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1stGenAmerican:
This entitled epistle confirms something that I’ve told you guys on Nairaland before today—one of the first things Nigerians do when they arrive abroad is badmouth other Nigerians with any white people who listen and that’s another reason whites have little respect for Nigerians. White guys won’t pick a Nigerian to badmouth other white guys with but Nigerians pick any willing white people and badmouth fellow Nigerians, Cameroonians, Beninese, African-Americans, and anybody else black.

If the white colleagues cared about this guy, they would’ve immediately offered him rides to and from work when he told them their plight.

When this person made plans to migrate to the UK, he knew that he would experience cold temperatures so why would he wait until he was cold and instead of buying his own clothes, go to church and complain about the cold so that another man could use the money he hustles for to supply this guy with clothes? The guy basically said that he rather use his money to send to his people in Nigeria than spend it in the country where it is but I guess his family is Nigeria is more important that the Ghanaian’s family.

I agree that Nigerians abroad are stingy, including my own father, uncle, and aunts , but the reason is after they moved away from Nigeria, their eyes open to how manipulative and entitled some Nigerians are.


Some Nigerians here in the diaspora look for weddings to attend solely to eat free food.

These people don’t bother bringing a gift and don’t bother greeting the bride, groom, or families. The average wedding reception here in the US or the UK costs $20 per guest and that adds up fast. The people they want to charge are these uninvited guests so if they want to charge the people who didn’t receive an actual invitation, don't bring even $1 as a gift, don’t bother to greet the bride or groom, immediately start begging for food, drinks, and takeaway plates in front of other guests. I don’t blame them for charging.

Some insightful takes you made in your post brown sugar.


"A Two-way Convo Summary"
1stGenAmerican: "I'm an American, okay?! ... not a Nigerian. I don't wanna be tagged or identified with any of y'all entitled, trouble makers... We move!" (rolls eyes)


AlphaTaikun: "1stGen
American be talking like she don't know what's up. She be talking..."

"How come YOU know so much about Nigerian Diaspora weddings and reception gate-crashers? Oh, I get it... You must be a regular at many of these Nigerian-themed weddings." (eye brows raised)


But seriously though, once wedding invites have been served, nobody... and I mean absolutely nobody has a right to tag along with invitees to gate-crash a
wedding reception or party without even giving a $1 gift! I'm stunned by this info from you. I've never heard of the "free foodie" wrecking crew at Nigerian Diaspora weddings though. Costs truly add up for some couples or celebrators.

I don't blame some folks who go for classy but minimalist wedding ceremonies under a gazebo on a resort's beach front, even though they have the funds to stage big weddings with many guests. That's my kinda style.

You're very good when it comes to giving out "low blows." You got me really crackin' up in your last paragraph... That's the "mo gbo mo ya" wrecking crew. There's even a popular and hilarious song track for them. Lol.

This is a very one-sided view of Nigerians living in the UK and this post reeks of entitlement. In the UK, 40% of your income is taxed. Not only that, you pay tax for everything except the air you breath. When you are in that situation, you will be cautious of the way you spend your money. As someone previously wrote, a car is a very expensive liability in the UK. On top of the taxes and insurance, there something called congestion charge for those who park their cars in very busy areas. WIth those kind of fines, you will calculate the benefits of giving any tom, dick and harry free rides.There are many Nigerians in the UK who are generous (not all) but many Nigerians coming fresh from home tend to abuse that generosity. I have lived in the UK for close to 13 years and my relatives were my bedrock. Without them, I wouldn't have lasted that long. I never had to worry about accommodation and feeding. It all depends on the friends and relatives you have.

On the issue of entitlement. when I was in boarding school, the highest an oyinbo bloke would ask me was 10 pounds and they will pay you back the following day. However, when I was in uni with Nigerians, they will ask me for 50, 60, 100 pounds and fail to pay back. In fact, they assume that it was a write off. Why won't people in the system be wary of you lots with that sort of mindset?? However, I do agree that Nigerians/black people in the UK can do better as the Asians (especially Indians and Pakistanis) are very united and have risen very fast in the social mobility ladder due to strength of unity and purpose.

Studymore123:
Really, so what you wrote up there is true. It is ridiculous that one would be looking for weddings to attend solely for free food when access to food is one of the biggest differenciator btw the US and Nigeria.

On the aspect of "stingy" or "stinginess". It's more of cultural differences. The Nigeria man feels more comfortable sharing his last N1k with his friend than and American doing so with his last $10.
I could recall offering free rides to Americans and some would offer me 5 bucks for gas. I'll tell him, keep it to yourself, it's a norm to offer free rides to others in Nigeria without seeking anything in return. That really puzzled some of them.
Nigerians are quick in copying what I'll call "negatives" abroad and fail to copy the many "positives" that can make them a better person. Like any other place or people the US has great ethics which I always highlight but the money culture is very upsetting.

Most people here are complaining I have entitlement mentality but am not here to complain about people not helping me because am living comfortable and by God grace am a big Boy. But my problem is why would dey learn the bad side of the white people and become worst than them and not learning the good side?
What am trying to say is that Nigeria exploit people alot. There was once of my friend that move from London to my town to stay and he was living in hotel. I told him to come and stay with me in my room in which we share bed together. My flatmate that where white was not happy with me and some where asking me if he was paying me for him to stay with me in which I said No. Then my white flatmate started asking me if he was my gay partner that he is incovinence me and I should charge him. I told all the white people that every thing is not about money that some times friendship is better than money

1stGenAmerican:
This entitled epistle confirms something that I’ve told you guys on Nairaland before today—one of the first things Nigerians do when they arrive abroad is badmouth other Nigerians with any white people who listen and that’s another reason whites have little respect for Nigerians. White guys won’t pick a Nigerian to badmouth other white guys with but Nigerians pick any willing white people and badmouth fellow Nigerians, Cameroonians, Beninese, African-Americans, and anybody else black.
If the white colleagues cared about this guy, they would’ve immediately offered him rides to and from work when he told them their plight.
When this person made plans to migrate to the UK, he knew that he would experience cold temperatures so why would he wait until he was cold and instead of buying his own clothes, go to church and complain about the cold so that another man could use the money he hustles for to supply this guy with clothes? The guy basically said that he rather use his money to send to his people in Nigeria than spend it in the country where it is but I guess his family is Nigeria is more important that the Ghanaian’s family.
I agree that Nigerians abroad are stingy, including my own father, uncle, and aunts , but the reason is after they moved away from Nigeria, their eyes open to how manipulative and entitled some Nigerians are.
Some Nigerians here in the diaspora look for weddings to attend solely to eat free food. These people don’t bother bringing a gift and don’t bother greeting the bride, groom, or families. The average wedding reception here in the US or the UK costs $20 per guest and that adds up fast. The people they want to charge are these uninvited guests so if they want to charge the people who didn’t receive an actual invitation, don't bring even $1 as a gift, don’t bother to greet the bride or groom, immediately start begging for food, drinks, and takeaway plates in front of other guests. I don’t blame them for charging.

Don't know about US but for UK that I have stay in nobody wake up in the UK thinking about food because food is cheap. Last year December I bought two bags fill with food with just 11 pounds and you can eat as u like in some restaurant in the UK as much as u want without taking the food outside the restaurant as low as 10 pounds. So food as never been problem. Most Nigeria goes to Nigeria marriage not because of food but dey just want to feel Nigeria vibe such as listen to Nigeria song, see people laugh and merry and just get that feeling for once that you are in Nigeria. So my dear stop thinking that people in the UK are so miserable to the extent that dey start looking for food. Remember this is a develop country and have pass the stage of hunger. Right now dey are fighting obesity because people eat too much here

morinto:
Most people here are complaining I have entitlement mentality but am not here to complain about people not helping me because am living comfortable and by God grace am a big Boy. But my problem is why would dey learn the bad side of the white people and become worst than them and not learning the good side?
What am trying to say is that Nigeria exploit people alot. There was once of my friend that move from London to my town to stay and he was living in hotel. I told him to come and stay with me in my room in which we share bed together. My flatmate that where white was not happy with me and some where asking me if he was paying me for him to stay with me in which I said No. Then my white flatmate started asking me if he was my gay partner that he is incovinence me and I should charge him. I told all the white people that every thing is not about money that some times friendship is better than money

I understand you bro and know Nigerians like to exploit others. I'm happy to know you're doing well. They believe everything should be paid for and nothing should be done for free. I have influenced some with my lifestyle. Life is more than Pounds and Pence.

justwise:
So you expect those Nigerians to buy you winter jacket and drive you to work for free?

He buys petrol, pay insurance, road tax and MOT with his money then drive you to work for free while you save your own salary?

You are just wicked and selfish.

Have accommodated two different Nigeria guys I did not know at all for more than a month. One got my number from a UK group chat and chatted me that is coming to the UK as a new person and have no place to stay. I accommodate the person, feed him and I never ask him for money. Person where I nor know at all. He even offer me cash but I nor take. Right now we be paddy even though he now have his own house and he does not play with me at all. The second person I accommodate was a nigeria guy from London I met. That guy staying with me cause problem. My white flatmate was not happy at all. Some white people in my flat was telling me to charge him and some where asking me if he was my gay partner. I told them I don't do gay and am not collecting money and everything is not about money. Even though my white flatmate tried to persuade me to collect money I refuse and stand my ground. In this life everything is not about money. Know this and have peace

gforce5:
This is a very one-sided view of Nigerians living in the UK and this post reeks of entitlement. In the UK, 40% of your income is taxed.

On the issue of entitlement. when I was in boarding school, the highest an oyinbo bloke would ask me was 10 pounds and they will pay you back the following day. However, when I was in uni with Nigerians, they will ask me for 50, 60, 100 pounds and fail to pay back. In fact, they assume that it was a write off. Why won't people in the system be wary of you lots with that sort of mindset?? However, I do agree that Nigerians/black people in the UK can do better as the Asians (especially Indians and Pakistanis) are very united and have risen very fast in the social mobility ladder due to strength of unity and purpose.

I wish I could quote your whole comment. You just nailed it. A double-edged approach to the topic in question. God bless you.

morinto:
Have accommodated two different Nigeria guys I did not know at all for more than a month. One got my number from a UK group chat and chatted me that is coming to the UK as a new person and have no place to stay. I accommodate the person, feed him and I never ask him for money. Person where I nor know at all. He even offer me cash but I nor take. Right now we be paddy even though he now have his own house and he does not play with me at all. The second person I accommodate was a nigeria guy from London I met. That guy staying with me cause problem. My white flatmate was not happy at all. Some white people in my flat was telling me to charge him and some where asking me if he was my gay partner. I told them I don't do gay and am not collecting money and everything is not about money. Even though my white flatmate tried to persuade me to collect money I refuse and stand my ground. In this life everything is not about money. Know this and have peace

You have inferiority complex problem and i think you are making up these stories of strangers you accommodated.

morinto:
Most people here are complaining I have entitlement mentality but am not here to complain about people not helping me because am living comfortable and by God grace am a big Boy. But my problem is why would dey learn the bad side of the white people and become worst than them and not learning the good side?
What am trying to say is that Nigeria exploit people alot. There was once of my friend that move from London to my town to stay and he was living in hotel. I told him to come and stay with me in my room in which we share bed together. My flatmate that where white was not happy with me and some where asking me if he was paying me for him to stay with me in which I said No. Then my white flatmate started asking me if he was my gay partner that he is incovinence me and I should charge him. I told all the white people that every thing is not about money that some times friendship is better than money

You are a big boy just after a year in the UK? SMH!

morinto:
Have accommodated two different Nigeria guys I did not know at all for more than a month. One got my number from a UK group chat and chatted me that is coming to the UK as a new person and have no place to stay. I accommodate the person, feed him and I never ask him for money. Person where I nor know at all. He even offer me cash but I nor take. Right now we be paddy even though he now have his own house and he does not play with me at all. The second person I accommodate was a nigeria guy from London I met. That guy staying with me cause problem. My white flatmate was not happy at all. Some white people in my flat was telling me to charge him and some where asking me if he was my gay partner. I told them I don't do gay and am not collecting money and everything is not about money. Even though my white flatmate tried to persuade me to collect money I refuse and stand my ground. In this life everything is not about money. Know this and have peace

You guys reinforcing bad behaviour and wonder why it is still persistent in people.

Why should a student going to a different country not sort out accommodation even student accommodation?

I had two aunts in UK, living London and Bristol respectively, but when I came, I purposely booked my flight to Manchester and went straight to Newcastle where my accommodation and university is. Stop encouraging bad behaviour, you are not doing any good at all.

Regex:
You guys reinforcing bad behaviour and wonder why it is still persistent in people.

Why should a student going to a different country not sort out accommodation even student accommodation?

I had two aunts in UK, living London and Bristol respectively, but when I came, I purposely booked my flight to Manchester and went straight to Newcastle where my accommodation and university is. Stop encouraging bad behaviour, you are not doing any good at all.

All fingers are not the same my guy. Some people spend their last cash to buy ticket and do visa and there are stranded. I think the help I gave to them was little compare to what the Indians and Pakistan give to their people in the UK

justwise:
You are a big boy just after a year in the UK? SMH!

Yeah everyone have different grace my brother

justwise:
You have inferiority complex problem and i think you are making up these stories if strangers you accommodated.

Because you have inferiority complex and always tell lies does not mean every single person would be like you. Please go and sit down. What relate inferiority complex to this topic? either you have problem in reading and understanding or you are just assuming everyone has your personality of inferior complex .

morinto:
Because you have inferiority complex and always tell lies does not mean every single person would be like you. Please go and sit down. What relate inferiority complex to this topic? either you have problem in reading and understanding or you are just assuming everyone has your personality of inferior complex .

I guess you keep repeating that you have white flatmates is inline with your “big boy” status.

Do you also have black or Asians flatmates or you only relate to white people?

My white flatmates says this and that bla bla bla..even without telling us that you are new in the UK your story says it all

morinto:
Yeah everyone have different grace my brother

Anytime you feel the need to tell strangers online that you are a big boy it’s simply means you are not.

Please what's the criteria for becoming a BIG BOY in this UK??

I want to become one bikonu

justwise:
Anytime you feel the need to tell strangers online that you are a big boy it’s simply means you are not.

Why the pain? If I decide to brag about my achievement is non of your business. Only God know how u came up with this dumb theory of what u posted.

rinzylee:
Please what's the criteria for becoming a BIG BOY in this UK??

I want to become one bikonu

There is not a definition of a big boy. It all depends on your perceptive on how u see what is called big boy

morinto:
Why the pain? If I decide to brag about my achievement is non of your business. Only God know how u came up with this dumb theory of what u posted.

If brag about your achievement in public forum people are within their right to comment on it and that makes it everybody’s business

justwise:
I guess you keep repeating that you have white flatmates is inline with your “big boy” status.

Do you also have black or Asians flatmates or you only relate to white people?

My white flatmates says this and that bla bla bla..even without telling us that you are new in the UK your story says it all

Now I see where your pain is coming from. Bros just learn on how to read and comprehend and not to attack. I did not mention the other race In my flat because there where cool with it except the white people which are not used to accommodate people because of the way of their life of just taking care of themselves and their immediate or nuclear family

justwise:
If brag about your achievement in public forum people are within their right to comment on it and that makes it everybody’s business

When using pain to attack someone because the person brag about his achievements then it really tell alot about the person identity

morinto:
There is not a definition of a big boy. It all depends on your perceptive on how u see what is called big boy

Hope you realize this was a banter?

rinzylee:
Hope you realize this was a banter?

It sound more like a question

morinto:
Don't know about US but for UK that I have stay in nobody wake up in the UK thinking about food because food is cheap. Last year December I bought two bags fill with food with just 11 pounds and you can eat as u like in some restaurant in the UK as much as u want without taking the food outside the restaurant as low as 10 pounds. So food as never been problem. Most Nigeria goes to Nigeria marriage not because of food but dey just want to feel Nigeria vibe such as listen to Nigeria song, see people laugh and merry and just get that feeling for once that you are in Nigeria. So my dear stop thinking that people in the UK are so miserable to the extent that dey start looking for food. Remember this is a develop country and have pass the stage of hunger. Right now dey are fighting obesity because people eat too much here

Hello again morinto.

I'm guessing you live outside
London because of the first bolded.

The second bolded is largely true about those weddings.

Last but not least, I want you to edit or change the title of your thread topic to "Some Nigerians in the UK..." instead of "Nigerians in the UK are Greedy," so as to stop folks here from misintepreting you and thinking you are INSULTING all Diasporan Nigerians living in the
UK. That's the initial perception
I had of your thread too until I saw some of your subsequent rebutals or POV.


Have a great day.

Bankowner:
Nigerians in the UK are greedy! Nigerians in the UK are selfish!

All I read in your post is you receiving and receiving. Who have you given anything apart from the charges collected from you?

He doesn't need to tell who he has helped.

But he can tell who didn't help him abi?

Does that sound mature to you?

adebayo111:
He doesn't need to tell who he has helped.