell y'all the truth.

Reinamaria:
As a husband, when you put your mother before your wife, she in turn puts your child(ren) before you.
Any good mother would advise her son to put his good wife first before her (the mother), for him to be happy in his marriage.
Only a selfish and possessive mother would let her married son put her first before his wife.
No woman who loves her husband puts her father first.

finishmatter:
A man's mother generally loves him no matter what horrors he commit. She would even take a bullet for him while his wife is more likely to put a bullet IN him.

A mother's love is generally unconditional. A wife's love has conditions - one slip up and he will find yourself on his backside.

In this context, should a man love his wife more than his mom?

Mindlog:
In this context, he shouldn't even be married in the first place. He can contract a lady for surrogacy, he goes to fertility clinic pay for eggs and have it fertilized, then inseminated into the surrogate mother.

After the child is born, he hands over the baby to his mother to nurture......you see, he doesn't need a wife and there wouldn't be mother vs wife scenario.

odinson1:
See you in 25 years,when your son gets married.
You'll look back on this your comment and laugh

Karleb:
These women lack foresight.

They can hardly see beyond what's infront of them.

pansophist:
Mike Tyson once said. "Everything your mother does for you is for your own interest, but every thing a woman does for you is for her own interest."

So you don't compare the love between a mother and a wife. No wife have died for their husband, but mothers do give their life for their child. Some even loose their life during child birth. How can you compare a wife to a mum? Don't.

Without the love from a mother, your wife may not even get married to you. The mother you are comparing your woman with was the foundation of her attraction towards you.

Having said that, it does not mean that one should pick one over the other. They both have their place. And any woman that puts you in a position of choosing is not a good woman.


How can a woman (wife) with the following features by an ally to a man?
1. conditional love for the husband
2. Takes revenge when ill-treated by the husband
3. Loves the husband based on his economic conditions
4. Insults and abandons her husband in difficult times

Even though you should choose your wife for obvious reasons such as having an ally that you'll build your future with together, since your parents represents the past, a woman asking you to choose between her and your mother defiles the goodness of her character.

Like a flower, we appreciate it not for its self-identification of beauty, but because we can see that it's beautiful ourselves.

Same applies to a good woman. You will know not because she call herself such, but you can see through her character that she is. And she telling you to choose between her and your mother defiles it.

Mindlog:
A woman who expects her son to always defer to her and place her above his nuclear family, certainly didn't have a good marriage herself and needs to compensate through her son.

Karleb:
These women lack foresight.

They can hardly see beyond what's infront of them.

Karleb:
It takes a terrible wife to think a mother would expect such from his son.

Shey you dey whine me ni?

pansophist:
Mike Tyson once said. "Everything your mother does for you is for your own interest, but every thing a woman does for you is for her own interest."

So you don't compare the love between a mother and a wife. No wife have died for their husband, but mothers do give their life for their child. Some even loose their life during child birth. How can you compare a wife to a mum? Don't.

Without the love from a mother, your wife may not even get married to you. The mother you are comparing your woman with was the foundation of her attraction towards you.

Having said that, it does not mean that one should pick one over the other. They both have their place. And any woman that puts you in a position of choosing is not a good woman.

Even though you should choose your wife for obvious reasons such as having an ally that you'll build your future with together, since your parents represents the past, a woman asking you to choose between her and your mother/wife defiles the goodness of her character.

Like a flower, we appreciate it not for its self-identification of beauty, but because we can see that it's beautiful ourselves.

Same applies to a good woman. You will know not because she call herself such, but you can see through her character that she is. And she telling you to choose between defiles it.

Mindlog:
It is not about a terrible wife "thinking" but even the mindset of a mother who feels because she has "suffered" to raise her son, she has the first and final say on his life...his finances, his marital life, how he raiaes his children ......that is an unhealthy attachment.

Most mothers who have choking grips over their sons, didn't/don't have good themselves and expressing themselves through their sons

The toxic mother-in-law roles Patience Ozokwor played, is not a figment of imagination as they are evident in some families around us.