₦airaland Forum

grandstar:
Isn't this greed? Greed is the problem. It isn't fair.

Who told you your mum was a virgin when she married?

I always take such statements with a pinch of salt. It's ideal and does happen more frequently than we imagine.

Adeoyelee:
I no like to dey dey bias, bro I swear that 30k too small make we do am 50k last price.

So that those bride family go fit see small things buy with the 50k

Like rice 2 paint, garri 2paint, beans 2 paint, palm oil 1 bottle, Groundnut oil 1 bottle, semo 1k, spaghetti 4 pieces & some other stuff too

Ajehkpako4naija:
Oga the bottom line of your story is that. YOU ARE TOO STINGY. Stop complaining and go and look for money. Marriage is meant for the matured minds not mediocres.Iam a man, but I will literally tell you that no woman is CHEAP. Marriage is not what you get with 15k. There is a price to pay. Funny enuff Govt has nothing to do concerning this issue. Even the Senate president will pay the bride price if he wants to marry from my village. Just 2 Bible verses to butress my point that marriage has its price.
Exodus 22:16-17: "If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the BRIDE-PRICE, and she shall be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins."
2 Sam 24:24...
But the king replied to Araunah, “No, I insist on buying it, for I will not present burnt offerings to the LORD my God that have cost me nothing.” So David paid him fifty pieces of silver for the threshing floor and the oxen.

There is always a sacrifice to pay. Go hustle bro and stop complaining. The best the family can do is to amend the list a little.

HayB100:
God bless you you for this bro. We should be paying millions for one borehole oh

Kaycee9242:
It might be possible she was a virgin, remember in those days most women marry before the age of 18 or 20 but now how do expect a graduate to be a virgin. The comparison doesn't make sense because women don't marry early now because of career and you don't expect the person to be sex starved.

If a guy need a virgin he should marry under 18

Bantu10:
Thunder faya you there. If Waziri Adamawa shit cant respect north and south leadership turns, why do U think he will respect decentralization of powers?? You think U re talking to almajiris and urchins like ur brothers??

Adeoyelee:
No bro. She no worth am

YoungLionken:
The western system of government has no right over traditional rites in wedding and burial..

On the issue of chastisement, this generation has left the old, genuine ways of their forefathers. Hence, the drastic moral decadence..

I once read a book by Ola Rotimi; "the gods are not to blame"...

asanausana91:
how old were you in 2011?
Atiku 4 years Will only balance the the Yaradua remaining 4 years.
Mind you, the north east where Atiku come from has never produce president.

shortIGBOman:
IGBO People no go gree. As I propose to my IGBO Babe Amaka, the list they gave me was over 4 million. I just tell them say I dey come. Na so I run and never look back.

Amaka father still dey call me say, make I come. The man wan finish me kpatakpata. Me wey wise, I no gree go back. I just dey Fvck Amaka for free now.

See Amaka picture below. Is She worth 4 million?

Bantu10:
You mean atiku will balance yaradua 4 years... And what did buhari do?? Going by the number of years, who has ruled this country more? The south or north??

Also, from ur warped analogy, South east has also not produced the president.

Mophasa:
I’ve been seeing some marriage lists with insane requirements running into millions of naira on the internet lately and there’s something that actually interests me about it.

In the generations of our ancestors when this lists were curated, 99% of the brides then were virgins and have never known any man, in fact it was a taboo traditionally to give out a non virgin wvman as a bide then.

Over the years civilization have changed alot of things where wvmen feel they’re now more powerful and have grown beyond being accountable to their families and can literally do whatever they like with their lives and bodies.

At this point, I think it’s fraudulent for families to keep insisting that non virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the same traditional marriage benefits as older generational virtuous wvmen that kept their virginity for their husbands.

The government and traditional leaders need to look into this critical issues, non virgin wvmen should be given out in marriage for a token or for free, while virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the full traditional marriage rites of previous generations.

These is the only way we can hold our wvmen accountable and also encourage them to become like the biblical virtuous wvmen like Esther and Rebecca.

As a man, I will feel cheated if I have to pay millions of naira to marry a non virgin wvmen, exactly the same amount of money and expenses that my father paid for my mum as a young fresh virgin wvmen in the early 90s.

I know some persons will disagree with me but!

Mophasa:
I’ve been seeing some marriage lists with insane requirements running into millions of naira on the internet lately and there’s something that actually interests me about it.

In the generations of our ancestors when this lists were curated, 99% of the brides then were virgins and have never known any man, in fact it was a taboo traditionally to give out a non virgin wvman as a bide then.

Over the years civilization have changed alot of things where wvmen feel they’re now more powerful and have grown beyond being accountable to their families and can literally do whatever they like with their lives and bodies.

At this point, I think it’s fraudulent for families to keep insisting that non virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the same traditional marriage benefits as older generational virtuous wvmen that kept their virginity for their husbands.

The government and traditional leaders need to look into this critical issues, non virgin wvmen should be given out in marriage for a token or for free, while virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the full traditional marriage rites of previous generations.

These is the only way we can hold our wvmen accountable and also encourage them to become like the biblical virtuous wvmen like Esther and Rebecca.

As a man, I will feel cheated if I have to pay millions of naira to marry a non virgin wvmen, exactly the same amount of money and expenses that my father paid for my mum as a young fresh virgin wvmen in the early 90s.

I know some persons will disagree with me but!

asanausana91:
PDP rule this country for 16 years,out of those years the north only rule for 2 years. From 1999 to date the south rule for 14 years while the north got 10 years only. With Atiku 4 years the ratio will be balanced 14:14

TheNiceGuy:
This outrageous marriage list is onle prevalent in South East and some part of South South in whole Nigeria

NwaMamaIwota:
come and Marry me

Fragility6:
Sad development but there is nothing the government can do. If more people start challenging the lists then something might change until then

grandstar:
I was in Unilag in the 1990s. Things were already quite liberal in those days. Many of the mama's today you see wearing trousers started back then or in the 80s.

Perhaps, if you spoke of the 60s or 70s, I might concur with you but certainly not the 90s. The only thing we didn't have in the 90s was Boko Haram and perhaps Niger Delta militants. Even the latter had started emerging in the late 90s but it politicians who enlisted them to win elections and now bought weapons for them.

Kaycee9242:
See regardless Of the year my point is that very few female graduates marry as a virgin, university exposes one alot. How many men can come out to say that they married a graduate and she was a virgin

Qatar2022:
Even if the whole Nigeria challenge it , it won't stop because it has been there for ages plus the greedy ones won't even listen

TheChameleon:
Same yamlegger that Afonja and Ab0ki for don screw tire ...come dump for one coward chestbeater to marry with 35 page wedding list.

Mophasa:
I’ve been seeing some marriage lists with insane requirements running into millions of naira on the internet lately and there’s something that actually interests me about it.

In the generations of our ancestors when this lists were curated, 99% of the brides then were virgins and have never known any man, in fact it was a taboo traditionally to give out a non virgin wvman as a bide then.

Over the years civilization have changed alot of things where wvmen feel they’re now more powerful and have grown beyond being accountable to their families and can literally do whatever they like with their lives and bodies.

At this point, I think it’s fraudulent for families to keep insisting that non virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the same traditional marriage benefits as older generational virtuous wvmen that kept their virginity for their husbands.

The government and traditional leaders need to look into this critical issues, non virgin wvmen should be given out in marriage for a token or for free, while virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the full traditional marriage rites of previous generations.

These is the only way we can hold our wvmen accountable and also encourage them to become like the biblical virtuous wvmen like Esther and Rebecca.

As a man, I will feel cheated if I have to pay millions of naira to marry a non virgin wvmen, exactly the same amount of money and expenses that my father paid for my mum as a young fresh virgin wvmen in the early 90s.

I know some persons will disagree with me but!

Bantu10:
Did Nigeria start in 1999?

asanausana91:
I don't discuss military regime. Nobody vote for any military president

Mophasa:
I’ve been seeing some marriage lists with insane requirements running into millions of naira on the internet lately and there’s something that actually interests me about it.

In the generations of our ancestors when this lists were curated, 99% of the brides then were virgins and have never known any man, in fact it was a taboo traditionally to give out a non virgin wvman as a bide then.

A virgin can only marry a virgin

Over the years civilization have changed alot of things where wvmen feel they’re now more powerful and have grown beyond being accountable to their families and can literally do whatever they like with their lives and bodies.

At this point, I think it’s fraudulent for families to keep insisting that non virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the same traditional marriage benefits as older generational virtuous wvmen that kept their virginity for their husbands.

The government and traditional leaders need to look into this critical issues, non virgin wvmen should be given out in marriage for a token or for free, while virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the full traditional marriage rites of previous generations.

These is the only way we can hold our wvmen accountable and also encourage them to become like the biblical virtuous wvmen like Esther and Rebecca.

As a man, I will feel cheated if I have to pay millions of naira to marry a non virgin wvmen, exactly the same amount of money and expenses that my father paid for my mum as a young fresh virgin wvmen in the early 90s.

I know some persons will disagree with me but!