Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better.
I need matured advice please

Change ur headline title.
N holla. Me to satisfy u

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better.
I need matured advice please

Have you discussed with your husband? Is he psychologically ok? How's his job/business? Is he doing well? His health nko?

house10studios:
Change ur headline title.
N holla. Me to satisfy u

See this one



He has abandoned his studio advertisement.

Onye mgbu !

Yikes 😬

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice. I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better. I need matured advice please

■ Consider seriously couples sex therapy
■ Consider picking up a hobby, exercising even, so you can refocus some of your sexual energy towards other equally productive endeavors in the meantime.
■ Consider professional mental health counseling or even marriage counseling so you can both spend time understanding where the problem with your sex life may lie and work towards resolving it together as a team

So, you are looking for a big gbola.
Yes or No?

There is a guy called gloriousgbola here on Nairaland

Thanks Guys! But talking it out with him as some has suggested will mk me look like a freak. Right

Thank for d comments so far!

doggedfighter:


See this one



He has abandoned his studio advertisement.

Onye mgbu !

Jealous am not asking for ur pussy? 😏

Iamntasaint:
Thanks Guys! But talking it out with him as some has suggested will mk me look like a freak. Right

Are you a child that you are not able to discuss your own desires with your own partner and bedmate?

Iamntasaint:
Thanks Guys! But talking it out with him as some has suggested will mk me look like a freak. Right

Nope.

Come let me satisfy you I have big gbola

Wey go come out of your throat

doggedfighter:


See this one



He has abandoned his studio advertisement.

Onye mgbu !

Very funny comment...

I say even women no dey understand why men dey come after them...

Iamntasaint:
Thanks Guys! But talking it out with him as some has suggested will mk me look like a freak. Right

No! Just make sure you are polite about the discussion so that you will not injure his self worth (self-confidence).

Iamntasaint:
Thank for d comments so far!

Don’t mention, it’s a pleasure, but what style are you guys doing? With your explanation, it sound like cowgirl reverse, probably he doesn’t spank too. I wonder why some men are boring.

Kobojunkie:
■ Consider seriously couples sex therapy
■ Consider picking up a hobby, exercising even, so you can refocus some of your sexual energy towards other equally productive endeavors in the meantime.
■ Consider professional mental health counseling or even marriage counseling so you can both spend time understanding where the problem with your sex life may lie and work towards resolving it together as a team

Most especially, check if his business/work is doing fine, if not, how will d**k rise when business is going down?

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better.
I need matured advice please

For this hard Nigeria?

Please calm down o!

Since his problem is putting it inside, why don't you put it inside yourself and enjoy your time with it!

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better.
I need matured advice please

Has sex been this bad ever since you both got married? If yes, it’ll be hard to change his attitude towards sex.

Do you have any kids? If no, he has given up on trying

If this lethargy towards sex is new then he’s being distracted by something or someone. Debts, failing business, stress, and a side chick could be possible reasons.

I’m not a professional therapist; these are merely suggestions and shouldn’t be taken as advise.

Sometimes, it's not the man's fault, he too may be worrying about it but can't discuss it with you.
He might even be searching for solutions

See the other side of the story
https://www.nairaland.com/7554937/dont-get-erections-wife#120638688

Even me, when I'm under pressure at work, or no money , I hardly get an erection

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years

You sound genuine because you have waited for 4 years to lament this problem publicly.
One thing you must know is that this problem won't go away.
And as time passes, you begin to seriously resent the missed opportunity as you age.
You also sound like the type that cares more about how your husband sees you, than anything else.
The bad news is that the day this sexual frustration will corner you badly, it can make you do things 10 times worse than even you can imagine, and your husband will be hurt 100 times more.
You owe him this information (that you are sexually frustrated), and it is his shared responsibility to sit down with you, for BOTH of you to craft a solution fit for your marriage.
Anybody who is busy thinking about himself (or herself) alone in these types of situations, is incapable of love.
Without selflessness (or sacrificial love), marital bliss is impossible.
You are a human being first of all, and it is unjust to advise you to forget about sex.
The point is that your husband owes you genuine effort at bliss. IT IS YOUR MARITAL RIGHT.
But if you don't tell him, you deny him the opportunity to act accordingly, which is not fair either.

Your husband was NEVER built to satisfy you.
Husbands and wives can only satisfy eachother for a while. . .the reason relationships and marriages have 'PHASES'.

I have news for you. You will still get tired of the next man.
Only a jobless man or woman will make 'sexual satisfaction' a main priority in a relationship or marriage.

Please, grow up fast!

Husband and yet you can’t discuss or make complains you rather die in silence?

How long as he been this way? Since you got married?

You just have to discuss it with him. You have to express your displeasure in a way that will make him realise there's a problem.

There's definitely a problem somewhere; it could be that he's worried about some issues bothering him and causing him insecurities. It's not a problem to be the one asking all the time, after all most of us men are used to it; but if when he does it, you should enjoy and be satisfied.

If you have been married for four years, do you have children yet? If not, that alone should make him feel disinterested in intercourse. If that is the case, I'll advise you continue to encourage each other in Faith and God's word.

How can he satisfy you when many huge dike has widen your pvssy and increase your sexual urge beyond what a single man can handle.


Folks, shes here complaining about her husband and the man didn't know. Don't marry a woman who will take your family matters to the internet. Virgins will be too ashamed to do that.
But a woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men will have no self worth, no respect for her home front, no respect for her body and no respect for you since she has been fvcked by man men. She has seen many body and many dikes.


Fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman and marry. Only her deserves your love and devotion.
Only her will not expose your family matters to the world.

Be wise.

Iamntasaint:
Please I need advice

I have been married for 4years now no issue each time I go to my husband for sex he doesn't touch me, am d one who will touch him so he can get an erection he will just lie down looking at d ceiling, I will still be the one to tell him to put it inside.
I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever, am thinking of masturbation but then again I think is a sin and will prevent me from getting pregnant. Cheating is not an option and I can't definitely discuss it with him coz I think he should know better.
I need matured advice please

Are were you a virgin when you met him?

Do u compare his performance with your ex?

He can't be attracted to you because you have lost your glory to another man. You have lost your gift as a woman to the first man who fvcked you. Now, you're nothing more than flesh! Just empty pile of flesh.


How can he have erection when your pvssy have been fvcked by another man?


If you want satisfaction, go back to the man who took your glory and let your husband find a virgin woman, a virtuous woman, a woman who kept herself for the satisfaction of her husband.

Do you husband a favor please. Release him from bondage.

Iamntasaint:
Thanks Guys! But talking it out with him as some has suggested will mk me look like a freak. Right

Hear urself.
You can discuss it with us here but can't discuss it with ur husband, I mean ur own husband.

Hmmm.

🤪😄😁😁😁


Is he not ur husband?



Tell him o



Maybe he's getting it outside.

Download bumble or tinder for your good

Wahala dey cha oh....

Well, everybody get him own problem for body cha.... But just that,some people own problem na HD version

As a man, na so I bear till I start to dey knack outside and have numerous partners that am even avoiding some and getting new ones.

The day you convince yourself it's fine to get satisfied outside, Omoh you're gone!!

Start by talking to him about it.

Starz825:

Very funny comment...

I say even women no dey understand why men dey come after them...

arrrha..so u finaly adddmit
so u sayin u dont like womens...bro is there somtin u wanto tell us that u gay?...why are u gay sir. jus askin! (no ofeencse)