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Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by TMSMedia: 4:55pm On Nov 25, 2022
Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years - Evangelist Agochukwu Advises Couples

Founder of Shekinah Arena Gospel Ministries, Port Harcourt, Evangelist Gospel Agochukwu, has said couples should send all their siblings away, if their marriages are not up to five to seven years, IGBERETV reports.

Posting on his Facebook page, Agochukwu wrote;

''SEND ALL YOUR SIBBLINGS AWAY FROM YOUR HOUSE IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT UPTO 5 YEARS.

if your marriage is not upto 7 Years old and you have family members or friends living with you send them away immidietly.

Majority of people in your house is the chief sponsor of issue between you and your wife.

ONE DAY...

I didnt know how external people gets to know things happening in the house; they will even call to interfere without invitation, so
i called for a meeting in my house invited my mum and my mother inlaw and said i want every sibling out of my house.

Family members were more than 5 in the house.

Everyone thought i was being wicked but better to stay wicked than allow your weaknesses litter everywhere.

And when this was done sustainable peace came forth.

Courtship/ Dating season is not enough for compatibility test but first 5-7 Years of staying married together.

First 7 Years is the year of test running before perfection.

Stop wondering how people knew you quarreled with your wife.

Some people living with you tell outsiders not for intention to break your home but out of emotional sympathy for their brother or sister or friend.
That is you dont complain but they complain on your behalf.

There are things you can tolerate the person living with you cannot tolerate on your behalf meanwhile you are the one married and he/she is single

Send them away and help them from afar'

You are not oxygen, the people you think cant survive without you can actually do.

Sending people out helps them discover hidden potentials.

Gen 2:24 " a man shall leave his Father and mother and be joined to his wife and they shall be one"

Did you see leave father and mother and cling to other family members?

May God preserve your home
Share Share Share!!!
Evang Dr Gospel Agochukwu Jp''

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Sanmel(f): 5:13pm On Nov 25, 2022
Hmmmm...
Makes sense sha but then...

I used to live with my brother before until he got married.
I remember how I use to feel bad and even sometimes cry when my brother's wife would be insulting him, when I say insult, I mean deep and hurtful words. I always feel like I should be fighting for him but I've always known not to interfere in any couples affair and all these started less than 3months after their wedding..
As I quiet reach, the woman later started looking for my trouble and as soon as I sensed the extension, I started packing my things small small without even my brother knowing..
My brother later noticed how she was acting towards me and said I should be challenging her back, I just said okay.
In my mind, I just said "no be me and you, person wey you no fit talk to, na me wan con dey face am for you"

Today, the wife and I are now like sisters and no one would believe so many terrible things happened between us and I rarely discussed with any other relative..

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by MufasaLion: 5:36pm On Nov 25, 2022
This dude is right but he should understand that this is Africa and we believe in communal life, and it's even more common among the rich ones because they mostly have their extended family around. Although I think it all depends on the couples to decide on how they want to run their family. I mean, if you start having kids and you have issues, will you send your kids away? No!

So, wether you have relatives living with you or not, you should be able to contain your shit without making it obvious to anyone, expect you and your spouse. Sadly, many couples don't even know how to handle situations and things get worse after being married.

Also, people living witg either young or old couples should learn to mind their business. They shouldn't let their emotions make them make irrational decisions on behalf of either of the couples.

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by GboyegaD(m): 5:44pm On Nov 25, 2022
It is a little difficult in the Nigerian context considering that things are tough however, siblings should try not to involve themselves in each other's marriage. They should learn to look the other way.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Mindlog: 5:46pm On Nov 25, 2022
Some would start living with married siblings right from the first day of the marriage, putting unnecessary pressure on the couples. angry

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by MufasaLion: 5:47pm On Nov 25, 2022
Sanmel:
Hmmmm...
Makes sense sha but then...

I used to live with my brother before until he got married.
I remember how I use to feel bad and even sometimes cry when my brother's wife would be insulting him, when I say insult, I mean deep and hurtful words. I always feel like I should be fighting for him but I've always known not to interfere in any couples affair and all these started less than 3months after their wedding..
As I quiet reach, the woman later started looking for my trouble and as soon as I sensed the extension, I started packing my things small small without even my brother knowing..
My brother later noticed how she was acting towards me and said I should be challenging her back, I just said okay.
In my mind, I just said "no be me and you, person wey you no fit talk to, na me wan con dey face am for you"

Today, the wife and I are now like sisters and no one would believe so many terrible things happened between us and I rarely discussed with any other relative..


You made the right move. Unfortunately, many relatives living with couples tend to feel entitled to couples' private life, hence the reason they bring division.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Franciscabless(f): 5:54pm On Nov 25, 2022
In Nigeria everybody has turn into marriage counselor . The truth is siblings or no siblings if marriage go scatter e go still scatter.

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by izzou(m): 5:57pm On Nov 25, 2022
Instead of you both to work on your faulty and toxic characters, you'll look for an innocent relative to pour it on

Nigeria is already hard, and if you can help a relative when in need, please do.

I would look out for my relatives if they are in need. I'd rather send out a relative that interferes with my marriage, than making it a rule.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by MufasaLion: 6:03pm On Nov 25, 2022
Franciscabless:
In Nigeria everybody has turn into marriage counselor . The truth is siblings or no siblings if marriage go scatter e go still scatter.

You're wrong. Don't underestimate the negative effect a bad relative can have in couples' home. Even if neither of them are problematic, a bad relative can cause havoc and either of the couples that's the family to the person will likely support him/her. It's unfortunate it mostly so, but that's just how it plays.

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by MufasaLion: 6:04pm On Nov 25, 2022
izzou:
Instead of you both to work on your faulty and toxic characters, you'll look for an innocent relative to pour it on

Nigeria is already hard, and if you can help a relative when in need, please do.

I would look out for my relatives if they are in need. I'd rather send out a relative that interferes with my marriage, than making it a rule.

Your last sentence is right and I think it's only few people in marriage that understands that there's limit to what there relative should know or interfere in! Most men will say that your wife is not your blood, but it's very uncommon for a woman to say your husband is not your blood.

In fact, some families have raised their kids (both genders) to believe your only family is your parents and siblings, hence the reason why some couples will always side with their individual relatives irrespective of the situation. It's sad.

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by emmanuelbrown26: 7:11am On Nov 26, 2022
Relative from d woman's side would come and d wife will entertain including their shortcomings but once it has to do with relative from d man's side, then issues start coming up.
ABEG Mr pastor or what, tell that to daughters of jezebeel to be more accommodating with carefulness and not men
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Nemesis0147(m): 7:43am On Nov 26, 2022
I can’t relate because I’m not married yet but I’m sooo having my siblings around when I get married that’s if they want to.
They are family,we started the journey together and someone from somewhere will just come and start dictating how I will relate with my siblings all in the name of marriage.....she just have to take them as her siblings too or she leave the house for them.

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Mindlog: 10:09am On Nov 26, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
Relative from d woman's side would come and d wife will entertain including their shortcomings but once it has to do with relative from d man's side, then issues start coming up.
ABEG Mr pastor or what, tell that to daughters of jezebeel to be more accommodating with carefulness and not men

Are we not all, the relative from the woman's side?

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Swinger60(f): 10:26am On Nov 26, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
Relative from d woman's side would come and d wife will entertain including their shortcomings but once it has to do with relative from d man's side, then issues start coming up.
ABEG Mr pastor or what, tell that to daughters of jezebeel to be more accommodating with carefulness and not men
Everything is not about women bashing.

with what you wrote up there, Don't you have a sister? and are you not a wife's relative too?

if you feel your wife accommodates her siblings only.., your sister married to another man is also guilty of the same sin.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Sweetoror: 4:47pm On Nov 30, 2022
Guys please I need advice. So my husband and I decided to live in one of my father inlaw house after we got married due to financial difficulties. My father inlaw later came to join us in the house after one month of marriage. Before he came I cook once a day everyday as my husband and I don't like old food. Now he is around he wants me to be cooking 3 times a day for him everyday and serving him. Mind you he doesn't eat cereals just native food and rice. My friend suggested I put food in fridge so I started doing that. Even at that its still very stressful for me. I'm no longer free to out for long because I must come right on ti.e to serve him food else he will get angry. If i am not around he rather starve than collect food from the pot even when food is in the pot. I'm starting work few days time, how will I cope? Please am I wrong for complaining? What's your advice
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Mindlog: 5:28pm On Nov 30, 2022
Sweetoror:
Guys please I need advice. So my husband and I decided to live in one of my father inlaw house after we got married due to financial difficulties. My father inlaw later came to join us in the house after one month of marriage. Before he came I cook once a day everyday as my husband and I don't like old food. Now he is around he wants me to be cooking 3 times a day for him everyday and serving him. Mind you he doesn't eat cereals just native food and rice. My friend suggested I put food in fridge so I started doing that. Even at that its still very stressful for me. I'm no longer free to out for long because I must come right on ti.e to serve him food else he will get angry. If i am not around he rather starve than collect food from the pot even when food is in the pot. I'm starting work few days time, how will I cope? Please am I wrong for complaining? What's your advice

Doesn't he have a wife?
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by mariahAngel(f): 6:34pm On Nov 30, 2022
Nemesis0147:
I can’t relate because I’m not married yet but I’m sooo having my siblings around when I get married that’s if they want to.
They are family,we started the journey together and someone from somewhere will just come and start dictating how I will relate with my siblings all in the name of marriage.....she just have to take them as her siblings too or she leave the house for them.

So, can she also bring her siblings along, so that you all can live together?

Or better yet, why not just live with your siblings for the rest of your life, and save someone's daughter the discomfort.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by mariahAngel(f): 7:03pm On Nov 30, 2022
Sweetoror:
Guys please I need advice. So my husband and I decided to live in one of my father inlaw house after we got married due to financial difficulties. My father inlaw later came to join us in the house after one month of marriage. Before he came I cook once a day everyday as my husband and I don't like old food. Now he is around he wants me to be cooking 3 times a day for him everyday and serving him. Mind you he doesn't eat cereals just native food and rice. My friend suggested I put food in fridge so I started doing that. Even at that its still very stressful for me. I'm no longer free to out for long because I must come right on ti.e to serve him food else he will get angry. If i am not around he rather starve than collect food from the pot even when food is in the pot. I'm starting work few days time, how will I cope? Please am I wrong for complaining? What's your advice

How does that make you feel?
What does your husband think about it?

You're not his wife, and therefore, are not obligated to be at his beck and call.
You should only do what you can and should do for him as a daughter-in-law.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Mindlog: 7:09pm On Nov 30, 2022
mariahAngel:


So, can she also bring her siblings along, so that you all can live together?

Or better yet, why not just live with your siblings for the rest of your life, and save someone's daughter the discomfort.

No mind am, he is better off not getting married so that he can happily live under the same roof with his siblings, na the woman no
get family she started the journey together with. cheesy

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by mariahAngel(f): 7:43pm On Nov 30, 2022
Mindlog:


No mind am, he is better off not getting married so that he can happily live under the same roof with his siblings, na the woman no
get family she started the journey together with. cheesy

You can imagine!

It is how they feel they're entitled to a wife, and gets to decide on what condition she stays, "whether she likes it or not" for me. cheesy
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Munzy14(m): 9:21pm On Nov 30, 2022
Sanmel:
Hmmmm...
Makes sense sha but then...

I used to live with my brother before until he got married.
I remember how I use to feel bad and even sometimes cry when my brother's wife would be insulting him, when I say insult, I mean deep and hurtful words. I always feel like I should be fighting for him but I've always known not to interfere in any couples affair and all these started less than 3months after their wedding..
As I quiet reach, the woman later started looking for my trouble and as soon as I sensed the extension, I started packing my things small small without even my brother knowing..
My brother later noticed how she was acting towards me and said I should be challenging her back, I just said okay.
In my mind, I just said "no be me and you, person wey you no fit talk to, na me wan con dey face am for you"

Today, the wife and I are now like sisters and no one would believe so many terrible things happened between us and I rarely discussed with any other relative..

You were actually the problem.

Your presence was the problem...Probably you blocked their privacy.

The intimacy can happen anywhere but ones relatives are around, couples don't feel safe..No mata how big the house can be.

Plus the moaning tunes will be hoarded by the wife so you thirdparty won't hear.

This evangelist made sense in a way.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Munzy14(m): 9:22pm On Nov 30, 2022
Mindlog:
Some would start living with married siblings right from the first day of the marriage, putting unnecessary pressure on the couples. angry
As in eeh lipsrsealed
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Mindlog: 9:38pm On Nov 30, 2022
Munzy14:

As in eeh lipsrsealed

Recognizing and respecting personal space, is not part of our socialization. cheesy
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Munzy14(m): 11:07pm On Nov 30, 2022
Mindlog:


Recognizing and respecting personal space, is not part of our socialization. cheesy
For me, I will..I cherish space and privacy a lot.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Sanmel(f): 11:12pm On Nov 30, 2022
Munzy14:

You were actually the problem.

Your presence was the problem...Probably you blocked their privacy.

The intimacy can happen anywhere but ones relatives are around, couples don't feel safe..No mata how big the house can be.

Plus the moaning tunes will be hoarded by the wife so you thirdparty won't hear.

This evangelist made sense in a way.
Toh! Another perspective.. Ok o

Thank God I had the wherewithal to leave at that time so it wasn't even a big deal.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Munzy14(m): 4:26am On Dec 01, 2022
Sanmel:
Toh! Another perspective.. Ok o

Thank God I had the wherewithal to leave at that time so it wasn't even a big deal.
Your leaving was a smart decision needed at that particular time and as you did it, That was were the sister friendship you are enjoying now with her, started.

Her respect for you trippled.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by anthonyuncle(m): 7:27am On Dec 01, 2022
even if the marriage is up to 25yrs,
your siblings shouldn't be living with you
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by NoToPile: 9:44am On Dec 01, 2022
If only people understand how many young marriages have been destroyed because of this simple reason.

Family interference has destroyed so much young marriages.

Some issues between a couple no suppose reach family ears but when they are living with you they get to know and naturally every one will take sides and everything can turn yam pepper scatter scatter.

The older you are in marriage the better you guys understand each other.
Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Sanmel(f): 1:38pm On Dec 01, 2022
Munzy14:

Your leaving was a smart decision needed at that particular time and as you did it, That was were the sister friendship you are enjoying now with her, started.

Her respect for you trippled.
On the contrary, she's the one enjoying me..
Anytime I'm mandated to visit them, my body will just be itching me and I'll be so uncomfortable till I leave the house no matter how much she tries to make me feel relaxed.. I hold no grudge against her but I've not forgotten coupled with the fact that I had a very good relationship with my bro..
After I lost a parent, he was the one that saw me through school and ensured I lacked nothing so I've got no choice but to love his family..

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Re: Send Your Siblings Away From Your House If Your Marriage Is Not Up To Five Years by Munzy14(m): 2:04pm On Dec 01, 2022
Sanmel:
On the contrary, she's the one enjoying me..
Anytime I'm mandated to visit them, my body will just be itching me and I'll be so uncomfortable till I leave the house no matter how much she tries to make me feel relaxed.. I hold no grudge against her but I've not forgotten coupled with the fact that I had a very good relationship with my bro..
After I lost a parent, he was the one that saw me through school and ensured I lacked nothing so I've got no choice but to love his family..
cheesy
Ofcourse she must have had enough the privacy, and pleasure times as newly wedded..

And now is a time to face the realities of marital union and other family bonding.

You are smart and intelligent not to have allowed the whole get the better part of you.

You will forget it when you find yourself in her shoes..As time goes on.

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